Abantu abaningi abangontanga yakho bakhathazeka ngezinguquko zomzimba ezihambisana nokukhula—noma ngokwezokwelapha, lapho ukuthomba kuzoqala khona ngempela. Uma abangani bakho bebonakala beshintsha ngaphambi kwakho, ungase ucabange, “Kungani lokhu kungenzeki kimi? Ingabe kukhona okungahambi kahle?” Sicela ungakhathazeki noma ukwethuka. Namuhla, ake sixoxe ngalokhu ngokukhululekile, njengoba nje umngane engenza, ukuze uzizwe ukhululekile.
Kungani wonke umuntu ekhula ngezikhathi ezahlukene?
Lokhu kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule: wonke umuntu uhlukile. Cabanga ngezimbali engadini; noma ngabe zifana, ezinye ziqhakaza ngaphambi kwezinye, kodwa zonke ziqhakaza ekugcineni. Yilokho kanye esiyikho. Iwashi lomuntu ngamunye elingaphakathi lihlelwe ngendlela ehlukile kancane. Ngakho-ke, ukuthomba kwakho kungase kuqale ngaphambi noma kamuva kunomngane wakho. Lokhu kuvamile ngokuphelele.
Kuvamile ukuqhathanisa amanothi nontanga yakho. Abafana bangase bazizwe bekhathazekile ngezwi labo noma izinwele zobuso, kuyilapho amantombazane engase akhathazeke uma ukukhula kwamabele abo kuyephuza. Asikho isizathu sokuba namahloni noma ukukhathazeka. Khumbula nje ukuthi umzimba womuntu ngamunye ukhula ngesimiso sawo esiyingqayizivele.
Ukuthomba Kwamantombazane
Esinye sezibonakaliso zokuqala zokuthomba kwamantombazane ukukhula kwamabele. Ake sibheke lokho kuqala.
Kuqala nini ukukhula kwebele?
Ngokuvamile, ukukhula kwamabele kuqala cishe eminyakeni eyi-10 noma eyi-11 . Ungase uzizwe iqhubu elincane, elithambile ngaphansi kwendawo yengono, elikhula kancane kancane. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuyahlukahluka; amanye amantombazane aqala eneminyaka engu-7, kanti amanye aqala esondele eminyakeni eyi-13. Noma yisiphi isikhathi ngaphakathi kwaleli banga sibhekwa njengesijwayelekile ngokuphelele.
Uma umngane wakho eqale ukukhula kwamabele ngaphambi kwakho, ungakhathazeki. Iwashi lakhe langaphakathi lishesha kancane kunelakho. Yilokho kuphela.
Isikhathi sakho sokuqala sokuya esikhathini
Esinye isenzakalo esibalulekile yisikhathi sakho sokuqala sokuya esikhathini. Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka eminyakeni emi-2 kuya kwemi-2 nengxenye ngemva kokuqala kokukhula kwamabele.
Akukho mthetho oqinile wokuthi lokhu kufanele kwenzeke nini. Kuyahlukahluka kuye ngomuntu nomuntu. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, kwenzeka nezinye izinguquko, njengokukhula kwezinqe zakho kanye nokubonakala kwe-acne.
Ukuthomba Kwabafana
Manje, ake sibheke ukuthi kwenzekani kubafana. Iminyaka evamile yokuthi abafana baqale ukuthomba icishe ibe yi -10 noma i-11 . Kodwa-ke, ukuqala noma kuphi phakathi kweminyaka engu-9 nengu-15 kubhekwa njengokujwayelekile ngokuphelele .
Ngakho-ke, yiziphi lezi zinguquko?
- Ukujula kwezwi : Izwi lakho eliphakeme lizoqala ukujula futhi libe yindoda. Izwi lakho lingase liqhume ngezikhathi ezithile, okuyinto evamile kakhulu phakathi nalolu shintsho.
- Ukukhula kwezinwele: Uzoqala ukubona izinwele zobuso, kulandele izinwele ezingaphansi kwamakhwapha akho, esifubeni, kanye nasesithweni sangasese.
- Ukuthuthukiswa kwezitho zokuzala : Amasende akho kanye nepenisi kuzokhula ngobukhulu. Lokhu kuyinkomba ebalulekile yokuthomba.
- Ukukhula kwemisipha nokuphakama: Cishe uzobona ukwanda kwemisipha, amahlombe abanzi, kanye nokukhula okukhulu.
Lezi zinguquko azenzeki ngobusuku obubodwa; zenzeka kancane kancane eminyakeni eminingana. Ungakhathazeki uma umngane ebukeka “ekhulile” kunawe; ukuthomba kwakhe kuqale kusenesikhathi. Isikhathi sakho sizofika.
Ingabe ikhona indlela yokwenza lokhu kwenzeke ngokushesha?
Ngiyazi ukuthi abaningi kini bayazibuza ukuthi ikhona yini indlela yokusheshisa inqubo. Iqiniso liwukuthi,Akukho ongakwenza ukuphoqa lezi zinguquko zemvelo zebhayoloji ukuba zenzeke ngokushesha.
Ukudla ukudla okunomsoco, ukuhlala umatasa, kanye nokulala ngokwanele kubalulekile empilweni yakho iyonke. Kufanele nakanjani uzenze lezo zinto, kodwa ngeke ziphoqe inqubo yokuthomba ukuba iqale kusenesikhathi.
Ukudla okukhethekile, izithasiselo zokudla, noma okhilimu besikhumba abathile abakwazi ukusheshisa le nqubo yemvelo. Akudingeki ukuchitha imali kule mikhiqizo.
Umzimba wakho uzoqala lezi zinguquko ngesivinini sawo. Themba umzimba wakho futhi uwuvumele ukhule ngokwemvelo.
Kufanele ubonane nini nodokotela?
Uma ungaphakathi kweminyaka okuxoxwe ngayo, ngokuvamile akukho okufanele ukhathazeke ngakho. Kodwa-ke, uma ukhathazekile ngempela, kulungile ukukhuluma nomhlinzeki wezempilo.
Kufanele ucabangele ukubona udokotela uma:
- Uma uyintombazane futhi usufinyelele eminyakeni eyi-13 ungenazo izimpawu zokukhula kwebele , noma uma ungakaze uye esikhathini sakho sokuqala.
- Uma ungumfana futhi usufinyelele eminyakeni eyi-15 ungenazo izimpawu zokuthomba (njengokushintsha kwezwi, ukukhula kwezinwele, noma ukukhula kwezitho zokuzala).
- Uma uzizwa ukhathazekile kakhulu noma ukhathazekile ngokukhula komzimba wakho, noma ngabe usemncane kuneminyaka eshiwo ngenhla.
Ukubona udokotela akusho ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Ukuhlolwa ukuqinisekisa ukuthi konke kuqhubeka kahle kungakusiza ukhululeke engqondweni. Udokotela angakunikeza isiqondiso sochwepheshe futhi anqume ukuthi kukhona yini okunye ukuhlolwa okudingekayo.
Izinto ezibalulekile okufanele uzicabangele
Nanka amaphuzu okugcina okufanele uwakhumbule:
- Wonke umuntu uhlukile: Ukwehluka kwesikhathi kuyinto evamile ngokuphelele. Ulapho kanye lapho kudingeka khona.
- Akuyona i-race: Ukuthomba akuyona i-competition. Ungakhathazeki ngokuthi ubani oqala ukukhula; umzimba wakho unewashi lawo langaphakathi.
- Ukubekezela kubalulekile: Lezi zinguquko ezinkulu zithatha isikhathi. Azenzeki ngobusuku obubodwa.
- Hlala uphilile: Gxila ekudleni kahle, ekuzivocavoceni nasekulale. Lokhu kusekela intuthuko yakho iyonke.
- Ungagodli: Uma ukhathazekile, khuluma nomuntu omdala omethembayo—njengomzali, uthisha, noma udokotela womndeni wakho. Ukuthola ukwesekwa kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokusingatha lezi zinkinga.
Ekugcineni, umzimba wakho usebenza kanzima ngenxa yakho. Zinike isikhathi osidingayo ukuze ukhule. Uyigugu, futhi wenza kahle!
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