Ingabe ngezinye izikhathi uzibuza ukuthi, "Ngingubani?", "Ngenzenjani kulokhu kuphila?", "Iyini injongo yempilo yami?" Noma uzizwa sengathi konke empilweni kwenzeka ngaphandle kwamandla akho? Awuwedwa onale mibuzo. Namuhla sikhuluma ngohlobo lwe-psychotherapy olungakusiza ucabange ngokujulile ngalezi zinto, uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo ngempilo yakho, futhi uphile impilo enenjongo.
Kuyini ngempela i-Existential Therapy?
Kalula nje, lokhu futhi kuyindlela yokwelapha ngokwengqondo. Kodwa akufani nezinye zezindlela zokwelapha esizizwile. Isibonelo, ezindleleni ezifana nokuthi ``(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)``, ukugxila kuvame ukuba sendlela okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwesikhathi esidlule okuthinta ngayo ukuziphatha kwakho kwamanje. Kodwa kule ndlela ebizwa ngokuthi i-Existential Therapy, ucabanga ngendlela ehlukile.
Ukugxila okuyinhloko lapha ukuthi izinqumo zakho kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo yakho kuyithinta kanjani impilo yakho.
Cabanga ngempilo yakho njengemoto. Lokhu kwelashwa kukufundisa ukuba umshayeli, hhayi umgibeli, uhamba nje emgwaqweni. Esikhundleni salokho, ungena esihlalweni somshayeli , uthathe isiteringi, bese ushayela imoto uye lapho ufuna ukuya khona. Okusho ukuthi, esikhundleni sokufuna izizathu zezinto ezenzeka empilweni yakho, kukhuluma ngendlela onikele ngayo kulezo zinto, lokho ongakufunda kuzo, nokuthi ungalibumba kanjani ikusasa lakho ngendlela oyifunayo. Lokhu kuyindlela yokwelapha esekelwe emibonweni yefilosofi ekhuluma ngokujulile ngezinselele zokuphila kwabantu.
Ubani lokwelashwa okufanelekela kakhulu?
Lokhu kwelashwa kungaba wusizo kunoma ubani ofuna ngempela ukufunda okwengeziwe ngaye kanye nomhlaba ahlala kuwo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu uma ubhekene nanoma yiziphi zezimo ezilandelayo:
- Inkinga yokusebenzisa izidakamizwa
- Ukukhathazeka nokwesaba
- Ukucindezeleka
- Isifo sokucindezeleka ngemva kokucindezeleka (PTSD)
- Ukucindezeleka kokuphila nesifo somzimba sesikhathi eside noma esinye isimo sempilo yengqondo
- Kulabo ababhekene nokucindezeleka okuhambisana noshintsho olukhulu empilweni (ukugula, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, ukulahlekelwa othile).
Lokhu kwelashwa kukusiza ukuthi uqonde ukuthi izinqumo ozenzayo zithinta kanjani imiphumela yakho, okukuvumela ukuthi wenze izinqumo ezibaluleke ngempela nezinenjongo.
Izinsika ezine eziyisisekelo zalokhu kwelashwa
Le ndlela, ebizwa ngokuthi i-Existential Therapy, isekelwe emaqinisweni amane ayisisekelo sonke esibhekana nawo ekuphileni kwabantu. Lawa abizwa ngokuthi 'izinsika ezine.' Umelaphi uyakusiza ubhekane nalezi zinsika ezine ngaphandle kokwesaba.
| Insika | Ake siqonde kalula. |
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| 1. Ukufa | Ukufa kuyingxenye yokuphila. Uma sikwamukela ngaphandle kokwesaba njengento engenakugwenywa, singaphila izimpilo zethu ngendlela enenjongo futhi egcwele. |
| 2. Ukuzihlukanisa | Ekugcineni, sisodwa ezimpilweni zethu. Yithina kuphela esingalawula ikusasa lethu. Uma siqonda leli qiniso, asinciki kakhulu kwabanye futhi siqiniseka kakhulu ngamandla ethu. |
| 3. Incazelo | Ukuthola ukuthi yini enikeza impilo yakho injongo nencazelo. Ukuthola ukuthi yini ekwenza ujabule futhi waneliseke ngempela. |
| 4. Umthwalo Wemfanelo / Inkululeko | Unenkululeko yokwenza izinqumo empilweni yakho. Kodwa kumelwe futhi uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo wazo zonke lezo zinqumo. Izinqumo zakho zinquma indlela yokuphila kwakho. |
Kulokhu kwelashwa, umelaphi uzama ukunciphisa ukwesaba nokukhathazeka ozizwayo lapho ubheka lezi zinsika ezine futhi akusize wamukele ukuthi lezi yizingxenye ezivamile zokuphila komuntu.
Lokhu kwelashwa kusebenza kanjani?
Lokhu kuyindlela yokukhuluma, njengezinye izindlela zokwelapha ngengqondo. Umeluleki udala " indawo ephephile" lapho ungabelana khona ngokukhululekile nganoma yini esengqondweni yakho, ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
Ngokuvamile, kuba neseshini eyodwa kanye ngesonto, cishe ihora. Okokuqala, umelaphi wakho uzokubuza ukuthi yini onethemba lokuyithola ngokwelashwa. Ngemuva kwalokho, uzoqondisa ingxoxo ngendlela ezokusiza ufinyelele imigomo yakho.
Cabanga ukuthi unenkinga emsebenzini. Esikhundleni sokukubuza ngakho konke okwedlule kwakho, udokotela wezokwelapha uyakusiza ukuthi ulawule ngokubuza imibuzo efana nokuthi, "Kulungile, yini ongayenza ukushintsha lesi simo manje? Yiziphi izinto ozithandayo ngempela?" Ngezinye izikhathi bangakhuluma nangokuhlangenwe nakho kwesikhathi esidlule ukuze bakusize uqonde ukuthi ufike kanjani lapho ukhona namuhla.
Yiziphi izinzuzo kanye nemikhawulo yalokhu?
Njenganoma yikuphi ukwelashwa, kunezinzuzo kanye nemingcele, futhi kubalulekile ukuzazi.
| Izinzuzo | Imikhawulo ebalulekile |
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Amathiphu abalulekile nezinto okufanele uzinake
Ukuqala ukwelashwa kungaba nzima ngezinye izikhathi. Kuvamile ukuzizwa ungakhululekile futhi ungazethembi lapho wabelana ngemizwa yakho nomuntu omusha. Kuthatha isikhathi. Ngakho-ke ngena ekwelashweni unengqondo evulekile . Khumbula ukuthi umelaphi wakho ukhona ukuzokusiza.
Uma uzizwa ungakhululekile nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, noma uma uzizwa sengathi awuthuthuki ngokwelashwa kwakho, ungabi namahloni okukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngqo . Ngemuva kwalokho ungathola ikhambi elikusebenzelayo.
Kufanele ufune nini iseluleko sezokwelapha?
Uma izimpawu zakho, njengokukhathazeka noma ukwesaba, ziba zimbi kakhulu ngesikhathi sokwelashwa, yazisa udokotela wakho noma udokotela ngokushesha.
Kubaluleke kakhulu: Uma unemicabango yokuzibulala ngesikhathi sokwelashwa noma nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, sicela ungahlupheki wedwa. Bona udokotela wakho ngokushesha, iya eMnyangweni Wezimo Eziphuthumayo (ETU) wesibhedlela esiseduze nawe, noma ushayele isevisi yokwelulekwa okuyimfihlo njengeSumithrayo . Kuhlala kukhona umuntu ozokusiza.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukwelashwa Okukhona Kuyindlela yokwelapha ngokwengqondo ekusiza ukuthi uthole injongo empilweni yakho futhi uyilawule.
- Lokhu kusekelwe ezinsikeni ezine eziyisisekelo zokufa, isizungu, incazelo, kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo.
- Lokhu kuyindlela yokwelapha esekelwe engxoxweni egxile ezinqumweni zakho kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo wakho siqu.
- Kuvamile ukuzizwa ungakhululekile lapho uqala ukwelashwa. Lena inqubo. Kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nodokotela wakho wezifo zengqondo.
- Uma isimo sakho sengqondo siba sibi noma unemicabango yokuzibulala, funa iseluleko sezokwelapha ngokushesha .
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