Isifo Sokudlwengulwa Kwezinhlungu: Awuwedwa, ake sixoxe ngalokhu!

Ngiyazi ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukukhuluma ngesihloko esibucayi kangaka. Kodwa-ke, ufunda lesi sihloko ngoba wena, noma othile omaziyo, ube yisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi futhi ulwa nobuhlungu obungokomzwelo nobomzimba obuhambisana nakho. Lokhu kuyinto edabukisayo kakhulu futhi ebuhlungu. Kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi awuwedwa nokuthi kukhona usizo olutholakalayo lokukusiza ukuthi ululame kulesi simo.

Iyini i-Rape Trauma Syndrome?

Kalula nje, i-Rape Traumatic Syndrome yigama elinikezwa imiphumela yengqondo, yemizwa, yomzimba, kanye neyokuziphatha yokudlwengulwa noma okunye ukuhlaselwa ngokocansi okukhulu. Empeleni uhlobo oluthile lwesifo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuthi i-Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) , okuyi-PTSD ebangelwa ukuhlaselwa ngokocansi.

Khumbula, akubona bonke abantu abasabela ngendlela efanayo. Ungase uzizwe uthukuthele kakhulu, udidekile , noma ukhashelwe. Ngezinye izikhathi ungase uzame ukuphika, uthi, "Lokho akwenzekanga kimi." Noma ungase ukhale ngokuzumayo ngentukuthelo nokudabuka ngenkathi wenza into ovame ukuyenza, njengokugoqa izingubo noma ukuxubha amazinyo akho.

Uma udlula esimweni esibuhlungu njengalesi, kuthinta impilo yakho yengqondo kanye nempilo yakho engokomzimba. Lokho okuzwayo kungase kufane noma kungabi yilokho abanye abakuzwayo. Kodwa yonke imizwa oyizwayo ingokoqobo. Okwenzekile kuwe kungokoqobo. Awunacala nhlobo ngakho. Kukhona odokotela nabeluleki bezempilo yengqondo abangakusiza kulokhu.

Kuyini "inkohlakalo"?

Ukudlwengula kuyindlela yokuhlasela ngokocansi. Kwenzeka lapho othile ekuphoqa ukuthi uhlanganyele emisebenzini yocansi (njengocansi lwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, i-anal, noma yomlomo) ngenkani, ngaphandle kwemvume yakho. Ngokuvamile, umuntu udlwengula ngokusebenzisa amandla angokomzimba. Kodwa-ke, ngezinye izikhathi, ukuphoqa umuntu ukuthi ahlanganyele emisebenzini yocansi ngokusongela ubudlova, ukusebenzisa ingcindezi yengqondo, noma ukusebenzisa ukuxhaphaza nakho kubhekwa njengokudlwengula.

Yonke inkohlakalo ayilungile futhi ayisemthethweni. Akufanele neze ube nesibopho ngalokho okwenziwa ngomunye umuntu.

Sivame kangakanani lesi simo?

Ukudlwengula nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kubikwa emhlabeni wonke. Ngokusho kwedatha evela e-United States, abantu abangaphezu kuka-433,000 abaneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-12 ubudala bayadlwengulwa noma bahlukunyezwe ngokocansi minyaka yonke. Lesi simo singathinta noma ubani wanoma yimuphi ubudala nobulili:

• Owesifazane oyedwa kwabayisithupha uzobhekana nokuzama noma ukudlwengulwa ngokoqobo empilweni yakhe.
• Indoda eyodwa kwabesilisa abangu-33 izobhekana nokuzama noma ukudlwengulwa ngokoqobo empilweni yayo.
• Cishe izingane ezingu-60,000 ziyahlukunyezwa ngokocansi minyaka yonke.

Ngenxa yokuthi ukudlwengulwa noma ukuhlaselwa ngokocansi kuvame ukungabikwa futhi izisulu azivamile ukufuna usizo lwezokwelapha, kunzima ukusho ukuthi i-Rape Trauma Syndrome ivame kangakanani. Kodwa-ke, kulinganiselwa ukuthi abesifazane abangafika ku-94% babhekana nezimpawu ze-PTSD zingakapheli amasonto amabili bebhekene nokulimala ngokocansi.

Yiziphi izigaba ze-Rape Trauma Syndrome?

Izigaba ezintathu eziyinhloko zalesi sifo zingabonakala:

1. Isigaba esiphuthumayo noma esisheshayo: Lesi yisigaba esenzeka ngokushesha ngemva kokushaqeka nangemva nje kwalokho. Phakathi nalesi sigaba, ungase uzizwe sengathi ubuchopho bakho bunenkungu futhi umzimba wakho uphelelwe amandla. Kunjengokungathi uphambene ingqondo. Abantu abakulesi sigaba bavame ukukhungatheka ngenxa yemizwa ekhungathekisayo, abakwazi ukuthola ukuthi benzeni ngokulandelayo, futhi abakwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke. Ukukhathazeka, ukushintshashintsha kwemizwelo, kanye nokudideka kuyizimpawu ezivamile zalesi sigaba.

2. Isigaba esingaphansi komhlaba: Lesi yisikhathi lapho uzama ukuqhubekela phambili kokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu. Abantu abakulesi sigaba bangase bazame ukusula lesi senzakalo enkumbulweni yabo, benze sengathi "akukaze kwenzeke kimi," noma bazame ukunciphisa ubukhali baso. Lesi sigaba singahlala izinyanga kuya eminyakeni.

3. Isigaba sokuhlela kabusha noma sokuxazulula: Lesi sigaba senzeka uma ubona ukuhlukumezeka okuhlangabezene nakho bese uthatha izinyathelo zokuzivumelanisa nakho. Kulesi sigaba, ushintsha ekubeni "yisisulu" uye ekubeni "osindile." Kungase kudingeke ubhekane nokuhlukumezeka kwakho futhi ubhekane nezinto ezibangela lokhu. Lokhu kungaba nzima kakhulu futhi kucindezele. Kodwa ufunda ukuphatha ukuhlukumezeka futhi uphile nakho.

Isigaba ngasinye sinezimpawu zaso, futhi zingahluka kumuntu nomuntu. Akudingeki ukuthi udlule kulezi zigaba ngokulandelana - ungaphinda ngisho nezigaba. Khumbula, ayikho indlela "eyodwa" noma "efanele" yokusabela ekulimaleni. Abacwaningi baqambe futhi bahlela lezi zigaba ngokusekelwe ekubonweni kokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo kubantu abaningi.

Ziyini izimpawu zalokhu?

Izimpawu ze-Rape Trauma Syndrome zifaka:

• Ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo.
• Ukudideka noma ukudideka.
• Ukucindezeleka.
• Ubunzima bokugxila entweni ethile.
• Ukubuyela emuva (izinkumbulo eziphindaphindwayo zesehlakalo njengamaphupho asemini).
• Ukuba nemizwa ehlukene ngezikhathi ezahlukene ('ukushintshashintsha kwemizwa').
• Amaphupha amabi nokungalali.

Lolu hlu aluphelele, futhi ungase ubhekane nalezi zimpawu noma ezinye kunoma yisiphi isigaba. Lezi zimpawu zingaphazamisa ikhono lakho lokusebenza empilweni yakho yansuku zonke. Akuwona wonke umuntu ozoba nezimpawu ezifanayo.

Futhi, kuvamile ukuzizwa ungaphilile kahle ngokomzimba ngemva kokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu okufana nalokhu:

• Ubuhlungu obungapheli.
• Ukuzizwa unesizungu noma ukuphelelwa yithemba.
• Izinkinga zesisu (njengokuvuvukala kwesisu, ukuqunjelwa).
• Ikhanda elibuhlungu.
• Ukulahlekelwa yisifiso sokudla.
• Ukuqina kwemisipha.
• Ukungasebenzi kahle kocansi.

Injani i-Rape Trauma Syndrome?

Njengoba ubhekene nalokhu kuhlukumezeka, ungase ube nemizwa enamandla kakhulu. Isibonelo:

• Intukuthelo
• Ukuzizwa uhlazekile (`Ukuhlazeka`)
• Ukungakholwa
• Ukwesaba
• Ukuzizwa unecala (`Umuzwa Wecala`)
• Ukuphelelwa yithemba
• Ukuzizwa uhlazekile (`Ukuthotshiswa`)
• Usizi
• Ihlazo
• Ukushaqeka
• Ukuzizwa ungelutho

Le mizwa ingaba nzima kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi ingavela ngokuzumayo ('isizathu') ngaphandle kwesixwayiso . Le mizwa ayipheli ngobusuku obubodwa, futhi kungase kudingeke uhlale nayo impilo yakho yonke. Eminye yale mizwa ingenza kube nzima ngawe ukufuna ukwelashwa ekuqaleni. Ngisho noma imizwa yakho ingokoqobo, ungayivumeli ikuvimbele ekutholeni usizo noma ukwelashwa.

Abangani bakho nomndeni wakho bangase bakuthole kunzima ukuqonda lokho obhekene nakho. Bangase babone imizwa yakho kuphela bese besabela kuyo. Ubudlelwano bakho nabanye bungase bube nzima ngemva kokwenzakala. Lokhu kungase kube ngenxa yokuthi awufuni ukuphinda uphile ngokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu bese ukuchazela noma ubani. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kungokwakho, futhi awudingi ukwabelana ngakho nabanye uma ungazizwa ukhululekile ukwenza kanjalo.

Uma usebenza nodokotela noma umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo , ungakhuluma ngezinto ezidlule uma usukulungele. Kodwa akukaze kube sekwephuzile ukufuna usizo.

Yini ebangela lokhu?

I-Rape Trauma Syndrome ibangelwa ukuzwa ubuhlungu bocansi. Lokhu kufaka phakathi noma yisiphi isenzo socansi noma ukuziphatha okwenziwa ngokungenhloso yakho. Isibonelo:

• Ukuzama inkohlakalo.
• Ukudlwengula (ukungena ngokocansi).
• Ukuphoqwa ukuthinta ngokocansi.
• Ukuphoqwa ngokocansi.

Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kungenzeka kunoma ubani, kunoma ubani. Kungaba ngomuntu omazi kahle (indoda, umfazi, umngane) noma umuntu ongamazi. Ucansi alulona ilungelo. Akuyona into okufanele uyiboleke omunye umuntu.

Khumbula, awunacala ngalokho okwenzeke kuwe. Akulona iphutha lakho. Ukudlwengula nezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza ngokocansi kuyizenzo zobugebengu.

Yiziphi izinkinga zalesi simo?

Imiphumela yokudlwengulwa nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi ingaba nomthelela omkhulu enhlalakahleni yakho yengqondo kanye nomuzwa wokuphepha. Abantu abaningi ababhekene ne-Rape Trauma Syndrome bangase babe nalokhu:

• Inkinga yokusebenzisa izidakamizwa.
• Umbono wokuzibulala.
• Ukuzilimaza.
• Ukuzibulala.

Uma uzizwa sengathi ufuna ukuzilimaza noma unemicabango yokuzibulala, sicela utshele umuntu omdala omethembayo, ilungu lomndeni, umngane, noma ubone udokotela noma umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo ngokushesha. ESri Lanka, ungaya esiteshini samaphoyisa esiseduze (inombolo yezimo eziphuthumayo 119) noma esibhedlela. Ungashayela nezinombolo zosizo lwezempilo yengqondo ezifana neSumedha, CCC Line 1333, bese uthola usizo.

Itholakala kanjani i-Rape Trauma Syndrome?

Uma uke wahlukunyezwa ngokocansi, ungase ube nezimpawu ze-rape trauma syndrome, noma ngabe ungazi ukuthi izimpawu zakho ziyafana nesimo sezokwelapha.

I-Rape Trauma Syndrome ihlolwa udokotela, ikakhulukazi uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo, njengodokotela wengqondo noma wezifo zengqondo . Bazofunda kabanzi ngezimpawu zakho kanye nolwazi lwakho ngalesi simo ngaphambi kokuthola ukuthi unesifo esingakanani.

Udokotela wakho angasebenzisa amathuluzi ahlukahlukene okuhlola ukuze abone ukuthi yiziphi izimpawu ozizwayo, ukuthi zimbi kangakanani, nokuthi zishintsha kanjani ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lokhu kuhlola kubuza imibuzo eminingi mayelana nenhlalakahle yakho yengqondo.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba qotho futhi ukhululeke kodokotela bakho. Odokotela bakho abakwahluleli noma abakusoli. Umgomo wabo ukukusiza, hhayi ukukulimaza . Ungase uzizwe sengathi okuwukuphela kwendlela "yokudlula kulokhu" ukungazinaki lezi zinto ezinzima bese wenza sengathi azikaze zenzeke. Kodwa-ke, udinga isikhala nesikhathi sokuphulukiswa ngokuphephile ngokusekelwa odokotela bakho. Bazokusiza ukubhekana nayo yonke imizwa yakho kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho.

Yini okufanele ngiyenze uma ngidlwengulwa noma ngihlukunyezwa ngokocansi?

Okokuqala, thatha umoya ojulile. Ungase uzizwe imizwa eminingi ngemva kwesenzakalo esibuhlungu njengalesi. Uma ungakabi sendaweni ephephile kakade, thola indawo ephephile ngokushesha okukhulu. Uma ungakwazi ukufika endaweni ephephile, shayela inombolo yezimo eziphuthumayo yamaphoyisa u-119 ngokushesha, noma utshele umuntu omethembayo.

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna usizo lwezokwelapha uma uke wahlukunyezwa ngokocansi. Yiya egumbini lezimo eziphuthumayo lesibhedlela sikahulumeni esiseduze. Esibhedlela, udokotela uzokwenza okulandelayo:

• Ukulimala kwakho ngokomzimba kuzohlolwa futhi kwelashwe.
• Kuzohlolwa umzimba. Lokhu kuzohlanganisa ukuhlolwa kwezitho zakho zangasese, futhi uma ungowesifazane, ukuhlolwa kwe-pelvic.
• Ukulimala kwakho kuzothathwa izithombe futhi kubhalwe phansi.
• Kuqoqwa igazi, amathe, uketshezi lwesitho sangasese sowesifazane kanye nolwendunu, izinwele ezivela ezingutsheni, izinwele ezivela ekhanda nasesikhumbeni sowesifazane, kanye namasampula avela ngaphansi kwezinzipho. Kuqoqwa ikhithi ekhethekile yokudlwengula (efana ne-'Rape Kit') ukuze kuqoqwe futhi kugcinwe lobu bufakazi. Lokhu kubalulekile ezinqubweni zomthetho.
• Kuzohlolwa igazi ukuze kubonakale ukuthi kukhona yini ukutheleleka.
• Bazohlola izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi (ama-STI) futhi bakufundise ngokuvimbela inzalo okuphuthumayo .
• Ungathatha futhi isampula yomchamo bese uhlola izidakamizwa zokudlwengula ukuze ubone ukuthi ngabe udakiwe yini futhi wenze ubugebengu.

Ukuba nalolu hlobo lokuhlolwa ngemva kokuhlaselwa ngokocansi kungaba yinto ekucindezelayo kakhulu futhi engakhululekile. Uzobuzwa imibuzo eminingi, futhi ungase ungakwazi ukucabanga kahle nokuyiphendula. Ungase uzizwe ucasukile lapho othile ethinta umzimba wakho. Odokotela bakho bazochaza ukuhlolwa kwakho, futhi bakutshele ngqo ukuthi benzani nokuthi kungani. Uma udinga isikhathi, uma udinga isikhala, tshela udokotela wakho ngakho obala. Bafuna ukukugcina uphephile.

Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha lokhu?

Inhlanganisela yalezi zindlela zokwelapha ivame ukusetshenziswa ukwelapha i-Rape Trauma Syndrome:

• Ukwelapha Ngengqondo: Lolu uhlobo lokwelapha ngokukhuluma. Isibonelo, lusebenzisa izindlela ezifana nokwelapha ngokuziphatha (i-CBT) noma i-Psychodynamic Therapy .
• Imithi: Imithi inikezwa ukulawula izimpawu ezifana nokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka.

Ukukhuluma nodokotela kanye nomeluleki wezempilo yengqondo kuyindlela enhle yokuthola ukunakekelwa nokusekelwa okudingayo emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho. Ungase ukuthole kunzima ukwethemba abanye nokukhuluma ngokukhululekile. Ithimba lakho lezokwelapha lingakunikeza indawo ephephile ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana nezinselele zakho zansuku zonke kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho ngesivinini sakho, ngaphandle kokwahlulela.

Ukwelapha i-Rape Trauma Syndrome akusho ukuthi ungayilapha ngokuphelele bese uyikhohlwa. Kunalokho, ikusiza ukuthi ubhekane nezinto ohlangabezane nazo, uziqonde, futhi uqhubekele phambili. Impilo yakho izoshintsha ngemva kokubhekana nosizi, kodwa akudingeki ukuthi ikuchaze noma ilawule impilo yakho. Lukhona usizo.

I-Rape Trauma Syndrome ihlala isikhathi esingakanani?

Akukho sikhathi esibekiwe sokuthi i-Rape Trauma Syndrome ihlala isikhathi esingakanani. Izimpawu zingafika ziphinde zidlule. Kungathatha isikhathi ngaphambi kokuba uzizwe uphilile ngokwanele ukufuna usizo kudokotela noma kumeluleki wezempilo yengqondo . Ngisho nangemva kokuba usuzinzile, izimpawu zingaphinde zibuye. Uyaphola ngejubane lakho, ngoba ulawula umzimba nengqondo yakho.

Ungazivikela kanjani ekudlwengulweni nasekuhlaselweni ngokocansi?

Ukudlwengulwa kungenzeka kunoma ubani, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Kunzima ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uzovikeleka ngokuphelele ekudlwengulweni noma ekuhlaselweni ngokocansi. Kodwa-ke, ukunakekela ukuphepha kwakho, ukugwema izindawo eziyingozi, nokukhuluma nabantu othembekile mayelana nokuthi ukuphi kungasiza kakhulu. Kodwa khumbula, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, akulona neze iphutha lesisulu.

Kufanele ufune nini iseluleko sezokwelapha?

Uma uke wahlukunyezwa ngokocansi, bona udokotela ngokushesha bese ukhuluma nomeluleki wezempilo yengqondo . Thembeka futhi ukhululeke ngalokho obhekene nakho. Bazokugcina uphephile futhi bakunikeze zonke izinsiza ozidingayo ukuze welapheke.

Ukudlwengula nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kungashiya izibazi ezihlala njalo zomzimba nezingokomzwelo, kodwa azichazi ukuthi ungubani. Ngemva kwalokho, ungase uzizwe ukwesaba, unecala, noma intukuthelo ngokushesha. Noma ungase uzame ukusunduza leyo mizwa eceleni bese ubuyela endleleni yakho yansuku zonke.

Ngisho noma uzizwa "ulungile," kufanele nakanjani ukhulume nodokotela kanye nomeluleki wezempilo yengqondo . Ukwelashwa kuthatha isikhathi, futhi akwenzeki njalo ngendlela esiyiqondayo. Kodwa kuyafaneleka, nawe uyakufanelekela. Ungaya ekwelashweni, kungaba uwedwa noma njengeqembu, ukuze welapheke ekuhluphekeni.

Uma udinga usizo olusheshayo, noma uzizwa sengathi ufuna ukukhuluma nothile ngokushesha, sicela ushayele izinombolo eziphuthumayo okukhulunywe ngazo ngaphambili (Amaphoyisa 119, Sumedha, CCC Line 1333), noma utshele umuntu omethembayo, noma uye esibhedlela esiseduze.

Okokugcina, into ebaluleke kakhulu

Akulula nganoma ubani ukudlula kulesi simo esibi kangaka. Kodwa kumelwe ukhumbule ukuthi awuwedwa nokuthi kukhona usizo olutholakalayo lokukusiza kulesi simo. Okwenzekile kuwe akulona iphutha lakho. Futhi, ungavumeli lokhu kushaqeka kulawule impilo yakho kuze kube phakade.

Ngeseluleko esifanele sezokwelapha, ukwelashwa kwengqondo, kanye nokusekelwa yilabo abakuthandayo, ungadlula kulesi sikhathi esinzima futhi ubhekane nokuphila uqine. Ungahlupheki buthule, cela usizo. Ufanelekile.

Isifo Sokudlwengula Esibangelwa Ukuhlukumezeka, ukuhlaselwa ngokocansi, i-PTSD, impilo yengqondo, ukuhlukumezeka, ukululama