Ungakuhlela kanjani kahle ukuvakasha kwengane yakho ukuze ithole umntwana ophilile? Ake sibheke!

Njengomzali, iphupho lakho elikhulu, ithemba lakho elikhulu ukubona ingane yakho iphilile futhi ijabule. Ngakho-ke, ungase uzibuze ukuthi udinga ukubona udokotela noma ngabe ingane yakho ayiguli noma ayizwa ubuhlungu. Empeleni, yebo! Lokhu yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi "Ukuvakasha Komntwana Ophilile". Kufana nomhlahlandlela wohambo lwempilo yengane yakho.

Kuyini Ukuvakasha Kwabantwana Abaphilile? Kungani kubaluleke kangaka?

Kalula nje, ukuhlolwa kwengane ephilile ukuhlolwa kukadokotela okwenziwa yingane yakho uma ingaguli ukuze kuhlolwe impilo yayo yonke kanye nokukhula kwayo. Kufana nokulungiswa kwemoto ngezikhathi ezithile. Kubalulekile ukuhlola ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle yini ngaphambi kokuba ulinde ukuthi kuvele inkinga.

Cabanga ukuthi kungakanani esingakufunda kulokhu kuhlolwa:

• Ingabe ingane yakho ikhula kahle?: Udokotela noma umbelethisi wakho uzokala ukuphakama kwengane yakho, isisindo, kanye nobubanzi bekhanda (lezinsana) ukuze abone ukuthi ikhula ngesivinini esinempilo yini ngokweminyaka yayo. Lokhu kungasiza ekuboneni izinkinga ezifana nokungondleki kahle kusenesikhathi.
• Ingabe izinyathelo zokukhula zenzeka ngesikhathi? : Hlola ukuthi ingane yakho iyamomotheka, iyagingqika, iyakhasa, iyahamba, futhi ikhuluma ngendlela efanele iminyaka yayo. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubone noma yikuphi ukubambezeleka futhi ukuxazulule ngokushesha okukhulu.
• Ingabe imijovo inikezwa ngesikhathi? : Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izingane zithole imijovo yazo ngesikhathi nangendlela efanele ukuze zivikeleke ezifweni ezingathi sína. Phakathi nalokhu kuhlolwa, sixoxa nangaleyo mijovo futhi sinikeze leyo okufanele inikezwe.
• Ithuba lokubuza imibuzo yakho : Lesi yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokuphendula noma yimiphi imibuzo noma ukukhathazeka ongase ube nakho mayelana nokudla, ukulala, ukuziphatha, noma ukuphepha kwengane yakho. Ukukhuluma nodokotela nokuthola iseluleko kuzokunikeza ukuthula kwengqondo okukhulu.
• Ungathola izinkinga ezincane ngaphambi kokuba zibe zinkulu : Ezinye izinkinga zempilo azibonisi izimpawu ezinkulu ezigabeni zokuqala. Kodwa ngokuhlolwa okwenziwe ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa okufana nalokhu, izinto ezifana nezinkinga zokubona nezinkinga zokuzwa zingatholakala kusenesikhathi futhi ukwelashwa kungaqala.

"Kujwayelekile ukuya kudokotela uma ingane igula. Kodwa kuwukuhlakanipha ngempela ukuhlola impilo yengane yakho ngisho noma ingaguli!"

Iminyaka embalwa yokuqala yomntwana: Isikhathi sokubona udokotela njalo!

Kusukela ngosuku ingane yakho encane ezalwa ngalo kuze kube yilapho ineminyaka emithathu ubudala, kuzodingeka ubonane nodokotela kaningi. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi umzimba nobuchopho bengane yakho kukhula ngokushesha kakhulu phakathi nalesi sikhathi. Futhi, kuneminye imigomo ebaluleke kakhulu enikezwayo ngalesi sikhathi.

Ngokuvamile silandela uhlelo olusencwadini yezempilo yengane (i-CHDR - Irekhodi Lokuthuthukiswa Kwempilo Yengane). Lezi zinsuku nazo zibhalwe ngokuningiliziwe kuyo.

• Phakathi kwezinsuku ezingu-3-5 ngemva kokuzalwa: Ukuhlolwa kokuqala ngemva kokubuya ekhaya evela esibhedlela.
• Inyanga yoku-1 : Ukuhlolwa kokuqala kwanyanga zonke.
• Izinyanga ezi-2, ezi-4, ezi-6 : Ukuhlolwa kwenziwa ngalesi sikhathi kanye nokugoma.
• Izinyanga ezingu-9 : Okunye ukuhlolwa okubalulekile.
• Unyaka (izinyanga ezingu-12) : Ukuhlolwa ngosuku lokuzalwa lokuqala.
• Izinyanga eziyi-15, izinyanga eziyi-18 (iminyaka eyi-1.5) : Lokhu kubalulekile futhi.
• Iminyaka emi-2 (izinyanga ezingama-24), iminyaka emi-2.5 (izinyanga ezingama-30), iminyaka emi-3 : Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, kugxilwa nasekukhuleni kwengane, ikhono lokukhuluma, kanye nokuziphatha kwayo.

Njengakho konke ukuhlolwa, udokotela uzolinganisa isisindo sengane yakho, ukuphakama kwayo, kanye nobubanzi bekhanda layo. Bazokubuza ngokudla kwayo, imikhuba yayo yokulala, kanye nemisebenzi yayo. Bazohlola namehlo, izindlebe, inhliziyo, namaphaphu engane yakho. Ungesabi ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho nganoma yiziphi izinkinga ongase ube nazo, ngisho nezincane kakhulu. Isibonelo, ungangabazi ukubuza, "Dokotela, ingane yami ayikakhaseli okwamanje. Ingabe lokho kuyinkinga?"

Izinto okufanele uzibheke ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa kwasekuqaleni:

• Ukuncelisa Ibele Nokudla Okunomsoco : Uma uncelisa, sizoxoxa ngokuthi ukudla okuhambisanayo sekuqalile yini, nokuthi singakunikeza kanjani.
• Ukulala : Kuxoxa ngezindlela zokulala zengane kanye nanoma yiziphi izinkinga ezingase zivele.
• Ukuphepha : Kunikeza izeluleko zendlela yokuqinisekisa ukuphepha kwezingane ekhaya kanye nalapho zidlala.
• Ukuzinza Kwamazinyo : Sikhuluma ngokungakhululeki kokuzinza kwamazinyo nokuthi ungawagcina kanjani amazinyo akho ehlanzekile.

Izingane zasenkulisa nezesikole: Ingabe kufanele siye kohlolwa okungenani kanye ngonyaka?

Ngemva kokuba ingane ineminyaka engu-4, ngokuvamile kudingeka iye kohlolwa impilo yayo kanye ngonyaka. Ngalesi sikhathi, ingane iya esikoleni sabantwana abancane, bese iqala isikole. Ngakho-ke, yisikhathi lapho impilo yayo izodlula khona ezinguqukweni ezinkulu.

Kule minyaka, izinto esizibukayo ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa zihlukile kancane.

• Ukuqapha ukukhula okuqhubekayo : Ngokuhlola izinto ezifana nokuphakama, isisindo, kanye nenani elithi ``(BMI - Body Mass Index)``, siqinisekisa ukuthi ukukhula kwengane kuhamba kahle.
• Ukubona nokuzwa : Impilo yalezi zinzwa ezimbili ibaluleke kakhulu ekusebenzeni kahle esikoleni. Ngakho-ke, kwenziwa izivivinyo ezikhethekile kuzo.
• Ikhono lokufunda nokuziphatha : Uzobuzwa ngezinto ezifana nokuthi ingane yakho yenza kanjani esikoleni, ukuthi ngabe kukhona yini ushintsho ekuziphatheni kwayo, nokuthi injani kubangani bayo.
• Imijovo Yokuqinisa: Eminye imijovo idinga imithamo yokuqinisa ukuze ivikeleke. Lokhu kuyaxoxwa ngakho ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa.
• Ukudla Okunomsoco Nokuzivocavoca : Xoxani ngemikhuba yokudla yengane nokuthi ingabe iyasebenza yini, bese ninikeza iseluleko uma kudingeka.

Cabanga nje, ngezinye izikhathi ingane ingaba nobunzima bokufunda ekilasini ngoba ayikwazi ukubona ibhodi elimnyama kahle. Kodwa ingase ingakusho. Uma into efana nale itholakala ngokuhlolwa, izolithinta kangakanani ikusasa lomntwana lonke?

Intsha: Masinakekele impilo yabo futhi!

Lokhu kuhlolwa kwempilo kwaminyaka yonke kubalulekile njengoba izingane zikhula futhi zifinyelela ebusheni (cishe eminyakeni eyi-11/12 kuya kweyi-18/21). Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, zithola izinguquko ezinkulu emizimbeni yazo nasezingqondweni zazo.

Izinto okufanele uzinake kakhulu ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa kwezingane zalobu budala:

• Ukuthomba kanye nezinguquko ezihlobene nakho : Ukukhuluma ngezinto ezifana nokushintsha komzimba kanye nokuya esikhathini (kwamantombazane) kuyabasiza ukuxazulula izinkinga nezinkinga zabo.
• Impilo Yengqondo : Izinto ezifana nokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka zingavela phakathi nalesi sikhathi. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma ngempilo yengqondo yengane yakho.
• Izindlela Zokuziphatha Eziyingozi : Ingxenye yalokhu kuhlolwa ukufundisa ingane ngezinto ezinjengokubhema nokusebenzisa izidakamizwa nokuyisiza ukuba izigweme.
• Impilo Yocansi Nemfundo : Ihlinzeka ngolwazi olufanele ubudala mayelana nempilo yocansi kanye nezindlela eziphephile.
• Indlela Yokuphila Enempilo : Sikukhuthaza ukuthi uhlakulele imikhuba enempilo ngokukhuluma ngezinto ezifana nokudla okulinganiselayo, ukuzivocavoca okwanele, kanye nokulala kahle.
• Ukulungiselela ikusasa : Bafundiswa ukuthwala umthwalo wemfanelo ngempilo yabo njengomuntu osemusha.

Kungumqondo omuhle futhi ukunikeza ingane yakho ithuba lokukhuluma nodokotela yodwa kule minyaka. Ngale ndlela, ingakhuluma ngokukhululekile ngezinye zezinto ezikucabangayo.

Izinto ongazenza uma uya kudokotela

Ukuze uthole okuningi kulolu vivinyo lwempilo, nawe ungenza amalungiselelo amancane.

• Bhala phansi imibuzo yakho : Uma ubhala phansi izinto ofuna ukuzibuza udokotela ephepheni kusenesikhathi, ngeke ukhohlwe lutho.
• Thatha irekhodi lempilo yengane (i-CHDR) : Liwusizo kakhulu kudokotela njengoba liqukethe yonke imininingwane mayelana nokukhula kwengane, imijovo, njll.
• Khuluma iqiniso : Nikeza udokotela ulwazi oluyiqiniso mayelana nemikhuba yokudla nokuziphatha kwengane yakho. Kulapho kuphela lapho bezokunikeza khona iseluleko esinembile.
• Bandakanya ingane yakho : Uma ingane yakho isikhulile kancane, yibuze imibuzo bese uyivumela iveze imibono yayo.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Ukuvakashelwa Kwengane Yakho Kwezingane Eziphilile akugcini nje ngokuhlolwa udokotela. Kuyitshalomali elibalulekile ekusaseni elinempilo lengane yakho.

• Ungaphuthelwa yilokhu kuhlolwa. Ngisho noma ingane yakho ingaguli, yiyise kulezi zivivinyo ngesikhathi.
• Lolu uhambo oluzothathwa nguwe nodokotela ndawonye. Khuluma nodokotela nganoma yini esengqondweni yakho, ubuze imibuzo.
• Ngokubona izinkinga kusenesikhathi, ungavimbela izinkinga ezinkulu.

Akukho okwanelisa ngaphezu kokubona ingane yakho ikhula iphilile, ijabule, futhi inamandla. Ngakho-ke, lezi zivivinyo zempilo zizoba yimbangela enkulu yalokho!

'Ukuhlolwa Kwempilo, Ukuvakasha Kwengane Ephilile, Impilo Yengane, Ukugoma, Izinyathelo Zokukhula, Ukuthuthukiswa Kwengane, Iseluleko Sokukhulisa Izingane