Wake wazizwa ukwesaba okukhulu noma ukushaqeka lapho ubona indoda? Mhlawumbe lowo muntu akenzanga lutho kuwe, noma ngisho nenhloso yokukulimaza nganoma iyiphi indlela. Kodwa uzizwa ukhathazekile, ujuluka, futhi ufuna ukubaleka. Uma uke waba nalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, namuhla sizokhuluma ngesihloko esingaba sibaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ngokwezokwelapha, lesi simo sibizwa ngokuthi i-Androphobia.
Kalula nje, iyini i-Androphobia?
Igama elithi androphobia lakhiwe ngamagama amabili esiGreki. Igama elithi "Andros" lisho 'indoda' kanye nelithi "Phobia" lisho 'ukwesaba'. Ngakho-ke, kafushane nje, i-androphobia ukwesaba amadoda okungajwayelekile, okweqile, nokungenangqondo. Lokhu akuyona nje ukwesaba okuvamile. Lokhu kuyi-phobia, okuyisifo sokukhathazeka.
Abanye abantu bazizwa lokhu kwesaba kuphela lapho indoda ivelela. Abanye bangase babe nakho lokhu kwesaba ngisho nalapho bebona isithombe sendoda noma bezwa izwi lendoda. Lokhu kwesaba kungaba nzima kangangokuthi kungaba nomthelela omkhulu empilweni yakho yansuku zonke, emsebenzini, ngisho nasebudlelwaneni nabantu.
Ingabe lokhu kuyiphutha?
Lena indawo lapho abantu abaningi bedideka khona. I-Androphobia ayiphathelene nokuzonda amadoda. Ukuzonda amadoda kubizwa ngokuthi i-Misandry . Lokho kuyinto ehlukile. Kukhona inzondo, intukuthelo kuyo.
Cabanga ngalokhu. Umuntu uyayesaba izinja. Lokho akusho ukuthi uyazonda izinja. Uzizwa esaba uma ebona inja, uyesaba ukusondela kwenye. Kodwa akazondi izinja. I-Androphobia yinto efana naleyo. Kuwukwesaba, hhayi inzondo.
Kungani umuntu enalesi simo?
Kunzima ukuthola imbangela ecacile neyodwa yalokhu njalo. Kodwa ezimweni eziningi, lesi simo siqala ebuntwaneni. Okuhlangenwe nakho okubi nokwethusayo ngowesilisa ebuntwaneni kungaba yimbangela enkulu.
Into ebalulekile ukuthi lokhu kwesaba akulona iphutha lakho. Kumane nje kuyimpendulo yobuchopho ehlobene nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwangaphambilini.
Lokhu okulandelayo kungabangela i-androphobia:
| Imbangela | Incazelo elula |
|---|---|
| Okuhlangenwe Nakho Okubuhlungu | Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo ebuntwaneni, ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, kanye nobudlova basekhaya yizona zimbangela eziyinhloko. Lezi zenzakalo zingaholela ekucindezelekeni kwangemva kwenhlekelele (PTSD) kanye nalolu valo. |
| Ukubona noma ukuzwa (Ukufakaza Isenzakalo) | Ngisho noma ungakaze ube nesipiliyoni esibi wena ngokwakho, ukubona umama wakho, udadewenu, noma omunye umuntu ehlukunyezwa yindoda nakho kungabangela lokhu kwesaba. |
| Abantu Abesabekayo | Ukwesaba amadoda okuvamile kungavela nasezintweni ezifana nokusongelwa njalo nokuthethiswa nguthisha, ubaba, noma omunye umuntu wesilisa onegunya ngesikhathi sobuntwana. |
| Izakhi Zofuzo Nethonya Lomndeni | Uma omunye wabazali bakho ene-phobia noma enye inkinga yokukhathazeka, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi nawe ube nayo. Futhi, ukuba seduze nomuntu one-androphobia kungakwenza ube sengozini enkulu yokuba nokwesaba okufanayo. |
Ubani onamathuba amaningi okuthuthukisa lokhu kwesaba?
Abesifazane banamathuba aphindwe kabili okuthola lesi sifo sokwesaba ukwenyanya kunabesilisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abantu abanezimo ezilandelayo nabo basengozini enkulu yokuthola i-androphobia:
- Ukuba nezinye izinkinga zokwesaba.
- Ezinye izinkinga zokukhathazeka.
- Ukuphazamiseka kovalo.
- Inkinga yokusebenzisa izidakamizwa.
Ziyini izimpawu zomuntu one-androphobia?
Lezi zimpawu zingahluka kuye ngomuntu nomuntu. Nakuba abanye abantu bengase bakuzwe kancane, abanye bangase bakuzwe kunzima kakhulu ukukuthwala. Lapho ingane encane ibhekana nalokhu kwesaba, ingase ikhale, ikhale, noma ibaleke izame ukufihla.
Njengomuntu omdala, yize bazi ukuthi ukwesaba abakuzwayo akunangqondo futhi akunangqondo, abakwazi ukulawula ukusabela komzimba.
| Izimpawu Zomzimba | Izimpawu Zengqondo Nezemizwa |
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Udokotela unquma kanjani ukuthi lokhu kuyi-Androphobia?
Akukho ukuhlolwa okuqondile kwalokhu. Udokotela wezifo zengqondo noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo singasixilonga lesi simo ngemva kokuxoxa kahle ngezimpawu zakho. Lezi zinto ezilandelayo zivame ukucatshangelwa ukuze kutholakale ukuthi unesifo:
- Ukwesaba amadoda ngokweqile isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinyanga eziyisithupha .
- Ukuzizwa wesaba ngokushesha lapho useduze nendoda noma ucabanga ngayo.
- Lokhu kwesaba kuholela ekugwemeni ngamabomu izindawo lapho amadoda ekhona.
- Lokhu kwesaba kunomthelela omkhulu emisebenzini yakho yansuku zonke (emsebenzini, ebudlelwaneni nabantu) .
- Ukwesaba okuzwayo kukhulu kakhulu kunosongo lwangempela .
Ingabe ikhona indlela yokwelapha ephumelelayo kulokhu?
Yebo, impela! Lesi yisimo esingelapheka. Abantu abaningi bayalulama cishe ngokuphelele kulesi simo ngokwelashwa kwengqondo, futhi uma kudingeka, ngemithi. Lezi yizindlela zokwelapha eziyinhloko.
| Indlela Yokwelapha | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha Kokuqonda (i-CBT) | Lokhu kuhilela ukukusiza ukuthi ushintshe indlela ocabanga ngayo ngamadoda, izindlela zokucabanga ezidala lokho kwesaba. Uziqeqesha futhi ukushintsha indlela osabela ngayo ekwesabeni lapho kuvela. Uma lokhu kwesaba kuhlobene nokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kwesikhathi esidlule, lokho kuxoxwa ngakho nakule ndlela yokwelapha. |
| Ukwelashwa Kokuchayeka | Lena indlela ephumelela kakhulu. Okwenzayo ukuziveza entweni oyesabayo, okungabantu besilisa, endaweni elawulwa kakhulu nephephile. Okokuqala ubheka isithombe sendoda, bese kuba ividiyo, bese ubheka umuntu okude, bese usondela, bese unciphisa kancane kancane ukwesaba kwakho. Lokhu kwelashwa kuyaphumelela kubantu abangu-90% abane-phobia. |
| Imithi | Imithi yokulwa nokukhathazeka ingasetshenziswa isikhathi esifushane. Ingasiza ekulawuleni izimpawu, ikakhulukazi lapho uqala ukwelashwa kwengqondo. Abanye abantu bangadinga imithi yesikhathi eside. Lokhu kunqunywa udokotela wakho. |
Yini engenzeka uma ungatholi ukwelashwa?
Ukuzama ukuphila nalokhu kwesaba kunzima kakhulu. Uma kungelashwa, lesi simo singaba sibi kakhulu futhi siholele kwezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo.
- Ukucindezeleka: Kunethuba elikhulu lokuthi ukucindezeleka kukhule uma uhlala wesaba futhi uhlukaniswe nabantu.
- Ukuhlaselwa Yizinhlungu: Iqoqo elisheshayo nelinamandla lezimpawu zomzimba ezihambisana nokwesaba okukhulu. Lokhu kungazwakala njengokuhlaselwa yinhliziyo.
- Isifo Sokwethuka: Ukuhlaselwa uvalo njalo kanye nokwesaba okuqhubekayo kokuhlaselwa okunye.
Uma ngokuzumayo uzwa ukwesaba okukhulu okubangela ubuhlungu esifubeni, ubunzima bokuphefumula, noma ukuphelelwa umoya, iya ekamelweni lezimo eziphuthumayo esibhedlela (ETU) ngokushesha. Kubalulekile ukuthi udokotela aqinisekise ukuthi ukuhlaselwa yinhliziyo noma ukuhlaselwa uvalo.
Noma nini lapho ubona udokotela,
Uma uhlangabezana nanoma yikuphi kwalokhu okulandelayo, bona udokotela ngokushesha.
- Uma kwenzeka ukuhlaselwa uvalo .
- EyakhoUma lokhu kwesaba kukuthinta kuze kube sezingeni lokuthi kuphazamise impilo yakho yansuku zonke noma ubuthongo.
- Uma unezimpawu zokucindezeleka (ukukhathala yikho konke, ukudabuka, ukuphelelwa yithemba).
- Uma usuphendukele otshwaleni noma ezidakamizweni ukuze ulawule lokhu kwesaba.
Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu ngokukhululekile. Angase akuthumele kuchwepheshe, njengodokotela wezifo zengqondo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- I-Androphobia akuyona inzondo ngabesilisa, iwukwesaba amadoda okungavamile nokunamandla.
- Lokhu akusikho ubuthakathaka bakho, kuyisimo sezokwelapha esidinga ukwelashwa.
- Ngokuvamile isizathu salokhu kuba yinto ebuhlungu eyenzeka ebuntwaneni.
- Izindlela zokwelapha ngengqondo ezifana ne-Exposure Therapy kanye ne-CBT zisebenza kahle kakhulu ekuqedeni lokhu kwesaba cishe ngokuphelele.
- Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukungahlupheki wedwa, kodwa ukubona udokotela omethembayo bese ucela usizo.
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