Uzithembile kangakanani? Masithethe ngokuzithemba!

Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha ukhe ucinge, 'Owu, ndingakwenza oku?' Okanye, 'Ngaba bekungayi kuba ngcono ukuba bendinesibindi ngakumbi?' Enyanisweni, sonke sinazo ezo mvakalelo kunye neengcinga ngaxa lithile ebomini bethu. Kuqhelekile kakhulu. Ngoko ke namhlanje siza kuthetha ngale ndlela yokuzithemba, okanye into abantu abaninzi abayaziyo njenge-'(Confidence)'. Le yinto ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini bethu, kulonwabo lwethu, nakwinkqubela yethu.

Yintoni ukuzithemba? Ngamafutshane...

Ukuzithemba kukuziva uxabisekile kwaye unamandla. Kodwa akukokuzikhukhumeza okanye ukuziva ungcono. Yimvakalelo ezolileyo, yokwenyani, neyokhuseleko. Ngamafutshane, ukuzithemba kukuthula, ngaphakathi ukwazi ukuba "Ndingakwenza oku." Abantu abazithembileyo baziphatha njani? Jonga:

• Abaziva bengakhuselekanga ngokungeyomfuneko ngabo, baziva bekhuselekile ngabo.
• Bayazi ukuba banokujamelana nayo nantoni na ebomini ngokuthembela kwiziphiwo zabo namandla abo .
• Baziva bekulungele ukumelana nemingeni yemihla ngemihla efana neemviwo, imincintiswano, kunye neentetho.
• Endaweni yokucinga ukuba "Andinakukwazi," bahlala becinga ukuba "Ndingakwazi."

Khawuthelekelele unethuba lokwenza isaziso kwitheko lesikolo. Uyakuthanda, kodwa ucinga, "Owu, andizukukwazi ukwenza oku akunjalo? Ngaba ndiza kutyibilika phambi kwesihlwele?" Kulapho ukuzithemba kwakho kuqala ukuncipha khona, akunjalo? Kodwa umntu oqinisekileyo ucinga, "Kulungile, andikaze ndikwenze oku ngaphambili, kodwa ndiza kuzama. Ndingakwenza." Nguwo lowo umahluko.

Kutheni ukuzithemba kubaluleke kangaka kuthi?

Ukuzithemba kufana nomhlobo olungileyo osincedayo kuhambo lwethu ebomini. Kusinceda ngeendlela ezininzi.

• Kusilungiselela ukujongana namava obomi: Xa sizithemba, asoyiki ukujongana nezinto ezintsha nabantu abatsha. Siqhubela phambili endaweni yokubaleka kuzo.
• Kusikhuthaza ukuba sifikelele kumathuba amatsha nakubantu: Khawuthelekelele, unengcamango entle, kodwa uyoyika ukuyithetha. Ukuba uqinisekile, uya kuba nethuba elingakumbi lokubeka loo ngcamango phambili. Ingakunceda kangakanani loo nto?
• Benza umzamo wokuphinda bazame nokuba bayasilela: Sonke siyazenza iimpazamo, sonke siyasilela ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa umntu onokuzithemba akayeki. Bayavuka bazame kwakhona.

Icala elibi lale nto kukuba xa ukuzithemba kuphantsi. Abantu abangazithembiyo bayathandabuza ukuzama izinto ezintsha nokudibana nabantu abatsha. Ukuba into ayisebenzi okokuqala, banamathuba amaninzi okuthi bangaphindi bazame. Oku kungazithembi ngamanye amaxesha kunokusithintela ekufikeleleni kumandla ethu apheleleyo.Kufana nentaka eyoyikayo ukubhabha nangona inamaphiko amakhulu.

Intsingiselo yokukholelwa kuwe

Ngaba kukho umntu owakha wakuxelela ukuba ukrelekrele, uhlekisa, unobubele, unobuchule, ungumfundi olungileyo, umbhali olungileyo, umdlali wezemidlalo olungileyo? Xa abanye besixabisa, xa beqaphela italente nezakhono zethu, kunokunyusa ukuzithemba kwethu. Kodwa kukho imeko enye - kufuneka sikholelwe ezo zinto zilungileyo. Ngaba wakha wayithandabuza into elungileyo ethethwe ngumntu kuwe? Ngaba wakha wacinga, "Owu, nangona etshilo loo nto, andingomntu ulungileyo kangako"? Lelo licala elinye lokungazithembi. Ukuze uzikholelwe ngokwenene, kufuneka uzive nzulu ukuba ukrelekrele ngokwenene kwaye ungakwenza. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwakha olo kuzithemba kukusebenzisa italente nezakhono zakho - oko kukuthi, ukufunda, ukuziqhelanisa. Ukuzithemba kusinceda sifumanise izakhono zethu kwaye siziphuhlise. Xa sibona oko silungileyo kuko, oko sinokukwenza, kwaye xa sizingca ngezinto esizenzileyo kunye nempumelelo esiyifezileyo, ukuzithemba kwethu kuyaqina.

Ukhulisa njani ukuzithemba kwakho?

Le yeyona nxalenye ibalulekileyo. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba sonke singakwandisa ukuzithemba kwethu kancinci kancinci. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso onokuzizama:

1. Yakha indlela yokucinga ngokuzithemba

Le yinto yokuqala neyona ibalulekileyo. Xa iingcinga ezimbi ezifana nokuthi 'Andinakukwazi', 'Oku kunzima ukukwenza', 'Ndiza kusilela' zifika engqondweni yakho, ungazivumeli. Endaweni yoko, yazi elo lizwi kwaye uziqhelise ukulitshintsha kancinci. Endaweni yokuthi 'Ndingakwazi', yithi ngokuvakalayo 'Ndingakwazi!' Okanye, zixelele, 'Kulungile, oku kusenokuba kutsha, kodwa ukuba ndiyazama, ukuba ndibeka ingqondo yam kuko, ndiza kukwazi ukufunda oku, yenza lo msebenzi.' Nokuba kunzima ekuqaleni, oku kuya kuba ngumkhwa ukuba uyaqhubeka nokwenza.

2. Zithelekise nabanye – kodwa ngobubele!

Sonke sizithelekisa nabanye, akunjalo? Yinto yendalo. Isinceda siziqonde kwaye siphuhlise iimpawu esizixabisayo. Kodwa ukuba uhlala uziva ulusizi, udanile, okanye ungaqinisekanga ngawe, yingxaki enkulu leyo. Ke luphawu oluhle lokuba kufuneka uphucule ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzihlonipha. Ngelixa uxabisa izinto ezilungileyo kwabanye, yonwaba ngohambo lwakho.

3. Zisuse ekuzithandabuzeni

Xa sithandabuza izakhono zethu, sizive siphantsi, singafaneleki, kwaye singakulungelanga. Oku kunokusikhokelela ekuphepheni abantu namathuba esingathanda ukuwabona sikhula kuwo. Nanini na xa ucinga, "Hayi, andinakukwazi," yiphikisa loo ngcinga. Cinga ngento oye wayenza ngempumelelo kwixesha elidlulileyo.

4. Masithathe 'umngcipheko' omncinci? (Thatha umngcipheko okhuselekileyo)

Oku akuthethi ukuba uqalise ukwenza izinto ezinkulu nezinobungozi. Kuthetha ukwenza into oqhele ukoyika ukuyenza, kodwa evakala imnandi ukuyenza, ekwenza ungabi nanto yakwenza nayo .

• Joyina umbutho wesikolo.
• Zithandele ukunceda kwiprojekthi ethile okanye kwimibutho yokunceda abantu.
• Zama iqela okanye umboniso wetalente esikolweni.
• Phakamisa isandla sakho rhoqo eklasini uze ubuze kwaye uphendule imibuzo.
• Ncuma uze uthethe nomntu othandabuzayo ukuthetha naye.

5. Zicel’ umngeni

Ukuba ubunokuzithemba ngakumbi, khetha into ongathanda ukuyenza. Zityhale kancinci uze uyenze. Ngoku ekubeni uyenzile loo nto, khetha enye into oza kuyizama - kwaye uqhubeke uyenza. Ngenyathelo ngalinye eliya phambili, ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kwanda kancinci. Njengokuba xa uzilolonga, umzimba wakho uya kukhula.

6. Zithini iziphiwo zakho? Zivumele zikhanye.

Sisoloko sifundiswa ukusebenza nzima ukuphucula ubuthathaka bethu. Ngamanye amaxesha oko kubalulekile, njengokuphucula amanqaku aphantsi kwiimviwo. Kodwa ngelixa usebenza nzima ukuphucula ubuthathaka, ungavumeli ukuba bukuyekise ukuphucula izinto osele ulungile kuzo. Xa wenza izinto olungileyo kuzo, uzive ulungile, kwaye oko kukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakho.

7. Yenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo kwaye ufunde ngexesha.

Ukuba ungumfundi wesikolo, yenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo. Funda. Yenza imisebenzi yakho. Lungiselela iklasi, iimviwo, kunye nee-quizzes. Uyazi ukuba kutheni? Ukuba uqhubeka nomsebenzi wakho weklasi, uya kuziva uqinisekile ngakumbi kwiimviwo nakwiimviwo. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuzikhusela kwixhala lovavanyo kunye noxinzelelo lwesikolo kukuhambisana nomsebenzi wakho. Ukulungiselela ngundoqo wokuzithemba.

8. Musa ukoyika ukuba nguwe wokwenene (Yiba nesibindi sokuba nguwe wokwenene)

Vumela abanye bakubone ukuba ungubani na – iimpazamo zakho, ukungaqiniseki kwakho, konke oko. Xa singaziva ngathi kufuneka sizifihle ezi zinto, kulula kakhulu ukudlula ezo ngxaki size siqhubeke phambili. Yonwaba bubuntu bakho, iimpawu zakho ezikhethekileyo, ukuba unazo. Yeka ukuzama ukuba ngomnye umntu, okanye ukuzenza omnye umntu. Kufuna intliziyo enkulu kunye nokuzithemba okukhulu ukuze ube nguwe wokwenene. Kodwa okukhona sinyanisekile, kokukhona siqiniseka ngakumbi. Khumbula, oku kuzithemba koko kwakha ukuzihlonipha kwethu.

Qhubeka uzama! Ungayeki! (Qhubeka!)

Ukuzithemba kwethu akusoloko kukwinqanaba elifanayo. Ngezinye iintsuku sizithemba kakhulu, ngezinye iintsuku asizithembi kangako. Kuqhelekile kuthi sonke, kwanabo babonakala beqinisekile ngaphandle.

Khawucinge nje, udlala umdlalo wekhilikithi. Ngolunye usuku ufumana ikhulu leminyaka. Ngolunye usuku uphume uyokulwa nedada. Kunjalo ke ukuzithemba.

Ukuba kukho into ekuphazamisayo ukuzithemba kwakho kancinci, yiba nobubele kuwe. Ungazibethisi. Musa ukucinga ukuba, "Andinamsebenzi." Endaweni yoko, funda kumava, ucinge, "Yintoni ebendinokuyenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwixesha elizayo?" kwaye ukhumbule oko kwixesha elizayo. Thetha ngento eyenzekileyo nomntu okukhathaleleyo nokuxhasayo. Emva koko zikhumbuze ngamandla akho, impumelelo yakho yangaphambili. Buyela emdlalweni! Vuka!

Okokugqibela, into ekufuneka uyikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Ukuzithemba akuyonto enokwakhiwa ngobusuku obunye. Kufana nokutyala isityalo emyezweni. Sidinga ukunkcenkceshelwa, ukunyanyekelwa, nokunikwa ukukhanya kwelanga. Kulapho kuphela apho siya kukhula, sidubule, size sivelise iziqhamo.

• Uqala ukuzikholelwa. Qaphela izakhono zakho.
• Thabatha imingeni emincinci uze ubhiyozele impumelelo evela kuyo.
• Xa kufika iingcinga ezimbi , musa ukuzivumela zize, kwaye ziqhelise ukucinga ngendlela eyakhayo.
• Musa ukuzehlisa ngokuzithelekisa nabanye abantu.
• Ukuba wenze impazamo, funda kuyo uze uzame kwakhona.
• Musa ukoyika ukuba nguwe wenene.

Ungakwenza! Unamandla kunokuba ucinga. Ukuba unokukholelwa kuwe, akukho nto kweli hlabathi ongenakuyenza!

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