Kulezi zinsuku, abantu abaningi, ikakhulukazi imibhangqwana esemisha, bahlehlisa ukuqala umndeni isikhashana ngenxa yemfundo yabo, ukuthuthuka emsebenzini, njll. Sivame ukuzwa imibono efana nokuthi "Masilinde eminye iminyaka embalwa," "Masijabulele impilo isikhashana," "Masicabange ngokuba nomntwana ngemva kokuba sesizinzile." Akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokhu. Kodwa-ke, kunezici ezithile zebhayoloji okufanele siziqaphele lapho senza lesi sinqumo. Ake sixoxe ngazo namuhla.
Ingabe sekwephuze kakhulu ukuba nomntwana? Ingabe ubudala bubalulekile ngempela?
Lona ngumbuzo omkhulu abantu abaningi abanawo. Impendulo emfushane ithi, yebo, ubudala buyinto ebaluleke kakhulu, ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane.
Cabanga ngalesi simo. USandamali wayengumhlengikazi owayesebenza emitholampilo yokuzala. Wayengakaze acabange ukuthi ukuba nomntwana wakhe kungaba yinkinga. Ngenxa yokuthi yena nomyeni wakhe babematasa ngemisebenzi yabo, banquma ukuzama ukuba nomntwana ophakathi kweminyaka engama-30. Kodwa ngemva kwezinyanga bezama, uSandamali akakwazanga ukukhulelwa. Ekugcineni, uchwepheshe wabatshela into ababengakaze bayilindele. Lokho kwakuwukuthi ikhwalithi yamaqanda akhe yehla ngokuguga, okwenza kwaba nzima ngaye ukukhulelwa.
Kwathi lapho eneminyaka engu-37, bazama ukukhulelwa nge-in vitro (IVF) . Nakuba uSandamali akwazi ukukhulelwa, waphuphuma isisu ngenxa yekhwalithi yamaqanda ephansi. Ekugcineni, esikhundleni sokuqhubeka nokuzama nokuhlushwa ukuphuphuma kwesisu nokucindezeleka, banquma ukukhetha enye indlela. Namuhla, bashadile ngenjabulo namadodana amabili amahle okutholwa.
Isifundo esikhulu esingasithola endabeni kaSandamali ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sazi kangakanani nokuthi sihlela kangakanani, asikwazi ukulawula iwashi lemizimba yethu ngendlela esifisa ngayo.
Ngokusho kwe-American Society for Reproductive Medicine, izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zabesifazane zingase zilahlekelwe ikhono lokukhulelwa ngokwemvelo lapho zineminyaka engu-40. Isizathu esiyinhloko salokhu ukwehla kwekhwalithi yamaqanda kanye noshintsho ekusebenzeni kwama-ovari.
Ngisho nodokotela bezifo zabesifazane nababelethisi bathi bakhathazekile kakhulu ngabesifazane abeza kubo beneminyaka engu-38, 39 bese bethi, "Sizoba nomntwana eminyakeni engaba mibili." Ngoba bedlala ngokungazi ngengozi enkulu. Ngisho noma ukukhishwa kwamaqanda kwenzeka ngokujwayelekile, ikhwalithi yalawo maqanda ayinhle, ngakho-ke amathuba okuthi ukukhulelwa kungenzeki noma ukuphuphuma kwesisu aphezulu kakhulu.
Ngeshwa, akukho ukuhlolwa kwezokwelapha okungakutshela ngqo ukuthi "Ngisele nesikhathi esingakanani?" Ngakho-ke, odokotela bathi isikhathi esifanele sokuthola abantwana siseminyakeni yakho yama-20 .
Yiziphi izindlela zokuvimbela inzalo zanamuhla?
Uma uhlela umndeni, kunezindlela eziningi zokuvimbela inzalo ezisebenzayo ezitholakalayo namuhla, kokubili kulabo abafuna ukubambezela ukuba nezingane kanye nalabo abafuna ukuhlukanisa izingane zabo. Kungcono ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngalezi bese ukhetha indlela engcono kakhulu kuwe. Nazi ezinye zezinketho ezidumile ezitholakalayo namuhla.
| Indlela yokulawula inzalo | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Idivayisi yangaphakathi kwesibeletho (i-IUD) | I-IUD yama-hormone njenge-Mirena ingasetshenziswa iminyaka efinyelela kwemi-5. Iyithuluzi elincane elinomfanekiso we-T elifakwa esibelethweni bese likhipha ama-hormone kancane kancane. |
| Umjovo Wanyanga Zonke | Imijovo efana ne-Lunelle iqukethe ama-hormone i-estrogen ne -progesterone . Lokhu kulula kulabo abakhohlwa ukuphuza amaphilisi abo nsuku zonke. Kodwa-ke, udinga ukubona udokotela njalo ezinsukwini ezingama-28-30 ukuze uthole umjovo. |
| I-Patch Yokuvimbela Inzalo | Ama-patches afana ne-Ortho Evra akhipha ama-hormone emzimbeni ngesikhumba. I-patch idinga ukushintshwa kanye ngesonto. Ngokuvamile ingagqokwa ngaphansi kwezingubo, njengasesiswini noma emzimbeni ongaphezulu. |
| Indandatho Yesitho Sangasese Sowesifazane | Indandatho encane, egobekayo, njenge-NuvaRing, ifakwa esithweni sangasese sowesifazane. Ikhipha umthamo ophansi wama-hormone izinsuku ezingu-21. Bese ikhishwa bese kufakwa entsha ngemva kwekhefu lezinsuku ezingu-7. |
Ingabe igebe phakathi kwezingane nosayizi womndeni libalulekile?
Lokhu futhi kuyinto abazali abaningi abayicabangayo. Ukuthi bangaki abantwana okufanele babe nabo nokuthi bangabanika kanjani indawo kuyisinqumo esihlukahluka emndenini ngamunye.
Igebe phakathi kwezingane
Izazi zengqondo zezingane zithi kungcono ukuba negebe leminyaka emi-3 kuya kwemi-3 nengxenye phakathi kwezingane ezimbili.
- Isizathu? Ingane eneminyaka emibili ubudala ivame ukuzizwa ithembele futhi ingavikelekile kubazali bayo. Ngaleso sikhathi, ukufika komntwana omusha emndenini kungadala ukuncintisana nomona enganeni endala.
- Kodwa lapho izingane zineminyaka emithathu ubudala, ziba nokuqonda okuthile. Zijwayela kakhulu ukwabelana ngothando nokunaka kwabazali bazo nomunye umuntu.
Ngokombono wezokwelapha, ucwaningo olwenziwe yi-US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) luthole ukuthi isikhathi sezinyanga ezingu-18 kuya kwezingu-23 phakathi kokuzalwa komntwana oyedwa nokukhulelwa komntwana olandelayo sizuzisa kakhulu impilo yosana olusanda kuzalwa. Izingane ezikhulelwe phakathi nalesi sikhathi cishe azikwazi ukuzalwa zinesisindo esincane futhi zizalwe ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
Okokugcina, abesifazane abaningi namuhla bayayeka ukuzama ukuba "ngumama ongcono" futhi bazama ukuphila impilo ejabulisayo nokubeka imindeni yabo kuqala. Sebeqaphele ukubaluleka kokuphila impilo elinganiselayo kunokuzama ukwenza konke ngesikhathi esisodwa bese bezikhandla bona kanye nemindeni yabo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Uma uhlela umndeni, ikakhulukazi ubudala bowesifazane kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu.
- Ukuhlehlisa ukubeletha kuze kube yilapho usuneminyaka engu-30 noma engu-40 kunganciphisa kakhulu ikhono lakho lokukhulelwa ngokwemvelo kanye nokuzala kwakho.
- Kunezindlela eziningi zokuvimbela inzalo ezisebenzayo nezihlukahlukene ezitholakalayo namuhla. Qiniseka ukuthi uxoxa nodokotela wakho ngendlela engcono kakhulu kuwe nakumlingani wakho.
- Ukugcina ibanga elifanele phakathi kwezingane kunomthelela omuhle empilweni yomntwana omusha osanda kuzalwa emndenini, kanye nasempilweni yengqondo yengane endala.
- Umzimba womuntu wonke nendlela yakhe yokuphila ihlukile, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukufuna iseluleko kudokotela wakho noma kudokotela ngesimo sakho kunokuthembela kuphela kulwazi olujwayelekile olutholakala ku-inthanethi.
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