Ke hana kolohe nei kāu keiki liʻiliʻi? (Temper Tantrum) E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēia.

I kekahi manawa, huhū koke paha kāu keiki liʻiliʻi i loko o ka hale kūʻai a i ʻole ma ka home, a uē nui. Hiki iā lākou ke hana ma waho o ke kaohi me ka hoʻolohe ʻole i kāu ʻōlelo. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine, hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo he kōkua ʻole, hilahila, a huhū paha i nā manawa e like me kēia. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo kēia ka mea a mākou e kapa nei he 'Temper Tantrum' ma nā ʻōlelo lapaʻau. ʻOiai he ʻeha ke ʻike i kēia, he ʻāpana maʻamau ia o ka ulu ʻana o nā keiki ʻōpio.

He aha maoli ke ʻano o ka 'Temper Tantrum'?

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo ka `Temper Tantrum` kahi ala no kāu keiki e hoʻokuʻu ai i ko lākou huhū, huhū, a i ʻole nā ​​manaʻo ke hiki ʻole iā lākou ke loaʻa kahi mea a lākou e makemake ai. ʻAʻole hiki i nā keiki ʻōpio, ʻoiai ka poʻe ma lalo o 4 makahiki, ke wehewehe maoli i ko lākou mau manaʻo me nā huaʻōlelo e like me kā mākou. No laila, penei lākou e hōʻike ai i ko lākou huhū a me ke kōkua ʻole.

E noʻonoʻo, ʻoiai makemake lākou e hana i kekahi mea ma o lākou iho, ʻaʻohe o lākou mākaukau e pono ai. Hoʻonāukiuki nui kēia iā lākou. He ʻāpana maʻamau kēia o ko lākou ulu ʻana. I ka wā e ulu ai ke keiki a aʻo e hōʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo ma nā huaʻōlelo, e emi nui ana kēia kūlana. No laila, ʻo ka mea mua āu e pono ai e hoʻomaopopo, ʻaʻole kēia he mea a kāu keiki e hana nei no ka mea he maikaʻi ʻole ʻo ia , he ʻāpana ia o kona ulu ʻana.

Pehea ʻoe e hoʻokaʻawale ai ma waena o nā kūlana 'maʻamau' a me nā kūlana 'ʻano ʻē'?

He nui nā mākua e noʻonoʻo nei inā he mea maʻamau kēia ʻano no kā lākou keiki, a inā paha e kamaʻilio lākou me ke kauka e pili ana i ia mea. ʻO ka maʻamau, hiki i ke keiki ke hana i kēia ʻano ke luhi lākou, pōloli, a i ʻole i nā ʻāpana o kā lākou hana maʻamau, e like me ka wā hiamoe a i ʻole ka ʻai ʻana.

Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau hōʻailona hōʻike e pono ai mākou e makaʻala.

He aha paha ke kumu o kēia?

Hiki ke loaʻa nā kumu maʻamau a me nā kumu lapaʻau no ka 'Temper Tantrum'.

Nā mea hoʻoulu maʻamau

• Pololi, luhi , a maʻi paha.
• Ka huhū ma muli o ka hiki ʻole ke hoʻopau i kahi hana.
• Ka nele o nā huaʻōlelo e hōʻike ai i nā manaʻo o ke kanaka.
• E kiʻi i kou manaʻo a i ʻole e kiʻi i kahi mea e like me kahi mea pāʻani punahele.
• Ke neʻe nei mai kekahi mea a i kekahi mea (e.g., e hele ana i ka lua ma hope o ka pāʻani ʻana).

Nā kumu e ʻimi ai i ke kōkua lapaʻau

I kekahi manawa aia paha kahi maʻi ma hope o kēia ʻano.

• Ka maʻi hyperactivity hemahema o ka nānā ʻana (ADHD)
• Hopohopo
• Ka pilikia o ke aʻo ʻana
• Nā pilikia hana sensory
• ʻAutism

Eia kekahi, ʻo nā maʻi ʻano e like me ka Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) a me ka Conduct Disorder (CD) hiki ke hoʻonāukiuki i nā keiki, hoʻopaʻapaʻa, a lokoino i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Inā he mau hopohopo kou e pili ana i ke ʻano o kāu keiki, e kamaʻilio me kāu kauka.E kuhikuhi ʻo ia iā ʻoe i kahi kauka lapaʻau a i ʻole psychologist inā pono.

Pehea e pale aku ai i ka huhū huhū?

ʻOiai ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke pale aku i kēlā me kēia huhū, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻāʻo e hōʻemi iā lākou.

• E hoʻolālā mua: Mai hoʻolilo iā ia i mea hana luhi, e like me ka hele ʻana i ka hale kūʻai, no ka wā e pōloli ai kāu keiki a luhi paha. E lawe i kahi meaʻai māmā a mea pāʻani paha me ʻoe ma nā wahi āpau āu e hele ai.
• E mālama i kahi hana maʻamau: E hoʻonohonoho i kahi manawa mau no nā mea e like me ka ʻai ʻana, ka hiamoe ʻana, a me ka ʻauʻau ʻana. ʻOi aku ka mālie o nā keiki ke ʻike lākou i ka mea e hiki mai ana.
• E hāʻawi i nā koho: E ʻae i kāu keiki e hana i nā hoʻoholo liʻiliʻi i nā manawa hiki. Ke nīnau ʻia kekahi mea e like me, "Makemake ʻoe e ʻaʻahu i ka pālule ʻulaʻula a i ʻole ka pālule polū?", manaʻo kāu keiki ua manaʻo ʻo ia.
• E hoʻomaikaʻi i ke ʻano maikaʻi: E hopu i ka manawa e hana maikaʻi ana kāu keiki a hoʻomaikaʻi iā lākou. E ʻōlelo, "Ua akahele loa ʻoe i ka ʻaina awakea i kēia lā." Ma kahi o ka hāʻawi ʻana iā lākou i nā mea ma ke ʻano he makana, e hana i nā mea e like me ka ʻae ʻana iā lākou e hoʻolilo i ka manawa hou aku me ʻoe a i ʻole e ʻae iā lākou e nānā i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni a lākou e makemake ai.

Pehea ʻoe e kāohi ai i ka huhū?

Ke hoʻomaka ka huhū, pono kāu keiki i kāu kōkua e kaohi iā ia.

• E noho mālie: Inā ʻoe e hoʻōho a huhū paha, e ʻoi aku ka ʻino o ke kūlana. E hanu hohonu a mālie.
• Hoʻohuli: E hāʻawi koke iā ia i kahi mea pāʻani ʻokoʻa. A i ʻole e hōʻike iā ia i kahi manu āu e ʻike ai ma ka puka makani.
• E ʻapo i kāu keiki me ke aloha: Inā e hakakā ana kāu keiki, e hakakā ana, a i ʻole e hōʻeha iā ia iho a i ʻole kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe, e ʻapo pono iā ia me ke aloha a hiki i ko lākou mālie ʻana.
• E hoʻowahāwahā i ke ʻano: Inā aia ke keiki ma kahi palekana a ʻaʻole i hōʻeha ʻia, i kekahi manawa hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻowahāwahā i kā lākou ʻano. E kōkua kēia i ke keiki e aʻo ʻaʻole kōkua kēia ʻano. Eia nō naʻe, he mea nui e mālama i ke keiki i loko o ka ʻike .
• E wehewehe i nā lula ma hope: ʻAʻole kōkua ke aʻo ʻana i kāu keiki ke huhū ʻo ia. Ke mālie ʻo ia, e kamaʻilio me ia me ke aloha e pili ana i ka mea kūpono.

Āhea ʻoe e ʻimi ai i ke aʻo lapaʻau?

Inā manaʻo ʻoe ua ʻoi aku ke ʻano o kāu keiki ma mua o nā pae hoʻomohala maʻamau, mai kānalua e ʻimi i ke aʻo lapaʻau. Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kekahi o kēia mau hōʻailona, ​​e ʻike pono i kāu kauka .

• Inā hōʻeha ke keiki iā ia iho (nā ʻōpala, nā palapū, nā nahu).
• Inā e hoʻouka ʻia ana ʻoe a i ʻole nā ​​mākua ʻē aʻe.
• Inā hoʻouna ʻia kāu keiki i ka home mai ke kula a i ʻole ke kula kamaliʻi ma muli o kā lākou ʻano.
• Inā makaʻu ʻoe no ka palekana o haʻi a puni ke keiki.
• Inā manaʻo ʻoe he kōkua ʻole ʻoe ma muli o kēia mau ʻano, manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kaohi i kāu keiki.