Zinike amandla okuba nomntwana oneemfuno ezizodwa: Masithethe ngokuXhotyiswa kwabazali

Ngaba unomntwana ekhaya onezidingo ezikhethekileyo, oko kukuthi, onokukhubazeka okuthile ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwengqondo okanye ekufundeni? Nguwe kuphela owaziyo ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukukhulisa umntwana onjalo, kwaye luhambo olunothando kangakanani na. Ngamanye amaxesha xa uya kugqirha, xa uya esikolweni, xa ujongene noluntu, uziva ungenakunceda, ungazi ukuba wenze ntoni okanye uthini. Yiyo loo nto sithetha ngalo mbandela ubalulekileyo namhlanje ukuze uqinise, ukwenze womelele nangakumbi.

Ngamafutshane, yintoni i-Parent Empowerment?

Nangona oku kungabonakala ngathi ligama elikhulu, intsingiselo yalo ilula kakhulu. Ukuxhotyiswa kwabazali kukuncedisa umzali okanye umgcini womntwana oneemfuno ezikhethekileyo ukwakha ukuzithemba, ulwazi, kunye nezakhono ezifunekayo ukunyamekela umntwana wakhe, ukumela umntwana wakhe, kunye nokwenza izigqibo ezinolwazi ngomntwana wakhe.

Khawuthelekelele ukuba ungumkhapteni wenqanawa. Umntwana wakho yinqanawa. Oogqirha, ootitshala, iingcali zonyango, kunye nabanye abantu ngabasebenzi abakuncedayo kolu hambo. Kodwa umphathi, owazi kakuhle apho afanele ayithathe khona inqanawa kwaye yeyiphi indlela engcono, nguwe. Xa unamandla, ungacela inkxaso yabo bonke aba bantu kwaye uhambe ngokukhuselekileyo nangempumelelo kwinqanawa yobomi bomntwana wakho.

Enye ingcamango ebalulekileyo esithetha ngayo apha "kukukhathalela okugxile kusapho." Oko kukuthi, sigxila kusapho lonke, kungekuphela nje kumntwana. Kuba kukho imingeni kunye novuyo olujongene nalo lonke usapho kolu hambo. Ezinye zeenjongo eziphambili zale ndlela zezi:

• Ukukunceda wakhe unxibelelwano nezinye iintsapho ezinamava afana nawe.
• Ukudala intsebenziswano elungileyo phakathi koogqirha, ootitshala kunye nabazali.
• Ukwenza izigqibo ezinxulumene nokukhula komntwana, okukunika ulawulo nokuthembana njengomnakekeli womntwana.
• Ukukunceda uqonde ngcono izakhono zomntwana wakho.

Zithini iingenelo zokuba namandla njengomzali?

Xa uba ngumzali oqinileyo, ozele lulwazi nokuzithemba, oko akuzuzisi nje kuphela umntwana wakho, kodwa nawe, lonke usapho, oogqirha kunye nootitshala. Masibone ukuba zeziphi ezo zibonelelo.

Kulungile, ndingomelela njani njengomzali?

Oku akuyonto eyenzeka ngobusuku obunye. Yinto ekufuneka yakhiwe kancinci kancinci, ngomzamo. Nazi ezinye iindlela ezilula onokuzithatha ukuze uqalise.

1. Zixhobise ngolwazi

Into esingayaziyo yeyona nto siyixhalabela kakhulu, ngoko ke funda kangangoko unako ngemeko yomntwana wakho.

• Buza ugqirha: Ngexesha elizayo xa ubona ugqirha wakho, bhala phantsi imibuzo yakho ephepheni. Ungoyiki ukubuza imibuzo efana nale, "Lithini igama lale meko?", "Ingaba yintoni imiphumo enokuba nayo kumntwana?", "Ndingamnceda njani umntwana wam ekhaya?"
• Funda imithombo ethembekileyo: Musa ukukholelwa kuyo yonke into oyifumana kwi-intanethi. Funda iiwebhusayithi kunye neencwadi eziqinisekisiweyo ngonyango.

2. Thetha ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyanisekileyo

Umazi kakuhle umntwana, ngoko ke izinto oziqaphelayo zibaluleke kakhulu.

• Thetha nootitshala:Xelela ootitshala esikolweni izinto ezinje, "Titshala, unyana wam uthanda kakhulu ukufaka imibala ekhaya" okanye "Intombi yam iyoyika kancinci iindawo ezinengxolo." Emva koko banokumphatha umntwana ngokufanelekileyo eklasini.
• Xelela ugqirha: Ukuba ubona utshintsho kwindlela umntwana wakho aziphethe ngayo emva kokumnika amayeza, okanye ukuba uqala ukwenza into entsha, yabelana nogqirha ngayo yonke loo nto.

3. Hlonipha izimvo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho.

Nokuba iingcali zikunika iingcebiso, ngamanye amaxesha ukuziva ungonwabanga kunokuba yinto elungileyo.

• Khawuthelekelele ugqirha ecebisa unyango, kodwa awucingi ukuba lufanelekile kumntwana wakho. Thetha naye ngokukhululekileyo malunga noloyiko lwakho okanye amathandabuzo akho. "Gqirha, ndixhalabile kancinci ngale nto, asinakucinga ngenye indlela?" Uluvo lwakho nalo lubalulekile.

4. Cela uncedo, musa ukuba wedwa!

Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Musa ukuzama ukuhamba wedwa kolu hambo.

• Fumana uncedo kusapho lwakho: Cela uncedo kumyeni wakho, umfazi wakho, umama, utata, abantakwenu. Nokuba kukucela ukuba umgade umntwana okwethutyana okanye ukuba nomntu othetha naye ngento ekucingayo, ngumthombo omkhulu wamandla.
• Fumana abazali abacinga ngendlela efanayo: Kwikliniki yomntwana wakho, esikolweni, okanye kwiziko loluntu, fumana omnye umama okanye utata onomntwana onezidingo ezikhethekileyo njengawe. Yabelana ngamava akho. Kungathuthuzela kakhulu ukwazi ukuba "andindim ndedwa odlula kule meko."

Masiqaphele neendlela ezisetyenziswayo kwilizwe lethu.

Amazwe afana ne-United States anemithetho ekhethekileyo ekhusela amalungelo emfundo abantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa (uMthetho weMfundo yabantu abakhubazekileyo - IDEA). Le mithetho ngokuqinisekileyo ibandakanya abazali kwinkqubo yokwenza izigqibo. Nangona kungekho mthetho ufanayo eSri Lanka, qaphela izinto onokuzenza kunye namalungelo onawo ngaphakathi kwenkqubo kwilizwe lethu.

• Ilungelo Lemfundo: Wonke umntwana eSri Lanka unelungelo lemfundo. Umntwana wakho unelungelo elifanayo.
• IiYunithi zeMfundo eKhethekileyo: Izikolo ezininzi zikarhulumente ngoku zineeYunithi zeMfundo eKhethekileyo. Ungafumana ulwazi oluthe kratya malunga noku kwi-ofisi yakho yemfundo yasekuhlaleni.
• Ukuxoxa nesikolo: Thetha nenqununu yesikolo kunye notitshala weklasi ofanelekileyo uze uchaze iimfuno zomntwana wakho. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, faka ileta evela kugqirha echaza imeko yomntwana. Oku kuya kwenza kube lula kumntwana ukufumana unyango olukhethekileyo aludingayo.

Khumbula, okukhona ukhuthaza umntwana wakho ngenkuthalo, kokukhona wena nomntwana wakho niza kufumana inkxaso engaphezulu kwinkqubo.