Ngaba wakha wazibona uthumela imiyalezo ngelixa uhamba esitratweni, okanye mhlawumbi ngelixa ukhwele ibhasi okanye uloliwe? Usenokucinga, "Hayi, ayisiyonto inkulu, ndingakwazi ukujongana nezinye izinto ngelixa ndisenza oku." Kodwa ngaba wakha wema ukuze ucinge ngento eyenzekayo kwindawo ogxile kuyo xa uthumela imiyalezo? Ngaba inokuba yingozi kakhulu kunokuba uqonda? Masingene kwiinyani namhlanje.
Kutheni kunzima ukuba ingqondo yakho igxile kwizinto ezimbini ngaxeshanye?
Ngamafutshane, nokuba umncinci okanye unobuchule kangakanani, ingqondo yakho iyasokola ukwenza imisebenzi emibini ngaxeshanye ngengqwalasela yakho epheleleyo . Cinga ngale nto: xa ubhala umbhalo, ucinga ngomxholo, ubukele iminwe yakho ihamba kwikhibhodi, kwaye ufunda imiyalezo engenayo. Ngelixa usenza konke oku, ukuqonda kwakho indawo okuyo kunye nokhuseleko lwakho kuncipha kakhulu.
Oku sikubiza ngokuba yi-multitasking. Nangona kunjalo, xa wenza imisebenzi emibini efuna amanqanaba aphezulu okugxila, umgangatho wengqwalasela yakho kumsebenzi ngamnye uyancitshiswa. Abanye bathi, "Ndingathumela imiyalezo ngaphandle kokujonga ikhiphedi." Nokuba oko kuyinyani, ingqondo yakho isazama ukujongana neenkqubo ezimbini ngaxeshanye. Ngenxa yoko, ukugxila kwakho kuyahlukana. Oku kudla ngokubizwa ngokuba yi- (Cognitive Switching); ingqondo yakho itshintsha ngokukhawuleza phakathi kwemisebenzi endaweni yokugxila kuzo zombini ngaxeshanye. Kufana nokuzama ukubamba izinto ezimbini eziwayo ngaxeshanye—ugqibela uziwisa zombini.
Ngaphezu koko, xa uthumela imiyalezo, ukuqonda kwakho ngendawo okuyo kuyanyamalala. Khawuthelekelele uhamba wedwa ebusuku; kubalulekile ukuhlala uphaphile kwindawo okuyo, akunjalo? Ukuba ungaphakathi kwifowuni yakho, usenokungamboni umntu okulandelayo okanye iingozi ezinokubakho. Ukongeza, ixesha lakho lokuphendula liyehla kakhulu. Ukuba umntu ngequbuliso ungena phambi kwakho okanye kuvela umqobo emzimbeni, awuyi kuba naso isithuba esifunekayo sokusabela ngokukhuselekileyo. Ukusabela okulibazisekileyo kudla ngokukhokelela kwiingozi.
Yintoni ingxaki yokwenyani ngokuthumela imiyalezo xa uhamba?
Mhlawumbi ngoku unombono ongcono ngeengozi ezinxulumene nokuthumela imiyalezo ngelixa uhamba. Ungawela emngxunyeni, ungqubane nomntu, okanye ukhubeke phezu komqobo uze wenzekele. Enyanisweni, 'Ukuhamba Ngokuphazamisekileyo' kuye kwaba yingxaki enkulu yezempilo kwihlabathi liphela. Ezinye iindawo zide zazisa imithetho yokuthintela ukuthumela imiyalezo ngelixa uhamba ngenxa yokuba iziphumo zinokuba yingozi kangakanani. Cinga ngoku: ukuba uthumela imiyalezo ngelixa unqumla isitalato, usenokungawuboni imoto ezayo. Loo nto iyingozi ebomini.
Makhe sijonge umzekelo omfutshane.
Khawuthelekelele umntu ebaleka esitratweni esiya kuthumela umyalezo ongxamisekileyo. Basenokucinga, "Ndiyazazi izinto ezindingqongileyo ngelixa ndithumela umyalezo, ndiphilile." Ngequbuliso, bakhubeka phezu kwelitye elincinci baze bawa. Ifowuni yabo iyabhabha, baze bakrweleke amadolo kakubi. Ngethamsanqa, yayingekuko ukwenzakala okukhulu, kodwa ngekwakunokubangela ukuba aphuke ngokulula. Kwaye kwindawo enabantu abaninzi, iziphumo zazinokuba zimbi kakhulu, awucingi njalo?
Ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni ngelixa uqhuba kuyabulala!
Ukuba ukuthumela imiyalezo xa uhamba ngenyawo kuyingozi, ukuthumela imiyalezo xa uqhuba kukwinqanaba elithile— kuyingozi kakhulu . Enyanisweni, uphando lwezonyango kunye nezifundo zokhuseleko ezindleleni zibonise ukuba ukuthumela imiyalezo xa uqhuba kunokuba yingozi ngakumbi kunokuqhuba uphantsi kwempembelelo yotywala okanye iziyobisi. Cinga ngobunzulu boku: xa uthumela imiyalezo, amehlo akho kunye nokugxila kwakho konke kukwifowuni yakho, kungekhona endleleni. Ukulahlekelwa yingqwalasela nokuba yimizuzwana embalwa kunokukhokelela kwingozi embi kakhulu.
Xa kwenzeka ingozi, abasemagunyeni bahlala bephanda iirekhodi zefowuni kunye nomsebenzi wemiyalezo kwifowuni yomqhubi. Oku kungenxa yokuba kuye kwafunyaniswa ukuba inani elikhulu leengozi libangelwa 'kukuqhuba ngokuphazamisekileyo.'
Uthini umthetho?
Ukusebenzisa ifowuni ephathwayo, kuquka ukufowuna okanye ukuthumela imiyalezo, akukho mthethweni xa uqhuba eSri Lanka. Kwihlabathi liphela, amazwe amaninzi—ngakumbi amazwe aliqela e-US—awavumelekanga ngokupheleleyo ukuthumela imiyalezo ngelixa uqhuba. Kwimimandla emininzi, abaqhubi abatsha bathintelwe ekusebenziseni iifowuni kwaphela.
Ukuba ubhaqwe uthumela imiyalezo ngelixa uqhuba, ujongene neentlawulo ezinkulu. Ngaphaya koko, ukuba udlula kwiindlela, uthintela ezinye iimoto, okanye ubangela ingozi, ungajongana neentlawulo 'zokuqhuba ngokungenankathalo.' Iziphumo zingabandakanya iintlawulo ezinkulu, ukumiswa kwelayisenisi yakho, okanye kwanokubanjwa entolongweni ukuba esi siganeko sikhokelela ekufeni. Nceda, phatha oku ngobunzulu obufaneleyo.
Ungayilawula njani le nto ngempumelelo?
Kunzima ukuphila ngaphandle kokunxibelelana kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje likhawulezayo. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka ulawule indlela kunye nexesha osisebenzisa ngalo isixhobo sakho. Ixesha kunye nendawo zezona zinto zibalulekileyo.
Nazi ezinye iindlela ezilula zokuqinisekisa ukuba imikhwa yakho yokuthumela imiyalezo ayibeki emngciphekweni ukhuseleko lwakho okanye ubomi bakho:
- Gcina ifowuni yakho kwindawo ekulula ukuyifumana, ebekelwe yona, njengepokotho ethile ebhegini okanye esipajini sakho, ukuze ungaphazanyiswa kukuyikhangela.
- Ukuba kufuneka uthumele umyalezo, nqumama umsebenzi wakho wangoku. Ukuba uhamba ngenyawo, shiya ecaleni. Ukuba uqhuba, yima ecaleni kwendlela ngokukhuselekileyo ngaphambi kokuba uwuthumele. Ungaze uzame ukwenza oku ngelixa usenza intshukumo.
- Ngaphambi kokuba uqale imoto yakho, cinga ngokuseta impendulo yomyalezo ezenzekelayo. Oku kuqinisekisa ukuba nabani na ozama ukuqhagamshelana nawe uyazi ukuba uqhuba imoto kwaye uya kufumana isaziso sokuba uza kumfowunela kwakhona kamva.
- Xa kufuneka ugxile ngokupheleleyo—njengakwiintlanganiso ezibalulekileyo, xa ufunda, okanye uqhuba—tshintsha ifowuni yakho uye ku-'Silent' okanye 'Valiwe.' Ukususa isilingo sezaziso kunciphisa umngcipheko wokungahoywa.
- Sebenzisa ugwebo lwakho olusemagqabini. Thumela umyalezo kuphela xa kukhuselekile kuwe nakwabo bakungqongileyo. Ukongeza, ukuba ungumkhweli kwaye umqhubi uthumela umyalezo, mcele ukuba ayeke. Ukuba bayala, beka phambili ukhuseleko lwakho kwaye ukhethe ukungaphindi ukhwele nabo. Ubomi bakho buxabiseke kakhulu.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyithathe
Ukuqukumbela, nangona ukuhlala uqhagamshelene kuyinxalenye yobomi banamhlanje, akufanelekanga ukubeka ukhuseleko lwakho emngciphekweni. Simele siqonde ukuba iingqondo zethu azidalelwanga ukwenza imisebenzi emininzi ngempumelelo kwiindawo ezinobungozi. Xa useluhambeni, ukhetho olukrelekrele onokuthi ulwenze kukubeka ifowuni ecaleni kwaye uhlale ugxile kumsebenzi okhoyo.
Khumbula, akukho myalezo okanye uhlaziyo lweendaba zoluntu lubaluleke ngaphezu kobomi bakho.
Ukhuseleko lwakho nolwabanye luhlala lusezandleni zakho. Apha eNirogi Lanka, siyakukhuthaza ukuba usebenzise isixhobo sakho esiphathwayo ngononophelo.
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