Ingabe umlutha kakhulu wokuzivocavoca? Ake sixoxe ngokuzivocavoca okuphoqelekile''!

Sonke siyazi ukuthi ukuzivocavoca kuhle kangakanani emzimbeni. Ukuzivocavoca kubalulekile ukuze uhlale uphilile, umuhle, futhi uphilile engqondweni . Kodwa, ngezinye izikhathi, kuthiwani uma lokhu okuhle kuba kukhulu kakhulu? Khona-ke kungaba yinkinga. Ngokufanayo, lapho ukuzivocavoca kuba yinto engalawuleki, sikubiza ngokuthi `( Ukuzivocavoca Okuphoqelekile )` noma abanye abantu bakubiza ngokuthi `(Ukulutha Kokuzivocavoca)`.

Kuyini ngempela "Ukuzilolonga Okuphoqelekile"?

Kalula nje, `(Ukuzivocavoca Okuphoqelekile)` kuyisifiso noma isifiso esingalawuleki somuntu sokuzivocavoca. Ukuze kube sobala, kufana nomlutha . Kubantu abanjalo, kunzima kakhulu ukungazivivinyi. Cabanga, unokulimala okuncane, bese udokotela ekutshela ukuthi ungazivivinyi izinsuku ezimbalwa. Noma, usuku olunemvula kakhulu, futhi awukwazi ngisho nokuphuma. Kodwa, kumuntu onokuzivocavoca okuphoqelekile, akukho lutho olubalulekile kulokhu. Basendaweni lapho bafuna ukuzivocavoca khona noma kunjalo . Ngisho nangosuku okufanele baphume ngalo nabangani, bayalingeka ukuba bakubeke eceleni futhi bavivinye. Okusho ukuthi, babeka kuqala ukuzivocavoca ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye empilweni yabo.

Kungani abanye abantu abasha benogqozi kangaka lokuzivocavoca umzimba?

Ukuzivocavoca umzimba ngokuvamile kubaluleke kakhulu endleleni yokuphila enempilo. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sobusha, kungaba nezizathu eziningana ezenza lokhu kuvivinya umzimba kube kukhulu kakhulu.

• Thuthukisa ukusebenza kwakho kwezemidlalo: Abanye abasubathi bashukumiseleka ukuzivocavoca kakhulu ngoba bafuna ukuthuthukisa ukusebenza kwabo. Ngezinye izikhathi, ingcindezi evela emigomweni yabo, abaqeqeshi, ozakwabo, noma abazali ingabashukumisela ukuba bavivinye okungaphezu kwalokho abangakwazi ukukuthwala. Cabanga ngengane elungiselela umncintiswano wesikole wokugijima nenkundla, icabanga ukuthi, "Kufanele ngiwine ngandlela thile, kufanele ngisebenze kanzima ngalokho," ngakho-ke bayazikhandla ngokweqile.

• Ubuhlobo Nezinkinga Zokudla: Ukuvivinya umzimba okuphoqelekile kuvame ukubonakala kanye nezinkinga zokudla . Uma umuntu ethanda ukulawula ukudla kwakhe, angase azivivinye ngokweqile ukuze ehlise isisindo . Isibonelo, umuntu one- bulimia angase adle kakhulu futhi azivocavoce ngokweqile ukuze azame ukulawula isisindo sakhe.

• Ukulindela "uhlobo lomzimba olufanele" olungafinyeleleki:Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi uma beqhubeka nokuzivocavoca, bangafinyelela "uhlobo lomzimba olufanele" abalucabangayo, kodwa okungenzeka ukuthi alunakufinyelelwa. Ngakho-ke baphishekela leli phupho futhi bavivinye umzimba ngaphezu kwalokho abakufunayo.

Ziyini izimpawu `zokuzivocavoca okuphoqelekile`? Bheka ukuthi unazo yini lezi...

Manje ake sibheke ukuthi yiziphi izimpawu umuntu angase azibonise uma ethanda "ukuzivocavoca okuphoqelekile." Bona ukuthi lezi zijwayelene yini nawe:

• Ngisho noma ukhathele, ugula, noma ulimele , awuyeki ukuzivocavoca: Uma wazi ukuthi 'Namuhla kunzima kakhulu emzimbeni wami, angizizwa ngifisa ukuzivocavoca nhlobo', kodwa usacabanga ukuthi, 'Cha, kufanele ngizivocavoce namuhla,' lokho kuyinto okufanele uyicabangele.
• Uma ungazivivinyi usuku lonke, uzizwa ukhathazekile kakhulu futhi unecala: Zicabange ukuthi awukwazi ukuya ejimini namuhla ngesizathu esithile. Uma uzizwa kabi ngakho usuku lonke, ucabanga ukuthi , 'O, angizivocavocanga namuhla,' futhi uzizwa sengathi wenze iphutha, lokho nakho kuyisibonakaliso.
• Ukuhlala ucabanga ngesisindo sakho kanye nesimiso sakho sokuzivocavoca: Uma uchitha usuku lonke ucabanga ngezinto ezinjengokuthi 'Nginesisindo esingakanani? Kufanele ngizivocavoce isikhathi esingakanani namuhla? Kufanele ngenzeni?', lokho nakho kuyinkinga.
• Ukwehla kwesisindo ngokuzumayo: Unganciphisa isisindo ngokuzumayo ngokungadli kahle nangokuvivinya umzimba ngokweqile.
• Uma ucabanga ngosuku lapho udla kakhulu, noma ngosuku lapho weqa khona ukujima, bese uzivocavoca kakhulu ngosuku olulandelayo: 'Izolo ngidle kakhulu, namuhla ngidinga ukuzivocavoca ihora elengeziwe ukuze ngibuyisele lokho,' lokho kuyasebenza nalokhu.
• Uma ungakwazi ukuzivocavoca, udla kancane: Uma weqa ukudla ucabanga ukuthi, 'Angikwazanga ukuzivocavoca namuhla, ngakho ngeke ngidle namuhla'.
• Ukuchitha isikhathi nabangani, ukubeka eceleni ezinye izinto zokuzilibazisa , ngisho nemithwalo yemfanelo yokuthola isikhathi sokuzivocavoca: Uma ukhuluma ngokuya ebhayisikobho nomngane, kodwa ukugwema lokho, uthi, 'Cha, ngineseshini yokuzivocavoca namuhla,' noma uma weqa ngisho nemisebenzi yasekhaya bese ubeka phambili ukuzivocavoca.
• Kubonakala sengathi balinganisa ukubaluleka kwabo ngobuningi bokuzivocavoca abakwenzayo: Uma bezizwa sengathi, 'Ngizivocavoce amahora amabili namuhla, ngakho-ke ngimuhle kakhulu, ngingumuntu obalulekile.'
• Abakaze baneliseke ngamakhono abo omzimba: kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bavivinya umzimba kangakanani noma ukuthi bawakha kangakanani imizimba yabo, basazizwa sengathi, 'Akwanele, ngidinga ukwenza okwengeziwe, ngidinga ukuba ngcono.'

Yiziphi izinkinga ezingavela ngokuzivocavoca kakhulu kanje?

Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kuyinto enhle, kodwa ukuvivinya umzimba ngokweqile kungabangela izinkinga eziningi emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Ake sibone ukuthi ziyini lezo.

• Ukulimala: Uma uzivocavoca njalo ngaphandle kokunika umzimba wakho ikhefu, ungaba nokulimala ngokweqile . Futhi, lapho amathambo ecindezelwa kakhulu, izinto ezifana nokuqhekeka kokucindezeleka zingase zenzeke. Cabanga nje, umuntu ogijima nsuku zonke uyaqhubeka nokugijima ngaphandle kokunaka ubuhlungu obuncane emlenzeni wakhe. Ngemva kwesikhashana, ubuhlungu buyakhula, futhi kuvele kube ukuqhekeka kokucindezeleka!

• Izinkinga ezikhethekile ezingase zenzeke emantombazaneni (`Female Athlete Triad`): Ikakhulukazi uma amantombazane evivinya umzimba ngokweqile futhi encipha isisindo esiningi, ukuya kwawo kwanyanga zonke kungase kungabi ngendlela evamile noma kume ngokuphelele . Kanye nalokhu, isimo esibizwa ngokuthi ``osteoporosis`` singavela futhi. Uma lezi zimpawu ezintathu (ukwehla kwesisindo, izinkinga zokuya esikhathini, kanye nobuthakathaka bamathambo) zivela ndawonye, ​​odokotela babiza lesi simo ngokuthi ``Female Athlete Triad`` . Lesi yisimo esidinga ukuthathwa ngokungathi sína kakhulu.

• Ukuziphatha okungenampilo kokwehlisa isisindo: Abanye abantu, bezama ukunciphisa isisindo, bayeqa ukudla, futhi banciphise kakhulu inani lokudla abakudlayo. Bangase basebenzise nokuziphatha okungenampilo njengokuhlanza ngemva kokudla, ukusebenzisa amaphilisi okunciphisa umzimba, kanye nokuphuza imithi yokuhlanza isisu .

• Ukuzihlukanisa nabantu: Ngenxa yokuthi ukuzivocavoca kubaluleke kakhulu, konke okunye kuyanyamalala. Ungase uphuthelwe ukubona abangani, ukuchitha isikhathi nomndeni, umsebenzi wesikole, ngisho nomsebenzi wesikole. Kancane kancane, ungase ube wedwa futhi ube wedwa .

• Izinkinga zempilo yengqondo: Ukuvivinya umzimba okuphoqelekile kuhlotshaniswa nengozi eyengeziwe yezinkinga zempilo yengqondo njengokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka . Izici ezifana nokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo, ukuzethemba okuphansi, kanye nokungabi nasithakazelo kwezinye izinto empilweni kungaba nomthelela kulezi zinkinga zempilo yengqondo.

Udokotela uhlonza kanjani lokhu njengesimo "sokuvivinya umzimba okuphoqelekile"?

Eqinisweni, kunzima kancane ukuxilonga umuntu ngokunembile "onokuzivocavoca okuphoqelekile". Ngoba ayikho incazelo ecacile yokuthi "kungakanani ukuvivinya umzimba okungaphezu kwamandla?" Kwabanye abantu, ukuzivocavoca ihora elilodwa ngosuku kungaba yinto evamile, kanti kwabanye, kungaba yinto eningi kakhulu.

Kodwa-ke, udokotela uvame ukubheka ukuthi ukwenza lo msebenzi kubangele yini umonakalo empilweni yakho yomzimba (isib. ukulimala, i-'Female Athlete Triad'), nokuthi ngabe kuthinte impilo yakho yansuku zonke kanye nobudlelwano bakho.(isib., ukuzihlukanisa nabangani, ukuphuthelwa umsebenzi wesikole). Uma umuntu elimele futhi eqhubeka nokuzivocavoca naphezu kokutshelwa udokotela ukuthi angazivivinyi, noma uma enezinkinga nomndeni wakhe nabangane ngoba engakwazi ukuyeka ukuzivocavoca, udokotela angase acabange ukuthi lokhu kungaba yindaba "yokuvivinya umzimba okuphoqelekile" noma "ukulutheka kokuzivocavoca".

Ngakho-ke yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha lokhu? Uphuma kanjani kulesi simo?

Ukuze unqobe lolu hlobo lokuzilolonga okuphoqelekile, kubalulekile ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe . Ngokuvamile, udokotela wezokwelapha uzokusiza ukuthi ushintshe ukuziphatha kwakho okungenampilo, ugcine izinga elinempilo lokuzivocavoca, futhi uthole izindlela ezintsha zokubhekana nalesi simo.

Uhlelo lokwelashwa luhlanganisa futhi:

• Ukwelapha ukulimala okukhona: Okokuqala, udinga ukwelapha noma yikuphi ukulimala okubangelwa ukuzivocavoca.
• Phumula noma wehlise inani lokuzivocavoca okwenzayo: Kubalulekile ukunikeza umzimba wakho ukuphumula okudingayo. Kungase kudingeke uyeke ngokuphelele ukuzivocavoca isikhashana, noma wehlise inani kakhulu.
• Ukuthola ezinye izinhlelo zokuzivocavoca: Mhlawumbe ungathola ezinye izinhlelo zokuzivocavoca ezikufanele, ezilula emzimbeni wakho, futhi ezingenziwa ngendlela enempilo.
• Ukwelulekwa Nokuqwashisa Ngokudla Okunempilo Ngokuvivinya Umzimba Okweqile: Kubalulekile ukufundisa abantu ngendlela yokudla kahle, indlela yokuthola ukudla okunomsoco abakudingayo, kanye nezingozi zokuvivinya umzimba ngokweqile.
• Ukwelapha ezinye izimo zempilo yengqondo: Ngokuvamile, ukuvivinya umzimba okuphoqelelwe kuhlotshaniswa nezinye izimo zempilo yengqondo, njengezinkinga zokudla , ukucindezeleka , noma isifo sokungaphoqelelwe (OCD) . Uma kunjalo, lezo zimo zingadinga nokwelashwa.

Uma ngicabanga ukuthi nginalesi simo, kufanele ngenzenjani?

Uma uzibuza ukuthi, "Ingabe ngizivocavoca kakhulu?" into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu. Kubaluleke kakhulu. Udokotela wakho angakunikeza iseluleko esifanele.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungenza nalezi zinto ukuze uzinakekele:

• Siza ekulungiseleleni nasekudleni ukudla okunempilo: Ukudla ukudla okunempilo nokulinganiselayo kubalulekile emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Ukulungiselela ukudla ndawonye namalungu omndeni nokudla ndawonye kungasiza ngalokhu.
• Jabulela ukuzivocavoca nabangani noma umndeni: Yenza ukuzivocavoca kube mnandi futhi kujabulise ngokukwenza nomunye umuntu. Mhlawumbe dlala i-badminton, ugibele ibhayisikili, noma udanse.
• Phumula okungenani usuku olulodwa phakathi kwezinsuku ezimbili zokuzilolonga okunamandla:Ukuphumula kubalulekile ukuze umzimba ululame. Ngakho-ke, uma uzivocavoca kanzima izinsuku ezimbili, nikeza umzimba wakho okungenani usuku olulodwa lokuphumula.
• Nciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi uthole izindlela ezintsha zokubhekana nezinkinga: Ungacabangi ukuthi ukuzivocavoca kuyindlela yodwa yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka. Kunezinye izindlela eziningi, njengokufunda incwadi, ukulalela ingoma, ukudweba, ukukhuluma nomngane, nokuzindla.
• Khuluma nomzali noma umuntu omdala omethembayo ukuze uthole usizo: Uma uzizwa sengathi ubhekene nobunzima bokubhekana nalokhu wedwa, nakanjani khuluma nomuntu omethembayo ngalokhu. Ukusekela kwabo kuzoba umthombo omkhulu wamandla.

Ngakho-ke, yini into ebaluleke kakhulu okudingeka siyikhumbule kulokhu? (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Ukuzivocavoca kubalulekile ukuze ube nempilo enhle. Kodwa, njenganoma yini enye, sidinga ukuqonda ukuthi ukuzivocavoca okuningi kakhulu kungabangela izinkinga.

• Qaphela izimpawu "zokuzivocavoca okuphoqelekile". Njalo zinike isikhathi sokucabanga ukuthi imikhuba yakho yokuzivocavoca idlula yini imingcele enempilo.
• Uma uzizwa ngale ndlela, ungabi namahloni noma wesabe ukucela usizo. Ungathola usizo kunoma ubani, kungaba udokotela, uchwepheshe wezokwelapha, umzali, noma umuntu omdala omethembayo.
• Khumbula, awuwedwa. Kukhona abanye abantu abadlula ezimweni ezifanayo, futhi kukhona abantu abangakusiza ukuthi udlule kulokhu.
• Zama ukuphila impilo elinganiselayo. Ngaphezu kokuzivocavoca umzimba, thola indawo empilweni yakho yemfundo yakho, izinto ozithandayo, umndeni wakho kanye nabangani bakho.

Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kufanele kube yinto eletha injabulo nempilo empilweni yakho, hhayi into ekulawulayo. Ngakho-ke, hlala ukhumbula lokhu.

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