Ungaqhuba njani ngokukhuselekileyo endleleni ngaphandle kokufumana ingozi? (Ukuqhuba ngokuzikhusela) Makhe sithethe ngayo namhlanje!

Ukuba ungumqhubi, asinakuze sikwazi ukulawula indlela abanye abantu abaqhuba ngayo okanye oko bakwenzayo endleleni. Kuyinyani oko. Nangona kunjalo, zininzi izinto esinokuzenza ukunciphisa umngcipheko wengozi nokuzikhusela. Yiloo nto siyibiza ngokuba 'kukuqhuba ngokuzikhusela '. Ukuchaneka, oku kufana nokuthatha amanyathelo okhuseleko ngaphambi kokuba sigule. Kumalunga nokuba silumke kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke ingozi endleleni.

Ngoko ke, sikwenza njani oku (Ukuqhuba Ngokuzikhusela)?

Oku akufuneki kube yinto enkulu. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukulungiselela ingqondo yakho ngaphambi kokuba uqhube . Oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ulumke, uqaphele, kwaye uhlale uqaphela abanye abaqhubi. Emva koko zama ukulandela la manyathelo.

1. Hlala uqaphela izinto ezikungqongileyo.

Le yeyona nto yokuqala neyona ibalulekileyo. Musa ukujonga phambili nje uze uqhube.

• Soloko ujonga izibuko zemoto yakho. Kufuneka ubone ukuba ngubani oza ngasemva kwaye ngubani oza phesheya.
• Jonga phambili. Oko kuthetha ukuba uhlala ujonge okwenzekayo endleleni imizuzwana engama-20 ukuya kwengama-30 ngaphambili . Ngale ndlela, ukuba kwenzeka into engalindelekanga, ungazilungiselela kwangaphambili.
• Musa ukugcina amehlo akho ejonge kwindawo enye. Skena macala onke.
• Ngamanye amaxesha kukho abaqhubi abanobundlongondlongo kakhulu endleleni. Ukuba ubona umntu onjalo, eyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza kukunciphisa isantya kancinci, okanye ukuba kunokwenzeka, ume ecaleni kwendlela umyeke ahambe. Musa ukukhuphisana naye okanye ukumenza acaphuke. Kuba asifuni ukulwa, ukhuseleko lwethu lubaluleke ngakumbi.
• Kwakhona, soloko uqaphela abantu abahamba ngeenyawo, abagijimi, abakhweli beebhayisekile, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha izilwanyana zasekhaya ezitsiba endleleni . Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwiindawo zasezidolophini nakwiindawo ezikufutshane nezikolo.

2. Lawula isantya sakho.

Isantya singaba yingozi kakhulu ukuba asilawulwa kakuhle.

• Qhuba ngaphakathi komda wesantya. Imida yesantya ibekwa ezindleleni ngesizathu esithile. Ibaluleke kakhulu kukhuseleko lwakho nolwabanye.
• Xa uhamba ngokukhawuleza kunokuba ucinga, kunzima ukulawula imoto yakho. Ukuba umntu ngequbuliso umi phambi kwakho, inja itsiba iphume endleleni, okanye imoto ephambi kwakho ima ngequbuliso, unexesha elincinci kunye nomgama wokuma. Njengokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba utyibilike kwaye uwe kwindlela emanzi, kokukhona ukhawuleza, kokukhona unokuba nengozi.
• Qhuba kancinci xa imozulu imbi. Oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uqhube kancinci kunesiqhelo xa kunemvula enkulu, xa iindlela zimanzi, okanye xa kukho inkungu. Indlela ityibilika ngakumbi ngamaxesha anjalo, kwaye ukubonakala kwayo kuyancipha.

3. Landela umthetho wemizuzwana emi-3

Ukuqhuba kufutshane kakhulu nesithuthi esingaphambili ngumkhwa oyingozi kakhulu. Lo 'mthetho wemizuzwana emi-3' uza kukunceda ugcine umgama okhuselekileyo.

• Oku kulula kakhulu. Xa uqhuba, xa imoto ephambi kwakho idlula uphawu olusisigxina ecaleni kwendlela (umzekelo, ipali yesibane, umgca odwetshwe endleleni, umthi, uphawu), qala ukubala engqondweni yakho, "Inye... zimbini... zintathu..." imizuzwana emithathu.
• Xa ubala ukuya kutsho ku-'ntathu', imoto yakho kufuneka idlule kuloo mqondiso. Ukuba kunjalo, umgama okhuselekileyo wokulandela .
• Ukuba ngempazamo udlule olo phawu ngaphambi kokuba ubale uye ku-'three', oko kuthetha ukuba ukhwela umva . Emva koko yehlisa isantya kancinci kwaye ugcine umgama okhuselekileyo.
• Ukuba indlela ayilunganga, oko kukuthi, ngemini yemvula, kwindlela enodaka, okanye kwinkungu , kuyanceda kakhulu ukuba umzimba unyuse oku ukuya kuthi ga kwimizuzwana emi-3 okanye emi-6 . Kuba ngamaxesha anjalo, ixesha elithathayo ukumisa imoto lide.

4. Susa ngokupheleleyo iziphazamiso

Xa uqhuba imoto , kufuneka ugxile ngokupheleleyo endleleni kwaye uqhube. Nokuba yinto ephazamisayo okomzuzwana inokukhokelela kwingozi enkulu.

• Eyona ngxaki inkulu yexesha lethu yile fowuni ephathwayo . Ukufowuna, ukuthumela imiyalezo, ukuya kwi-social media, ukubukela iividiyo ngelixa uqhuba kuyingozi kakhulu. Ezi zizinto ezingavumelekanga ngumthetho, kwaye ukuba ubhaqwe, ungahlawuliswa nesohlwayo.
• Akupheleli apho, ukutya ngelixa uqhuba, ukhangela ibhotile yamanzi, ukudlala umculo ovakalayo, ukwenza into ethile kwideshibhodi, okanye nokuba nencoko nabantu abakwisihlalo esingasemva konke oku kunokukuphazamisa.
• Kangangoko kunokwenzeka , hlala kude nazo zonke izinto ezikuphazamisayo ude ufike kwindawo oya kuyo. Beka ifowuni yakho ingasebenzi kakuhle uze uyibeke kwindawo ekude, mhlawumbi ebhegini yakho. Ezinye iifowuni zikwanohlobo 'lokuqhuba' , oluthi xa luvuliwe luthumele umyalezo ngokuzenzekelayo kubafowuneli wokuba uqhuba. Nalo ke licebo elihle.

Khawucinge nje, ukuba impazamo encinci, umzuzwana wokulibala, ibangela ingozi enkulu, umonakalo enokuwubangela. Ukukhubazeka ubomi bonke, intlungu yosapho, ilahleko kwezoqoqosho... Konke oku kunokuthintelwa ngengcinga encinci kunye nesilumkiso, akunjalo?

5. Musa ukuthembela kwabanye abaqhubi kuphela.

Sonke kufuneka sibe nobubele kwabanye xa sisendleleni, kwaye kufuneka sibanike indawo. Kodwa, musa ukuqhuba ngokuzithemba ngokupheleleyo ukuba wonke umntu uza kuqhuba ngokomthetho, akubone, akukhulule, aze aziphathe ngendlela ocinga ukuba bafanele baziphathe ngayo.

• Uyazinyamekela. Oko kuthetha ukuba, nokuba abanye benza ntoni na, cinga ngendlela onokuzikhusela ngayo.
• Endaweni yokuziphosa nje apho ucinge, 'Uza kundikhulula,' cinga ngayo okomzuzwana, 'Ndiza kwenza ntoni ukuba akandikhululi?'
• Umzekelo, xa uza kujika ngasekunene kwindawo edibana kuyo iimoto, endaweni yokuba ucinge ukuba imoto ezayo iza kukuvumela ukuba udlule, yiba nesicwangciso sento oza kuyenza ukuba ayimi.
• Mhlawumbi omnye umqhubi usebenzisa ifowuni yakhe, akakubonanga, ubekwimeko engxamisekileyo, okanye akayazi imithetho.
• Abanye abaqhubi baqhuba izibane ezibomvu kwaye abazinanzi iimpawu zokuma. Ngoko ke kungcono ukuba ulungele ezi zinto ngamaxesha onke. Oko kuthetha ukuba uhlala ucinga 'kutheni ukuba'.

Enye into malunga nokuqhuba ngokukhuselekileyo

Ukuba kunokwenzeka, kuyanceda kakhulu ukuthatha ikhosi yokuqhuba yokuzikhusela rhoqo emva kweminyaka embalwa. Ayizukuhlaziya ulwazi lwakho kuphela, kodwa iya kukunceda uphucule nezakhono zakho zokuqhuba. Kwamanye amazwe, ukuthatha izifundo ezinjalo kukunika isaphulelo esincinci kwiprimiyamu yakho yomshuwalense wemoto. Kukho iindawo eSri Lanka ezibonelela ngezifundo ezinjalo. Ungafumana okungakumbi ngale nto kwizikolo zoqeqesho lokuqhuba ezidumileyo eSri Lanka, okanye kwiiarhente zikarhulumente ezifana neSebe leeMoto.

Okokugqibela, yintoni ekufuneka uyikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Ngoko ke, ukuba uyazikhumbula ezi ngongoma esizixubushe namhlanje ngelixa uqhuba, ngokuqinisekileyo ungawanciphisa kakhulu amathuba engozi.

• Hlala uqaphela.
• Lawula isantya sakho.
• Gcina umgama okhuselekileyo ukusuka kwizithuthi ezingaphambili.
• Ziphephe ngokupheleleyo izinto ezikuphazamisayo.
• Lungela ukuba abanye abaqhubi banokwenza iimpazamo.

Ubomi bakho, kunye nobomi babo bonke abanye abantu endleleni, buxabiseke kakhulu. Ngoko ke, soloko ucinga ngokhuseleko, yiba nomonde, kwaye uqhube ngononophelo. Khumbula, umqhubi olungileyo asinguye ohamba ngokukhawuleza aze afike kwindawo yakhe kuqala, kodwa ngulowo uhamba ngononophelo aze agqibe uhambo lwakhe ngokukhuselekileyo.

Lumka xa uhamba!

Ukuqhuba Ngokukhuselekileyo, Ukuthintela Iingozi, Ukuqhuba Ngokuzikhusela, Iingcebiso Zokuqhuba eSri Lanka, Ukuqhuba, Ukhuseleko Ezindleleni, Ingqalelo Yabaqhubi