Ukuba ngumama okanye utata liphupha lomntu wonke. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo, sidinga uncedo oluncinci ukuze loo phupha lizaliseke. Ukuba nomntwana ngomnikeli wesidoda yenye yeendlela ezinjalo. Siyazi ukuba esi sisigqibo esikhulu nesinobuzaza. Yiyo loo nto silungiselela ukuthetha ngale nto ngokulula nangobubele kwabo bacinga ngokuthatha olu hambo.
Kutheni sifuna umntu onikela ngesidoda?
Zininzi izizathu zokuba umntu onethemba lokufumana umntwana oza kuthathwa nguwe angadinga uncedo lomntu onikela ngesidoda endaweni yakhe. Cinga ngezi meko zilandelayo:
- Mhlawumbi ungumama ongatshatanga ofuna ukukhulisa umntwana wedwa.
- Wena neqabane lakho ningaba ngabantu besini esinye.
- Mhlawumbi umyeni wakho akakwazi ukuba nabantwana ngenxa yesizathu esithile sezonyango (umzekelo, ukungazali).
- Oku kusenokuba ngenxa yezinye izizathu zonyango, ukhetho lwendlela yokuphila, okanye izinto ozikhethayo.
Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, umnikeli wesidoda yindlela eyaziwayo yokufumana uncedo ekwakheni usapho kule mihla.
Isebenza njani inkqubo yokukhetha abaxhasi?
Oku kudla ngokwenziwa ngokusebenzisa iibhanki zesidoda. Abo banikelayo kwezi zinto bahlolwa ngokungqongqo. Ngoko ke ukhetha kuphela abo basempilweni nabafanelekileyo. Oku kukunika uxolo lwengqondo, akunjalo?
Ngaphambi kokuba babe ngabanikeli, badlula kuthotho lweemvavanyo, ezinje ngezi:
| Uhlobo lovavanyo | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Imbali epheleleyo yezonyango zosapho | Sijonga izinto ezifana nezifo zemfuza ezinazo intsapho yomntu onikelayo. |
| Ukuhlolwa kwempilo yesidoda | Ubungakanani besidoda, intshukumo, kunye nomgangatho waso zihlolwa ngokunzulu. |
| Uvavanyo lwezifo ezosulelayo | Baqinisekisa ukuba abanazo izifo ezinzulu ezosulelayo ezifana ne-HIV, i-hepatitis B kunye ne-C. |
| Uhlobo lwegazi | Uhlobo lwegazi lomntu onikelayo luyarekhodwa. |
| Uvavanyo lweZifo zoFuzo | Uvavanyo olukhethekileyo lwenziwa ukuze kuchongwe ukuba umntwana unezifo ezifihlakeleyo zemfuza ezinokuzuzwa njengelifa. |
Ngoko ke, akukho nto unokoyika . Unelungelo lokubuza nokwazi ngalo naluphi na ulwazi ocinga ukuba lubalulekile.
Yintoni esifanele siyijonge xa sikhetha umntu oza kunikela ngemali?
Le yeyona nxalenye ibalulekileyo. Esi sisigqibo somntu siqu. Zininzi izinto ekufuneka uziqwalasele, ezifana neemvakalelo zakho, imiba yezomthetho, kunye neendleko. Masibone ukuba zeziphi.
1. Ingaba yibhanki yesidoda okanye yinkqubo engekho sesikweni?
Abantu abaninzi benza oku ngebhanki yesidoda. Ibhanki nganye inemithetho eyahlukileyo kancinci. Ezinye iibhanki ziqesha abafundi abaphumeleleyo kuphela, ngelixa ezinye zijonga izinto ezifana nobude kunye nohlobo lomzimba. Kodwa uninzi lweebhanki luzama ukugcina ulwahluko olumele uluntu ngokubanzi.
Kwakhona, abanye abantu benza oku ngokungacwangciswanga, ngokuthetha nomntu abamaziyo , endaweni yokuya ebhankini. Kule ndlela, kukho inkululeko engakumbi kumacala omabini. Kodwa nokuba ukhetha yiphi na indlela, kuyimfuneko ukufumana ingcebiso yezomthetho. Kuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphepha imibuzo malunga namalungelo omntwana kunye noxanduva lomnikeli kwixesha elizayo.
2. Ubuwena bomnikeli: Uyaziwa okanye akaziwa?
Esi sesona sigqibo sikhulu oza kusenza.
- Umnikeli Ongaziwayo: Awuyi kwazi ukuba ngubani umnikeli. Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba umntwana wakho akuyi kufuneka adibane nomnikeli emva kokuba eneminyaka eli-18 ubudala, le ndlela inokuba yeyona ilungileyo kusapho lwakho. Uya kwazi kuphela ngomnikeli, njengolwazi lwezonyango kunye nemfundo.
- Umnikeli Owaziwayo: Abanye abanikeli bakhetha ukuba umama nomntwana bazane. Oku kuvumela iingxoxo ezivulekileyo malunga nembali yosapho kunye nolwazi lwempilo . Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukufikelela kwisivumelwano esicacileyo malunga nolwalamano lwexesha elizayo nomntwana.
3. Ulwalamano lwexesha elizayo nomnikeli
Ukuba ukhetha umnikeli omaziyo, umntwana unokufumana ithuba lokwakha ubudlelwane nomnikeli kwanangaphambi kokuba afikelele kwiminyaka eli-18. Nangona kunjalo, ayingabo bonke abanikeli abafanayo. Abanye bazimisele ukudibana nomntwana, ngelixa abanye bengenjalo. Ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo, qiniseka ukuba wena nomnikeli nobabini nivumelana ngalo mba.
Esi asisosigqibo omele usenze wedwa. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo ngale nto neqabane lakho ukuba unaso, kunye nogqirha wakho.
4. Ixabiso
Kukho iindleko ezahlukeneyo ezibandakanyekayo kwinkqubo yokunikela ngesidoda. Xa udibanisa iindleko zebhanki yesidoda kunye neentlawulo zomthetho, kunokuba kubiza kancinci. Ke ngoko, kububulumko ukuba nohlahlo lwabiwo-mali olucacileyo, oko kukuthi, isicwangciso semali, ngaphambi kokuba uqale olu hambo.
5. Imfundo kunye nezinye iimpawu zomnikeli
Abanye abantu banokuba nomdla kwinqanaba lemfundo yomnikeli, umsebenzi wakhe, ubude bakhe, ibala lakhe, kunye nobuchule bakhe bobugcisa. Ukuba unokukhetha ukhetho olukhethekileyo, ungakhetha ibhanki yesidoda enabanikeli abanjalo. Kodwa khumbula, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukongeza umntwana osempilweni nowonwabileyo ebomini bakho.
Olu hambo lunokuba nzima kwaye lunomvakalelo. Kodwa ngolwazi olufanelekileyo kunye nesikhokelo, ungenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo kusapho lwakho. Ukuba unemibuzo engaphezulu malunga noku, ungathandabuzi ukuthetha nogqirha wakho. Uya kukwazi ukukunika inkxaso yezonyango neyeemvakalelo oyifunayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukukhetha umntu onikela ngesidoda sisigqibo somntu ngamnye nesibalulekileyo. Zinike ixesha lokukhetha esifanelekileyo kuwe.
- Nokuba ukhetha indlela esemthethweni (ngokusebenzisa ibhanki yesidoda) okanye engacwangciswanga (ngokusebenzisa umntu omaziyo), kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna iingcebiso zomthetho ukuze uphephe iingxaki ezinokubakho kwixesha elizayo.
- Fika kwisigqibo esicacileyo malunga nolwalamano lomntu onikelayo (ongaziwayo okanye ongaziwayo) kunye nolwalamano lwexesha elizayo. Oku kuya kuchaphazela nekamva lomntwana.
- Qaphela iindleko zale nkqubo kwangaphambili uze wenze isicwangciso sezemali sayo.
- Thetha ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho ngayo nayiphi na imibuzo okanye izinto ezikuxhalabisayo. Leyo yindawo efanelekileyo yokufumana icebiso elingcono.
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