URoshan (oneminyaka engu-35) nomkakhe uDinusha (oneminyaka engu-32) bafike emtholampilo wami ukuze bahlolwe njalo ngoLwesine olwedlule. Bobabili babethule kakhulu. Ngabona ukuthi kukhona impi ebandayo ecacile phakathi kwabo.
Lapho ngibabuza ngempilo yomndeni wabo, uRoshan wathi: "UDkt. Priya, ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane yethu yesibili, impilo yethu yomshado isibe uhlu nje lwezinto ezisetshenziswayo. Ngenxa yezinkinga zezimali kanye nomsebenzi wabantwana, asinaso isikhathi sokubonisana uthando. Sihlala silwa." UDinusha wavuma, ethi, "Angitholi ukwesekwa okuvela kuRoshan, Dokotela, uhlala engithola iphutha."
Ngabathulisa futhi ngabachazela: "Roshan noDinusha, abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi umshado kufanele uphumelele nge-auto-pilot. Kodwa umshado ophumelelayo ngempela uyinto edinga ukuzibophezela okuqhubekayo nokuxhumana. Kunezinsika ezintathu eziyinhloko zomshado: Uthando , Inhlonipho , kanye Nomthwalo Wemfanelo . Namuhla, ake sixoxe ngokuthi yiziphi izinkinga ezivamile eziphakamayo empilweni yomshado nokuthi singazisingatha kanjani ngempumelelo ngokwengqondo."
🚨 Amafulegi Abomvu adinga ukwesekwa kochwepheshe/kwengqondo okusheshayo
Kuvamile ukuba nokungezwani empilweni yomshado. Kodwa-ke, uma kuvela izimpawu ezilandelayo, kufanele uthintane nomeluleki womshado noma udokotela wengqondo ngokushesha:
- Ukuba khona kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuhlukumeza ngokomzimba, ngamazwi noma ngokwengqondo (Ukuhlukumeza Kwasekhaya / Ubudlova).
- Imizamo yomunye umlingani yokulawula ngokuphelele izimali zomunye noma inkululeko yakhe siqu (Ukulawula Okuphoqayo).
- Umlingani ohlushwa ukucindezeleka okukhulu okuqhubekayo noma imicabango yokuzibulala ngenxa yezinkinga zomndeni.
- Ukugawula ngamatshe yilapho umuntu oyedwa egwema ngokuphelele ukuxhumana lapho ezama ukuxoxa ngendaba ethile.
Izizathu ezivamile zokuqhekeka komshado
- Ubugovu: Ukucabanga ngezidingo zakho kuphela nokunganaki imizwa yomlingani wakho.
- Ukukhulumisana Okubi: Ukungakhulumisani ngokukhululekile nokugcina izinkinga zifihliwe ngaphakathi bese ziqhuma.
- Ukucindezeleka Kwezezimali: Ukwehluleka ukuhlela kahle izindleko zomndeni kanye nemali engenayo.
- Ukulutheka kotshwala noma ukugembula: Into ebhubhisa ngokuphelele izimali zomndeni kanye nokuthula kwawo kwengqondo.
- Ukungavuthwa: Ukuziphatha njengengane, ukungaqondi imithwalo yemfanelo nezinselele ezihambisana nomshado.
- Ukuthola Amaphutha: Ukugxeka njalo amaphutha omlingani wakho kuphela, ngaphandle kokwazisa izinto ezinhle azenzayo.
Izinyathelo ezinhle zomshado ophumelelayo
Iziqondiso ezinhle ezingalandelwa ngokwengqondo ukuze umshado uphumelele yilezi ezilandelayo:
1.Zazi Wena: Uma uqonda kangcono imizwa yakho nobuthakathaka bakho, kulapho ungayiqonda kangcono imizwa yomlingani wakho.
2. Beka imigomo efanayo nezinto ozithandayo: Beka eceleni isikhathi okungenani kanye ngesonto semisebenzi eningayenza nobabili ndawonye (isib. ukuhamba ndawonye, izinto ozithandayo ezifanayo).
3. Ukubonisa uthando ngisho nangemva komshado: Ungavumeli isibopho sothando siphele ngemva komshado. Nikani izipho ezincane, nibonise uthando, bese nihamba nosuku lokuqomisana ndawonye.
4. Ukuthethelela: Esikhundleni sokukhuluma ngamaphutha nokulwa njalo, zama ukuthethelela ngobuqotho futhi ulungise izinto.
Ukuqhathanisa ukuxhumana okuhle emshadweni
| Ukuxhumana okuhlulekile (baleka) | Ukuxhumana okuhle (jwayelana nakho) |
|---|---|
| Ukusola: "Ungumthombo wazo zonke lezi zinkinga!" | Ukuveza imizwa: "Ngikhathazekile kakhulu ngale nkinga. Singakuxazulula kanjani lokhu?" |
| Ukwelashwa Okuthule: Ukugwema ukukhuluma izinsuku eziningi. | Isicelo sesikhathi: "Angikakhululeki ngokwanele ukukhuluma njengamanje, singakhuluma ngalokhu kusasa ekuseni?" |
| Ukukhumbula ngesikhathi esidlule: Ukuveza wonke amaphutha amadala ngesikhathi sokulwa. | Ukuzikhawulela enkingeni yamanje: Ukugxila enkingeni yamanje kuphela nokuthola izixazululo. |
| Ukungalaleli: Ukubuka ifoni noma ukuphazamisa umlingani ngenkathi ekhuluma. | Ukulalela Ngenkuthalo: Ukunaka ngokugcwele lokho umlingani wakho akushoyo nokuzama ukuqonda inkinga ngokombono wakhe. |
Okumele Ukwenze Nokungafanele Ukwenze
| ✔️ Izinto okufanele uzenze (Okufanele Uzenze) | ❌ Okungafanele ukwenze |
|---|---|
| Nika umlingani wakho inhlonipho nokunakekelwa okulindele kuye kuqala. | Gwema ukuhlambalaza noma ukugxeka umlingani wakho phambi kwabanye. |
| Funa iseluleko sezokwelapha ngezindlela ezifanele zokuhlela umndeni ngaphambi kokuqala umndeni. | Ungakhohlwa ngokuphelele ngesibopho sothando emshadweni wakho ngemva kokuba nezingane. |
| Beka eceleni isikhathi esikhethekile sokuthula okungenani kanye ngesonto ukuze nixoxe ngokukhululeka, nina nobabili kuphela. | Ungagcini nje ngokuthemba ukuthi umlingani wakho uzoshintsha futhi anelise zonke izidingo zakho. |
❓ Eminye imibuzo ongase ube nayo (Imibuzo Ebuzwa Njalo)
Kungani ukwelulekwa kochwepheshe kubalulekile ezinkingeni zomshado?
Ngesikhathi sokwelulekwa ngomshado, bobabili abathintekayo banethuba lokuxoxa ngezinkinga zabo phambi komuntu wesithathu ongakhethi (umeluleki), futhi bafundiswa izindlela ezisebenzayo zokuxazulula izinkinga nokuxhumana ngendlela eyakhayo.
Ukucindezeleka kuwuthinta kanjani umshado? ▼
Uma umlingani ecindezelekile, angase ahoxe emithwalweni yomndeni, acasuke noma anganaki. Lokhu akulona iphutha lomlingani kodwa yisimo sezokwelapha esidinga ukucatshangelwa nokwelashwa, ngakho-ke kufanele uthintane nodokotela ojwayelekile (GP) noma udokotela wezifo zengqondo.
Ingabe ukukhanga ngokomzimba kukodwa kwanele ukwakha isibopho sangempela emshadweni ?
Cha. Nakuba ukukhangana ngokomzimba nokuphila kocansi kubalulekile, okudingwa umshado wesikhathi eside nophumelelayo ukubophana ngokomzwelo, njengokuhloniphana, ukulalelana imibono, kanye nokuma ndawonye phakathi nezinselele zempilo.
Ungakulawula kanjani ukuthola amaphutha ngokoqobo? ▼
Ungalawula umkhuba wokuthola amaphutha ngokubeka eceleni isikhathi sokuthula kanye ngesonto, ubhale phansi ukuziphatha ongathanda ukukushintsha komunye nomunye kanye nosizo ongalulindela komunye, bese nixoxa ngakho ngaphandle kwentukuthelo.
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