Ukulindela umntwana lixesha lovuyo olukhulu nethemba elitsha. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, kunye nolo vuyo, ngaba uziva ulusizi, umthwalo, kunye nexhala? Ngaba ukruqukile yinto yonke kwaye awukwazi ukugxila kwinto ethile? Awuwedwa. Omnye kumama abalishumi abakhulelweyo (ngaphezulu kwe-10%) uhlangabezana nolu hlobo loxinzelelo. Oku kuqhelekile, kodwa yinto ekufuneka siyiqwalasele ngokuqinisekileyo. Siyibiza ngokuba yi-Antenatal Depression.
Yintoni ukudakumba ngexesha lokukhulelwa?
Ngamafutshane, esi sisifo sengqondo esenzeka ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Oku akusiyo nje imini okanye ezimbini zentlungu eqhelekileyo. Ingxaki apha kukuba ezi mvakalelo zihlala zihleli, zihlala iiveki.
Nazi ezinye zeempawu eziphambili:
- Usizi olungapheliyo kunye nokuziva ungento yanto.
- Ukulahlekelwa luvuyo nomdla kuyo nayiphi na into.
- Ukuziva umthwalo omkhulu entliziyweni, imvakalelo yokuphoxeka.
- Ukuxhalaba okungapheliyo.
- Ukuncipha okanye ukugqithisa ukutya.
- Ukungalali okanye ukulala kakhulu.
- Ukuziva unetyala ngawe.
- Ubunzima bokwenza izigqibo, ukungakwazi ukugxila .
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba kukho unyango olusebenzayo kwesi sifo, ukuze ungabandezeleki wedwa.
Ngaba kuyingozi ngokwenene ukunganyangwa?
Ewe. Nangona oku kuyinto abantu abaninzi abangayithathi nzulu, ukudakumba okunganyangwanga kunokukuchaphazela wena nosana lwakho olungekazalwa. Yiyo loo nto kufuneka sithethe ngako.
Khawucinge nje, ukuba awufuni kutya okanye ukusela ngokufanelekileyo ngenxa yokudakumba , umzimba wakho awuyi kufumana izondlo ozifunayo. Oko kuchaphazela ngqo ukukhula komntwana wakho. Ukuba awulali ngokufanelekileyo, umzimba wakho nengqondo yakho ziya kudinwa. Umntwana wakho unokuziva nolo xinzelelo.
Masiziqonde ngokucacileyo ezi ngozi kwitheyibhile engezantsi.
| Ngubani osengozini? | Zithini iziphumo ezinokubakho? |
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| Umama okhulelweyo (wena) |
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| Usana olusesibelekweni |
Musa ukoyika xa ubona ezi zinto. Oku kuthetha ukuba ezi zinto zinokwenzeka . Yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha ngexesha elifanelekileyo .
Luthini unyango?
Iindlela zonyango ziyahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko yakho. Kukho iindlela ezimbini eziphambili.
1. Unyango lwengqondo: Olu luhlobo lonyango lokuthetha. Lubandakanya ukuthetha nomcebisi okanye ugqirha wengqondo oqeqeshiweyo malunga neemvakalelo zakho neengxaki zakho nokufunda indlela yokujongana nazo. Olu lunyango lokuqala olucetyiswa ngoogqirha kwixinzelelo oluncinci ukuya koluphakathi.
2. Amayeza Okulwa Nokudakumba: Ukuba ukudakumba kwakho kukhulu ngokwaneleyo ukuba kuphazamise imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla, ugqirha wakho angakunika amayeza. Amayeza anokufuneka, ingakumbi ukuba ukhe waba noxinzelelo ngaphambili kwaye iimpawu zakho ziyabuya emva kokuyeka amayeza.
Ngamanye amaxesha, iziphumo ezingcono zinokufumaneka xa zombini ezi ndlela zonyango zisetyenziswa kunye.
Ngaba ukuthatha amayeza kuya kuyichaphazela umntwana? Umbuzo omkhulu wonke umntu anawo!
Kulapho oomama abaninzi bayoyika khona. Kungokwemvelo ukukhathazeka, "Ngaba kukho into enokwenzeka kumntwana wam ukuba ndithatha amayeza?" Makhe sijonge oku ngokwesayensi.
Ngaba kukho umngcipheko wokuzalwa uneziphene?
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba uphando lwangoku alukhange lubonakalise unxibelelwano oluthe ngqo phakathi kwemithi yokudakumba emininzi kunye neziphene zokuzalwa.Ngokukodwa, akukho ngxelo zeengxaki zokukhula kwabantwana abazelwe ngoomama abathathe i-SSRI (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors) esetyenziswa rhoqo (umz. iProzac, iZoloft) kunye neTricyclic Antidepressants. Nangona kunjalo, akukho gqirha unokuqinisekisa ukuba la mayeza akhuselekile ngokupheleleyo. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho malunga neenzuzo kunye neengozi zonyango.
Ingaba umngcipheko wokuzala ngaphambi kwexesha uyanda?
Ezinye izifundo zibonise ukuba oomama abasebenzisa ii-SSRI banomngcipheko ophezulu kancinci wokuzala abantwana babo ngaphambi kweeveki ezingama-36 kunabo basebenzisa amanye amayeza. Kodwa abaphandi bagxininisa ukuba umngcipheko awumkhulu kangangokuba nabani na ofuna amayeza akufuneki awuyeke. Ngokufanayo, abo basebenzisa olunye uhlobo lwamayeza abizwa ngokuba yi-tricyclics babengenalo olu mngcipheko.
Ngaba umntwana uza kuba neempawu zokurhoxa?
Le yenye into ekufuneka uyiqaphele. Ukusela amayeza athile okudakumba (umz. iPaxil) ngexesha lokukhulelwa, ingakumbi kwikota yesithathu, kunokubangela ukuba umntwana abonise iimpawu ezithile emva kokuzalwa. Umzekelo,
- Ukuxinana
- Ukuhlanza
- Ukukhala rhoqo (Ukucaphuka)
Ezi zibizwa ngokuba yi-'Withdrawal Symptoms'. Kodwa ezi zihlala ziphela kwiintsuku ezimbalwa. Akukacaci ngokupheleleyo ukuba ezi mpawu zibangelwa yimiphumo yeyeza okanye zesinye isizathu. Ugqirha wakho uza kukwazisa ngale nto.
Ingaba kunengxaki ukuthatha amayeza ngelixa uncancisa?
Nazi iindaba ezimnandi. Kukho uphando oluninzi olwenziweyo malunga nokusetyenziswa kwemithi yokudakumba ngexesha lokuncancisa. Iziphumo zibonisa ukuba zincinci kakhulu ezi ziyobisi ezidlula kubisi lwebele ziye eluswini. Ubungakanani buncinci kangangokuba akunakwenzeka ukuba buchaphazele umntwana.
"Impilo-ntle yengqondo kamama ichaphazela kakhulu umntwana. Umama onoyolo noqondayo yeyona nto ilungileyo umntwana anokuba nayo. Ngoko ke, musa ukulibazisa amayeza ukuba kuyimfuneko kuba nje uncancisa," batsho oogqirha.
Ukunyamekela impilo yakho yengqondo yinkonzo entle kuwe nakumntwana wakho.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukudakumba ngexesha lokukhulelwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Asikuko ukuba unetyala.
- Musa ukuba neentloni okanye ukoyika ukuthetha ngezi mvakalelo nomyeni wakho, usapho, okanye umhlobo othembekileyo.
- Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto. Musa ukwenza izigqibo wedwa.
- Iingozi zokunganyangi zidla ngokuba zinkulu kuneengozi ezincinci zonyango (ingakumbi amayeza).
- Unyango lwengqondo luyindlela yonyango ephumelelayo kakhulu, engenamayeza.
- Ukuba ufuna amayeza, thetha nogqirha wakho malunga neenzuzo kunye neengozi uze wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo kuni nobabini. Ukhuseleko lwakho nolomntwana wakho zezona zinto zibalulekileyo.
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