Ngezinye izikhathi siyakwazi ukubhekana nezinselele ezinkulu ekuphileni kwethu. Kodwa ngokumangazayo, asikwazi ukubhekana nezinto ezincane kakhulu, ezivamile, futhi sigcina sizizwa sidabukile futhi sikhathazekile. Namuhla sikhuluma ngesinye sezikhathi ezinjalo. Cabanga nje, umuntu oye walwa futhi wanqoba umdlavuza webele angazizwa kanjani uma engakwazi ukubhekana nezimpawu zokuguga emzimbeni wakhe? Lokhu kuyinto abantu abaningi abayizwayo, kodwa abakhulumi kakhulu ngayo.
Impi yowesifazane nomdlavuza
Ukuze siqonde le ndaba, ake sithathe okuhlangenwe nakho kowesifazane owalwa nomdlavuza webele njengesibonelo. Umzimba wakhe wadlula ohambweni olukhulu kakhulu. Kwakungelula.
- Izikhathi eziyisishiyagalombili ze-chemotherapy .
- Ukususwa kwe-lumpectomy kuyindlela yokuhlinzwa yokususa isimila ebeleni.
- Ukususwa kwama -lymph node ayisishiyagalolunye endaweni engaphansi kwekhwapha.
- Ukwelashwa ngemisebe amasonto ayisithupha.
- Lo muthi kwadingeka uphuzwe unyaka wonke ukuze uvimbele umdlavuza ukuthi ungabuyi.
Cabanga ukuthi umzimba wakhe kumelwe ukuba washintsha kanjani ngemva kokubekezelela konke lokhu. Ukuhlinzwa kwebele lakhe langakwesokudla kwashiya isibazi esincane. Wayenomuzwa wokuqaqamba engxenyeni ephezulu yengalo yakhe yangakwesokudla. Kwakukhona isibazi esiyindilinga lapho kwakususwa khona izindlala zakhe zebele. Futhi, ibele lakhe langakwesokunxele lalihlala likhulu kunelangakwesokudla. Hhayi nje elincane, kodwa liyabonakala impela.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, wafika endaweni lapho ayengakwamukela khona konke. Wacabanga ngakho kanje: "Ngibona umzimba onqobe impi. Ngibona umzimba onqobe umdlavuza. Ngibona owesifazane onenhlanhla enkulu othanda impilo yakhe kanye nomzimba ophila ngayo."
Ngaleso sikhathi, kwakuyiqiniso ngokuphelele. Kodwa eminyakeni eyishumi kamuva, ukubheka ngendlela ehlukile kancane. Useqaphele ukuthi ukwamukela umzimba wakho ngokugcwele noma yini empilweni yakho akuyona impumelelo eyenzeka kanye kuphela. Kuyinqubo eqhubekayo.
Kuyini lokhu 'Ukwamukelwa Okukhulu'?
Kalula nje, ukwamukela okunamandla kuwukwamukela okuphelele nokungaguquki ukuthi kukhona okwenzekayo kithi. Akudingeki ukuthande, akudingeki ujabule ngakho, kodwa kufanele ukwamukele bese uthi, 'Kulungile, leli iqiniso lesimo okwamanje.' Kumayelana nokuyeka ukulwa neqiniso, ukuqonda isimo, nokuqhubekela phambili.
Zicabange uhamba emgwaqweni bese ubhajwa yimvula enamandla. Uba manzi.
- Ukungamukelwa :"Hawu, kungani lina njengamanje? Lokhu akunakwenzeka!" Ekhuza imvula futhi imanzi.
- Ukwamukela Okukhulu: Ukwamukela isimo bese uthatha isinyathelo ngaso, uthi, "Kulungile, liyana, ngiyamanzi. Leli yiqiniso. Ngidinga ukucasha ndawana thize ngokushesha."
Uyawuqonda umehluko? Ukwamukela Okukhulu akukhona ukuyeka noma ukuthi, "Lokhu akunandaba." Kumayelana nokucabanga, "Lesi yisimo, ngenzenjani ngaso manje?"
Ukwamukela okukhulu ukwamukela okuhlangenwe nakho okufana nomdlavuza njengengxenye yendaba yakho yokuphila. Akukhona ukukhumbula njalo nokuzizwa udabukile.
Wamukele izimpawu zomdlavuza, kodwa izimpawu zokuguga?
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, owesifazane endabeni yethu wazithola echitha izinsuku namasonto engazi nokuthi unomdlavuza. Kwaba yingxenye nje yobuntu bakhe, njengezinwele zakhe ezinsundu namehlo akhe ansundu.
Kodwa... kwakukhona okunye ayengasakwazi ukukwamukela ngokugcwele. Lokho kwase kuguga.
Evuka embhedeni ekuseni, ehla izitebhisi, "Aww, aww, aww" kwaze kwaba yilapho ukuqina kwamaqakala akhe kunyamalala. Ebheka esibukweni, ecabanga, "Uvelaphi lowo mugqa ophakathi kwentamo yami?" Wayesalwa nalezi zinto.
Yiqiniso, unenhlanhla yokuthi uphile isikhathi eside ngokwanele ukuze abone izimpawu zokuguga. Uyazi lokho. Kodwa akanakusho ukuthi ukwamukele ngokugcwele.
- Usezidaya izinwele zakhe uma ezikhulisa.
- Ngifuna ukhilimu ongenza okuthile mayelana nemibimbi entanyeni.
- Ukuzivocavoca umzimba akukhona nje ukuhlala uphilile futhi unamandla, kodwa futhi kumayelana nokubukeka kahle ngebhulukwe lebhulukwe kanye ne-tank top.
Akakhathazeki ngalezi zinto njengoba ayekhathazeka kakhulu eminyakeni yakhe yama-20. Unesimo sengqondo esikhulu ngempilo manje. Kodwa uma esazama ukushintsha umzimba wakhe, ingabe uzimisele ngokuphelele kuwo? Mhlawumbe akunjalo.
Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kusifundisa isifundo esihle. Ngisho noma samukela into enkulu njengomdlavuza, ingcindezi evela emphakathini ingenza kube nzima ukwamukela into yemvelo njengokuguga.
| Inselele Eyamukelekile - Umdlavuza | Kunzima Ukwamukela - Ukuguga |
|---|---|
| Izinto ezifana nezibazi zokuhlinzwa kanye nokungalingani komzimba kubhekwa njengezimpawu zamandla nokuqina . | Ukuzama ukushintsha noma ukufihla izinto ezifana nezinwele ezimpunga kanye nesikhumba esishwabene. |
| Kwamukele njengengxenye yokuphila, funda kukho bese uqhubeka. | Kubhekwa njengento 'engafunwa' futhi kulwa nayo njalo. |
| Umuzwa wokuthi 'ngikudlulile lokhu' ukhulisa ukuzethemba. | Umuzwa wokuthi 'ngiyaguga' ungabangela ukukhathazeka okuthile. |
Izibazi azilona uphawu lobuthakathaka, kodwa uphawu lwamandla.
Ekugcineni, nansi umyalezo obaluleke kakhulu wale ndaba. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, okuhlangenwe nakho komdlavuza kuba kude kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi kuzwakala sengathi kwenzeke komunye umuntu.
Kodwa izibazi emzimbeni wakho zihlala zikukhumbuza ukuthi, "Cha, kwenzeke kuwe ngempela. Ukubekezelele. Ukunqobile."
Lezo zibazi zikukhumbuza ukuthi wawubuthakathaka kangakanani nokuthi unamandla kangakanani ngesikhathi esifanayo. Lowo muzwa ubaluleke kakhulu kunokwamukela into ethile. Yilokho ukunqoba kwangempela.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- 'Ukwamukelwa Okukhulu' akukhona ukuthanda iqiniso, kodwa mayelana nokwamukela njengoba linjalo nokuqhubekela phambili.
- Ukwamukela empilweni akuyona into oyenza kanye kuphela. Luhambo olude. Ungazizwa kabi ngokuthi usalokhu ukulolo hambo.
- Kuvamile kakhulu ukuthola kunzima ukwamukela into evamile njengokuguga, ngisho noma ubhekene nenselele enkulu njengomdlavuza. Awuwedwa.
- Indaba enhle mayelana nezibazi emzimbeni wakho, izinto ozibekezelele, kanye namandla akho. Yibuke ngothando.
- Uma ukuthola kunzima ukubhekana nale mizwa wedwa, ukukhuluma nomngane omethembayo, ilungu lomndeni, noma udokotela wakho kungaba impumuzo enkulu.
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