Isandi sokuhlafuna ukutya ngokuvakalayo, umntu othetha ngokuvakalayo kangangokuba yonke ibhasi inokukuva xa efowunelwa, umntu oshiya itawuli emanzi esele isetyenzisiwe ebhedini... Ngaba ukhe ube nomsindo kakhulu kwaye ucaphuke ngenxa yezinto ezincinci nezingenamsebenzi? Ngoko awuwedwa. Uninzi lwethu luvakalelwa kukuba ezi zinto zincinci ziingxaki ezinkulu. Kutheni le nto yenzeka? Ngaba esi sisifo? Masithethe ngale nto ngokwesayensi, ngokulula.
Zithini ezi 'Peeves zezilwanyana zasekhaya'?
Ngamafutshane, 'iiPeeves zezilwanyana zasekhaya' zizinto ezincinci ezisicaphukisayo, ezisicaphukisayo, kodwa ezingabalulekanga kwabanye. Khawuthelekelele umntu endlwini yakho ephelelwa yiphepha langasese aze angalikhuphi elitsha. Asiyongxaki inkulu ehlabathini. Kodwa ngelo xesha, ungaba nomsindo kakhulu. Ungaziva uxhalabile kakhulu, "Kutheni usenza oku?" Yiyo loo nto 'iiPeeves zezilwanyana zasekhaya' zinjalo.
Abanye abantu abakwazi ukumelana nesandi somntu ohlafuna ukutya kwabo. Abanye bayacaphuka xa omnye umntu ethetha ngefowuni. Abanye bayacaphuka xa umntu ehlafuna itshungama aze athi "i-soot soot". Kukho izizathu zengqondo nezebhayoloji emva kwako konke oku. Imvakalelo eqhelekileyo esisiseko sayo yonke le nto ngumsindo nokungazoli.
Enyanisweni, ukuziva unomsindo akuyongxaki. Umsindo yimvakalelo eqhelekileyo yomntu. Kodwa ingxaki iqala xa ungakwazi ukuyilawula.
Kutheni sicaphuka ngezinto ezincinci ezinje?
Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zoku. Masijonge ngasinye.
Into evela kwindaleko
Ukususela kwixesha lookhokho bethu, iimvakalelo zomsindo ziye zanceda abantu ukuba baphile. Kwenzeka njani oko?
1. Xa usukelo luphazamisekile: Khawuthelekelele uqhuba imoto endleleni eya ndaweni ithile, aze ngequbuliso umntu akuvale indlela. Uyacaphuka, akunjalo? Isizathu kukuba uhambo lwakho, oko kukuthi usukelo lwakho, luphazanyiswa nguloo mntu. Ngokufanayo, ukuba umntu udlala umculo ovakalayo ngelixa usebenza, uyaphazamisa ingqalelo yakho. Ngelo xesha, nawe uyacaphuka.
2. Xa sibona ingozi: Iingqondo zethu zenzelwe ukuphendula ngomsindo xa sibona ingozi okanye isoyikiso. Oku kukwazisa abanye ngengozi nokusikhuthaza ukuba siyiphephe. Isandi somntu oluma iinzipho zakhe asiyongozi kuthi. Kodwa ngenxa yale ndlela yakudala engqondweni yethu, sisabela ngokungaziyo kwizinto ezisenza sixhalabe.
Njenge-Allergens yeNtlalo
Le yingcamango enomdla kakhulu. Khawucinge ngomntu one-allergy kuthuli. Ekuqaleni, uthuli oluncinci alubangeli nto. Kodwa njengoko uqhubeka utyhileka eluthulini, i-allergy yakho iyanda kancinci kancinci, kwaye nothuli oluncinci emzimbeni wakho lubangela impendulo enkulu.
' PE t Peeves' injalo loo nto. Ekuqaleni, into encinci eyenziwa ngumntu isenokungakukhathazi kangako. Kodwa xa into efanayo isenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo, uba ne-allergy kuyo. Emva koko, kwangoko nje loo nto incinci igqityiwe, uyacaphuka kakhulu.
Izinto ezenza le meko ibe mandundu
Ngamanye amaxesha, umsindo ovela kwezi zinto zincinci unokuba yinto engalawulekiyo. Itheyibhile engezantsi idwelisa ezinye zezizathu zengqondo ezibangela oku.
| Isizathu sengqondo | Indlela echaphazela ngayo |
|---|---|
| Amanqanaba aphezulu oXinzelelo | Xa sixinezelekile, inqanaba lethu lokunyamezela liyancitshiswa kakhulu. Ngenxa yoko, sinokukhawuleza sibe nomsindo ngezinto ezincinci ebesingenakuzikhathalela ngokuqhelekileyo. |
| Isiphumo sokuQokelela | Asiyongxaki incinci nje kuphela, kodwa iingxaki ezininzi ezincinci ziyaqokelelana, kwaye zivakala ngathi ngumthwalo omkhulu ezingqondweni zethu. Zifana nebhakede lamanzi elizalisa ithontsi elinye ngexesha. Lithontsi lokugqibela elichithekayo. |
| Ukuziva ungenalawulo (Iingxaki zoLawulo) | Xa sivakalelwa kukuba asinakuyilawula into ethile, inokubangela ukukhungatheka nokuxhalaba. Siba nomsindo kuba asinakuyilawula into encinci eyenziwa ngabanye abantu. |
| Impembelelo yoSapho | Oko sikubona sisebancinci kuyayichaphazela indlela esiziphatha ngayo. Ukuba abazali bethu okanye abantu abadala esikhule nabo ngabantu abanomsindo ngezinto ezincinci kwaye abakwazi ukumelana noxinzelelo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba nathi silandele loo ndlela. |
Ngaba oku kungaba yinto engaphezulu nje 'kwePet Peeve'?
Ewe. Ngamanye amaxesha le inokuba yimeko efuna unyango, kunokuba ibe yinto nje eqhelekileyo ecaphukisayo. Enye yezi meko yi -misophonia .
I-Misophonia yimeko apho umntu eba nomsindo omkhulu, ukucaphuka, okanye ixhala xa evezwa izandi ezithile (umz., ukuhlafuna ukutya, ukuphefumla, ukubhala). Iyingozi ngaphezu 'kwesithonga sesilwanyana sasekhaya' kuba iphazamisa ubomi bomntu bemihla ngemihla (umsebenzi wesikolo, umsebenzi weofisi, unxibelelwano loluntu ).
Cinga ngale ndlela: Asinguye wonke umntu oguliswa kukusela utywala obuncinci. Kodwa xa usela kakhulu ngaphandle kokulawula, iba yimeko yempilo. Kuqhelekile ukuba lusizi, kodwa ukuba luqhubeka ngokungalawulekiyo, yimeko yempilo ebizwa ngokuba kukudandatheka. Ngokufanayo, kuqhelekile ukuba nomsindo kancinci ngengxolo eyenziwa ngumntu. Kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukulawula loo msindo, kwaye uqala ukuvala indlela eya kwiindawo apho loo ngxolo ivela khona, ulwe nabo, kwaye uphephe ukuya kwezo ndawo, isenokuba yimeko efuna unyango.
Ngoko ke senza ntoni?
Zimbalwa izinto onokuzenza ukulawula umsindo kwizinto ezincinci ezinje.
1. Jongana nengxaki ngqo
Ukuba kukho into ekukhathazayo, fumana isisombululo endaweni yokubaleka. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu ubukele iividiyo kwifowuni yakhe evakalayo ebhasini, ungambuza ngentlonelo uthi, "Uxolo, ndicela ufake ii-earphone?"
2. Ukuzilolonga ukuphefumla kunye nokuzolisa ingqondo
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukunciphisa inqanaba lakho loxinzelelo. Oku kungenziwa ngokuphefumla nzulu, ukwenza umthambo wokuphefumla , ukuziqhelanisa nokuqaphela izinto, nokwenza izinto ezifana nokuzilolonga kunye nokuzibandakanya kwinto oyithandayo.
3. Thetha ngqo, kodwa ngobubele.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuthetha ngqo yeyona ndlela ilungileyo. Umzekelo, ungathi into efana nale, "Ndiyaxolisa, kusenokwenzeka ukuba yimpazamo yam, kodwa ndiziva ndibuhlungu kakhulu ngebala olishiye kwikomityi yakho yekofu." Oku kunokuba luncedo kumacala omabini. Omnye umntu unokutshintsha indlela yakhe yokuziphatha, kwaye nawe unokuziva ungcono ngawe kuba ubonakalise iimvakalelo zakho.
4. Jonga ukuba impendulo yakho idlule na umda
Ukuba uzifumana ucinga ukuba, "Andifanele ndicaphuke kangaka ngento encinci kangaka," okanye ukuba ibangela uxinzelelo lomzimba okanye iyaqhubeka nokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakho, oko kungaba luphawu lwengxaki enkulu. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha nolwezonyango. Thetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto. Angakunceda ukuba uhambe ngendlela eyiyo. Unyango olufana neCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) lunokukunceda ulawule olu hlobo lweengxaki.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukungabi nazintloni ngezi mvakalelo, ukuziqonda, nokucela uncedo xa kuyimfuneko.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- 'IiPet Peeves' zizinto ezikwenza ube nomsindo ngezinto ezincinci. Kuqhelekile kubantu abaninzi.
- Emva kwezi mvakalelo kukho iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo zabantu ezifana nomsindo kunye nexhala. Izizathu zokuzivelela kwezinto nazo zidlala indima koku.
- Le meko inokuba mandundu ngenxa yezinto ezifana noxinzelelo, ixhala elingapheliyo, kunye nokuziva ungenalo ulawulo.
- Ukuba ukusabela kwakho ngokugqithisileyo kwizandi ezithile kuchaphazela ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, kusenokwenzeka ukuba yimeko ebizwa ngokuba yiMisophonia.
- Oku kunokulawulwa ngokuzilolonga ukuphefumla, intetho enembeko, kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo.
- Ukuba impendulo yakho idlula kwinqanaba eliqhelekileyo, ungathandabuzi ukubonana nogqirha wakho ukuze akunike icebiso.
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