Ingabe ingane yakho isanda kuqala isikole? Ingabe isikole sivame ukukugxeka ngokuziphatha kabi, ukungagxili, noma ukuba nenkinga yokunaka? Ungase uzibuze, "Ngikwenzeni kabi? Kungani ingane yami iziphethe kanje?" Uma kunjalo, awuwedwa. Awuwedwa oye waba nalolu lwazi. Abazali abaningi balwa nalezi zinkinga. Namuhla, sizokhuluma nge-ADHD, isimo esingabangela lokhu, nokuthi ungenza kanjani impilo ibe lula emndenini onengane efana nale.
Iyini i-ADHD? Ingabe imithi yodwa yanele?
Kalula nje, i-ADHD, noma i-Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, iyisifo sokukhula kwengqondo yengane. Akuyona iphutha lengane noma labazali. Kungabangela izingane zibe nobunzima bokunaka (ukungakwazi ukugxila) , ukulawula imicabango yazo (ukungacabangi) , kanye nobunzima bokuhlala zigxile (ukungacabangi kahle) .
Ezimweni eziningi, udokotela angase anikeze ingane ene-ADHD imithi. Kunezinhlobo ezimbili zemithi: `Imithi Yokuvuselela Ingqondo` (njenge-`Ritalin`) kanye ne-`Imithi Engavuseleli Ingqondo` (njenge-`Strattera`). Kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi ukuthi ingane yakho kufanele yini iyinike imithi noma cha, ukuthi yini okufanele iyinike, nokuthi kufanele iyinike malini, kuyisinqumo okufanele senziwe phakathi kwakho nodokotela wengane yakho ngokuphelele .
Ezinye izingane zithola imiphumela emihle ngemithi ngokushesha. Kodwa kwabanye abantwana, kuthatha isikhathi ukuthola imithi efanele kanye nomthamo. Futhi, ezinye izingane zingase zithole eminye imiphumela emibi evela emithini, njengokukhathazeka okukhulu.
Khumbula, amaphilisi awakwazi ukufundisa ingane amakhono okuphila. Ukwelapha kumane kuyithuluzi elilodwa kulolu hambo. Uma ingane isizolile kancane ngemithi futhi isikwazi ukugxila, leso yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokufundisa ingane amanye amakhono okuphila, njengokuphatha isikhathi kanye nokulawula imizwa.
Izinguquko zendlela yokuphila - umthelela wokudla nokuzivocavoca
Ngaphezu kwemithi, kunezinye izinto eziningi ongazizama. Izinguquko ekudleni kanye nokuzivocavoca ikakhulukazi kutholakale ukuthi kunomthelela omkhulu ekuziphatheni kwezingane ezine-ADHD.
Isibonelo, ukuhambisa ingane yakho iyogijima imizuzu eyi-15 noma ukuhamba ngezinyawo ngaphambi kwesikole kungayisiza ukuthi ihlale izolile usuku lonke. Futhi, ukunciphisa ukudla okunoshukela nokudla okunemibala yokwenziwa nakho kuyazuzisa izingane eziningi. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuyinika amavithamini (atholakala ngokuhlolwa kofuzo, isibonelo) kungasiza. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngaphambi kokwenza noma yini efana nale.
Kodwa inselele enkulu lapha ukuzama ukwenza konke lokhu ngesikhathi esisodwa.
"Njengabazali bengane ene-ADHD, sicabanga ukuthi kufanele senze konke kahle ngo-100%. Ukudla, ukuzivocavoca, imithi, izifundo ezengeziwe... Uma uzama ukwenza zonke lezi zinto ngesikhathi esisodwa, uzogcina ukhathele, unesithukuthezi, futhi uyeke. Ungakwenzi lokho. Qala kancane, yenza okusemandleni akho, futhi ukwenze ngendlela efanele. "
Into ebaluleke kakhulu: indlela yokubumba izingqondo zethu njengabazali
Nakuba izinto ezifana nemithi, ukuvivinya umzimba , kanye nokusekelwa esikoleni zibaluleke kakhulu, kukhona okubaluleke kakhulu kunalokhu konke. Yileyo ndlela thina njengabazali esibheka ngayo ingane yethu kanye nendlela yethu yokucabanga . Ngosuku oshintsha ngalo lokhu, uzozwa ukuthi isimo sasekhaya sizoshintsha kangakanani.
Kukhona indlela enhle kakhulu yokuqonda lokhu. Kubizwa ngokuthi umqondo 'wobudala bokuphatha.' Kalula nje, i-ADHD ukubambezeleka emsebenzini wobuchopho. Lokho kusho ukuthi izinto ezifana nokulawula ngokomzwelo, ukunaka, nokuhlela zikhula ngemuva kwesikhathi sobudala bangempela bomntwana. Lokhu kubambezeleka kuvame ukuba cishe ingxenye yesithathu yobudala bomntwana.
Cabanga nje, uma ingane yakho ineminyaka engu-9 ubudala, ukusebenza kwayo njengomphathi cishe kuneminyaka engu-6. Manje esikhundleni sokucabanga ukuthi, "Ingane eneminyaka engu-9 ayikwazi ukuziphatha kanje," qala ukucabanga ukuthi, "Ngingakuchazela kanjani lokhu ingane eneminyaka engu-6 ubudala?" Lolu shintsho oluncane luzokwandisa kakhulu isineke nomusa wakho enganeni yakho.
Enye into ebalulekile okufanele uyikhumbule njalo yile:
"Ingane ayikuhluphi, isenkingeni."
Uma ingane ikhala, iguqa phansi, noma inenkinga yokukhuluma, izama ukukutshela ukuthi, "Nginenkinga ngento ethile, ngisize." Uma sifunda ukuyibheka ngaleyo ndlela, esikhundleni sokuthukuthela, sizwa uzwela ngengane. Khona-ke kulula kakhulu ukuxazulula izinkinga.
Amathiphu awusizo okwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke ibe lula
Ukuhlala nengane ene-ADHD kungaba nzima ngezinye izikhathi. Nazi ezinye izeluleko ezisebenzayo zokwenza kube lula.
| Isu | Incazelo nezibonelo |
|---|---|
| Isikhumbuzi sokwenza umsebenzi ngesikhathi esifanele | Izingane ezine-ADHD zivame ukukhohlwa izinto uma zitshelwe kusenesikhathi. Ngakho-ke zikhumbuze ukuthi kufanele zizenze nini. Setha i-alamu efonini yazo, bese unamathisela inothi elibhalwe ngemuva kwayo emnyango wazo. Isibonelo, bhala ukuthi "Faka incwadi yakho yomsebenzi wesikole esikhwameni sakho" bese uyinamathisela emnyango. |
| Isisusa | Akwanele nje ukunika ingane yakho uhlu lwezinto okufanele izenze. Udinga futhi ukuyikhuthaza ukuba izenze. Nikeza isikhuthazo njengokuthi, "Masiqede lo msebenzi bese sidlala umdlalo wakho owuthandayo." |
| Ukungaguquguquki | Zenze umkhuba ukwenza imisebenzi enzima ngesikhathi esifanayo nsuku zonke. Isibonelo, uma uqala ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole ngo-6 ntambama nsuku zonke, setha i-alamu yaleso sikhathi bese uyenza umkhuba. |
| Imivuzo Esheshayo | Lezi zingane kufanele zihlale zithethiswa. Ngakho-ke ukuze zinqume, zincome ngisho nempumelelo encane. Esikhundleni seshadi lomsebenzi wamasonto onke, qala ngeshadi lansuku zonke. Okuthile okufana nokuthi, "Uhlanze ikamelo lakho namuhla, ngakho-ke ngikupha isipho esincane namuhla." |
Ubhekana kanjani nezinsuku ezinzima?
Ngisho noma kunjalo, ezinye izinsuku zinzima kakhulu. Kunezinsuku lapho ingane ingalaleli lutho futhi imemeza yonke into. Wenzani ngosuku olunjalo?
Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukucabanga ukuthi, "Namuhla akulona usuku oluhle ngalokho" bese udedela.Uma ingane yakho isenkingeni enkulu, ayikwazi ukwenza umsebenzi wayo wesikole. Awukwazi ukukhuluma nayo futhi uhlele okuthile. Akunakwenzeka. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, beka umsebenzi wesikole eceleni ubusuku obubodwa. Yenza isinqumo, "Masikwenze kusasa, noma kule mpelasonto." Ngezinye izikhathi, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukungenzi lutho .
Beka eceleni indlela abanye abakubheka ngayo kanye nalokho umphakathi okulindele kuwe, bese ucabanga ngalokho okungcono kakhulu emndenini wakho.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- I-ADHD akuyona indlela embi yokuziphatha kwengane, iyisimo sempilo. Ungazizwa unecala ngayo.
- Imithi iwusizo olulodwa kuphela kulolu hambo. Xoxa ngayo njalo nodokotela wakho.
- Isici esikhulu sempumelelo yalolu hambo yindlela ocabanga ngayo njengomzali kanye nendlela obheka ngayo ingane yakho.
- Qonda 'iminyaka yokuphatha' yengane yakho. Lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula ngawe ukuthi wehlise izinga lomsebenzi wengane.
- Khumbula lesi sisho: "Ingane ayikukhathazi, isenkingeni."
- Ngaphezu kwakho konke, yakha ubuhlobo bothando nengane yakho. Konke abakufunayo umama nobaba abakhona ukuze babasize futhi ababathandayo.
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