E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i ka "Microaggression": Ka hana ʻino waha maalea

Ua ʻōlelo anei kekahi iā ʻoe, "ʻAuē, ʻaʻole ʻoe e like me kekahi mai ia wahi..."? A i ʻole ua lohe paha ʻoe i kekahi e ʻōlelo ana, "Nani loa ʻoe ʻoiai he ʻeleʻele ʻoe"? Ua ʻōlelo paha ʻoe, "Ke nānā aku nei ʻoe i ke keʻokeʻo" no ka mea ua ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo Pelekania. Ke lohe ʻoe i kēia mau mea, ʻakaʻaka paha ʻoe, akā, ʻaʻole anei ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu iki, ʻeha iki ma kahi o kou puʻuwai? ʻO ia nā mea a mākou e hana ai me ka ʻike ʻole, ka mea e hoʻoulu malū ai i ka huhū, ke kaumaha, a me ka palekana ʻole i loko o ka puʻuwai o ka mea e hoʻolohe mai ana iā mākou, a mākou e kapa nei he `(Microaggress ION )`.

He kumuhana paʻakikī maoli kēia. No ka mea, ʻo ka hapa nui o ka poʻe e hana ana i kēia mau mea, ʻaʻole lākou e manaʻo e hōʻeha i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Akā, hiki i ka pōʻino a lākou e hana ai ke nui loa. Wahi a ke polopeka psychology o ke Kulanui ʻo Columbia ʻo Darrell Wing Soo, "Ua paʻa iā mākou āpau me ka ʻike ʻole i kekahi mau manaʻo e pili ana i nā mea e like me ka lāhui, ke kāne, a me ka moekolohe. No laila, loaʻa iā mākou āpau ka hiki ke hana ma nā ʻano e hōʻeha ai i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a hoʻokae iā lākou."

He aha maoli ka microaggression?

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, he hoʻoluhi maalea kēia, ʻoiai ʻaʻole i manaʻo ʻia, e pili ana i ka lāhui, ka hoʻomana, ka papa, ke kāne, ke kīnā, a i ʻole kekahi hui liʻiliʻi a lākou e pili ai, ma o nā ʻōlelo, nā ʻano, a i ʻole ko mākou wahi e puni ana. ʻOiai ʻaʻole paha kēia e like me ka ʻike ʻia e like me nā hōʻino pololei, hoʻouna ia i ka leka i kekahi kanaka "ʻaʻole ʻoe e like me mākou, he ʻokoʻa ʻoe," "he haʻahaʻa ʻoe."

He mea maʻamau kēia a ua loaʻa paha iā ʻoe nā ʻike like. A ua hana paha ʻoe i kekahi mea e like me kēia me ka ʻike ʻole. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kēia mau laʻana.

He aha kāu e hana ai inā hiki mai kekahi mea e like me kēia iā ʻoe?

Ke hana ʻia kekahi mea e like me kēia, ua nui loa ka ʻeha, ka huhū, a me ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole e hiki mai ana i ka noʻonoʻo. I kēlā manawa , pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo mua e pili ana i kou olakino noʻonoʻo.

1. E hoʻomaopopo i kou mau manaʻo: He mea maikaʻi ke kaumaha a huhū paha. ʻAʻole nau ia hewa. Mai hūnā i kēlā mau manaʻo.

2. E kamaʻilio me nā poʻe hilinaʻi: E kamaʻilio me nā hoaaloha i ʻike i nā mea like me ʻoe. Ke manaʻo ʻoe "ʻO wau wale nō," hiki ke hōʻoluʻolu i ka ʻike ʻana e hele ana nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ka mea like. E ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi.

3. E pane koke (inā pono wale nō): I kekahi manawa, ʻo ka hoʻouna wale ʻana i ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia i ke kanaka hiki ke "hoʻopau" iā lākou a hoʻomaopopo iā lākou i ke ʻano o ka ʻeha.

• Inā ʻōlelo mai kekahi, "He Tamil ʻoe, akā maikaʻi kāu ʻōlelo Sinhala," hiki iā ʻoe ke minoʻaka a ʻōlelo, "He Sinhala nō hoʻi ʻoe, akā maikaʻi kāu ʻōlelo Sinhala." A laila e maopopo i kēlā kanaka ke ʻano ʻē o kēlā ʻōlelo.

4. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka pōʻaiapili: Inā ʻo ke kanaka āu e kamaʻilio nei he kanaka āu e aloha nei a ʻoluʻolu ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia mea, e kamaʻilio e pili ana ma hope. He mea paʻakikī paha ke ʻōlelo aku, "Ua kaumaha iki wau i kāu ʻōlelo ʻana i kēlā," akā e hōʻike ana ia i kou mau manaʻo.

5. ʻAʻole hewa ka noho mālie: Inā hoʻāʻo mākou e pane i nā mea āpau i nā manawa a pau, hiki iā ia ke hoʻonui i ko mākou kaumaha. No laila, ua maikaʻi inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e noho mālie i kēlā manawa no kou maluhia noʻonoʻo ponoʻī. ʻAʻole ia he nāwaliwali ma kou ʻaoʻao. Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ia mea ma hope a ʻōlelo hou aku inā pono.

He aha inā ʻike ʻoe i kekahi mea e like me kēia e hana ana i kekahi?

Inā ʻike ʻoe i kekahi e hoʻomāinoino ʻia ana ma kēia ʻano, e lilo i hoaaloha maikaʻi.

• Kākoʻo i ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia: E hele i ke kanaka a nīnau, "Ua maikaʻi ʻoe?" (Ua maikaʻi ʻoe?). He ala maikaʻi loa ia e haʻi aku ai i ke kanaka, "ʻAʻole pololei kā lākou ʻōlelo."
• Mai ʻōlelo no ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia, e kamaʻilio me lākou: Mai hoʻāʻo e ʻōlelo no ke kanaka ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "Pono kēia kanaka e noʻonoʻo nei i kēia ala." Hiki i kēlā ke lilo i ʻano ʻē aʻe o ka `( Microaggression )`. Akā, e ʻōlelo nou iho ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "Manaʻo wau ua hōʻeha ka mea āu i ʻōlelo ai i ko lākou mau manaʻo."

He aha inā hana ʻia kekahi mea e like me kēia me kou ʻike ʻole?

ʻO kēia ka mea paʻakikī loa e ʻae. Manaʻo ka hapa nui o kākou, "ʻAʻole loa au e hana i kēlā." Akā, ʻaʻole ia he ʻoiaʻiʻo. Ua hānai ʻia kākou a pau i loko o kahi kaiāulu kahi i hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia ai kākou e manaʻo ʻaʻole kākou i lawa ka maikaʻi. ʻAʻole ia e hoʻolilo iā ʻoe i kanaka maikaʻi ʻole no ka mea ua hana ʻoe i kekahi mea e like me ia. ʻO ia hoʻi, he ʻāpana ʻoe o kēlā kaiāulu.

Inā haʻi mai kekahi iā ʻoe, "Ua hōʻeha koʻu manaʻo i kāu ʻōlelo," mai pale koke iā ʻoe iho.

• Ma mua o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻoponopono iā ʻoe iho ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo pēlā," e hoʻomaha iki .
• E hoʻolohe. E ho'āʻo e hoʻomaopopo i ka manaʻo o ke kanaka.
• E kala mai. Ma kahi o ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "E kala mai iaʻu no kou manaʻo pēlā," e kala mai me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "E kala mai iaʻu no kaʻu ʻōlelo ʻana i hōʻeha ai i kou mau manaʻo. ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo pēlā. E akahele loa wau i kēlā i ka wā e hiki mai ana."
• Inā makemake ke kanaka e kamaʻilio, e nīnau iā lākou i ka mea e pono ai lākou e hana e pale aku ai i ka hana ʻana i nā hewa like i ka wā e hiki mai ana. He kaʻina hana aʻo kēia.

Hana hewa kākou a pau. ʻO ka mea nui, ʻo ia ke ʻae i ka hewa, e aʻo mai ia mea, a e hoʻāʻo e lilo i kanaka maikaʻi a mahalo. Inā makemake ʻoe e kamaʻilio hou aku e pili ana i kēia, hiki ke kōkua nui ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ke kākāʻōlelo olakino noʻonoʻo a i ʻole kāu kauka .