Ingabe ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa ungakhululekile uma ukhuluma nomngane, emhlanganweni wehhovisi, noma ephathini ngoba une-ADHD? Ingabe ukuthola kunzima ukusho okusengqondweni yakho, noma ingabe uphazamisa umuntu ngephutha ngenkathi ekhuluma? Ungakhathazeki, awuwedwa. Kuvamile ukuba nalezi zinhlobo zobunzima bokuxhumana nabantu abane-ADHD. Izimpawu eziyinhloko ze-ADHD ukunganaki , ukushesha, kanye nokusebenza ngokweqile . Ngakho ake sibone ukuthi ungasiphatha kanjani lesi simo futhi uthuthukise amakhono akho okuxhumana nabantu.
Ingabe imithi yodwa ayanele?
Eminye imithi ye-ADHD, njengemithi evuselelayo, ingasiza ekulawuleni izimpawu zakho. Ingakusiza ukuthi ugxile futhi uhlale uzolile. Kodwa-ke, ayithuthukisi ngokuzenzakalelayo amakhono akho okuxhumana nabantu. Okusho ukuthi, awukwazi ukufunda ukwenza abangane, ukuqhuba ingxoxo, noma ukuqonda imizwa yabanye abantu ngephilisi. Kudinga ukuzijwayeza. Njengokufunda ukushayela imoto, la makhono kudingeka aqanjwe.
Khumbula, amakhono okuxhumana nabantu yinto esingayifunda futhi siyithuthukise ngokuzijwayeza. Akwenzeki ngobusuku obubodwa, ngakho zinike isikhathi.
Amathiphu awusizo okuthuthukisa amakhono akho okuxhumana nabantu abane-ADHD
Ngaphambi kokuba uphume nabangani, umndeni, noma osebenza nabo emsebenzini, kubalulekile ukulungiselela okuthile. Ungafunda incwadi noma wenze ucwaningo ku-inthanethi ukuze ufunde ukuthi kungenzekani nokuthi ungaziphethe kanjani ezimweni ezinjalo. Prakthiza ukubukana emehlweni, ulalele ngokucophelela lokho omunye umuntu akushoyo, futhi ube nesineke aze aqede ukukhuluma.
Nazi ezinye izinto ongazinaka. Ake sibheke lezi etafuleni.
| Icebiso | Indlela yokwenza lokhu futhi kwenzekani? |
|---|---|
| Gcina ingqondo ivulekile. | Uma othile ekunikeza impendulo mayelana nokuziphatha kwakho emphakathini, ungakuthathi njengokuhlambalaza, kodwa njengethuba lokufunda. Zijwayeze ukucabanga, "O, angazi ukuthi lokho kuyenzeka, ngiyabonga ngokusho kanjalo." |
| Zibekele imigomo emincane. | Ungazami ukwenza konke ngesikhathi esisodwa. Hlosa into eyodwa noma ezimbili ngesikhathi. Isibonelo, uma unomkhuba wokuphazamisa othile ngenkathi ekhuluma, ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho uhlanganyela engxoxweni, vele ucabange, "Ngizolalela kuze kube sekupheleni kwengxoxo namuhla." Uma lokho sekuqediwe, qhubekela entweni elandelayo, njengokubheka emehlweni. |
| Prakthiza indlela ethi 'Echo' (vissonance) | Ungase ungakwazi ukuzwa ngokugcwele lokho okushiwo othile ngoba uphazamisekile. Ukuze uqinisekise lokhu, mcele ukuthi aphinde lokho akushilo njengombuzo. Isibonelo: "Kulungile, uthe sizoxoxa ngephrojekthi kusasa ekuseni, akunjalo? Ingabe kukhona engikuphuthele?" Lokhu kuzokuvimbela ukuthi uphuthelwe ulwazi olubalulekile. |
| Funda kwabanye. | Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokufunda amakhono okuxhumana nabantu ukubuka indlela abanye abantu abaziphatha ngayo ezimweni ezahlukene. Qaphela indlela abantu abakhuluma futhi abaziphatha ngayo ekhaya, e-canteen yasehhovisi, emshadweni. Ungalingisa izimfanelo zabo ezinhle. |
| Ukulingisa indima (ukulingisa ngokuzijwayeza) | Prakthiza lokho okufundile ngokulingisa isimo esingase senzeke. Cabanga ukuthi unengxoxo yomsebenzi ezayo. Prakthiza ukukhuluma phambi kwesibuko ekhaya. Noma cela umngane wakho omkhulu ukuba aziphathe njengomxoxi. Lokhu kunganciphisa ngempela ukwesaba nokucindezeleka kokubhekana nesimo. |
| Bona ngeso lengqondo | Uma kufanele uye endaweni ethile nabantu abaningi, noma uhlangane neqembu labantu endaweni entsha, kungakwenza uzizwe ungaphephile. Ukuze unqobe lokhu, cabanga ngesenzakalo kanye nengxoxo engase yenzeke lapho. Isibonelo, uma uya ephathini lasehhovisi, cabanga ngezihloko ezingajwayelekile ongakhuluma ngazo lapho bese uzijwayeza ukukhuluma ngazo engqondweni yakho izikhathi ezimbalwa. |
| Sebenzisa izimpendulo. | Izikhumbuzo ezincane zingakusiza ukuphatha izimpawu zakho ze-ADHD ezimweni zomphakathi. Ungazibhala phansi kumanothi anamathelayo. Noma, ungacela umngane omethembayo ukuthi akunike isignali encane uma uzizwa sengathi uyaphambuka endleleni. Ungasetha futhi izikhumbuzo efonini yakho noma usebenzise izinhlelo zokusebenza. |
Akudingeki ukuthi uhambe wedwa kulolu hambo.
Ukuthuthukisa la makhono kuthatha isikhathi. Njengoba wandisa umbuthano wakho wokuxhumana nabantu empilweni yakho nasemsebenzini, cela impendulo ewusizo kulabo abazimisele ukukusiza. Uma ngezinye izikhathi ukuthola kunzima ukwenza lezi zinto wedwa, akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuthola usizo.
Ungakhuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu. Angakunikeza isiqondiso osidingayo. Kungasiza futhi ukufuna usizo lomqeqeshi wempilo yobungcweti noma womsebenzi ongakusiza ukuthuthukisa la makhono.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Kuvamile ukuba nobunzima ngokuxhumana nabantu ngenxa ye-ADHD. Ungabi namahloni noma ube namahloni ngakho.
- Ngisho noma izimpawu zakho zilawulwa ngemithi oyinikezwe udokotela wakho, ukuqeqeshwa kubalulekile ukuze uthuthukise amakhono okuxhumana nabantu .
- Esikhundleni sokuzama ukuqonda konke ngesikhathi esisodwa, zibekele umgomo wokuthuthukisa ikhono elincane elilodwa ngesikhathi (isib. ukungaphazamisi abanye).
- Funa ukwesekwa kubangani nomndeni abazimisele ukukusiza kulolu hambo futhi abakuqondayo.
- Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu. Uma kudingeka, kungaba usizo kakhulu ukufuna usizo lomqeqeshi noma umeluleki ohlinzeka ngoqeqesho olukhethekile ngale njongo.
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