Njengomama okanye utata , iphupha lakho elikhulu kukubona umntwana wakho ekhula abe ngumntu olungileyo, ozithembileyo, nokwaziyo, akunjalo? Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha asinakukwazi ukuqonda ukuba yeyiphi indlela esifanele siyilandele xa sikhulisa umntwana wethu ukuze enze loo nto. Namhlanje sithetha ngendlela yokukhulisa abantwana eyahlukileyo, kodwa elula kakhulu kwaye ehlonipha kakhulu umntwana. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yindlela yeRIE (Resources for Infant Educators).
Ngamafutshane, i-RIE isekelwe kwingcamango yokuba umntwana, ingakumbi usana, akufuneki aphathwe njengempahla, kodwa njengomntu omncinci oneemvakalelo zakhe, iminqweno yakhe, kunye nobuwena bakhe. Yaziswa yingcali yabantwana uMagda Gerber. Wayibiza le ndlela ngokuthi "Ukufundisa." Ithetha ukunyamekela umntwana ngelixa umfundisa. Namhlanje, iye yaba yindlela ethandwayo elandelwa ngabazali abaninzi, izikolo zabantwana abancinci, kunye nezikolo zabantwana abancinci kwihlabathi liphela.
Yintoni eyona nto iphambili kwindlela yeRIE?
Isiseko sale ndlela kukuhloniphana, ukuthembana, kunye nonxibelelwano phakathi kwabazali nabantwana. Le ndlela isifundisa ukubona umntwana njengomntu owahlukileyo onezinto azithandayo nangazithandiyo. Makhe sijonge nje imigaqo ephambili yendlela yeRIE.
| Umgaqo | Intsingiselo Elula |
|---|---|
| Kholelwa kwizakhono zomntwana | Kholosa ukuba umntwana wakho angakwazi ukuphonononga nokufunda eyedwa, kwaye mvumele enze njalo. Udinga uncedo oluncinci kangangoko kunokwenzeka. |
| Zinike ixesha lokuphonononga izinto. | Nika umntwana wakho ixesha elaneleyo lokudlala ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka aze azame izinto ezintsha. |
| Yenza indawo ekhuselekileyo. | Yenza indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuba umntwana wakho akwazi ukuhambahamba ngokukhululekileyo aze adlale ngaphandle koloyiko. |
| Yenza ukukhathalela kube yinto efanayo phakathi kwamaqela omabini. | Xa utyisa, uhlamba, okanye utshintsha impahla, musa ukwenza ezo zinto nje kuphela, thetha nomntwana kwaye umbandakanye kwinkqubo. |
| Jonga umntwana ngononophelo uze umphulaphule. | Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqonda ngokwenene iimfuno zomntwana wakho kukujonga ngenyameko nokumamela oko akwenzayo. |
Masicacise le migaqo kancinci.
Khawuthelekelele umntwana wakho ezama ukufikelela kwithoyi. Akakwazi ukufikelela kuyo kwaye uyasokola kancinci. Uninzi lwexesha, simnika nje ithoyi ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa indlela yeRIE kukunika ixesha elincinci lokuzama ukufikelela kuyo. Ukuba ufuna uncedo lwakho, ubuncinane mncede. Ngale ndlela, xa esenza into ngokwakhe, ukuzithemba kwakhe kuyakheka. Ukhuthazwa kukufunda ngemizamo yakhe.
Ikwamalunga nokuvumela umntwana wakho adlale ngokukhululekileyo. Sifanele simvumele adlale size sithethe naye ngento ayenzileyo. Xa usithi izinto ezinje, "Owu... upende kakuhle namhlanje, akunjalo?" okanye "Ndiyibonile indlela odlale ngayo ngebhola," uya kuba nomdla kwinto ayifundayo.
Xa umntwana eqala ukukhasa nokuhamba, udinga indawo ekhuselekileyo. Oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka umnike yonke into. Mhlawumbi ungabeka umatrasi omncinci kwelinye icala legumbi uze ubeke izinto zokudlala ezikhuselekileyo kuwo, uze wenze 'indawo' yakhe. Emva koko angenza nantoni na ayifunayo ngaphakathi kuloo mda ngaphandle koloyiko.
Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo ngeRIE ngamaxesha okunyamekela umntwana wakho. Xa uhlamba, utshintsha, okanye utyisa umntwana wakho, musa ukwenza nje, thetha naye. Xa usithi izinto ezinje, "Kulungile, nyana, masitshintshe i-napkin ngoku?" okanye "Jonga, ndiza kuphakamisa umlenze wakho," uba yinxalenye yenkqubo. Lixesha elimnandi eliqinisa ulwalamano phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho.
Zithini iziphumo zendlela yeRIE?
Le ndlela ayisiyongcinga nje kuphela. Uphando ngale nto luvelise iziphumo ezilungileyo kakhulu. Ezi zezinye zezinto ezifunyenweyo kuphando oludumileyo olwenziwe eMelika.
- Izakhono zolwimi ziyaphucuka: Abantwana abakhulele kwinkqubo ye-RIE baphucule kakhulu izakhono zabo zolwimi kunye nezakhono zokuqonda amagama xa kuthelekiswa nabanye abantwana. Esi sisiseko esihle sezakhono zokufunda nokubhala ezingcono kwixesha elizayo.
- Izakhono zentlalo nezeemvakalelo ziyaphuhla: Aba bantwana bafunyenwe benokuzibamba ngakumbi kwaye benomnqweno ongcono. Babekwazi ngakumbi ukunxulumana nabanye abantu.
- Ubudlelwane obuqinileyo buyakhiwa: Ubudlelwane obunovakalelo nobuqinileyo buyakhiwa phakathi komntwana nabazali/ootitshala. Olu budlelwane bulungileyo bukwachaphazela ngqo impumelelo yemfundo yomntwana.
Khumbula, elona xesha lilungileyo lokwazisa umntwana ngale ndlela kuxa engaphantsi kweminyaka emi-5 ubudala. Oku kungenxa yokuba kulapho ingqondo yakhe ikhula ngokukhawuleza kwaye afunde izinto ezintsha ngokulula.
Ukulandela le ndlela kunokuba ngumceli mngeni ekuqaleni. Kuba siqhele ukwenza yonke into ngenxa yomntwana. Kodwa ngomonde omncinci, sithembele kubuchule bomntwana kwaye simvumele ukuba akwenze, uya kubona iziphumo ezimangalisayo. Ukuba unezinye izinto ezikuxhalabisayo ngale nto, ungaxoxa ngale nto nogqirha wakho xa uthetha ngophuhliso lomntwana wakho.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-RIE yindlela yokukhulisa umntwana esekelwe ekuhlonipheni nasekuphatheni umntwana njengomntu owahlukileyo.
- Themba izakhono zomntwana wakho kwaye umvumele ukuba azihlole aze afunde eyedwa.
- Nika umntwana indawo ekhuselekileyo nexesha elaneleyo lokudlala ngokukhululekileyo, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka.
- Musa ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya xa uhlamba umntwana wakho, umtyisa, kwaye umnxibisa, kodwa guqula loo maxesha abe ngamathuba okuthetha naye nokunxulumana naye.
- Le ndlela inceda ekuphuhliseni ukuzithemba komntwana, ubuchule bokuthetha, kunye nezakhono zentlalo, kwaye yakhe ubuntu obuqinileyo.
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