Bɔku pan wi gɛt di abit fɔ kɔndɛm wisɛf, fɔ blem wisɛf. Dis kin apin mɔ we wi de go tru prɔblɛm dɛn na wi layf ɛn we wi nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol di tin dɛn we wi de du ɛn tɔk. Dis dɔn bi wan kɔmɔn we fɔ tɔk to wisɛf. Yu tink se dis tan lɛk se yu sabi am? So lɛ wi tɔk bɔt am smɔl.
Wetin na dis bad we aw pipul dɛn de tink?
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, wan men prinsipul fɔ sayɛns na dat as mɔtalman, wi ɔl kin gi mɔ wet to di tin dɛn we nɔ kin apin na wi layf pas di gud tin dɛn we kin apin. Tink bɔt am, instead fɔ nayn gud ansa dɛn, yu kin gɛt wan bad ansa we kin stik na yu maynd. Bikɔs ɔf dis, di bad tin dɛn we kin apin na wi layf kin afɛkt wi lɛk 4 tɛm pas di gud tin dɛn.
Na tru se bad ɛkspiriɛns nid fɔ go bifo na layf ɛn lan frɔm mistek. Bɔt if yu de tink bɔt di bad tin dɛn we bin apin ɔltɛm ɛn tink bɔt dɛn filin dɛn de, dat kin rili ambɔg yu layf ɛn gladi at. Na dat wi de kɔl negatif tinkin.
So yu tink se ‘fɔ tink gud wan’ min fɔ jɔs smayl?
Atɔl. Fɔ tink gud wan nɔ min se wi nɔ fɔ pe atɛnshɔn to di bad ɛn tranga tin dɛn na layf. I min fɔ bia wit dɛn bad tin dɛn de wit bɛtɛ abit. I min se yu fɔ tray fɔ si ɔltin di we we go mek yu gɛt op instead fɔ si ɔltin di we we nɔ gɛt op. I tan lɛk se yu de tink se, "O, af glas wata stil de insay de," instead fɔ tink se di glas af ɛmti.
Fɔ rich dis pɔynt, yu fɔs nid fɔ pe atɛnshɔn gud wan to di we aw yu de tɔk to yusɛf, yu intanɛnt monolɔg. Yu kin tɔk to yusɛf fayn, ɔ yu kin tɔk to yusɛf bad we. Sɔntɛnde, di tin dɛn we yu kin tɔk to yusɛf kin tan lɛk se i rili mek sɛns, bɔt sɔntɛnde dɛn kin rili fil bad ɛn nɔ fayn.
If bɔku pan di tin dɛn we yu kin tɛl yusɛf na bad tin, yu go mɔs bi se yu nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ op. Yu kin bigin tink to yusɛf se, "O, a wish se a go ad smɔl mɔ gladi ɛn layt to mi layf."
Aw wi kin chenj dis abit?
Pan ɔl we i nɔ kin izi fɔ mek wi tɔn dis bad abit fɔ blem yusɛf to gud abit, i nɔ pɔsibul. Bɔt mɛmba se i kin tek tɛm ɛn praktis . Lɛ wi luk sɔm we dɛn we go ɛp yu fɔ mek dis chenj.
| Wetin fɔ du | Wetin kin apin to am? |
|---|---|
| Yu fɔ mɛmba di bad tin dɛn we yu de tink bɔt. | Tek smɔl tɛm fɔ notis ustɛm ɛn wetin bad tin dɛn kin apin to yu. Na bɔt yu wok? Rilayshɔnship dɛn? Fɔs, pik jɔs wan eria ɛn pe atɛnshɔn pan am. |
| Luk afta yusɛf insay di de. | Tek smɔl tɛm insay yu de wok fɔ stɔp ɛn si if gud ɔ bad tin dɛn de rɔn na yu maynd. If bad tin dɛn de rɔn na yu maynd, tray fɔ ɛnkɔrej yusɛf. |
| Smayl, ɛnjɔy yusɛf. | If yu gɛt sɛns fɔ laf, dat kin rili mek yu tink bɔt gud tin dɛn. We yu laf, strɛs kin stɔp. We strɛs de stɔp, i kin izi fɔ luk layf fayn fayn wan. |
| Fɔ fala di we aw yu de liv fayn layf. | Mek yu abit fɔ du ɛksɛsayz fɔ 30 minit ɛvride, it tin dɛn we gɛt fayn fayn tin dɛn fɔ it, ɛn tray fɔ mek yu nɔ strɛs. If yu gi yu maynd ɛn yu bɔdi gud tin dɛn, dat kin rili mek yu fil fayn. |
| Du to di wan dɛn we de sɔpɔt yu. | Sɔrawnd yusɛf wit pipul dɛn we de ɛnkɔrej yu ɛn ad fayn minin to yu layf. I impɔtant fɔ gɛt pipul dɛn na yu layf we go ebul fɔ gi yu gud advays ɛn sɔpɔt. Pipul dɛn we de se ɔltin nɔ rayt go jɔs mek yu strɛs mɔ ɛn mɔ. |
| Tɔk fayn to yusɛf (Positiv sɛlf-tɔk) . | Bi gud to yusɛf. Ɛnkɔrej yusɛf ivin we bad tin kam na yu maynd. Pe atɛnshɔn pan yu gud kwaliti dɛn, di tin dɛn we yu lɛk bɔt yusɛf. Di golden rule na: If yu nɔ go tɛl yu bɛst padi sɔntin, i nɔ go yus fɔ tɛl yusɛf. |
Bi rial tin, dis go tek tɛm.
Fɔ wɔri bɔt bad tin dɛn we pɔsin kin tink bɔt kin bi ɔda bad tin. Mɛmba se yu de tray fɔ gɛt gud abit ɛn sɔri fɔ yusɛf . Yu fɔ no aw lɔng i go tek fɔ lɛf dis abit. Ɔndastand se i kin tek tɛm fɔ chenj di abit lɛk dis.
Yu go si se yu nid fɔ mek sɔm chenj dɛn na yu layf fɔ mek yu go ebul fɔ tink gud wan. Fɔ ɛgzampul, yu kin sɛt bɔda wit sɔm pipul dɛn ɔ yu kin ɔf di TV if di nyus de mek yu fil strɛs tumɔs.
Dɔn bak, tink bɔt aw yu go chenj di tin dɛn we yu de put fɔs pan sɔm tin dɛn na yu layf. If yu mek tɛm fɔ tin dɛn we yu lɛk, dat go mek yu layf bɛtɛ, i go mek yu fil fayn , ɛn i go mek yu gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan yusɛf.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Negativ tinkin nɔto yu pasɔnal wikɛd tin, na abit we bɔku pipul dɛn gɛt.
- I pɔsibul fɔ chenj dis abit if yu de praktis ɛn tray tranga wan.
- Fɔs, bigin fɔ wach wetin yu de tink ɛn nɔ jɔj.
- Fɔ liv fayn layf ɛn fɔ gɛt padi dɛn we de sɔpɔt yu rili impɔtant pan dis joyn.
- Bi gud to yusɛf. Trit yusɛf di sem we aw yu go trit yu bɛst padi.
- If dɛn tin ya de mek yu at pwɛl pasmak fɔ kɔntrol, nɔ ɛva shem fɔ tɔk to yu dɔktɔ bɔt dat.
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