Uma umuntu omthandayo, kungaba ngumama wakho, ubaba, umlingani wakho, noma ingane yakho, egula, ukumnakekela kunezela umthwalo wemfanelo omkhulu empilweni yakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi awukaze ucabange ngisho nangokucindezeleka okukhulu okuhambisana nalowo mthwalo wemfanelo. Njengoba ukunaka kwakho okugcwele kugxile esigulini, kulula ukuzikhohlwa. Kodwa lokhu kungaba yingozi kakhulu. Ngoba, uma lokhu kucindezeleka kungalawulwa, kungaphenduka isimo esibizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka .
Kuvamile ukuzizwa udangele futhi ucindezelekile lapho ubhekene nezinselele zempilo, izinkinga, noma ukulahlekelwa. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, lokhu kudabuka nokucindezeleka kuba nzima kakhulu futhi kuhlale isikhathi eside kangangokuthi kwenza kube nzima ukuphila impilo yakho evamile. Lokhu yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi ukucindezeleka, noma ngokwezokwelapha, "Isifo Esiyinhloko Sokucindezeleka".
Into ebalulekile ukuthi ukucindezeleka akulona ubuthakathaka bomuntu siqu noma uphawu lokuthi awukwazi ukunakekela othandekayo wakho. Kuyisimo esingalapheka ngokuphelele ngokwelashwa.
Ucwaningo luye lwathola nokuthi abangaphezu kwengxenye yabanakekeli babonisa izimpawu zokucindezeleka. Banamathuba amaningi okuphuza imithi yokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kunabanye abangontanga yabo. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqaphela lokhu kusenesikhathi futhi ufune ukwelashwa uma kudingeka.
Kungani kubalulekile ukufuna ukwelashwa kokucindezeleka ngokushesha?
Ukucabanga ukuthi "kulungile" kungaba yingozi. Kunezizathu eziningana:
- Uma kungelashwa, ukucindezeleka kungaba kubi kakhulu usuku nosuku.
- Ukucindezeleka okukhulu okungalashwa kungaholela ngisho nasekuzibulaleni .
- Abantu abaningi abangafuni ukwelashwa abalulami ngokuphelele ekucindezelekeni.
- Ukwelashwa okufanele kungavimbela ukubuyela emuva kokucindezeleka.
- Ukucindezeleka kwakho kungaba uphawu lwesinye isifo esingaba sibi kakhulu uma singelashwa.
Ziyini izimpawu zokucindezeleka?
Uma usube nezimpawu etafuleni elingezansi isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili , qiniseka ukuthi ubona udokotela wakho bese uxoxa ngalokhu.
| Isigaba sezimpawu | Imizwa nezinguquko |
|---|---|
| Engqondweni nangokomzwelo | Ukuzizwa "ungenalutho" engqondweni, ukudabuka nokukhathazeka okuqhubekayo. Ukubona ikusasa ngendlela edabukisayo, ukuzizwa unecala, ungenalusizo, futhi ungelutho. Ukuzizwa uthukuthele futhi ucindezelekile njalo. |
| Amandla kanye nomdlandla | Ukuzizwa ukhathele njalo futhi ungenawo amandla, kokubili ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo nenjabulo ezintweni ezazijabulisa ngaphambili. |
| Ukulala nokudla | Izinguquko ezindleleni zokulala - ukuvuka ekuseni kakhulu, ukuqwasha, noma ukulala kakhulu. Ukudla nezinkinga zesisindo (ukwanda noma ukwehla kwesisindo). |
| Izici zomzimba | Ukukhala njalo. Ubuhlungu bomzimba obufika ngaphandle kwesizathu futhi obungapheli kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthatha imithi engakanani. Ukuphazamiseka kwesisu nezinkinga zokugaya ukudla. Ukuncipha kwesifiso sobulili. |
| Ikhono lokucabanga | Ubunzima bokugxilisa ingqondo, ukukhumbula izinto, noma ukwenza izinqumo. |
| Izimpawu ezimbi kakhulu | Imicabango ngokufa noma ukuzibulala. |
Kuthiwani uma ngizizwa sengathi ngifuna ukuzibulala?
Uma unemicabango yokuzibulala, sicela ufune usizo lochwepheshe ngokushesha . Ungalibali. Shayela i-National Mental Health Helpline eSri Lanka ngo- 1926. Noma, iya e-Emergency Treatment Unit (ETU) yesibhedlela esiseduze.
Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha ukucindezeleka?
Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi iningi labantu abanokucindezeleka lingelashwa ngempumelelo. Kunezinhlobo ezimbili eziyinhloko zokwelapha. Ngezinye izikhathi zombili zingasetshenziswa ndawonye.
1. Imithi Yokulwa Nokucindezeleka:
Akukho imbangela eyodwa yokucindezeleka. Kuyisimo esiyinkimbinkimbi. Kukholakala ukuthi sihlobene nezinkinga ekusebenzeni kwezifunda ebuchosheni ezilawula isimo sengqondo. Imithi yokucindezeleka isebenza ngokulinganisela umsebenzi wamakhemikhali ebuchosheni abizwa ngokuthi ama-neurotransmitters , asiza ekuthuthukiseni ukuxhumana phakathi kwamangqamuzana obuchopho. Lokhu kuthuthukisa isimo sengqondo. Udokotela wakho uzokunikeza imithi efanele isimo sakho.
2. Ukwelapha Ngengqondo:
Kalula nje, lokhu kuyindlela yokukhuluma . Kulokhu, ukhuluma nochwepheshe oqeqeshiwe (umeluleki noma udokotela wezifo zengqondo) ukuze ugxile ekuziphatheni, emizweni, nasemicabangweni (ikakhulukazi amaphethini emicabango emibi) abangela ukucindezeleka kwakho. Ngale ndlela yokwelapha, ungasiza abantu baqonde ukuthi izimo, njengokunakekela umuntu ogulayo, zingaba kanjani nomthelela ekucindezelekeni nokuthi yini engenziwa ukubhekana nalezo zinkinga. Lokhu kungaba yindlela enhle yokubuyisa ukulawula nenjabulo empilweni yakho.
Kufanele ngifune nini iseluleko sezokwelapha?
Uma uhlangabezana nenye noma ngaphezulu kwalokhu okulandelayo, funa usizo lochwepheshe ngokushesha, okungukuthi udokotela wakho.
| Uzobona nini udokotela | |
|---|---|
| Izimpawu zokucindezeleka ezihlala isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili | Ukuhlehla okusobala emsebenzini noma emfundweni |
| Ukukhathazeka ngokweqile | Ukuluthwa utshwala noma izidakamizwa |
| Ukungakwazi ukusingatha imithwalo yemfanelo yansuku zonke | Ukwesaba okungenangqondo ngaphandle kwesizathu |
| Ushintsho olukhulu endleleni yokulala noma yokudla | Ubuhlungu obuqhubekayo kanye nezifo zomzimba |
| Ukuhlukaniswa nokuhlukaniswa nabanye isikhathi eside | |
| Izimo ezidinga ukulaliswa esibhedlela ngokushesha (iya ku-ETU) | |
| Imicabango yokuzibulala noma imicabango yokulimaza abanye. | |
| Ukuzilimaza, ukuziphatha okulimazayo noma okuyingozi. | |
Ingabe ukucindezeleka akukwazi ukuvinjelwa?
Yebo, kunezinto ezithile eziwusizo ongazenza ukuze unciphise ingozi yakho yokucindezeleka.
- Ngokuhlala uphilile ngokomzimba nokudla ukudla okunempilo , ungavimbela ezinye izifo ezingabangela ukucindezeleka.
- Uma uphuza imithi yezinye izimo, landela imiyalelo kadokotela wakho ngokucophelela . Ukucindezeleka kungaba nemiphumela emibi yeminye imithi.
- Okubaluleke kakhulu, funa iseluleko sezokwelapha ngokushesha nje lapho uqala ukuzizwa ukhungathekile ngemithwalo yakho yemfanelo yokunakekela, noma uma ubona ushintsho empilweni yakho, emicabangweni, noma ekuziphatheni kwakho.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka kokunakekela umuntu omthandayo kuyinto evamile, kodwa uma kunganakwa, kungadala ukucindezeleka.
- Ukucindezeleka akusona ubuthakathaka, kuyisimo esingalapheka ngokuphelele ngokwelashwa.
- Qaphela izimpawu ezinjengokudabuka isikhathi eside, ukungabi namandla, nokulahlekelwa isithakazelo ezintweni obuzijabulela.
- Ukuzinakekela kubaluleke njengokunakekela abanye. Uma udinga usizo, ungalokothi unqikaze ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho.
- Uma unemicabango yokuzibulala, shayela u-1926 ngokushesha noma uye esibhedlela esiseduze noMnyango Wezimo Eziphuthumayo (ETU).
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