Ingabe nawe uzilimaza ungaqapheli? (Isifo Sokuzilimaza Esingenakuzibulala) - Ake sixoxe ngalokhu!

Ngezinye izikhathi lapho kuvela izinkinga zempilo futhi uzizwa umthwalo osindayo engqondweni yakho, kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuthwala. Ingabe lokho kuye kwenzeka kuwe? Ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi, abanye abantu bayalingeka ukuzilimaza ngezindlela ezincane ukuze banciphise ubuhlungu bengqondo ababuzwayo. Nakuba lokhu kuyinto engabonakala kubantu abaningi ngezinga elithile, isikhathi esiningi akekho okhuluma ngakho obala. Yingakho, namuhla sizokhuluma kancane ngalokhu.

Kuyini ukuzilimaza? Kungani sikwenza?

Kalula nje, ukuzilimaza kwenzeka lapho ulimaza umzimba wakho ngamabomu ngandlela thile. Lokhu kubizwa ngokwezokwelapha ngokuthi ``Nonsuicidal Self-Injury Disorder''. Into ebalulekile lapha ukuthi abantu abazilimaza ngale ndlela abahlosile ukuqeda izimpilo zabo. Bakwenza lokho ngezinye izizathu.

Cabanga ngakho, kungani umuntu angafuna ukuzilimaza? Kunezizathu eziningana eziyinhloko:

• Njengendlela yokubhekana nesimo: Kwabanye abantu, ukuzilimaza kunganikeza impumuzo yesikhashana noma impumuzo ekucindezelekeni. Kwabanye, kungaba yindlela yokuzibonakalisa ukuthi bangabhekana nobuhlungu obungakanani. Abanye abantu bakwenza lokhu ukuze banciphise imizwa emibi njengokudabuka, intukuthelo, nokukhungatheka.
• Ukuguqula imizwa ngaphakathi: Abanye bazilimaza ngale ndlela ukuze bazijezise noma bazikhiphele intukuthelo yabo. Njengokungathi abanayo enye indlela yokukhulula umthwalo ezingqondweni zabo.
• Njengesibonakaliso sokucela usizo: Ngezinye izikhathi, abantu bangenza lokhu ukuze bazise abanye ngobunzima babo kanye nokucindezeleka , noma bathi ngokungaqondile, "Ngidinga usizo."

Ungazilimaza kanjani kanje?

Kunezindlela eziningi zokuzilimaza. Ezinye zivame kakhulu kunezinye. Kodwa-ke, sidinga ukuqonda ukuthi indlela ngayinye inengozi ethile . Nazi ezinye zezindlela ezivame kakhulu:

• Ukusika ngento ebukhali: Abanye abantu basebenzisa izinto ezibukhali, njengezinsika ze-razor noma izingcezu zengilazi, ukuze banqume futhi baklwebhe isikhumba sabo.
• Ukushisa: Ukushisa isikhumba ngezinto ezifana nezinduku zensimbi ezishisayo, izinqe zikagwayi, izinti zikamentshisi, njll. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisho namakhemikhali asekhaya, njengemikhiqizo yokuhlanza indlu, angasetshenziswa kulokhu.
• Ukuzishaya/ukuzishaya: Ukuzilimaza ngokushaya izingxenye zomzimba wakho ezindaweni eziqinile, njengokushaya isandla sakho odongeni. Lokhu kungabangela imihuzuko yangaphakathi (ukulimala komthelela) .
• Ukuklwebha/ukuklwebha:Enye indlela ukuklwebha isikhumba ngezinzipho zakho kuze kube yilapho sonakele.

Ziyini izimpawu zalesi simo? Uzibona kanjani?

Uma uzilimaza, ungase uzame ukukufihla kwabanye. Ungase ugqoke amahembe anemikhono emide namabhulukwe amade, ngisho nangezinsuku ezishisayo, ukuze umboze amanxeba. Noma ungase uxoxe izindaba zokuthi ukulimala kwabangelwa kanjani ingozi. Kodwa-ke, abanye bangase baqaphele ezinye zezimpawu:

• Izibazi noma amabala anesimo noma iqoqo elithile endaweni eyodwa.
• Amanxeba amaningi okusha anobukhulu noma ukuma okufanayo.
• Ukulimala, imihuzuko, noma ukuvuvukala okubangelwa imihuzuko emisha, ukulunywa, noma okunye ukulimala okuvame ukubizwa ngokuthi "izingozi."
• Izinkinga zokulawula ukushukuma. Isibonelo, ukungakwazi ukuyeka ukukha endaweni efanayo esikhumbeni sakho.

Iyiphi ingxenye yomzimba evame ukulimala kanje?

Izindawo zomzimba abantu abazilimazayo abavame ukuzilimaza kakhulu yilezi:

• Izandla (ikakhulukazi izingalo )
• Izingalo
• Ngaphambili kwamathanga abo
• Isisu

Ngaphezu kwalezi zindawo, umonakalo ungavela nakwezinye izingxenye zomzimba, kodwa awuvamile kangako.

Kungani abantu bezama ukuzilimaza? Yiziphi izizathu?

Kunzima ukusho ngqo ukuthi kungani umuntu ezilimaza. Kodwa-ke, ezinye izimo zempilo yengqondo zitholakale zihlotshaniswa nakho. Ezinye zazo zifaka:

• Ukukhathazeka
• I-Autism
• Isifo se-Bipolar - Kulesi simo, imizwa yenjabulo nokudabuka iyashintshashintsha njalo.
• Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu obungenamingcele - okubonakala ngokungazinzi ekulawuleni imizwa.
• Ukucindezeleka - Izimpawu ezinjengokudabuka okukhulu nokulahlekelwa isithakazelo kunoma yini.
• Ukuphazamiseka kokulawula okubangelwa yimizwa kanye nokuziphatha – isibonelo, `(Ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha)` kanye `(Ukuphazamiseka okuqhumayo okungapheli)` (ukungakwazi ukulawula intukuthelo engazelelwe).
• Izinkinga zokuzihlukanisa – isimo sokuhlukana neqiniso mayelana nokuthi umuntu ungubani nokuthi ukuphi. Ikakhulukazi `(isifo sokuzihlukanisa)` kanye `(i-dissociative amnesia)`.
• Izinkinga zokudla– Ikakhulukazi `(i-Anorexia nervosa)` (ukungadli).
• Isifo sokuzikhukhumeza ngokweqile ( i-OCD ) – ukuphoqeleka ukuphinda noma ukucabanga into efanayo ngokuphindaphindiwe.
• Isifo sokucindezeleka ngemva kokwethuka (PTSD) - ukucindezeleka kwengqondo okwenzeka ngemva kwesenzakalo esibuhlungu.
• Izinkinga zokulala
• Izimo nezinkinga zokusebenzisa izidakamizwa - njengokuphuza utshwala ngokweqile, ukuphazamiseka kokusebenzisa utshwala, kanye nenkinga yokusebenzisa insangu.

Ubani osengozini enkulu yalesi simo?

Kunezici eziningana eziyingozi ezingaba nomthelela ekuzilimazeni ngaphandle kokuzibulala:

• Ukuxhashazwa noma ukuhlukumezeka: Abantu abake babhekana nokuxhashazwa noma ezinye izehlakalo ezinzima nezibuhlungu ebuntwaneni banamathuba amaningi okuzilimaza.
• Ubudala: Lezi zenzo zivame ukuqala phakathi kweminyaka eyi-12 neyi-14. Kodwa-ke, zingaqala kusenesikhathi. Uma ukuzilimaza kuqala, abanye abantu bayaqhubeka nokwenza kanjalo iminyaka eminingi. Lokhu kuvamile phakathi kwabantu abasha , ikakhulukazi labo abasekolishi .
• Ukuthambekela ocansini: Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo noma abathandana nabobulili obufanayo (abantu abancane ngokobulili) banezinga eliphezulu lokuzilimaza. Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi le ngozi iphakeme ngoba babhekene nokuhlangenwe nakho okubi empilweni, njengokucindezelwa komphakathi kanye nokucwaswa.
• Ukuzihlukanisa nabantu: Abantu abazizwa bebodwa futhi bebodwa, ikakhulukazi izingane zesikole ezixhashazwayo noma ezihlukanisiwe nabantu ngenxa yezinye izizathu, basengozini enkulu yokuzilimaza.

Odokotela bakuthola kanjani lokhu?

Isifo sokuzilimaza esingazibulali ngezinye izikhathi singaba nzima ukusibona ngoba abantu abazilimazayo bavame ukufihla ukulimala kwabo futhi abafuni ukukhuluma ngakho.

Odokotela abasebenzisi ukuhlolwa okuqondile ukuze bakuxilonge. Kunalokho, bahlola ukulimala kwakho, befuna izibazi kanye nezindlela zokulimala kwangaphambilini. Babuza imibuzo ngomlando wakho wezokwelapha kanye nesizinda sakho senhlalo. Baphinde bakhulume nawe ngalokho okwenzekayo empilweni yakho kulezi zinsuku nokuthi yini ekubangela ukucindezeleka . Isibonelo, izinkinga zezimali, ukufa emndenini, izinkinga esikoleni noma emsebenzini, ukuxhashazwa, noma ukuhlukana.

Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha lokhu?

Uma ubona udokotela ngoba uzilimaza, bazoqala ngokwelapha ukulimala kwakho uma kudingeka. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, bangase batuse ukwelashwa kanye/noma imithi yokukusiza ukuphatha noma yiziphi izimo zempilo yengqondo ezingaphansi kanye nezinto ezibangela ukucindezeleka empilweni yakho ezingase zibangele lokhu.

Khumbula, ukucela usizo kuwuphawu lwamandla, hhayi ubuthakathaka.

Yiziphi izingozi uma zingelashwa?

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna ukwelashwa kokuzilimaza, njengoba kungaba nezingozi eziningana zesikhathi esifushane nezesikhathi eside.

Izingozi zesikhashana

Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuzilimaza kungabangela izinkinga obungazilindele:

• Izinkinga zezokwelapha: Lezi zindlela zokuziphatha zingaholela ekuthelelekeni , ekulimaleni kwemizwa , kanye nezibazi ezihlala njalo kanye/noma ezinzima . Kwezinye izimo, lokhu kungaholela ekulimaleni okukhulu noma ngisho nasekufeni.
• Izinkinga zomphakathi: Ukuzilimaza, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenziwa ngenhloso noma kungahlosiwe, kungathinta ubudlelwano bakho nomndeni, abangane, noma abanye abantu obathandayo. Kungathinta nendlela ozizwa ngayo ezindaweni zomphakathi, njengasemsebenzini nasesikoleni.

Izingozi zesikhathi eside

Ukuzilimaza kungaholela kwezinye izinkinga esikhathini eside:

• Ukuwohloka kwempilo yengqondo : Lokhu kungaholela emizweni yokuhlazeka, yecala, kanye nokuzisola. Ungase uzame kanzima ukufihla noma ukufihla amanxeba noma izibazi, wesaba ukuthi abanye bazozibona.
• Ukulimala okukhulu: Ngokuvamile, ukuziphatha okuzilimazayo kuyakhula . Ungase uqale ukuzilimaza kaningi, noma ukulimala okwenzayo kungase kube kubi kakhulu.
• Ingozi yokuzibulala: Esimweni esibizwa ngokuthi "isifo sokuzilimaza esingazibulali," akukho nhloso yokuzibulala. Kodwa-ke, ingozi yokuzama ukuzibulala noma ukufa ngenxa yokuzibulala iphakeme kakhulu kubantu abazilimazayo. Lokhu kuyindaba ekhathaza kakhulu.

Ingabe lokhu kungavinjelwa?

Kungase kungabi njalo ukuvimbela umuntu ukuthi azilimaze kwasekuqaleni. Kodwa-ke, ukufuna usizo kumhlinzeki wezempilo yengqondo kunganciphisa amathuba okuthi umuntu aqhubeke nokuzilimaza. Ngakho-ke, uma wena noma othile omaziyo enenkinga yalokhu, kungcono ukuthola usizo ngokushesha okukhulu.

Kufanele ubonane nini nodokotela uma uzilimaza?

Uma uqaphela ukuthi wena (noma umuntu omthandayo) uzilimaza,Sicela ubone udokotela. Ukulimala kwakho kungadinga ukunakekelwa kwezokwelapha. Kuzokusiza futhi ukwazi ukuthi awuwedwa. Udokotela wakho ukhona ukukulalela nokukusekela. Bazoncoma ukwelashwa okungcono kakhulu kuwe.

Kufanele uye nini e-Emergency Treatment Unit (ETU) ?

Uma unomuzwa wokuthi usuzolimaza wena noma abanye, iya eGumbini Lezimo Eziphuthumayo (ER) ngokushesha, noma ushayele i-Suwaseriya Ambulance Service ku-1990. Ungashayela futhi i-National Mental Health Helpline ku-1926 ukuze uthole usizo lwezempilo yengqondo eSri Lanka.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ukulimala kwakho kukubi kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma unezinye zalezi zimpawu, funa ukwelashwa okuphuthumayo ngokushesha:

• Ubunzima bokuphefumula.
• Ukopha okungeke kuphele.
• Ukukhubazeka ngokomzimba.
• Ukulahlekelwa ukunyakaza engalweni noma emlenzeni wakho.

Ubuhlungu bubathinta kanjani laba bantu?

Esinye isizathu esenza ukuzilimaza kube yindlela yokubhekana nesimo kwabanye yindlela imizimba yethu esabela ngayo ebuhlungwini.

Uma kwenzeka okuthile okungaba yingozi emzimbeni wakho, iziphetho zemizwa endaweni yokulimala zithumela izimpawu eziphuthumayo ebuchosheni bakho. Into eyodwa eyenziwa ubuchopho bakho ukuphendula lezi zimpawu ukukhulula amakhemikhali abizwa ngokuthi ama-beta-endorphin . La makhemikhali akwenza uzizwe "ulungile" isikhashana, njengobuhlungu obuncishisiwe. Kodwa-ke, lo mphumela awuhlali isikhathi eside. Ngakho-ke, abantu abazilimazayo bangase balingeke ukuba benze lokhu ngokuphindaphindiwe lapho befuna ukuzizwa bengcono.

Kubantu abaningi, ukuziphatha okuzilimazayo kungaba nzima ukukuqonda. Kodwa-ke, kulabo abazilimazayo, ukukwenza kungabonakala kuyindlela kuphela abangazizwa bengcono ngayo noma babe nokulawula izimpilo zabo. Ngisho noma abantu bengahlosile ukuzilimaza, kuhlale kunezingozi zokuzilimaza. Akuyona indlela yokuzizwa kahle ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi kungaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakho yomzimba neyengqondo kanye nenhlalakahle.

Uma uzizwa sengathi uzozilimaza, noma uma usuvele uzilimaza, akukho okubi ngokucela usizo. Ukufuna ukwelashwa kokuzilimaza kufana nokufuna ukwelashwa kwesifo somzimba. Ngisho noma ungakuzwa njengamanje, ungafika eqophelweni lapho ungazizwa ungcono ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Awuwedwa.

Okokugcina, izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okufanele uzikhumbule

Ukuzilimaza kuyinkinga eyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa kukhona usizo kanye nokwelashwa okutholakalayo.

• Awuwedwa: abantu abaningi badlula kulesi simo, ngakho ungabi namahloni noma uzizwe unecala.
• Khuluma:Khuluma nomuntu omethembayo – umngane, ilungu lomndeni, uthisha, noma umeluleki wemisebenzi – ngemizwa yakho.
• Thola usizo lochwepheshe: Udokotela wezifo zengqondo noma umeluleki angakusiza unqobe lesi simo. Bangakha uhlelo lokwelashwa olukusebenzelayo.
• Funda amasu okubhekana nesimo: Uma uzizwa uphansi, kunezinye izindlela zokubhekana nemizwa yakho ngaphandle kokuzilimaza. Isibonelo, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ukulalela umculo, ukudweba, noma ukuzijwayeza amasu okuzindla okuzolisayo.
• Zinike isikhathi sakho, ungasheshi: Kuthatha isikhathi ukululama kulokhu. Ungase ube nezinsuku ezinhle nezimbi. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqhubeka uzama.

Uma wena noma othile omaziyo ebhekene nobunzima obufana nalokhu, sicela ucele usizo. Kuhlala kukhona ithemba.