Ngaba umntwana wakho omncinci uyakhala engayeki? Masithethe 'ngokulila okumfusa'!

Njengomama okanye utata, ngamanye amaxesha unokuzibuza, "Kutheni umntwana wam ekhala kangaka? Ingaba kukho into engalunganga endiyenzayo?" Kuqhelekile ukuba iintsana zikhale. Kodwa kukho ezinye iintsana ezikhala iiyure ezininzi ngaphandle kwesizathu, nokuba uzishukumisa kangakanani na. Ngaba wakha waba namava anjalo? Kuyadinisa ngokwenene, akunjalo? Sithetha ngaloo meko namhlanje.

Yintoni le 'Kukhala Okumfusa'?

Ngamafutshane, 'Ukukhala Okumfusa' linqanaba lokukhula komntwana wakho. Ngeli xesha, umntwana wakho unokulila ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo kwaye nokuba uzama kangakanani na, unokulila engayeki. Ngamanye amaxesha unokude akhale kakhulu. Eli lithuba elicaphukisayo nelidinisayo kubazali. Ndiyayiqonda inkxwaleko kunye nokungabi namandla okunceda okuza nokungakwazi ukuthomalalisa umntwana wakho.

Kodwa khumbula, bonke abantwana bayadlula kweli nqanaba . Abanye abantwana banokukhala kancinci, abanye bakhale kancinci. Nangona kunjalo, le yinxalenye eqhelekileyo nesempilweni yokukhula komntwana ngamnye. Into ebalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba kutheni oku kusenzeka, into onokuyenza ngayo, ingakumbi ukuba eli nqanaba 'lokukhala okumfusa' ekugqibeleni liza kuphela.

Iqala nini 'iPurple Crying'? Ingakanani ixesha eqhubeka ngayo?

Ngokwesiqhelo, oku 'Kukhala Okumfusa' kuqala xa umntwana eneminyaka emalunga neeveki ezimbini ubudala. Oko kuthetha ukuba, imeko inokuqala kwangethuba emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa umntwana ezelwe. Emva koko, xa umntwana eneenyanga ezintathu ukuya kwezintlanu ubudala, ubukhali bokukhala oku buya kuncipha kwaye buphele. Ngoko ke thuthuzeleka kukuba oku akuyonto iya kuhlala ikho ngonaphakade. Yeyokwexeshana.

Kuthetha ukuthini 'ukukhala okumfusa'? Zithetha ukuthini ezo nobumba zimfusa?

Ngoku usenokuba uzibuza ukuba igama elithi 'Purple Crying' lithetha ukuba umntwana uza kuba mfusa. Kaloku, akunjalo. Igama elithi 'PURPLE' lenziwa ngokuhlanganisa oonobumba bokuqala bamagama esiNgesi aliqela. Le yindlela oogqirha kunye nabasebenzi bezempilo abazichaza ngayo ezinye zeempawu ezinokubonakala kweli nqanaba lokukhula komntwana. Makhe sibone ukuba zeziphi?

• P - Incopho Yokukhala: Oku kubhekisa kwixesha apho ukukhala komntwana kuyanda kancinci kancinci kuze kufike kwinqanaba lakhe eliphezulu. Oku kukhala kudla ngokufikelela kwinqanaba eliphezulu kwiinyanga ezimbini ubudala. Emva koko, kuyehla kancinci kancinci. Kufana nokunyuka intaba, ufikelele encotsheni uze wehle kwakhona.
• U - Okungalindelekanga: Oku kukhala kwenzeka ngexesha elingalindelekanga. Umntwana usenokuqala ukukhala ngequbuliso ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, umntwana usenokuqala ukukhala ngequbuliso emva kokuhleka kamnandi. Kusenokuphela ngequbuliso.
• R - Iyamelana nokuthomalalisa (Kunzima ukuyeka nokuba uzama ukuyeka):Nokuba uzama kangakanani na ukumthomalalisa umntwana wakho – nokuba kukumtyisa, ukutshintsha amanabukeni, ukumbamba, ukumphatha kancinci – ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukumnqanda ukuba angakhali. Baqhubeka bekhala. Usenokucinga, “Owu, nokuba ndenza ntoni na, ayisebenzi.” Kunzima ukukholelwa. Kodwa asilotyala lakho.
• P - Ubuso obufana nentlungu: Akulula ukubukela umntwana ekhala. Ubuso bomntwana bubomvu kwaye bugobile, ngokungathi usezintlungwini ezinkulu okanye ekuxinezelweni. Kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba akabi zintlungu ngokwenene. Olu luhlobo lohlobo lokulila.
• L - Ixesha Elide (iiyure ngexesha): Oku kukhala kungathatha iiyure ezininzi. Ezinye iintsana zikhala iiyure ezi-5 nangaphezulu ngosuku. Kuyadinisa kakhulu ukumamela oku, akunjalo?
• E - Ukuhlwa (Okuxhaphakileyo ngokuhlwa/ebusuku): Oku kukhala kakhulu kudla ngokuvela ngokuhlwa okanye ebusuku. Kubi kakhulu ebusuku kunasemini. Yiyo loo nto abanye abantu beyibiza ngokuba 'lixesha lobugqwirha'.

Ngaba 'ukukhala okumfusa' kunye 'ne-colic' zizinto ezifanayo?

Abanye abantu bayibiza le meko ngokuthi 'yi-colic'. Abanye, njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili, bayibiza ngokuba 'lixesha lomlingo.' Enyanisweni, onke la magama athetha into enye.

Iingcali ezininzi zabantwana ziyakuthanda ukubiza eli nqanaba lokukhula ngokuthi "Ixesha Lokukhala Okumfusa®." Kuba oonobumba 'OKUMFUSA' bachaza into omawuyilindele kumntwana wakho ngeli xesha. Kwangaxeshanye, igama elithi 'Ixesha' ekuqaleni lisikhumbuza ukuba oku kukhala - nangona kunokuvakala ngathi akuyi kuphela - kunesiqalo nesiphelo . Umntwana wakho ngokuqinisekileyo uya kudlula kweli nqanaba.

Ezinye iingcali azithandi nokusebenzisa igama elithi 'colic' kuba livakala ngathi liyisifo. Akukho nto imbi ngomntwana ukuba 'ne-colic'. Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhula kakuhle kwaye usempilweni, kodwa ukhala ngokungalawulekiyo qho ngokuhlwa, usenokuba udlula kwinqanaba 'lokukhala ngombala omfusa'.

Ngubani owaqamba igama elithi "Ixesha Lokukhala Okumfusa"?

Igama elithi "Ixesha Lokukhala Okumfusa" laqalwa nguGqr. Ronald G. Barr, ingcali ekuphuhlisweni kweentsana kunye nokulila kweentsana. Yena, ngokubambisana neZiko leSizwe leShaken Baby Syndrome (NCSBS) eMelika, bazise inkqubo yemfundo ethi "Purple Crying". Injongo yayo ephambili kukuthintela i-shaken baby syndrome, ukwenzakala entloko okubuhlungu, kunye nezinye iindlela zokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana.

Yintoni onokuyenza ukuze uthomalalise umntwana wakho ngexesha 'lokukhala okumfusa'?

Ngoku mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba ungenza ntoni ukuze umntwana wakho abambe. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukwazi ukuba ukumbamba akusebenzi rhoqo.Nokuba wenza ntoni na, kuya kubakho amaxesha apho umntwana wakho eya kuqhubeka ekhala. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Akukwenzi ube ngumama okanye utata ombi.

Kodwa, ungazama ezi zinto:

• Jonga iimfuno ezisisiseko zomntwana: Ngaba umntwana ulambile? Ngaba inapukeni imanzi? Ngaba kushushu kakhulu okanye kuyabanda? Ngaba kuyalala? Jonga ezi zinto kuqala.
• Bamba umntwana wakho kufutshane nawe ukuze anxibelelane nolusu: Ubushushu bolusu lwakho kunye nesandi sentliziyo yakho kunokumthuthuzela umntwana wakho.
• Hambahamba: Hamba nomntwana wakho niye kuhambahamba endlwini okanye ebaleni. Abanye abantwana bayakuthanda ukuhambahamba.
• Culela umntwana wakho ingoma okanye uthethe kancinci: Ilizwi lakho linokunceda umntwana wakho azole.
• Hlamba umntwana wakho ngamanzi afudumeleyo: Abanye abantwana bayawathanda amanzi afudumeleyo, kuba ayabathomalalisa.
• Sebenzisa ingxolo emhlophe: Ezinye iintsana zifumana izandi ezilula, ezifana nesandi sefeni okanye isandi semvula, zithomalalisa.

Kuthekani ukuba umntwana akayeki ukulila nokuba ndizama kangakanani na?

Ukuba ukwenzile konke oku kwaye umntwana wakho uyaqhubeka ekhala, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukusuka kumntwana wakho imizuzu embalwa. Beka umntwana wakho kwindawo ekhuselekileyo (njengebhedi yomntwana) uze uphefumle nzulu. Zola.

Kuqhelekile ukuziva udanile, ungenakunceda, kwaye unomsindo xa umntwana wakho ekhala engayeki. Kodwa kufuneka ucinge ngempilo yakho yengqondo. Ukuba uziva ngathi ucaphuka kakhulu okanye ukhathazekile ukuba awukwazi ukulawula, lumka kakhulu ngelo xesha. Akukho nto imbi ngokuthatha ikhefu okwethutyana, kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Xa uziva ngolo hlobo, beka umntwana wakho ngokukhuselekileyo ebhedini okanye ebhedini yakhe, kwaye uphume ngaphandle okwethutyana. Yiya kwelinye igumbi. Phefumla nzulu. Sela amanzi ukuba uyafuna. Zinike ixesha elincinci lokuzola. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, cela uncedo kumhlobo okanye ilungu losapho olithembayo ukuba likuncede kwaye likuxhase. Bacele ukuba bajonge umntwana wakho okwethutyana.

Nokuba unomsindo okanye ucaphukile kangakanani na, ungaze, ungaze umshukumise umntwana. Ukwenza njalo kunokubangela ukopha, ukukrweleka, kunye nokudumba ngaphakathi kwengqondo yomntwana. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-'Shaken Baby Syndrome'. Le yimeko eyingozi kakhulu. Inokubangela umonakalo engqondweni, ukukhubazeka okusisigxina, kwanokufa. Uninzi lwexesha, i-'Shaken Baby Syndrome' ibangelwa ngabazali okanye abanakekeli beshukumisa umntwana wabo bengazi kuba bekhathazekile xa umntwana wabo eqhubeka ekhala.

Ukuqonda 'Ixesha Lokukhala OKUMFUTSHANE' kunokunceda abanakekeli ukuba bajongane neli nqanaba lokukhula. Kukwabakhumbuza ukuba lelo xeshana. Imfundo 'Yokukhala OKUMFUTSHANE' igxininisa ekunciphiseni umngcipheko wokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana, njenge-'Shaken Baby Syndrome'.

Ndifanele ndimbone nini ugqirha wabantwana womntwana wam?

Yazi kakuhle impilo yomntwana wakho,Qiniseka ukuba uyaya rhoqo kutyelelo lwempilo-ntle yabantwana njengoko kuyalelwe ngugqirha wabantwana. Yiya kwezi zilingo ngexesha ukususela ngomhla umntwana wakho azalwa ngawo. Ugqirha wakho uza kukuxelela ukuba ufanele uye kangaphi kuzo.

Ngoku siyazi ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba iintsana zikhale ngokungalawulekiyo phakathi kweeveki ezimbini neenyanga ezintlanu ubudala. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho unezinye zezi mpawu zongezelelweyo , kufuneka ubone ugqirha wabantwana ngokukhawuleza:

• Ukuba unomkhuhlane we-100.4 Fahrenheit (38 Celsius) okanye ngaphezulu.
• Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhala kakhulu (ngokungathi uqaqanjelwa) xa umbamba, umphakamisa, okanye umshukumisa.
• Ukuba uyahlanza (ingakumbi ukuhlanza rhoqo).
• Ukuba uyala ukutya okanye ukusela ngaphezu kweeyure ezisibhozo (ukuba awuseli ubisi).
• Ukuba kukho ukudumba naphi na emzimbeni.
• Ukuba inkangeleko okanye ukuziphatha komntwana kwahlukile kunesiqhelo (njengokulala ngokungaqhelekanga, ukungabi namdla).
• Ukuba awutyebi kakuhle okanye awunciphisi ubunzima.
• Ukuba kukho utshintsho kwindle yomntwana (umz. umbala, ukuqina kolwelo, ukubonakala njengegazi).

Ukuba umntwana wakho uphilile kwaye ukhula njengoko kulindelekile, mhlawumbi akukho nto inokubangela ukuba ukhathazeke ukuba uhlala ekhala. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uneengxaki okanye uxhalabile, soloko uthetha nogqirha wakho. Musa ukucinga nje ngokuthi, "Andazi ukuba oku kukungaqondi kakuhle." Kungcono ubuze ugqirha wakho.

Ukuba ngumzali akulula. Yenye yezona zinto zinzima nezintle ehlabathini. Xa umntwana wakho ekhala engayeki, unokuzibuza, ‘Ngaba kukho into endiyenzayo engalunganga?’ Kodwa khumbula, eli ‘Xesha Lokukhala Okumfusa’ liqhelekile – kwaye ekugqibeleni liza kuphela . Ukuba unemibuzo okanye iingxaki malunga nokuziphatha komntwana wakho, thetha nogqirha wakho wabantwana. Banokukunika izixhobo kunye neengcebiso zokukunceda uhambe kweli nqanaba lokukhula. Awuwedwa!

Zeziphi izinto ezibalulekileyo esifanele sizithathele ekhaya kweli bali?

Kulungile, makhe siphinde sichaze ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzikhumbule koko sithethe ngako:

• 'Ukukhala okumfusa' linqanaba eliqhelekileyo nelisempilweni lokukhula komntwana. Asisosifo.
• Oku kungokwexeshana kwaye mhlawumbi kuya kuphela xa umntwana eneenyanga ezi-3-5 ubudala.
• Unobumba othi 'PURPLE' uchaza uhlobo lokulila (ubude bexesha, ukuza ngamaxesha angaqikelelweyo, kunzima ukulawula, ukukhala ngokungathi usezintlungwini, ukukhala okuqhubekayo, ukwanda ngokuhlwa/ebusuku).
• Kulungile ukuzama ukuthomalalisa umntwana wakho, kodwa khumbula ukuba akuyi kuhlala kusebenza .
• Ukuba uziva udiniwe kakhulu okanye ukhathazekile, kulungile ukushiya umntwana wakho kwindawo ekhuselekileyo uze uhambe kancinci ukuze aphumle .
• Ungaze, nokuba unomsindo kangakanani na, ushukumise umntwana.Ingabangela ingozi enkulu kumntwana (Shaken Baby Syndrome).
• Ukuba umntwana wakho uyaqhubeka ekhala kwaye enezinye iimpawu, ezinje ngomkhuhlane, ukuhlanza, okanye ukwala ukutya, bonana nogqirha wabantwana ngokukhawuleza.
• Ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye uloyiko, funa ingcebiso kagqirha . Iya kukwenza uzive ukhululekile.

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