Ðe dɔmenyonyo xɔa ame me nyateƒea? (Positive Psychology) Mina míaƒo nu tso esia ŋu!

Èkpɔ ame aɖe si kpe ɖe ame bubu ŋu evɔ mèkpɔ mɔ be yeatsɔ naneke aɖo eteƒe nɛ o kpɔa? Ðewohĩ enye nuɖuɖu nana aƒemanɔsitɔ aɖe le ablɔdzi, alo kpekpeɖeŋu nana ame tsitsi aɖe be wòatso mɔa. Le ɣeyiɣi ma me la, ɖe nèse dzidzɔ wɔnuku aɖe, vividoɖeameŋu aɖe le wò dzi mea? Abe seselelãme nyui aɖe si tso wò akɔta ƒe gogloƒe ene... Menye wò ɖeɖeko o, ame geɖewo hã to nuteƒekpɔkpɔ mawo tɔgbe me kpɔ. Seselelãme aɖe koe esia nyea, alo ɖe wònye nane si de to wua? Míele nu ƒom tso seselelãme wɔnuku sia ŋu egbea.

Ðe ŋkɔ aɖe li na seselelãme wɔnuku sia?

Ẽ, ŋkɔ aɖe li na esia. Le susuŋutinunya me la, woyɔnɛ be ‘Elevation’ . Kpuie ko la, enye bubume alo amegãnyenye ƒe seselelãme. Ame gbãtɔ si ƒo nu tso nukpɔsusu sia ŋu tsitotsitoe nye susuŋutinunyala aɖe si ŋkɔe nye Ðɔkta Jonathan Haidt. Esia va susu me nɛ zi gbãtɔ esi wòse Nelson Mandela si tso South Africa ƒe nuƒo esi woɖe asi le eŋu le gaxɔ me le ƒe geɖe megbe. Bu eŋu kpɔ, egblɔ be le esi teƒe be yelé fu amesiwo de ye gaxɔ me le eƒe agbemeŋkekewo katã me la, yetsɔe ke wo katã eye yetsi tre ɖekae abe dukɔ ene. Le ɣeyiɣi ma me la, woyɔ seselelãme sia si Jonathan Haidt se le eɖokui me be ‘Elevation’. Ese le eɖokui me abe ɖe yeƒe ŋutilã le ʋuʋum ene, abe dzoxɔxɔ ƒe seselelãme wɔnuku aɖe le dodom le eƒe akɔta ene. Ekpɔe be menye seselelãme dzro aɖe koe esia nye o, esia nye nusi ŋu wòle be woasrɔ̃ le dzɔdzɔmeŋutinunya me.

Nukae Nye Susuŋutinunya Nyui?

‘Kɔkɔe’ ƒe nukpɔsusua nye susuŋutinunya ƒe alɔdze yeye aɖe si woyɔna be Susuŋutinunya Nyui . Fifia ɖewohĩ ànɔ ɖokuiwò biam be, "Nukae nye susuŋutinunya nyui?" Kpuie ko la, susuŋutinunya ku ɖe amewo ƒe tagbɔdɔlélewo, kuxiwo, kple gbɔdzɔgbɔdzɔwo ŋu (e.g., blanuiléle , dzimaɖitsitsi , nuveviwɔame). Eyae nye nusi gblẽ le ame ŋu. Gake susuŋutinunya nyui wɔa nusi to vovo na ema. Eyae nye be eléa ŋku ɖe nusi nyo kple nusi sesẽ le amewo me ŋu . Le kpɔɖeŋu me, esrɔ̃a nu tso nuwo abe dzidzɔkpɔkpɔ, dɔmenyonyo, tsɔtsɔke, mɔkpɔkpɔ nyui, kple gɔmesese si le agbe ŋu ene ŋu. Esia mele gbɔgblɔm be mesɔ be woalé ŋku ɖe tagbɔdɔlélewo ŋu o . Gake ema ɖeɖe mesɔ gbɔ o. Abe gaku la ƒe akpa kemɛ ene la, egblɔ hã be ele be míanya nusi nana ame ƒe susu nɔa lãmesẽ me eye wòkpɔa dzidzɔ. Susuŋutinunyala bubu si ŋkɔe nye Christopher Peterson bia be, “ Nuteɖeamedzi. ”"Eye ne míenya nu geɖe tso nuveviwɔame ŋu la, nukatae míenya nu geɖe tso nusiwo nana agbea ɖea vi ŋu o?" Nyabiase si dea ŋugble ŋutɔŋutɔe nye ema, alo?

Ðe woate ŋu aɖo kpe ‘kɔkɔ’ ƒe seselelãme dzi le dzɔdzɔmeŋutinunya mea?

Ðɔkta Haidt wɔ numekuku geɖe tso ‘Kɔkɔƒe’ ƒe seselelãme sia ŋu. Le numekuku aɖe me la, ebia tso yunivɛsiti sukuviwo si be woaŋlɔ nu tso ɣeyiɣi aɖe si me wokpɔ nɔnɔme nyui aɖe le ame ŋu. Be woatsɔe asɔ kple wo nɔewo la, wobia tso ƒuƒoƒo bubu si be woaŋlɔ nu tso dzidzɔ si wokpɔna le goawo katã me le taɖodzinu aɖe gbɔ ɖoɖo vɔ megbe ŋu. Le numekuku bubu me la, eɖe aɖabaƒoƒo 10 ƒe videowo fia ƒuƒoƒo etɔ̃. 1. Ƒuƒoƒo 1: Dada Teresa ƒe agbemeŋutinya (video si nana ame ƒe kɔkɔme doa ŋusẽ ame). 2. Ƒuƒoƒo 2: Nukokoedonamela ƒe video (video si doa ŋusẽ ame). 3. Ƒuƒoƒo 3: Nyadzɔdzɔwo ƒe ɖoɖo si wowɔna edziedzi. Numekuku eveawo siaa me tsonu wɔ nuku ŋutɔ. Ame siwo to ‘Elevation’ me la ka nya ta tso nu vovovo siwo to vovo na amesiwo kpɔ dzidzɔ si sɔ gbɔ. Gake kuxiwo le esia sɔsrɔ̃ me. Le kpɔɖeŋu me, togbɔ be seselelãmewo abe blanuiléle kple dzidzɔkpɔkpɔ ene ƒe mo ƒe dzedzeme tɔxɛwo le wo si hã la, dzedzeme si me kɔ alea meli na ‘Kɔkɔme’ o. Gake dzɔdzɔmeŋutinunyalawo xɔe se be seselelãme sia ʋãa míaƒe ŋutilã ƒe ‘Vagus Nerve’ . Lãmetsi sia kpɔa ŋusẽ ɖe míaƒe dzi ƒe tsotso dzi. Eyata wosusuna be le etsɔme la, anya wɔ be woadzidze seselelãme sia to dzi ƒe tsotso dzidzedze me.

Aleke míewɔna fiaa sidzedze sia mía viwo?

Enyo, esia katã nyo. Gake aleke mí dzilawo míetsɔa sidzedze sia dea mía viwo ƒe agbenɔnɔ me? Esiae nye nu vevitɔ kekeake. 1. Ƒo nu tso nu nyuiwo ŋu: Ele vevie ŋutɔ be nàƒo nu tso nɔnɔme nyuiwo kple ame ŋkutawo ŋu na ɖeviwo. Kalẽtɔ siwo tso ŋutinya me kple ame nyui siwo tso mawusubɔsubɔ ŋutinyawo me ŋutinyawo gbɔgblɔ nana nu nyuiwo didi ƒe didi dea ɖeviwo me. 2. Wò ŋutɔ nye kpɔɖeŋu: Le esi teƒe be nàɖe gbeƒã na ɖeviwo be "woanyo, nanyo dɔme" la, eɖea vi zi gbɔ zi akpe ɖeka be míaɖee afia wo to mía ŋutɔwo ƒe nu mawo wɔwɔ me . Ne míekpɔ ame bubuwo nyoa dɔme la, ɖeviwo srɔ̃a nu ma ke le wo ɖokui si. 3. Suku ƒe ɖoɖowo: Le Amerika la, suku ƒe ɖoɖo aɖe li si woyɔna be "Kindness Is Contagious: Catch It." Nuwɔna nyui eve aɖewo li siwo wowɔna le eme.

• Dɔ si wowɔna le aŋetu eve me: Na aŋetu eve ɖeviawo. Ele be woatsɔ gbe aɖe ade aŋetu ɖeka me na ɣesiaɣi si ame aɖe wɔ nu gbegblẽ (si wodo vloe alo wɔ nuvevi wo) ɖe wo ŋu. Le aŋetu kemɛa me la, ele be woatsɔ gbe aɖe ade eme na ɣesiaɣi si ame aɖe wɔ nu nyui aɖe (put-up) na wo. Le ɣletia ƒe nuwuwu la, ne ɖeviawo lé ŋku ɖe aŋetu eveawo ŋu la, woate ŋu akpɔe le wo ɖokui si nenye be nu nyui alo nu gbegblẽ geɖe wu le dzɔdzɔm le klass la me. Taɖodzinuae nye be woatsɔ nu gbegblẽawo akɔ aŋetu la me eye woatsɔ nu nyuiawo ayɔ aŋetu la me.

• "Pass It On" dɔwɔna: Nufiala la lala ɖevi aɖe le klass me be wòawɔ nu nyui alo dɔmenyonyo aɖe. Ne nufiala la kpɔ ɖevi aɖe wòle nu nyui aɖe wɔm la, nufiala la naa nu ɖevia (e.g., akɔɖu dzĩ) eye wògblɔna be, "Ènye ɖasefo fifia. Ne èkpɔ ɖevi bubu wòwɔ nu nyui aɖe la, na akɔɖu siae ." Esia fiaa ɖevia be wòawɔ nu nyuiwo eye wòakpɔ nu nyuiwo le ame bubuwo ŋu.

Ne ètsi dzi ɖe viwòa ƒe nuwɔna alo susu ƒe lãmesẽ ŋu la, ele vevie ŋutɔ be nàƒo nu tso eŋu na wò ɖɔkta alo susuŋutinunyala bibi aɖe. Dɔmenyonyo, Susuŋutinunya Nyui, Dɔmenyonyo, Susu ƒe Lãmesẽ, Dzilanyenye, Seselelãme, Dɔmetɔtrɔ, Susuŋutinunya Nyui, Dɔmenyonyo, Susu ƒe Lãmesẽ, Dzilanyenye