Uma unesifo sikashukela, cishe uyazi ukuthi ukuhlala naso ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuthatha imithi yakho ngesikhathi, ukulawula ukudla kwakho, nokuhlola amazinga kashukela egazini lakho kungaba yinto ekhathazayo ngezinye izikhathi. Kodwa wake wacabanga ukuthi lezi zinto azigcini nje ngokuba nomthelela omkhulu emzimbeni wakho, kodwa nasengqondweni yakho? Eqinisweni, kukhona ukuxhumana okukhulu phakathi kwesifo sikashukela nempilo yethu yengqondo kunalokho ongakucabanga.
Kalula nje, abantu abanesifo sikashukela sohlobo lwesibili banamathuba aphindwe kabili noma kathathu okuba nokucindezeleka, noma lokho esikubiza ngokuthi ukukhathazeka noma ukucindezeleka, kunabanye. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nendlela udokotela wakho akhuluma ngayo ngamazinga kashukela egazini lakho ingakwenza uzizwe udangele futhi ukhungathekile.
'Lokhu kuyiphutha lami' - kungani sizizwa ngale ndlela?
USerena Valentine, umfundisi nomsekeli wesifo sikashukela, ulandisa ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Usephile nesifo sikashukela iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-20. Uthi abantu abaningi abanesifo sikashukela bacabanga ukuthi, "Leli yiphutha lami."
"Nami ngike ngaba nalolo lwazi," kusho uSerena. "Uma udokotela ethi, 'O, ubungazivocavoci kahle, akunjalo? Ubungadli kahle, akunjalo? Lokhu kungenxa yezinto ozenzile,' kuba umthwalo omkhulu."
Ngempela, ubani ongazizwa edabukile uma ezwa into efana nale? Abantu abaningi bazisola ngalezi zindaba. Kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu okudingeka siyiqonde ukuthi isifo sikashukela siyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho.
Sihlala sizwa ngokudla kahle, ukuzivocavoca, kanye nokuphuza imithi yethu ngesikhathi. Kodwa asikhulumi kakhulu ngempilo yethu yengqondo. Eqinisweni, impilo yakho yengqondo ibaluleke kakhulu kunalokho ocabanga ngakho ekulawuleni amazinga kashukela egazini lakho.
Kwenzekani ngesifo sikashukela uma ulahlekelwa ingqondo?
Uma abantu bethola ukuthi banesifo sikashukela, bavame ukusabela ngezindlela ezimbili.
- Iqembu lokuqala: "O Nkulunkulu wami, nami kwenzeke kimi. Izinto ezimbi ezenzeka emndenini wethu zizokwenzeka kimi," besaba kakhulu futhi bekhathazekile.
- Iqembu lesibili: "O... yini leyo? Wonke umuntu emndenini wethu unayo. Akuyona into enkulu," bayamukela kalula.
Cabanga ngakho, ayikho kulezi zindlela ezokusiza ukuphatha impilo yakho ngendlela efanele, akunjalo? Uma ungayinaki isifo sikashukela sakho, kungase kuvele ezinye izinkinga ezinkulu ngoba amazinga akho kashukela awalawulwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ukhathazekile kakhulu futhi ucindezelekile, lokho kucindezeleka ngokwako akulungile emzimbeni wakho. Kungabangela amazinga akho kashukela akhuphuke kakhulu.
Uma impilo yengqondo ibuthakathaka, singase singazi sisebenzise imikhuba eyenza isifo sikashukela sibe sibi kakhulu.
| Imikhuba emibi engenzeka uma ingqondo ingaphilile kahle | Umthelela kushukela |
|---|---|
| Ukubhema | Kulimaza imithambo yegazi, kwandisa ingozi yesifo senhliziyo nezinye izinkinga. |
| Ukuzilolonga ngokweqile | Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokulawula amazinga kashukela ayitholakali, okuholela nasekukhuluphaleni. |
| Ukusetshenziswa kotshwala ngokweqile | Amazinga kashukela angakhuphuka noma ehle ngokuzumayo futhi abangele ukulimala kwesibindi. |
| Ukungalali kahle | Ukuntuleka kokungalingani kokulala kukhulisa amazinga kashukela futhi kubangela ukwenyuka kwamazinga okulala. |
| Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa noma ezinye izidakamizwa | Kuyingozi kakhulu emzimbeni futhi kuphazamisa ngokuphelele ukuphathwa kwesifo sikashukela. |
| Ukudla okungenampilo | Uma ukhathazekile, izifiso zakho zokudla okumnandi nokunamafutha zingase zikhule. Lokhu kuthinta ngqo amazinga kashukela wakho. |
| Ukudla ngokweqile noma ukungadli kahle | Ukucindezeleka kubangela abanye abantu ukuba badle kakhulu, kanti abanye balahlekelwa yisifiso sokudla. Kokubili akunempilo. |
Ngakho-ke senzani? Sizinquma kanjani izingqondo zethu?
Kulungile, manje usuyaqonda ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukunakekela impilo yenhliziyo yakho enesifo sikashukela. Ngakho-ke senzani ngakho?
1. Ungagcini konke kuvaliwe - khuluma ngakho!
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma ngakho. Ungafihli ukwesaba kwakho, ukukhathazeka kwakho, nokudabuka kwakho.
- Khuluma nodokotela wakho: Udokotela wakho kufanele abe ngumuntu omethembayo kakhulu. Ungesabi ukuthi, "Dokotela, angizizwa kahle ngokwanele ukucabanga ngalesi sifo." Angakuqondisa ngeseluleko sezokwelapha osidingayo, kanye nokukunikeza ukwesekwa ngokomzwelo.
- Umndeni nabangani: Ukukhuluma nothile oseduze nawe ngalokhu kungaba impumuzo enkulu.
- Amaqembu Okusekela: Uma kunezindawo lapho ungakhuluma khona nabanye abantu abanesifo sikashukela njengawe, lokho nakho kuwusizo kakhulu.
2. Ungazibeki icala.
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Isifo sikashukela siyisifo esiyinkimbinkimbi. Sithonywa yizici eziningi, okuhlanganisa izakhi zofuzo, indawo ezungezile, nendlela yokuphila. Ngakho ungacabangi ukuthi, "Lokhu kuyiphutha lami." Yiba nomusa kuwe. Ulwa nalesi sifo. Ziqhenye ngalokho.
3. Jabula ngezinto ezincane.
Akudingeki ukuthi uhlale uphishekela imigomo emikhulu.
- Uphuze itiye elingenashukela namuhla? Jabula ngalokho.
- Uhambe imizuzu eyi-15? Kuhle kakhulu!
- Ingabe uwuthathile umuthi wakho ngesikhathi? Lokho futhi kuwukunqoba.
Uma ugubha ukunqoba okuncane okufana nalokhu, ukuphatha isifo sikashukela ngeke kuzwakale njengomthwalo futhi kuzoba yingxenye evamile yokuphila kwakho.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Isifo sikashukela siyinto ethinta ngqo umzimba wakho kanye nengqondo yakho.
- Ukugcina impilo enhle yengqondo kubalulekile ekulawuleni amazinga kashukela egazini. Kunzima ukulawula ushukela egazini uma ucindezelekile.
- Uma uzizwa ukhathazekile, ucindezelekile, udabukile, noma ukhungathekile, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngakho. Akuyona into okufanele ube namahloni ngayo.
- Ungazibeki icala ngokuba nesifo sikashukela, ucabanga ukuthi yiphutha lakho. Yisifo esiyinkimbinkimbi.
- Ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho nomndeni nabangane abathembekile kungaba umthombo omkhulu wenduduzo. Awuwedwa.
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