Ingabe ungumuntu ozicabangela yena kuphela futhi odelela abanye? Ingabe lokhu kungaba yi-Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)?

Sonke sinalabo bantu abazicabangela bona kakhulu futhi abangenandaba nemizwa yabanye. Ngezinye izikhathi kungaba nzima kakhulu ukubhekana nalaba bantu. Bacabanga ukuthi baphezulu emhlabeni futhi wonke umuntu uphansi kunabo. Ingabe lokhu kungaba yisimo sengqondo ngempela? Yebo, kubizwa ngokuthi i-Narcissistic Personality Disorder, noma `(Narcissistic Personality Disorder - NPD)`. Ake sixoxe ngalokhu ngemininingwane ethe xaxa namuhla.

Kuyini i-narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)?

Kalula nje, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu okubangelwa ukuzikhukhumeza kuyisimo sempilo yengqondo. Kuthinta indlela ozibona ngayo wena kanye nobudlelwano bakho nabanye. Umuntu one-NPD unesifiso esingapheli sokuhlaba umxhwele abanye nokuzizwa ebalulekile. Lesi sifiso singaba sikhulu kangangokuthi singaholela ekuziphatheni okulimazayo kuwe nakubantu abakuzungezile.

Igama elithi "ukuzikhukhumeza" livela kumzingeli wezinganekwane waseGrisi uNarcissus. Ngokusho kwendaba, uNarcissus wayekhangwe kakhulu ubuhle bakhe kangangokuthi wayengenakukwazi ukuyeka ukubuka ukuzindla kwakhe echibini lamanzi. Ekugcineni, kuthiwa washona ebuka ukuzindla kwakhe.

Nokho, nakuba abantu abaningi behlobanisa igama elithi "ubuNazi" nokubukeka, i-NPD ayigcini nje ngokubukeka kwakho. Ingabuye ibe ngezinye izinto onazo, njengokuhlakanipha kwakho , amakhono okukhuluma, amakhono obuciko, amakhono ezemidlalo, ingcebo, amandla, kanye nempumelelo .

Sivame kangakanani lesi simo?

Ochwepheshe abaqiniseki ukuthi i-NPD ivame kangakanani. Ucwaningo lusikisela ukuthi phakathi kuka-0.5% no-5% wabantu baseMelika bangaba nalesi simo. Kuthiwa futhi phakathi kuka-50% no-75% walabo abanalesi simo ngabesilisa .

Kodwa-ke, abantu abaningi bafihla izinkolelo zabo zokuziphatha nokuzikhukhumeza. Lokhu ngezinye izikhathi kubizwa ngokuthi "ukukhukhumeza okuyimfihlo." Ngakho-ke, kunzima kakhulu ukulinganisa ngokunembile ukuthi bangaki abantu abane-NPD.

Ziyini izimpawu zesifo sobuntu esibizwa ngokuthi yi-narcissistic personality disorder?

Izimpawu ze-NPD zonke zihlobene nemicabango yakho, imizwa, kanye nezenzo zakho . I-American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, uhlelo lwesihlanu lombhalo obuyekeziwe (DSM-5-TR™) ibala izindlela eziyisishiyagalolunye zalesi sifo. Izimpawu eziwela ngaphansi kwalezi zindlela zingabonakala kwabanye kanje:

1. Ukuba nokuzikhukhumeza ngokweqile:

• Bazibheka ngokweqile amakhono abo, noma bazibekele imigomo ephakeme kakhulu ukuthi bangayifinyelela.
• Benza ihaba ngisho nezinto ezincane kakhulu abazenzile, futhi bakhulisa impumelelo yabo.

2. Ukuphupha njalo ngokuthola noma ngokufuna lezi zinto:

• Impumelelo
• Amandla
• Ubuhlakani
• Kuhle
• Uthando
• Ukwaneliseka ngawe.

3. Inkolelo yokuthi umuntu ungcono kunabanye:

• Ngicabanga ukuthi ngingumuntu okhethekile kakhulu futhi ohlukile.
• Bakholelwa ukuthi kufanele bazihlanganise nabantu “ababalulekile” njengabo.

4. Ukudinga njalo ukwaziswa nokudunyiswa ngabanye:

• Ukuzethemba kuyinto ebuthakathaka kakhulu.
• Bahlala bengabaza, bezisola, futhi bazizwa bengenalutho.
• Ngihlala ngikhathazekile ngokuthi abanye abantu bacabangani ngami.
• Wenza izinto ezahlukene ukuze uthole ukunconywa kwabanye. Isibonelo, esikhundleni sokuthi, "Angilungile kulokhu," ungathi, "Cha, ulungile ngempela kukho."

5. Isimo sengqondo sokuthi konke kufanele kube ngendlela yabo nokuthi bafanelwe ukuphathwa okukhethekile:

• Bazicabangela kakhulu ukubaluleka kwabo.
• Balindele ukuphathwa okukhethekile okungajwayelekile.
• Bayathukuthela lapho abanye bengabalaleli noma bengabajabulisi. Cabanga ngakho njengokuzama ukuya phambili emgqeni bese ulindela ukuthi wonke umuntu abeke bona kuqala.

6. Isilingo sokusebenzisa abanye ukuze kuzuze wena:

• Bayazi noma bengazi, basebenzisa abanye.
• Bagcina kuphela njengabangane nokuxhumana nalabo abacabanga ukuthi balungele ukuzethemba kwabo kanye nesimo sabo.
• Basebenzisa abanye ngamabomu ukuze bafeze imigomo yabo yobugovu.

7. Ukuntuleka kozwela:

• Basho izinto ezilimaza abanye.
• Babona imizwa, izidingo, kanye nezifiso zabanye njengobuthakathaka.
• Umusa kanye nesithakazelo esiboniswa kuwe ngabanye akuphindiselwa ngendlela efanayo. Cabanga nje, lapho umngane wakho esenkingeni enkulu, uziqhayisa ngokunye kokunqoba kwakho esikhundleni sokulalela ukuhlupheka kwakhe. Yilokho okufana nakho.

8. Umona ovamile:

• Ngiba nomona lapho abanye bephumelela, ikakhulukazi uma bephakeme kunami.
• Ngicabanga ukuthi abanye banomona ngami.
• Bayawadelela futhi bayawadelela amathalente nempumelelo yabanye.

9. Ukuziphatha okuzidlayo, nokuzidla:

• Benza sengathi abanandaba nabanye futhi babonisa ukukhetha.
• Ukuziphatha ngokudelela nangokungahloniphi.
• Bakhuluma nabanye ngendlela yokuzehlisa neyokugcona.

Ngaphezu kwalezi zindlela eziyisishiyagalolunye eziyinhloko, abantu abane-NPD bangase babonise ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha ezahlukahlukene. Isibonelo:

• Ukwesaba ukubonisa ubuthakathaka, ukuzama ukubugwema.
• Bayahlala kude nabanye ngoba bazizwa bebuthakathaka.
• Ukuzama ukwenza konke kahle (`(Perfectionismism)`) (okungaba kuhle noma cha, ngokwesaba ukwehluleka).
• Ukugxekwa, ukwenqatshwa, kanye nokwehluleka akunakubekezeleleka. Ngisho nezinto ezincane kakhulu ziyathathelwa phezulu.
• Ukwenqatshwa noma ukwehluleka kungaholela ekucindezelekeni okukhulu.
• Uma bezizwa begxekwa noma benqatshiwe, basabela ngentukuthelo enkulu (`(ukuthukuthela)`) .
• Bazenza ukuthobeka ukuze bafihle imizwa yabo futhi bavikele ubukhulu babo.
• Bayagwema izimo lapho bengase bahluleke khona, futhi kunethuba elikhulu lokuthi lokho kwenzeke. Lokhu kunganciphisa impumelelo yabo.

Into ebalulekile ukuthi ukuthi nje umuntu unesinye noma ezimbili zalezi zimpawu akusho ukuthi une-NPD. Udokotela oqeqeshiwe kuphela ongenza ukuxilongwa okunembile.

Ziyini izimbangela ze-NPD?

Ngenxa yokuthi i-NPD iyisimo sempilo yengqondo, ochwepheshe abakwazi ukusho ngqo ukuthi kungani yenzeka. Nakuba kuye kwabonakala izinguquko ezithile ezingabonakali esakhiweni sobuchopho babantu abane-NPD, akukacaci ukuthi lezo zinguquko zibangela i-NPD noma ukuthi i-NPD ibangela lezo zinguquko.

Kunezici eziningana eziyinhloko ezitholakale njengamanje ezifaka isandla ekuthuthukisweni kwe-NPD:

• Izakhi zofuzo: Abantu abane-NPD banamathuba amaningi okuba nabazali noma izihlobo eziseduze ezinalesi simo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kungase kube nethonya lezakhi zofuzo elisebenza emindenini.
• Ukuqaphela Nokulingisa: Kusukela besebancane, izingane ziyabona futhi zilingise izinto ezizibonayo, ikakhulukazi ukuziphatha kwabazali bazo nabanakekeli bazo, futhi lezo zici zingakhula zibe yi-NPD.
• Okuhlangenwe nakho okubi kwasebuntwaneni: Ukulimala ebuntwaneni, ukwenqatshwa, ukunganakwa, kanye nokuntuleka kokusekelwa kungasiza ekuthuthukiseni izici zokuzikhukhumeza.
• Isitayela sokukhulisa izingane: Ukuzitika ngokweqile, ukuvikela ngokweqile, nokuphazamisa kukho konke (ukukhulisa izingane nge-helicopter) kungenza izingane zilindele futhi zifune ukunakwa okufanayo kwabanye njengoba zikhula. Lokhu kungavimbela nezingane ekufundeni ukulawula nokulawula imizwa yazo. Bese kuthi, uma zingakutholi ezikufunayo, zithole kunzima ukulawula imizwa yazo.
• Isiko: Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi isiko okhulela kulo lingathinta nengozi yakho yokuthola i-NPD. Amasiko azisa ubuntu kanye nokuzimela komuntu siqu abonakala enengozi enkulu. Abantu abakhulela emasikweni azisa ubumbano kanye nobunye banamathuba amancane okuthola i-NPD.

Yiziphi izinkinga ezingaba khona ze-NPD?

Kuvamile kakhulu ukuthi i-NPD ihlale ndawonye nezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo kanye nezimo. Nazi ezinye zezinkinga ezivame kakhulu:

• Izinkinga zemizwa noma ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuguquguqukayo: Abantu abane-NPD banamathuba amaningi okuba nokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka. Isifo sengqondo esiguquguqukayo sivamile nakubantu abane-NPD.
• Ezinye izinkinga zobuntu:Izibonelo zifaka phakathi i-borderline personality disorder (BPD) kanye ne-antisocial personality disorder (ASPD).
• Isifo sokuphazamiseka komzimba (`(Isifo sokuphazamiseka komzimba)`): Abantu abane-NPD bangase babe nalesi simo (esibizwa nangokuthi ``isifo sokuphazamiseka komzimba``). Lokhu kungabangelwa imizwa emibi ngomzimba wabo kanye nokubukeka kwabo.
• Izinkinga zokusebenzisa izidakamizwa (ama-SUD): Uma iqiniso lingahambi njengoba babelindele, abantu abane-NPD bangase baphendukele otshwaleni noma ezidakamizweni. Izinto ezivuselelayo ezifana ne-cocaine zivame kakhulu, njengoba ziluhlobo lwabantu abane-NPD abalufuna kakhulu.
• Ukuzibulala: Abantu abane-NPD bangabhekana nokucindezeleka okukhulu kanye nokuphelelwa yithemba lapho bebhekene nezinselele, ukwehluleka, kanye nokwenqatshwa. Lokhu kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ukuzibulala okuhleliwe kunokucela usizo ngokuzumayo. Ngakho-ke, abantu abane-NPD basengozini enkulu yokuzibulala. Lena indaba engathi sína kakhulu.

Isifo sobuntu esibizwa ngokuthi yi-narcissistic personality disorder sitholakala kanjani?

Umhlinzeki wezempilo, ngokuvamile udokotela wezifo zengqondo noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, uthola i-NPD. Bazokhuluma nawe futhi bakubuze imibuzo mayelana nokuphila kwakho kanye nobudlelwano bakho nabanye (ikakhulukazi umndeni, abangane, kanye nabathandekayo). Bangase futhi babuze imibuzo ukuze basuse ezinye izimo ezingase zibangele izimpawu ezifanayo.

Kumelwe uhlangabezane okungenani nezindinganiso ezinhlanu kweziyisishiyagalolunye encwadini ye-American Psychiatric Association (DSM-5-TR™) ukuze utholakale une-NPD. Okwamanje azikho izivivinyo ezithile zelebhu noma izivivinyo zezithombe ezingaxilonga i-NPD.

Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha i-NPD?

Ukwelashwa okuyinhloko kwe-NPD uhlobo oluthile lwe-psychotherapy.

Ezinye zezindlela zokwelapha ezisetshenziswa kakhulu ze-NPD yilezi:

• Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwe-Dialectical (DBT)
• Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo (`(Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo - CBT)`)
• Ukwelashwa kwe-Metacognitive (`(Ukwelashwa kwe-Metacognitive)`)
• Ukwelashwa kweqembu (`(Ukwelashwa kweqembu)`)
• Ukwelashwa kwemibhangqwana noma komndeni

Ngenxa yokuthi kunezindlela eziningi zokwelapha, uchwepheshe wakho wezempilo yengqondo ungumuntu ongcono kakhulu ukukutshela kabanzi ngalezi zindlela ezahlukene. Ungambuza noma yimiphi imibuzo onayo mayelana nokuthi lezi zindlela zisebenza kanjani nokuthi iyiphi indlela efanele wena.

Imithi ye-NPD

Okwamanje azikho imithi elapha ngqo i-NPD. Kodwa-ke, imithi ingasetshenziswa ukwelapha izimpawu zezinye izimo ezingase zihlotshaniswe nayo, njengokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka. Eminye yemithi engasiza ihlanganisa:

• Imithi yokucindezeleka
• Imithi yokulwa nokukhathazeka (`(Imithi yokulwa nokukhathazeka / i-anxiolytics)`)
• Imithi yokulwa nesifo sengqondo
• Imithi yokulwa nokuxhuzula - Nakuba le mithi ilapha kakhulu isithuthwane, eminye imithi, njenge-lamotrigine, ingasiza ekuqiniseni isimo sengqondo.

Uma ngine-NPD, yini okufanele ngiyilindele?

Abantu abane-NPD bangase bangazi ngezinye izikhathi. Abanye bangase bangazi iminyaka noma amashumi eminyaka. Ngokuvamile, isenzakalo noma isimo esicindezelayo sibangela ukuqala okugcwele kwezimpawu. Nazi ezinye zezibonelo zezehlakalo noma izimo ezinjalo:

• Izinguquko ezinkulu ezimbi: Izinto ezifana nokukhushulwa esikhundleni, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, ukuqothuka.
• Izinkinga zomuntu siqu: ukuwohloka kobudlelwano, isehlukaniso.
• Ezinye izinkinga zokuphila: Ukugula noma izinguquko ezihambisana nokuguga, ikakhulukazi lezo ezithinta ikhono lokuphila ngokuzimela, noma ukufa kothandekayo.
• Imigomo Enqunyiwe: Abantu abane-NPD bangafuna usizo kuphela uma abathandekayo babo belucela noma belugcizelela.

Iyini inhloso yesimo se-NPD?

Umbono we-NPD, okungukuthi, ikhono lokululama, uncike ezintweni eziningana. Lezi zihlanganisa:

• Izimpawu zakho: Ezinye izimpawu ze-NPD zingakwenza ungathandi ukufuna usizo noma ukufuna ukwelashwa. Abantu abangafuni ukubonakala bebuthakathaka, ikakhulukazi labo abangafuni ukubonakala bebuthakathaka, bangase banganaki indlela abathola ngayo ukuxilongwa.
• Ukuthi i-NPD yakho inzima kangakanani: Uma iba nzima kangakanani, ingaba ukuphazamiseka okukhulu empilweni yakho. Abantu abane-NPD enzima bavame ukuba nolaka, bathanda ukulwa, futhi abanalo uzwela ngemizwa nezidingo zabanye. Futhi mancane amathuba okuthi bacele usizo noma bafune ukwelashwa.
• Ezinye izimo onazo: Abantu abane-NPD bangase babe nezinselele ezengeziwe uma benezinye izimo. Isibonelo, ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, ezinye izinkinga zobuntu (ikakhulukazi ukuphazamiseka kobuntu okungezona ezomphakathi), kanye nezinkinga zokusebenzisa izidakamizwa kungenza i-NPD ibe yimbi kakhulu.

Ngenxa yokuthi ziningi izinto ezithinta lokhu, umuntu ongcono kakhulu ongambuza ngesimo sesimo sakho uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo. Bangakunikeza ulwazi olwengeziwe mayelana nokuthi yini ongayilindela nokuthi yini ongayenza ukuze usize.

Ingabe i-NPD ingavinjelwa noma ingozi yokuyithola incishiswe?

I-NPD yenzeka ngezizathu ochwepheshe abangaziqondi ngokugcwele. Ingasebenza nasemindenini. Ngenxa yalezi zizathu zombili, wena noma ingane yakho ngeke nikwazi ukuyivimbela ukuthi ikhule.

Kodwa-ke, indlela okhulisa ngayo izingane zakho, okungukuthi, indlela oguqula ngayo indlela yakho yokukhulisa izingane ukuze ivumelane nezimo ezahlukene.Kunezindlela zokunciphisa ingozi yengane yakho yokuthola lokhu. Udokotela wezingane wengane yakho angakufundisa ngalokhu, noma ancome isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kwengane.

Ngingazinakekela kanjani (uma ngine-NPD)?

Uma une-NPD, kungaba nzima ngawe ukwamukela ukuxilongwa. Ngenxa yezimpawu zalesi sifo, ungase uzizwe sengathi unesifo futhi ufuna ukusigwema. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukwelashwa kungathuthukisa impilo yakho kanye nobudlelwano bakho nabanye . Kungenza kube lula ngawe ukwakha nokugcina ubudlelwano, kanye nokufeza impumelelo yomuntu siqu noma yobungcweti.

Ezinye zezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ongazenza yilezi:

• Bonana nochwepheshe wakho wezempilo yengqondo njengoba kunconywa. Abantu abane-NPD banamathuba amaningi okuyeka ukwelashwa. Lokhu kungadala izinkinga eziningi kuwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
• Thatha imithi yakho njengoba uyalelwe. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uphathe futhi ulawule imizwa yakho kanye nezimpawu ze-NPD.
• Gwema ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa noma utshwala. Nakuba zingakwenza uzizwe ungcono okwesikhashana, zingenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Uma uphuza imithi, utshwala noma ezinye izidakamizwa zingabangela ukusebenzisana okuyingozi kwezidakamizwa.

Kufanele ngimbone nini udokotela wami, noma kufanele ngifune nini iseluleko sezokwelapha?

Kufanele ubonane nodokotela wakho njengoba uyalelwe. Bazohlela uhlelo lokwelashwa kanye nokuvakasha okulandelayo. Kufanele ubonane nodokotela wakho uma ubona noma yiziphi izinguquko ezimpawu zakho noma uma ubona ushintsho ekusebenzeni kahle kwemithi yakho.

Kufanele ngiye nini esibhedlela noma ekamelweni lezimo eziphuthumayo?

Uma unemicabango yokuzilimaza, ukuzibulala, noma ukulimaza abanye , kufanele uye ekamelweni lezimo eziphuthumayo ngokushesha, ushayele u-1990 (insizakalo ye-ambulensi yaseSri Lanka), noma utshele othile omethembayo bese ucela iseluleko sezokwelapha ngokushesha. Le micabango ingathi sína kakhulu, ngakho ungazami ukubhekana nayo wedwa.

Ingabe kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zokuzikhukhumeza?

I-DSM-5-TR™ (inguqulo yakamuva ye-DSM-5) ayichazi izinhlobo ezahlukene zokuzikhukhumeza noma i-NPD. Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe ngezinye izikhathi bahlukanisa ukuzikhukhumeza ngokusekelwe ezicini noma ekuziphatheni.

Ezinye zezici ezisetshenziswayo yilezi:

• Okukhulu (ukulindela ukwaziswa nokuqashelwa) uma kuqhathaniswa nokubuthakathaka (ukudinga ukuvunyelwa ukuze uhlale uzibona ungcono futhi wesaba ukungamukeleki).
• Okusobala (`(Okusobala)`) ngokumelene nokucashile (`(Okucashile)`).
• Akunangozi (`(Benign)`) uma kuqhathaniswa nobubi (`(malignant)`) (labo abafuna ukulimaza noma ukusebenzisa abanye).

Lokhu akuzona izigaba ezisemthethweni, kodwaUmeluleki wezempilo yengqondo angakusiza uqonde isimo sakho. Uma ucabanga ukuthi lezi zimpawu ziyasebenza kuwe, ungabuza nochwepheshe ngakho.

Ngingakwazi yini ukuhlolwa ukuze ngibone ukuthi nginazo yini izici zokuzikhukhumeza?

Odokotela bangasebenzisa imibuzo ehlukahlukene yokuhlola ukuxilongwa ukusiza ekuxilongeni i-NPD. Nakuba ungase ulingeke ukuthi uhlole ku-inthanethi ukuze ubone ukuthi unayo yini, kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi akuyona inkinga esemthethweni . Kufanele nakanjani ubone uchwepheshe oqeqeshiwe noqeqeshiwe ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi unesifo.

Ngenzenjani uma ngicabanga ukuthi umuntu engimthandayo une-NPD?

Abantu abane-NPD bangase bangakwazi ukubona izimpawu zabo. Ngokuvamile, umndeni, abangane, kanye nabathandekayo babo yibona abaqala ukusola ukuthi othile une-NPD. Uma usola ukuthi othile omthandayo une-NPD, kufanele uhlale ukhumbula lezi zinto:

• Awukwazi ukushintsha umuntu one-NPD. Yibo kuphela abangashintsha ukuziphatha kwabo. Ngisho noma uzizwa ukhungathekile ngokuthi othandekayo wakho akafuni ukushintsha, khumbula ukuthi akulona iphutha lakho. Ungamkhuthaza ukuba afune ukwelashwa, kodwa kufanele azimisele ukwenza kanjalo ukuze lokhu kuphumelele.
• Hlala uzolile futhi ungathathi izinto ngendlela efanele. Abantu abane-NPD, ikakhulukazi uma bethukuthele, bangazama ukukucasula bese bethola impendulo. Ungazithathi ngendlela efanele, futhi ungasabeli ngendlela efanayo nabo.
• Beka imingcele enempilo. Abantu abane-NPD bavame ukuzama ukuthola lokho abakufunayo ngabanye, kungaba ngamabomu noma ngokungazi. Uma othandekayo wakho ene-NPD, ukubeka imingcele enempilo kungaba yinto ebalulekile. Cacisa ngalokho ozimisele ukukwenza nalokho ongeyikho, bese unamathela kuleyo mingcele. Kungaba nzima, kodwa ukuvumela izidingo zabo ngeke kusize (futhi kungase kwenze izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu).
• Zivikele. Abantu abane-NPD bangase bazame ukuphula imingcele yakho futhi bakulawule "ngokukuthukuthelisa ngegesi" (okusho ukuthi, ukushintsha okuthile wena noma labo abakushoyo noma abakwenzile ukuze bakwenze ubukeke uhlanya). Uma uzizwa sengathi udinga ukuqinisekiswa esikhathini esizayo ngalokho okushilo noma okwenzile, kubhale phansi. Bangase futhi bakuhlukumeze ngamazwi noma ngokomzimba entukuthelweni yabo. Qaphela ukuvikela impilo yakho kanye nenhlalakahle yakho.
• Cabanga ngempilo yakho yengqondo. Labo kini abanomuntu omthandayo one-NPD kufanele nicabangele ukubona umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo . Lokhu kungakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nemizwa yakho kanye nobunzima obuhambisana ne-NPD, kanye nokulungela kangcono ukubhekana nemiphumela yalesi simo kothandekayo.
• Ungazinaki izimpawu eziyisixwayiso.Abantu abane-NPD basengozini enkulu yokuzibulala. Uma usola ukuthi othandekayo wakho one-NPD uyazihoxa emphakathini noma ucabanga ngokuzilimaza, khuluma naye ngqo. Uma ucabanga ukuthi usengozini esheshayo, shayela u-911 ngokushesha, noma ufune usizo lwezokwelapha ngokushesha.

Okokugcina, izinto okufanele uzikhumbule

Isifo sobuntu esibizwa ngokuthi yi-narcissistic asisona isici sobuntu noma isici. Siyisifo sempilo yengqondo. Uma unalesi simo, kunezinto ongazenza ukuze uzisize futhi uqinise ubudlelwano bakho nabanye ngendlela enempilo. Kungaba nzima ukwamukela nokubhekana nalesi simo, kodwa singalimaza kakhulu ubudlelwano bakho futhi siphazamise impilo yakho. Ngakho-ke, ungasinaki noma ubalekele iqiniso.

Uma othile omaziyo ene-NPD, ukufunda ngayo kungakusiza ukuthi uzinakekele futhi uzame ukumsiza. Ngezinye izikhathi, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukubeka imingcele futhi ungaphazamisi ukuziphatha kwakhe ngokungadingekile. Khumbula, awukwazi ukuphoqa umuntu one-NPD ukuthi ashintshe. Kufanele azimisele ukukwenza.

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