Ngaba nawe ukhathazekile ngobundlobongela basesikolweni? Masithethe ngayo!

Xa usiva ngogonyamelo esikolweni, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva usoyika kwaye ukhathazekile, njengokuthi, 'Owu, ngaba oku kuya kuze kwenzeke kum okanye kubahlobo bam?' Enyanisweni, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva ulusizi kwaye ukhathazekile, kwaye uzame ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ezi zinto zenzeka. Sonke sifuna ukuya esikolweni ngokukhuselekileyo nangovuyo. Ngoko ke, akumangalisi ukuba xa sisiva ngezinto ezinje, iintliziyo zethu ziyaphuka.

Kutheni izinto ezinobundlobongela kangaka zenzeka ezikolweni?

Inyaniso kukuba, kunzima ukukhomba isizathu esinye sokuba kubekho ubundlobongela ezikolweni. Akukho sizathu sinye sale nto. Cinga ngayo, wonke umntwana wahlukile. Izinto abanazo engqondweni yakhe, iingxaki abajongene nazo, zonke zahlukile.

Abanye abantwana banokwenza izinto ngobundlobongela kuba belinganisa oko bakubonayo ekhaya, esitratweni, okanye kwimidlalo yevidiyo, kwiimuvi, okanye kwiinkqubo zeTV . Banokucinga ukuba kulungile, okanye ukuba yindlela yokusombulula iingxaki. Ngamanye amaxesha, abanye abantwana banokusokola neengxaki zempilo yengqondo . Oko kukuthi, abakwazi ukujongana neemvakalelo zabo zoxinzelelo, ixhala, umsindo, okanye usizi. Emva koko, banokukufumanisa kunzima ukuzibamba.

Abanye babhenela kubundlobongela kuba besoloko bexhatshazwa ngabanye (oku sikubiza ngokuba kukuxhaphaza) . Oko kukuthi, abanye bahlala bebahlekisa, beboyikisa, kwaye bebabeka bucala. Emva koko banokuziva belusizi kakhulu kwaye benomsindo, ngokungathi bahlukaniswe kwaye balahliwe ngabanye. Kungezi mvakalelo apho ngamanye amaxesha basabela ngogonyamelo. Ezi zezinye zezizathu eziphambili zokubhenela kubundlobongela.

Kodwa kukho into enye zonke iingcali ezivumelana ngayo. Oko kukuthi, ukuba abantwana banokufikelela lula kwizixhobo eziyingozi ezifana nezibhamu okanye ezinye izixhobo ezinobundlobongela, kwenza kube lula kwabanye abantu ukuhlasela izinto okanye abantu abangabathandiyo. Oko kuthetha ukuba xa benesixhobo, kwanengxaki encinci inokuba ngumlo omkhulu. Ifana nentlantsi encinci enokujika ibe ngumlilo omkhulu.

Ndingenza ntoni ngale nto? – Masiqaphele iimpawu ezilumkisayo!

Ngamafutshane, unokunceda ekuyekeni ezi zinto. Uyazi njani? Ngokuba nomonde . Ngokwesiqhelo, xa umntu esondele ekubeni abe nobundlobongela, unokubona iimpawu ezithile ezilumkisayo . Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sizazi ezi zinto. Kuba ngoko singamnika loo mntu uncedo, okanye sizame ukulimisa ngaphambi kokuba libe yingozi enkulu.

Ukuba ubona izinto ezinje kumhlobo okanye komnye umntu esikolweni, oko kungaba luphawu lwesilumkiso:

• Ukudlala nangaluphi na uhlobo lwesixhoboUkuba, okanye ukuba uhlala unomdla kwizixhobo kwaye uzithanda.
• Ukuba uhlala ethetha ngobundlobongela okanye ngezixhobo , mhlawumbi yiloo nto ahlala ethetha ngayo.
• Ukuba uhlala uthetha ngeemuvi ezinobundlobongela okanye imidlalo yevidiyo enobundlobongela ngenzondelelo egqithisileyo , kwaye uzama ukulinganisa ezo zinto.
• Ukuba uhlukumeza abanye (oku sikubiza ngokuba kukuxhaphaza) , ukuba uyaboyikisa, ukuba uyabasongela.
• Ukuba uphatha izilwanyana zasekhaya okanye ezinye izilwanyana ngenkohlakalo , ukuba uyazixhaphaza. Oko kukuthi, ukuba uziphatha ngendlela engenabubele.
• Ukuba indlela abaziphatha ngayo itshintsha kakhulu ngequbuliso , ukuba babonakala benomsindo okanye belusizi ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
• Ukuba uzama ukuhlala kude noluntu, yiba wedwa , kwaye ubalekele abahlobo.

Ukuba ubona enye okanye ezingaphezulu kwezi mpawu, musa ukuyityeshela nje. Xelela umntu omdala omthembayo ngoko nangoko . Isenokuba ngutitshala, umzali, okanye umcebisi wesikolo . Umfundi obonisa ezi mpawu usenokufuna uncedo nenkxaso ngokwenene. Usenokuba usengxakini enkulu okanye usentlungwini. Khumbula, ukhuseleko lwesikolo luxanduva lomntu wonke. Ulwazi oluncinci oluvela kuwe lunokunceda ukuthintela intlekele enkulu.

Kuthekani ukuba kukho umbuzo malunga nokhuseleko lwesikolo?

Ukuba uneengxaki, imibuzo, okanye iinkxalabo malunga nokhuseleko lwesikolo, thetha nomntu omdala onokukumamela aze akuncede. Kubalulekile. Ungoyiki ukuthetha . Izikolo ezininzi zineNkqubo zokuBika ezingaziwa ezikuvumela ukuba uxele ubundlongondlongo okanye iimpawu zobundlobongela ngokungaziwa . Oku kuthetha ukuba ungazixela ezi zinto kwabasemagunyeni ngaphandle kokuchaza igama lakho. Emva koko awunanto yokukhathazeka ngayo. Fumanisa ukuba isikolo sakho sinayo na inkqubo enjalo. Okanye, ungathetha nootitshala bakho ubuze ukuba bangayiseka na inkqubo enjalo. Kuba ngamanye amaxesha abantwana banokoyika ukunika amagama abo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuxela ingxaki.

Yintoni enye endinokuyenza? – Masenze umahluko!

Ubundlobongela yingxaki abafundi abaninzi abayixhalabele kakhulu kwaye abayicingayo. Banomdla wokunciphisa ubundlobongela ezikolweni zabo, kwiindawo abahlala kuzo, kubahlobo babo nakwiintsapho zabo. Ngamanye amaxesha, banokuba namava obuqu ngendlela ubundlobongela obuchaphazele ngayo ubomi babo. Ngoko ke yazi ukuba awuwedwa.

Ezinye izikolo zineenkqubo apho abantwana badibana khona ukuze babelane ngamava abo kwaye baxoxe ngezisombululo zezi ngxaki. Khawuthelekelele indawo apho abantwana abafana nawe badibana khona baze babuze, 'Singajongana njani nale ngxaki? Singenza ntoni?' Iingcamango ezininzi ezilungileyo zinokuvela kwiindawo ezinje.

Umzekelo, kwezinye iindawo kukho iinkqubo ezifana ne-'Do the Write Thing'. Okwenzekayo kukuba, abantwana badibana notitshala, bathethe ngolu gonyamelo, babhale ngalo, baze benze imisebenzi enokwenza umahluko omhle kuluntu. Ukuba ucinga ukuba, 'Owu, olu hlobo lwenkqubo lungalungela isikolo sethu,' ungathetha notitshala omthembayo nocinga ukuba angaba ngumcebisi wolu hlobo lomsebenzi. Ningasebenzisana nize nihlolisise oku ngakumbi. Mhlawumbi ngengcinga yenu encinci, ningenza umahluko omkhulu esikolweni.

Khumbula, awuwedwa. Amazwi nezenzo zakho zinamandla amakhulu. Nawe ungenza umahluko omkhulu ngezinto ezincinci.

Enye into kukufunda ukuhloniphana . Wonke umntu wahlukile. Wonke umntu unezimvo ezahlukeneyo. Kodwa, ukuba sonke sifunda ukuhloniphana kwaye sicinge ngokwembono yomnye umntu, singanciphisa inani leengxaki ezivelayo. Ukuba ubona umntu eziva eyedwa kwaye eyedwa, thetha naye kwaye umncede. Luxanduva lomntu wonke ukudala imeko-bume enobuhlobo nenobubele esikolweni. Emva koko wonke umntu unokonwaba.

Ngamanye amaxesha, kunzima ukuqonda izizathu zobundlobongela, kodwa ukuba sonke siyadibana, singayijongana nayo size siyinciphise. Ukhuseleko lwakho, kunye nolwabanye, lubaluleke kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ungaze woyike ukuthetha into elungileyo. Ilizwi lakho lixabiseke kakhulu.

Ngoko ke, yintoni eyona nto ibalulekileyo esifanele siyithathele ekhaya kweli bali?

Kulungile, ngokwezinto ebesithetha ngazo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, kukho izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzikhumbule.

Kalula nje:

• Ubundlobongela esikolweni yingxaki enkulu. Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive ukhathazekile kwaye usoyika ngayo. Iimvakalelo zakho zifanelekile.
• Zininzi izizathu zobundlobongela. Iingxaki zempilo yengqondo , ukuxhaphaza , kunye nokufikeleleka lula kwezixhobo zezona ziphambili.
• Nika ingqalelo kwiimpawu zesilumkiso . Ukuba ubona izinto ezifana nokudlala ngezixhobo, ukuthetha ngogonyamelo, okanye ukuxhaphaza abanye, xelela umntu omdala omthembileyo ngoko nangoko . Oku kungasindisa ubomi.
• Ukhuseleko lwakho lubaluleke njengokhuseleko lwabanye. Ukhuseleko lwesikolo luxanduva lomntu wonke .
• Ukuba unengxaki, ungoyiki ukuthetha. Khangela iinkqubo zokunika ingxelo ezingaziwa .
• Nawe unokuba negalelo ekunciphiseni ubundlobongela ezikolweni. Zibandakanye kwiinkqubo ezilungileyo, uncede abanye, kwaye uncede ekudaleni imeko-bume ehloniphekileyo nenobubele .
• Awuwedwa . Ungaze ungathandabuzi ukucela uncedo. Kukho umntu okulungeleyo.

Khumbula, amazwi akho amancinci kunye nezenzo zakho zinokwenza umahluko omkhulu. Masisebenzisane sonke ukwenza izikolo zethu zibe ziindawo ezikhuselekileyo nezinolonwabo. Uyaqonda? Ukuba ufuna ukwazi okungakumbi ngale nto, okanye unemibuzo, ungoyiki ukubuza utitshala wakho okanye abazali bakho.

Ubundlobongela Besikolo, Ukhuseleko Lwabafundi, Iimpawu Zesilumkiso, Ukuxhatshazwa, Impilo Yengqondo, Ingxelo Engaziwayo