Ngaba uziva unesizungu kwaye unesizungu ngenxa yokukhubazeka kwakho? Kuqhelekile ukuziva ngaloo ndlela ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa akufuneki kube njalo. Cinga ngeli bali. UJessie ngumfazi oselula owayekhubazekile ukusuka esinqeni ukuya ezantsi emva kwengozi yebhayisekile. Ekuqaleni, wayekhathazekile kakhulu, kodwa ubomi bakhe batshintsha xa wadibana nomnye umntu owayesebenzisa isitulo esinamavili. “Wandixelela ngayo yonke into awayeyenza. Wayeneqabane, wayesebenza, wayedlala emanzini… Kwandinika ukuzithemba okukhulu,” utshilo uJessie. Oko kuzithemba kwamnika amandla okuphupha ngokuba ngumdlali wezemidlalo, umama, kunye nomnini-shishini kwakhona.
Ngoko ke, ukuba unengxaki yomzimba efana nale, usenokuphila ubomi obonwabisayo, obunokuzithemba, nobuhlala nabantu. Makhe sibone ukuba ungenza ntoni ngayo.
Okokuqala, zazi ngoku.
Ukukhubazeka komzimba, ingakumbi ukuba yinto entsha, kufuna ukuba uzinike ixesha lokuziqhelanisa nako, utsho uGqr. Jennifer Hankenson, ingcali yezonyango zomzimba kunye nengcali yezonyango zokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo kwiYale School of Medicine.
"Oko akuthethi ukuba ufanele ukuzimela. Endaweni yoko, qala kancinci kancinci ukuya eluntwini , nabantu bakho abasondeleyo nabathembekileyo, ngendlela evakala ikhululekile kuwe, ekhuselekileyo kuwe."
Ukuba usebenzisa isitulo esinamavili, ilungu lokufakelwa, okanye esinye isixhobo sokuncedisa, qala ngokuqhelana nemida yaso, amandla kunye neengozi. Njengoko uGqr. Hankenson esitsho, ukuzama ezi zinto "kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, nabantu abakhuselekileyo" ngaphambi kokuba uye esidlangalaleni kwakha ukuzithemba kwakho.
Ukuba unengxaki yokuziqhelanisa nolu bomi butsha, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho ngalo mba. Mhlawumbi ingcali yezonyango zomsebenzi ingakunceda ufunde indlela yokujongana nale miba isebenzayo.
Qaphela nemingeni yempilo yengqondo.
Ukongeza kwimiqobo yomzimba, abantu abakhubazekileyo badla ngokuba neengxaki zobuqu. Oko kukuthi, utshintsho kwindlela abavakalelwa ngayo "ndingubani?" Oku kunokuchaphazela umnqweno wabo okanye amandla abo okunxulumana nabanye abantu, ngokutsho kwengcali yezengqondo uMary Schrammer.
Abanye abantu bacinga oku: " 'Andifuni abantu bandibone ngolu hlobo. Ndiza kuphuma xa ndiphilile ngokwaneleyo.' " Ezi ngcinga zibenza bazive bebodwa nangakumbi. Zikwanciphisa neengcamango zabo malunga noko banokukwenza.
Kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukoyisa olu loyiko. Kufuneka uzibuze oku:
- "Zeziphi izinto endizixabisayo ebomini bam ngoku?"
- "Ndingalufumana njani uvuyo kwezo zinto?"
- "Zeziphi ezinye iindlela endinokonwabela ngazo izinto endizithandayo kunye nokunxibelelana nabantu, nokuba ndikhubazekile?"
Ingcebiso ngempilo yengqondo sisixhobo esihle ngamaxesha anje. Unyango lwamaqela okanye unyango lwabucala lunokukunceda woyise le miqobo kwaye ufumane ulwalathiso lokuphila ubomi bakho obungcono. Thetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto.
Fumana imisebenzi nezinto ozithandayo.
Ukuba ungumlandeli wezemidlalo, kukho imidlalo emininzi yokuziqhelanisa neemeko eziguquguqukayo ekhoyo. Ukhetho lwakho lunokunciphisa ngokuxhomekeke kwindawo ohlala kuyo, kodwa khangela kwi-intanethi "imidlalo yokuziqhelanisa neemeko ezingqongileyo kufutshane nam." Ungabuza ugqirha wakho okanye ingcali yezonyango malunga neenkqubo ezikummandla okuwo.
Abantu abafana noJessie benza imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo, kuquka imidlalo yasemanzini, imidlalo yekhephu, ukugoba izihlalo ezinamavili, ukukhwela ibhayisekile ngesandla, ukudada, ukudubula ngesaphetha, kunye nokunyuka intaba. Usebenzisa izakhono zakhe zezihlalo ezinamavili azifunde kwingcali yakhe yokulungisa umzimba ukuze amise iinkampu aze ahambe kwiindlela zeentaba ezingaqhelanga ukuhanjwa.
Khangela uhambo olumnandi olulula ukulufikelela nokubuya.
Ukuba awuthandi kakhulu ezemidlalo, iindawo ezininzi ezifana neepaki zemiboniso bhanyabhanya, ii-zoo, kunye neemyuziyam zifikeleleka kwizitulo ezinamavili. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokukunceda ufumane iindlela zokuncokola ngokulula.
| Ingcebiso | Oko unokukwenza |
|---|---|
| Ucwangciso lohambo | Khangela kwi-intanethi izikhokelo zokuhamba ezilungele abakhubazekileyo kunye neendawo oya kuzo. |
| Iiphakheji zeholide | Khangela iipakeji zeholide ezilungele abantu abakhubazekileyo, kuquka neenqanawa zokuhamba ngenqanawa. |
| Umntu onokunceda | Xa uhamba okanye uphuma, cela uncedo kumhlobo okanye ilungu losapho olithembayo. |
| Ukubuza abanye | Buza abanye abantu abakhubazekileyo njengawe ngeendawo abathanda ukuncokola kuzo. |
Ukuhamba ngenqwelo moya ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima, ngoko ke ukuba ufuna isitulo esinamavili okanye olunye uncedo, kungcono ukwazisa inkampani yeenqwelo moya kwangaphambili .
Joyina abantu abanamava afana nawe.
Kunokuba nzima ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nabanye ngeengxaki ezinokwenzeka abantu abakhubazekileyo abajongene nazo (umzekelo, ubunzima bokuthulula indle kunye nokuchama). Njengoko uJessie esitsho, "Xa ukunye nabanye abasebenzisi besitulo esinamavili, ungathetha ngokukhululekileyo ngezo zinto ngaphandle kokugweba. Kuba sonke sikwindawo enye."
I-intanethi kunye neendaba zoluntu ziindawo ezilungileyo zokufumana abantu abafana nawe. Kodwa inokuba "yindawo eyingozi," ulumkisa uGqr. Hankenson. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba ujoyine amaqela angaziwayo, buza ugqirha wakho okanye ilungu loluntu elithembekileyo ngawo, kwaye ujoyine kuphela amaqela enkxaso asele ekhona.
Njengoko uqhagamshelana nolu luntu, uya kuqonda ukuba awuwedwa kolu bomi. Kubo, uya kufunda amaqhinga amaninzi, iindlela ezimfutshane, kunye nezinto ezintsha ezinokwenza ubomi bube lula.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Zinike ixesha lokuziqhelanisa nempilo yakho yomzimba. Yinkqubo ecothayo.
- Njengempilo yakho yomzimba, impilo yakho yengqondo nayo ibaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba uziva ukhathazekile engqondweni, ungathandabuzi ukufuna uncedo logqirha.
- Musa ukuyeka izinto ozithandayo. Fumana iindlela zokuzenza zihambelane nemeko yakho entsha.
- Amandla nokuqonda okufumanayo ngokuqhagamshelana nabantu abaye badlula kumava afana nawe kubaluleke kakhulu. Fumana amaqela enkxaso athembekileyo.
- Thetha ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho malunga nazo naziphi na iingxaki zomzimba okanye zengqondo. Baza kukunika isikhokelo esifanelekileyo.
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