A bin gri fɔ tek di bɔdi we bin chenj afta kansa. Bɔt wetin wi go se bɔt we yu ol? (Radikal Akseptɛns)

Sɔntɛnde, wi kin ebul fɔ bia wit di big big prɔblɛm dɛn na wi layf. Bɔt i sɔprayz fɔ no se wi nɔ kin ebul fɔ bia wit ivin di smɔl smɔl tin dɛn we ɔdinari tin, ɛn wi kin dɔn fil bad ɛn wɔri. Tide wi de tɔk bɔt wan pan dɛn kayn ɛkspiriɛns dɛn de. Imajin, aw pɔsin we dɔn fɛt ɛn win bɔdi kansa go fil if i nɔ ebul fɔ bia wit di sayn dɛn we de sho se i dɔn ol na in bɔdi? Dis na sɔntin we bɔku pipul dɛn kin fil, bɔt dɛn nɔ kin tɔk bɔt bɔku tin.

Wan uman in fɛt wit kansa

Fɔ ɔndastand dis stori, lɛ wi tek di ɛkspiriɛns bɔt wan uman we bin fɛt wit bɔdi kansa as ɛgzampul. In bɔdi bin go tru wan rili big waka. I nɔ bin izi fɔ du.

• Et rawnd dɛn fɔ kemotɛrapi .
• Lumpectomy na ɔpreshɔn fɔ pul wan tumbu na di bɔdi.
• fכ pul nayn limf no dεm frכm di armpit εria.
• Redyushɔn tɛrapi fɔ siks wiks.
• Dɛn bin gɛt fɔ tek di mɛrɛsin fɔ wan ol ia fɔ mek di kansa nɔ kam bak.

Imajin aw in bɔdi go dɔn chenj afta we i dɔn bia ɔl dɛn tin ya. Di ɔpreshɔn we dɛn bin du to in rayt brɔst bin lɛf wan smɔl dent. I bin gɛt wan tin we de mek i swɛt na in rayt an in tap. Wan rawnd ska bin de usay dɛn pul in mama gland dɛn. Dɔn bak, in lɛft bɔdi bin big pas in rayt wan ɔltɛm. Nɔto jɔs smɔl, bɔt i kin rili notis.

As tɛm de go, i bin kam na wan ples usay i go ebul fɔ tek ɔltin. I bin tink bɔt am lɛk dis: "A si bɔdi we dɔn win fɛt. A si bɔdi we dɔn win kansa. A si wan uman we rili laki we lɛk in layf ɛn di bɔdi we de liv am."

Da tɛm de, i bin rili tru. Bɔt afta tɛn ia, i kin luk am difrɛn we smɔl. I dɔn no se fɔ ful-ɔp yu bɔdi ɔ ɛnitin na yu layf nɔto wan tɛm nɔmɔ. Na wan prɔses we de go bifo.

Wetin na dis ‘Radikal Akseptans’?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, Radikal Akseptans na di kɔmplit ɛn nɔ kɔndishɔn akseptans se sɔntin de rili apin to wi. Yu nɔ nid fɔ lɛk am, yu nɔ nid fɔ gladi fɔ am, bɔt yu fɔ aksept am ɛn se, ‘Okay, dis na di rial tin we de apin dis tɛm.’ Na fɔ stɔp fɔ fɛt di rial tin, ɔndastand di tin we de apin, ɛn fɔ go bifo.

Imajin se yu de waka na strit ɛn yu gɛt ebi ebi ren. Yu kin wet.

• Nɔ- akseptɛns : ."Oh, wetin mek ren de kam rait nau? Dis no fit de hapun!" Fɔ kɔl di ren ɛn fɔ wet.
• Radikal Akseptans: Aksept di situeshɔn ɛn akt pan am, se, "Okay, ren de kam, a de wet. Dis na di trut. A nid fɔ ayd sɔmsay kwik kwik wan."

Yu ɔndastand di difrɛns? Radikal Akseptans nɔto fɔ giv ɔp ɔ se, "Dis nɔ impɔtant." Na fɔ tink se, "Dis na di sityueshɔn, wetin a go du wit am naw?"

Aksept di sayn dɛm fɔ kansa, bɔt di sayn dɛm fɔ ol?

As tɛm de go, di uman we de na wi stori bin si se i de go de ɛn wiks ɛn i nɔ bin ivin no se i gɛt kansa. I bin bi jɔs wan ɔda pat pan in aydentiti, lɛk in brawn ia ɛn in brawn yay.

Bɔt... ɔda tin bin de we i stil nɔ bin ebul fɔ fulɔp fɔ aksept. Dat bin de ol.

We i kɔmɔt na bed na mɔnin, go dɔŋ di stej, "Aww, aww, aww" te di stiffness na in ankles go. Luk na di miro, tink se, "Usay da layn de na di midul pan mi nɛk kɔmɔt?" I bin stil de fɛt dɛn tin ya.

Na tru se i laki fɔ we i dɔn liv lɔng fɔ si di sayn dɛn we de sho se i dɔn ol. I no dat. Bɔt i nɔ go ebul fɔ se i dɔn gri wit am gud gud wan.

• I stil de day in ia we i de gro am.
• a de luk fo wan krim we kin du sohmtin boht nek wrinkles.
• Ɛksesaiz nɔto jɔs fɔ gɛt wɛlbɔdi ɛn strɔng, bɔt i min bak fɔ luk fayn wit jins ɛn tank tɔp.

I nɔ de strɛs bɔt dɛn tin ya lɛk aw i bin de strɛs we i ol 20 ia. I gɛt wan big we fɔ si layf naw. Bɔt if i stil de tray fɔ chenj in bɔdi, i 100% kɔmit to am? Sɔntɛm nɔto so.

Dis ɛkspiriɛns de tich wi gud lɛsin. Ivin if wi aksept sɔntin we big lɛk kansa, di prɛshɔn we di sosayti de gi wi kin mek i nɔ izi fɔ aksept sɔntin we nɔmal lɛk fɔ ol.

Ska nɔto sayn fɔ wikɛd, bɔt na sayn fɔ trɛnk.

Fɔ dɔn, na di mɛsej we impɔtant pas ɔl na dis stori. As tɛm de go, di ɛkspiriɛns fɔ gɛt kansa kin kam fa fawe. Sɔntɛnde, i kin tan lɛk se i apin to ɔda pɔsin.

Bɔt di skata dɛn we de na yu bɔdi kin mɛmba yu ɔltɛm se, "Nɔ, i rili apin to yu. Yu bia am. Yu dɔn ɔva am."

Dɛn skata dɛn de kin mɛmba yu aw yu bin de sɔfa ɛn aw yu strɔng di sem tɛm. Da filin de valyu pas fɔ jɔs gri wit sɔntin. Na dat na di rial win.