Mfaso a ɛyɛ nwonwa a ɛwɔ nsusuwii pa so! (Positive Thinking) Momma yɛnka eyi ho asɛm.

So wunim sɛnea nsusuwii a yɛwɔ wɔ yɛn adwene mu, kyerɛ sɛ, ɔkwan a yɛfa so susuw nneɛma ho no ka yɛn asetra nyinaa? Nsusuwii pa, adwempa ne nkate pa te sɛ aduru a eye sen biara ma yɛn nipadua ne yɛn adwene. Wɔsom bo paa ma yɛn nkwa, te sɛ ademude a ɛsom bo. Enti ɛnnɛ, momma yɛnka sɛnea saa nsusuwii pa ne nkate horow yi boa yɛn ankasa, ne sɛnea yebetumi de abɛn yɛn asetra na yɛayɛ yɛn ankasa de ho asɛm.

Ɔkwan bɛn so na nsusuwii ne nkate pa betumi aboa wo?

Yɛn nyinaa nim sɛ nsusuwii ne nkate pa ma yenya anigye ne asomdwoe. Ɛyɛ nokware. Sɛ yɛdwene biribi pa ho, yɛda dae fɛfɛ bi, anaa yɛne yɛn dɔfo bi kasa a, yɛn ani gye ara kwa. Nanso so wunim sɛ saa anigye no akyi no, saa nsusuwii pa yi nso wɔ mfaso a ɛyɛ nwonwa pii? Fa wɔn ho sɛ tumi akɛse wɔ yɛn adwene mu. Sɛ yɛde saa tumi yi di dwuma yiye a, yebetumi ayɛ nneɛma a ɛyɛ nwonwa wɔ yɛn asetra mu. Afei ma yɛnhwɛ sɛnea saa nsusuwii pa yi boa yɛn... Ɛte sɛ akyɛde a yenya.

• Ɛma wo nkae ne w’adwene tu mpɔn: Sɛ wowɔ nsusuwii pa wɔ w’adwene mu a, w’amemene yɛ adwuma te sɛ radio a wɔayɛ no yiye. Ɛnyɛ den sɛ wobɛkae nneɛma foforo na wubetumi ate nea woresua no ase ntɛm. Sɛ w’adwene mu da hɔ, te sɛ sum a ɛrepaapae a, wutumi hu ɔkwan no, na wokae nneɛma yiye. Ɛnyɛ den nso sɛ wode w’adwene besi biribi so. W’adwene ntaa nkyinkyin. Sɛ nhwɛso no, sɛ woretie adesua bi wɔ adesua mu a, sɛ wowɔ nsusuwii pa wɔ w’adwene mu a, wubetumi de w’adwene nyinaa ama saa adesua no. Afei ɛbɛkɔ fam yiye.

• Ɛboa wo ma wokae nsɛm pii prɛko pɛ: Te sɛ nea woma kɔmputa `RAM` kɔ soro no, w'adwene betumi akora nsɛm pii so na woasusuw ho bere koro mu. Sɛ nhwɛso no, sɛ woredi ɔhaw bi a emu yɛ den ho dwuma a, wubetumi ayɛ ho adwuma denam nokwasɛm ahorow pii a ɛfata a wobɛma atra w’adwenem prɛko pɛ no so. Fa no sɛ worebɔ chess. Ɛsɛ sɛ wode nneɛma pii tra w’adwenem prɛko pɛ, te sɛ pawn ahorow pii a wɔde tu, nea edi hɔ a nea wo ne no reko no de tu. Eyi nyɛ mmerɛw bere a w’adwene mu da hɔ no.

• Ɛbɛyɛ mmerɛw sɛ yɛbɛte abusuabɔ a ɛda nsusuwii ahorow ntam no ase: Sɛ yɛwɔ adwene pa a, yetumi hu abusuabɔ a ahintaw a ɛda nneɛma a ɛte sɛ nea ɛsono no ntam. Ɔkwan a yɛfa so hwɛ ɔhaw ahorow no trɛw. Ɛnyɛ den sɛ wubesusuw sɛ, ‘Ɔkwan bɛn so na eyi ne eyi wɔ abusuabɔ?’ Ɛte sɛ nea wode `ahodwiriwde` asinasin abom de ayɛ mfonini kɛse.

• Egye akokoduru na obi atumi agyina tebea horow a emu yɛ den ano:Ɛnyɛ bere nyinaa na asetra yɛ mpa a wɔde nhwiren ayɛ. Ɔhaw, akwanside, ne ɔhaw ba. Ɛtaa ba obiara so. Nanso obi a ɔwɔ nsusuwii pa wɔ ne komam no nya ahoɔden kɛse de gyina nsɛnnennen a ɛtete saa ano . Ɔnhwɛ ɔhaw ahorow mfi adwene a ɛne sɛ ‘Oh, aba awiei, mintumi nyɛ eyi’, na mmom ofi adwene a ɛne sɛ ‘Okay, mɛyɛ dɛn adi eyi ho dwuma? Dɛn na metumi ayɛ?’ Fa no sɛ wowɔ sukuu adwuma bi a ɛsɛ sɛ woyɛ, na ɛyɛ den kakra. Sɛ wowɔ nsusuwii te sɛ ‘Oh, mintumi nyɛ eyi, eyi yɛ den ankasa’ wɔ w’adwene mu a, ɛbɛyɛ den kɛse mpo ama wo. Wonte nka mpo sɛ wubefi adwuma no ase. Nanso, sɛ wususuw sɛ ‘Okay, eyi yɛ asɛnnennen kakra, nanso mɛbɔ mmɔden biara, sɛ mihia mmoa a, metumi abisa’ a, ɛnde wubenya ahoɔden kɛse de agyina saa adwuma no ano. Ɔhaw no ho suro so tew, na w’ani begye ho sɛ wubedi ho dwuma.

• Ebue wo kwan ma wunya hokwan foforo: Nsusuwii bɔne te sɛ nea wɔato apon mu. Sɛ yɛde nsusuwii te sɛ ‘Mintumi, mintumi, ɛrentumi nyɛ adwuma’ a, yɛhwere hokwan a yɛde bɛsɔ nneɛma foforo ahwɛ na yɛagye hokwan foforo. Nanso sɛ wususuw nneɛma pa ho a, w’adwene bue ma nneɛma foforo ne nsusuwii foforo . ‘Oo, wo nso wubetumi asɔ eyi ahwɛ!’ ‘Dɛn nti na ɛnte saa, mɛsɔ ahwɛ’ na nneɛma foforo fi ase puei. Ɛte sɛ nea wubue mfɛnsere na woma hann ne mframa pa kɔ mu.

• Ɛboa wo ma wusua na wunya w’ahokokwaw: Sɛ wo ho ye a, anigye ne ɔpɛ a wowɔ sɛ wubesua biribi foforo no yɛ kɛse. Wote nka sɛ ɛkanyan wo ma wode nkakrankakra tu mpɔn wɔ w'ahokokwaw mu . Wote nka sɛ wopɛ sɛ woyɛ adwuma a wonte nka sɛ ɛfono wo anaasɛ wompɛ. Wote nka sɛ ‘sɛ misua eyi a, anka ɛbɛyɛ yiye.’

• Ɛbue kwan ma wo yɛ yiye wɔ adwuma ne sɔhwɛ mu: Esiane eyinom nyinaa nti, hokwan a ɛwɔ hɔ sɛ wubenya nneɛma pa afi adwuma a woyɛ, nneɛma a wusua, ne sɔhwɛ ahorow mu no kɔ soro . Efisɛ w’adwene ayɛ krado ama no. W’adwene mu da hɔ, wowɔ ahotoso, na wode nsiyɛ yɛ adwuma. Afei, hokwan a ɛwɔ hɔ sɛ wobenya nneɛma pa no yɛ kɛse.

Enti, yɛbɛyɛ dɛn atumi anya adwempa kɛse?

Okay, seesei yɛnim mfasoɔ dodoɔ a ɛwɔ nsusuiɛ pa so. Wɔyɛ nhyira wɔ yɛn abrabɔ mu ampa. Afei asɛmmisa a edi hɔ a ɛho hia paa ne sɛ, ‘Mɛyɛ dɛn de nsusuwii pa yi abɛn m’asetra? Mɛyɛ dɛn atumi anya adwempa kakra ?’ Eyi te sɛ su pa bi a ɛsɛ sɛ wonya nkakrankakra. Ɛyɛ den sɛ wobɛsesa da koro pɛ. Nanso sɛ wobɔ mmɔden a, ɛnyɛ nea entumi nyɛ yiye. Titiriw sɛ wosuro, wo werɛ ahow, wo bo afuw, w’abam abu, woayɛ basaa dedaw a.Sɛ wo ne nkate bɔne di aperepere pii a, ɛfata sɛ wunya saa su yi. Ɛyɛ ade a ɛfata sɛ ɛtɔ mmere bi a obiara benya nsusuwii bɔne ne nkate bɔne. Yɛyɛ nnipa. Nanso nea ɛho hia ne sɛ wobɛbɔ mmɔden ahu nneɛma afã a ɛyɛ anigye sɛnea wubetumi biara. Ɛte sɛ nea wosɔ kyɛnere ketewaa bi wɔ dan a emu yɛ sum mu na ɛde hann ba. Akwan a ɛnyɛ den a wubetumi afa so asɔ ahwɛ ni. Sɛ wode eyinom di dwuma a, wubehu nsonsonoe kɛse wɔ wo nkate mu.

• Hu nkate pa a wote nka da mũ no nyinaa na bɔ din: Hwɛ nkate pa a wote nka da mũ no nyinaa no yiye . Eyi te sɛ nea worehwehwɛ ‘nhwiren a ɛyɛ anigye’ wɔ w’adwene mu. Ɛtɔ da a, yɛn ani gye, nanso yɛmfa yɛn adwene nsi wɔn so pii. Nanso anigye nneɛma nketenkete yi na ɛma da no yɛ fɛ. Sɛ wote sɛ anomaa fɛfɛ bi reto dwom anɔpa, wodi aduane a ɛyɛ dɛ a wo maame asiesie, wo ne w’adamfo bi serew na wobɔ nkɔmmɔ... saa nneɛma yi nyinaa de atenka pa brɛ wo. Hu wɔn, ka kyerɛ wo ho sɛ, ‘Oh, eyi ma m’ani gye’. Wubetumi nso akyerɛw ato din a wɔahyehyɛ so. Afei wobɛte mmere ne nneɛma a wote nka sɛ w’ani gye no ase. Sɛ nhwɛso no, ebia wobɛte ahomaso nka bere a wubua asɛmmisa bi yiye wɔ adesua mu, ebia w’ani begye bere a wo kraman anaa ɔkraman ba yɛ biribi a ɛyɛ serew, anaasɛ wobɛte nka sɛ wɔdɔ wo bere a wo maame anaa wo papa ba bɛhwɛ w’agumadi agoru no. Ebia eyinom bɛyɛ te sɛ nneɛma nketenkete, nanso ɛno na ɛma yɛn ani gye.

• Da biara awiei no, anyɛ yiye koraa no, hwehwɛ nneɛma pa abiɛsa a ɛtoo wo: Eyi yɛ su a ɛho hia paa. Ansa na wobɛda da no awiei no, susuw ho kakra sɛ, ‘Nneɛma pa bɛn na ɛtoo me nnɛ?’ Bɔ mmɔden sɛ anyɛ yiye koraa no wubenya nneɛma pa abiɛsa . Sɛ wokyerɛw eyi wɔ da biara da nsɛm mu a, eye mpo. Nneɛma nketenkete mpo te sɛ ‘Misuaa biribi foforo nnɛ’, ‘Meboaa obi nnɛ’, ‘Meserewee yiye nnɛ’ no mfa ho. Nea ɛho hia ne sɛ wobɛtete w’amemene ma ahu da no fã pa. Bere kɔ so no, wubefi ase ahu nneɛma pa nkutoo. Ɛte sɛ nea wode ahwehwɛ bɛhyɛ na woahu ade yiye. Ɛnyɛ sɛ saa su yi bɛma w’anigye ayɛ kɛse nko, na mmom ɛbɛma ayɛ mmerɛw ama wo sɛ wobɛda nso.

• Paw atenka pa na hyɛ mu den: Fa no sɛ worepaw ahotoso nka . Dɛn na ɛboa wo ma wunya ahotoso? Ebia ɛyɛ ahosiesie pa, biribi foforo a wubesua, obi a wobɛboa. Wobɛyɛ dɛn atumi anya saa atenka no pii? Ebia ansa na sɔhwɛ bi bɛba no, woka kyerɛ wo ho sɛ, "Metumi ayɛ eyi! Misiesiee me ho yiye maa eyi!" (Pep Ɔkasa)Ebia. Anaasɛ, wubetumi abɔ mmɔden sɛ wobɛgyina hɔ tẽẽ na wode ahotoso anantew sukuu no kwan no so, asusuw sɛ, "Me ho yɛ den, metumi ayɛ." Nkate pa te sɛ ntini , ɛsɛ sɛ wode di dwuma, teɛteɛ w’apɔw mu. Wubetumi de ɔkwan a wofa so hwɛ nneɛma, nneɛma a woyɛ so ahyɛ saa nkate horow yi mu den.

• Da Anisɔ: Bɔ mmɔden sɛ wode anisɔ sua da biara da. Eyi kyerɛ sɛ wubesusuw nneɛma a wowɔ a ɛyɛ nea ɛho hia ara kwa no ho na w’ani agye. Sɛ́ wobɛda ase no kyerɛ sɛ wubesusuw ho sɛ, ‘Hwɛ sɛnea ɛyɛ kɛse sɛ mewɔ saa nneɛma yi.’ Ɛtɔ da bi a, nneɛma a yenni nkutoo na yedwen ho. Yɛte awerɛhow nka sɛ, ‘Oo, minni eyi, minni eyi.’ Nanso sɛ yesusuw nneɛma a yɛwɔ no ho nso ɛ? Wowɔ abusua a wɔdɔ wo, wowɔ akyerɛkyerɛfo a wɔkyerɛkyerɛ wo, wowɔ nnamfo a wo ne wɔn di agoru, wowɔ mpa a wobɛda so, aduan ne ntade, nsu pa, intanɛt mpo. Sɛ wususuw sɛ ɛnyɛ obiara na ɔwɔ saa nneɛma yi a, wuhu sɛnea w’ani agye. Sɛ biribi pa to wo, sɛ ɛyɛ ade ketewa anaa ade kɛse a, gye bere kakra susuw ho na w’ani nnye. Ebia woasɔre anɔpa na woasusuw sɛ, ‘Meda wo ase sɛ woama matra ase nnɛ.’ Ɛma wunya adwene mu asomdwoe kɛse.

• Boaboa nneɛma a ɛkae wo osuahu pa ano: Wubetumi ayɛ ‘Positivity Box’ anaa fael. Fa wo mmere pa ho mfonini, nkrataa a wunya fii nnipa titiriw hɔ, nnwom a w’ani gye ho mu nsɛm, akyɛde nketewa a wo nsa kaa, adansedi nkrataa a ɛkyerɛ sɛ woatumi ayɛ, ne nea ɛkeka ho gu mu Ɛtɔ mmere bi a, bere a ɛyɛ den ma wo sɛ wubesi w’adwene, bere a w’ani nnye, bere a wohaw wo ho, bere a wubue adaka yi mu no, saa nkae no de wo bɛsan akɔ beae a anigye wɔ. Saa anigye nkae dedaw no de anidaso foforo ne ahoɔden foforo bɛba wo koma mu. Ɛte sɛ ‘ Mmoa a Edi Kan ’ ma koma no.

Enti, dɛn ne ade a ɛho hia sen biara a yesuae nnɛ? (Nkrasɛm a Wɔde Kɔ Fie)

Sɛ yɛbɛka no tiawa a, nsusuwii ne nkate pa yɛ nneɛma akɛse a yebetumi anya wɔ yɛn asetra mu no mu biako. Ɛnyɛ sɛ ɛma yɛn ani gye nko, na mmom ɛma yɛn nkae, adwene, ɔhaw ahorow ano aduru, ɔpɛ a yɛwɔ sɛ yebesua nneɛma foforo , na ɛso ba mfaso ma yɛn nipadua akwahosan nso.

Fa yɛ wo su sɛ wobɛda ayamye adi. Ɛte sɛ nea wogugu afifide bi so nsu na wohwɛ no da biara da na ama anyin. Nea efi mu ba no ba nkakrankakra, nanso ɛfata. Ɛbɛma w’asetra nyinaa ayɛ fɛ.

Enti, wo da no muMma wo werɛ mmfi sɛ wobɛma baabi ama anigye, anigye, adamfofa, ahomegye, ayamye, ne anisɔ. Fi ase ketewaa bi. Mmɔ mmɔden sɛ wobɛyɛ nsakrae kɛse prɛko pɛ, nkakrankakra fa saa suban pa yi ka w’asetra ho. Wobɛtumi! Fa tumi kɛse yi di dwuma wɔ w’adwene mu na fa w’asetra kɔ beae a ɛyɛ fɛ, anigye, na edi yiye. Kae sɛ anigye a ɛwɔ wo komam no wɔ wo mu!

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