Ua mākaukau ʻoe no ka lā nui? Penei ke ʻano e lilo ai i kākoʻo maikaʻi loa i ka wā hānau o kāu wahine (Supportive Birth Partner)

ʻAʻohe mea ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī ma mua o ka nānā ʻana i kāu wahine aloha e hakakā nei i ka ʻeha o ka hānau ʻana, e lawe mai ana i kāu keiki i ke ao nei. "Auē kuʻu Akua, inā hiki iaʻu ke hana i kahi mea e hōʻoluʻolu ai i kēia ʻeha ..." Ua noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe i hoʻokahi tausani manawa. ʻAʻole kēia kou manaʻo wale nō, akā ke manaʻo nei nā kāne a pau o ka honua i kēia manawa. Akā, ma kahi o ka nānā ʻana me ke kōkua ʻole, he nui nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e kākoʻo iā ia a e maʻalahi ai kēia huakaʻi. E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i kēlā i kēia lā.

E lilo i "Aloha", ʻaʻole i "Kumu Hoʻomaʻamaʻa".

Manaʻo pinepine mākou i ke kuleana o ke kāne i ka wā hānau keiki ma ke ʻano he "kumu aʻo." E like me ke kumu aʻo haʻuki e hāʻawi ana i nā ʻōlelo aʻo e like me, "ʻAe, e hanu hou... e hoʻoikaika iki!" Akā, ʻaʻole he haʻuki maoli ka hānau keiki ʻana. ʻAʻole pono kāu wahine i kahi kumu aʻo i kēlā manawa, pono ʻo ia i kāna kāne aloha, kāna hoaaloha maikaʻi loa, e noho ma kona ʻaoʻao.

E noʻonoʻo, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i kahi ʻeha liʻiliʻi o ka menstruation, pehea lā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo maoli ai i nā manaʻo o kekahi e ʻeha nui loa ana ma ka honua? He mea paʻakikī loa ia. No laila, ʻoi aku ka nui o ke kākoʻo ʻana iā lākou ma mua o ke aʻo ʻana iā lākou.

5 mau ala e kākoʻo ai i kāu wahine i ka wā hānau keiki

ʻAe, e nānā kākou i kāu mea hiki ke hana i kēia manawa koʻikoʻi.

1. E mākaukau

He mea maʻamau ka makaʻu a me ke kōkua ʻole ke kū nei ʻoe i kahi mea e like me kēia no ka manawa mua. Akā inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻike maikaʻi o ke kaʻina hana hānau a me nā mea e hana ʻia ana i ia manawa, e emi nui ana kou makaʻu.

ʻO ia hoʻi, he mea nui loa ke hele ʻana i nā papa hānau keiki a heluhelu i nā puke e pili ana i ia mea i ka wā hāpai. Aia nā puke i kākau kūikawā ʻia no nā makuakāne. Eia kekahi, e kamaʻilio me kāu wahine e pili ana i kēia. E kūkākūkā i nā mea ma mua, e like me kāna mea e manaʻo ai, pehea kona manaʻo e pili ana i ka hoʻokele ʻeha , a pēlā aku.

E nīnau i kāu kauka i ka mea e hana ʻia inā pono ʻoe e hana i kahi ʻoki cesarean ulia pōpilikia a i ʻole inā he pilikia ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka ʻike ʻana i nā mea e like me "He aha koʻu kuleana i ia kūlana? E noi ʻia anei au e haʻalele?" hiki ke kōkua i ka pale ʻana i ka hopohopo pono ʻole.

2. Hāʻawi i nā Hana Hōʻoluʻolu

Ke manaʻo ʻoe he mea pono kāu e hana ai, nalo aku kou manaʻo kōkua ʻole. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi iā ia i ka wai, hāʻawi iā ia i kahi meaʻai iki inā makemake ʻo ia, hoʻokani i kekahi mele, lomilomi iā ia, a kōkua paha iā ia e neʻe i kahi kūlana ʻē aʻe. ʻO ke kōkua ʻana iā ia e ʻauʻau wela e kōkua pinepine i ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻana i ka ʻeha. ʻO nā mea liʻiliʻi e like me kēia e hoʻoikaika loa iā ia.

3. Mai ho'āʻo e hoʻoponopono

ʻO kēia ka pilikia i loaʻa i ka hapa nui o nā kāne. ʻO kēia ka mea a mākou e kapa nei ʻo "ka mea kāne." Hoʻāʻo mākou e kāohi i nā mea āpau, e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia. Ke ʻeha ka mea a mākou e aloha ai, he mea maʻamau ka makemake e "hoʻoponopono" iā ia.

4. E lilo i mea kākoʻo nona

ʻOiai paha ʻaʻole ʻoe e maopopo i ke ʻeha o ka hānau keiki ʻana, ʻoi aku kou ʻike i kāu wahine ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe o ka lumi. No laila, i ka wā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke ʻōlelo nona iho, pono ʻoe e lilo i kona leo.

Eia kekahi laʻana, inā ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "Makemake wau e hoʻoikaika i kēia manawa," a ʻōlelo ke kahu maʻi, "ʻAʻole i hiki mai ka manawa," hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo me ka mahalo, "Kauka/Hui Maʻi, ke ʻōlelo nei kaʻu wahine makemake ʻo ia e hoʻoikaika." ​​Mai makaʻu e hele ma mua o nā lula o ka haukapila, e nīnau i nā nīnau, a e noi. I kekahi manawa, hiki i kāu nānā hoʻokahi ke hoʻopakele i kona ola. Ua kāohi kekahi makuakāne i kāna wahine mai ka hāʻawi ʻana iā ia i kahi pana allergy i kona ʻike ʻana.

5. Mai lawe pilikino iā ia

E hoʻowahāwahā paha kāu wahine iā ʻoe ma muli o ka ʻeha, e hana me he mea lā ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e noho kokoke iā ʻoe, a ʻōlelo ʻino paha. Mai lawe i kekahi o ia mea pilikino. ʻAʻole ʻo ia, ʻo ka ʻeha ke kamaʻilio nei. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e huhū a haʻalele. ʻOiai ke aha, pono ʻo ia iā ʻoe. Malia paha ʻo ka mea wale nō āna e pono ai, ʻo ia kou paʻa ʻana i kona lima a kokoke iā ia me ka ʻōlelo ʻole ʻana i kekahi mea. ʻO kou alo mālie a aloha ka makana nui loa hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi.

ʻO wai ka "doula"?

ʻAʻole paha ʻoe i lohe i ka huaʻōlelo "doula." He huaʻōlelo Helene ia ʻo ia hoʻi "kōkua wahine." I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo ka doula kekahi kanaka i aʻo ʻia e hāʻawi i ke kākoʻo naʻau a me ke kino i ka makuahine i ka wā hānau. ʻAʻole lākou e hāʻawi i ka mālama olakino e like me nā kauka a i ʻole nā ​​​​kahu wahine, akā hāʻawi lākou i ke kākoʻo i ka makuahine a me kāna kāne ma ke kaʻina hānau holoʻokoʻa.

Ua hōʻike ʻia nā haʻawina ʻepekema i ka wā e loaʻa ai ke kākoʻo o kahi doula ,

• Ua pōkole ʻia ka manawa e hānau ai ma kahi o 25%.
• Ua hoʻemi ʻia ka nui o nā noi no nā mea e like me nā epidurals e hōʻemi i ka ʻeha ma 60%.
• Ua hoʻemi ʻia ka likelika o ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā ʻāpana caesarean e 50%.

ʻO kēia no ka mea ʻo ka makaʻu a me ka hopohopo o ka makuahine ke noho mehameha ʻo ia e hoʻonui i ka hana ʻana o nā hormones stress e like me ka epinephrine a me ka norepinephrine. Hiki i kēia mau hormones ke hoʻonāwaliwali a hoʻōki paha i nā ʻūlū ʻōpū. Akā i ka wā e loaʻa ai kekahi e kākoʻo i ka makuahine, ʻo ka hilinaʻi a me ka mālie āna e manaʻo ai e maʻalahi ai ka hānau ʻana.

He mea hōʻoluʻolu nui nō hoʻi ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi doula no ke kāne. No ka mea, ʻaʻole pono ke kāne e lilo i "Coach". ʻOiai ke kuhikuhi nei ka doula i nā ʻano hōʻoluʻolu e pono ai no ka makuahine, hiki i ke kāne ke paʻa i ka lima o kāna wahine aloha, hāʻawi iā ia i ke aloha, a kokoke iā ia. ʻOiai ʻaʻole i kaulana loa kēia manaʻo ma Sri Lanka, he mea maʻamau loa ia ma nā ʻāina ʻē.