Yu smɔl pikin kin kray ɔltɛm? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt aw pɔsin kin vɛks!

Oh, yu smɔl pikin kin vɛks wantɛm wantɛm, kray, ɛn rol rawnd na grɔn? Sɔntɛnde, yu nɔ kin ebul fɔ no wetin fɔ du, nɔto so? I rili nɔmal fɔ mek smɔl pikin dɛn, lɛk tu ɔ tri ia ol, gɛt dɛn kayn tantrum ya, ɔ lɛk aw wi kin se na Inglish, ``Temper Tantrums''. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, ivin big pikin dɛn kin akt dis kayn we, ɛn dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛn wamat ɛn pwɛl at.

Wetin na dɛn tin ya we kin mek pɔsin vɛks? Lɛ wi ɔndastand dɛn simpul wan!

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, dɛn ``Temper Tantrums`` ya na we fɔ mek pikin lɛf wan strɔng imɔshɔn (lɛk vɛks, sɔri, frustrashɔn) we i nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol. Imajin, smɔl pikin nɔ no aw fɔ put wetin dɛn want insay wɔd dɛn. Dɔn dɛn kin mek dɛn at pwɛl dis kayn we.

Dis tɛm ya, di pikin kin biev lɛk dis:

• Fɔ ala lawd wan ɛn kray .
• I de ledɔm na grɔn, de rɔl , ɛn flay in an ɛn fut.
• Fɔ trowe tin dɛn we de kam na yu an.
• Dɛn bin de bit dɛnsɛf, ɛn dɛn bin de bang dɛn ed sɔnsay.
• Sɔm pikin dɛn kin ivin ol dɛn briz .
• Tray fɔ hit ɛn bit ɔda pipul dɛn (yu, yu brɔda ɛn sista dɛn).

Di impɔtant tin na dat, dis nɔto sɔntin we di pikin de du bikɔs dɛn "bad." Na jɔs dat dɛn smɔl bren nɔ ebul fɔ handle dɛn filin dɛn de da tɛm de.

Wetin mek yu de akt so recklessly, pikin? Wetin na di rizin dɛn?

Bɔku rizin dɛn kin de we kin mek pikin nɔ biev fayn dis kayn we. Lɛ wi luk sɔm pan di men rizin dɛn.

We yu yɔŋ (arawnd 1-4 ia) .

Pikin dεm we de na dis ej kin gεt ``Temper Tantrums``. Di rizin dɛn fɔ dis na:

• Nɔ ebul fɔ tɔk fayn: Dɛn nɔ gɛt di wɔd fɔ se dɛn angri, dɛn taya, dɛn nid sɔntin, ɔ dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm. So dis na di frustrashɔn we kin kam we dɛn nɔ no aw fɔ tɔk am.
• Tray fɔ du tin fɔ dɛnsɛf: Na dis ej, dɛn de ɔndastand di wɔl smɔl smɔl ɛn tink se, "A kin du am mi we!" Bɔt dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du ɔltin. Dis na aw wamat kin kɔmɔt we dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ fiks tɔys ɔ put dɛn sus.
• Taya, angri, nɔ slip : Nɔto jɔs pikin dɛn kin vɛks we dɛn nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ it ɔ slip, bɔt wi kin vɛks bak. Dis kin rili at fɔ smɔl pikin dɛn fɔ sɔlv.
• Nyu tin, chenj: We dɛn go na nyu ples, mit nyu pipul dɛn, ɔ chenj wetin dɛn de du ɛvride, dɛn kin wɔri wantɛm wantɛm.

Pikin dɛn we dɔn big (afta 4 ia) .

Pikin dɛn we de go skul kin biev dis kayn we bak sɔntɛnde.

• Bɔnda tɛst: Sɔntɛnde dɛn kin du dis fɔ si, "Wetin mama go du if a du dis?"
• I nɔ kin izi fɔ kɔntrol di strɔng filin dɛn :Dɛn stil de lan aw fɔ dil wit filin lɛk wamat, pwɛl hat, jɛlɔs, ɛn fred we dɛn kam.
• Fɔ mek pipul dɛn pe atɛnshɔn to yu: Sɔntɛnde we yu bizi, yu pikin kin biev dis we fɔ mek yu pe atɛnshɔn to am.
• Lan bihayvya: If pikin bin dɔn kray ɛn kray ɛn aks fɔ sɔntin ɛn gɛt am bifo, dɛn kin lan se, "O... if a du dis, a go gɛt wetin a want."
• Prɔblɛm dɛn na os ɔ skul: Sɔntɛm di strɛs we kin kam wit tin dɛn lɛk prɔblɛm na os ɔ fɔ fɛt wit yu padi na skul kin kɔmɔt dis we.
• Sɔm ɔndalayn kɔndishɔn dɛm: Pan ɔl we i nɔ kin apin so ɔltɛm, tin dɛm lɛk ``(ADHD)`` (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), ``( Autism Spectrum Disorder )``, ɔ tin dɛm lɛk fɔ wɔri pasmak kin mek pikin dɛn biev chenj bak. If yu gɛt ɛni dawt bɔt dis, yu fɔ rili go to dɔktɔ.

Ɔl di prank dɛn na di sem?

Nɔ, fɔ tru, difrɛn kayn pipul dɛn de we kin mek pɔsin vɛks. Sɔm kin kɔmɔt frɔm di pikin in tru tru frustrashɔn (Frustration tantrums). Ɔda wan dɛn kin bi bikɔs dɛn kin vɛks we dɛn want fɔ pe atɛnshɔn to dɛn. Sɔntɛnde, pikin kin yuz dis taktik fɔ gɛt wetin i want (Manipulative tantrums). Sɔm pikin dɛn kin gɛt ``Sɛns Ɔvalod`` if di nɔys lɛvɛl go ɔp wantɛm wantɛm ɔ if dɛn go na ples we pipul dɛn kin bɔku.

Dɔn bak, di kayn we aw dɛn kin vɛks bad bad wan ɛn di tɛm we dɛn kin tek fɔ vɛks kin difrɛn frɔm wan pikin to ɔda pikin. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin kol insay sɔm minit, ɛn ɔda wan dɛn kin tek lɔng tɛm.

Aw wi, as mama ɛn papa, de dil wit dis? Aw wi kin ɛp wi pikin?

Okay, so wi don kam to di most impotant pat. Aw wi kin ɛp di pikin ɛn kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt kol at na tɛm lɛk dis?

1. Lɛ wi tray fɔ mek bad bad tin nɔ apin bifo i apin! (Prɛvenshɔn bɛtɛ pas fɔ mɛn!)

• Mek yu du tin we yu fɔ du ɔltɛm: Fɔ it di rayt tɛm, fɔ slip di rayt tɛm, ɛn fɔ ple di rayt tɛm rili impɔtant to pikin dɛn. Dis go ɛp dɛn fɔ fil sef ɛn nɔ de wɔri we dɛn nɔ nid fɔ wɔri.
• Alaw fɔ pik smɔl smɔl tin dɛn: We yu mek yu pikin mek smɔl smɔl tin dɛn lɛk, "Yu want fɔ drink frɔm di rɛd kɔp ɔ di blu wan?", dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn gɛt kɔntrol pan dɛnsɛf.
• Prez gud bihayvya: We yu pikin du gud tin, ple wit kolhat, gi am smɔl prez lɛk, "O, yu so gud, luk aw yu put di tɔys dɛn fayn fayn wan." Dɔn dɛn go gɛt maynd fɔ du dɛn gud tin dɛn de bak.
• Tich dɛn fɔ tɔk bɔt aw dɛn de fil: Tich dɛn wɔd dɛn lɛk "Yu sɔri?", "I tan lɛk se yu vɛks," ɛn "Yu gladi?" Dis go ɛp dɛn fɔ lan fɔ tɔk bɔt aw dɛn de fil.
• Tink bifo tɛm bɔt prɔblɛm dɛn we yu go gɛt: Imajin se yu de go na di stɔ fɔ bay tin fɔ it. If yu go we yu angri, yu pikin go kray ɛn aks fɔ sɔntin. So, bring sɔntin fɔ ful yu bɛlɛ bifo yu go.

2. Tin dɛn fɔ du we sɔntin we nɔ fayn apin:

Dis na di pat we at pas ɔl, bɔt if yu mɛmba dis, yu go ebul fɔ kɔntrol di tin we de apin to yu bɔku bɔku wan.

• Stay wit yu at! Dis na di fɔs ɛn impɔtant tin . If yu vɛks ɔ ala, di pikin go fred mɔ ɛn mɔ ɛn i go strɛs. Tek dip briz ɛn tink se, "A nid fɔ de kwayɛt."
• Tink bɔt di pikin in sef: Si if di pikin de pan denja fɔ du bad to insɛf, ɔda pipul dɛn, ɔ prɔpati. If na so i bi, kɛr dɛn go na say we sef.
• Nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to di we aw pɔsin de biev, nɔto di pikin: If yu tink se yu pikin de tray tranga wan fɔ mek dɛn pe atɛnshɔn to am (ɛn if di pikin sef), nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to di we aw i de biev fɔ sɔm tɛm. Bɔt nɔ lɛf yu pikin in wan. Stay klos, bɔt nɔ ansa di bihayvya.
• Validate filin: Wae yu pikin dɔn kol smɔl, tɔk sɔmtin lɛk, "A ɔndastand se yu bin vɛks/sad fɔ nɔr gɛt di tɔys." Dis kin mek yu pikin no se yu ɔndastand dɛn.
• Wan shɔt brek (`Time-out`): Dis nɔ de wok fɔ ɔlman, bɔt i de wok fɔ sɔm pikin dɛn. Gi yu pikin shɔt tɛm fɔ lɛf fɔ wok we fit in ej (e.g. 3 minit fɔ pikin we ol 3 ia) ɛn lɛf dɛn wan na say we kwayɛt ɛn we nɔ gɛt tɔys. Dis nɔ fɔ yuz as pɔnishmɛnt, bɔt na we fɔ gi yu pikin chans fɔ mek i kol.
• Distrakshɔn: Dis kin wok fayn fɔ pikin dɛn we rili yɔŋ (we nɔ rich 2 ia yet). Wantɛm wantɛm, pɔynt di winda ɛn se, "Luk, wan fayn bɔd de na do!" ɔ gi dɛn ɔda tɔys.

3. Afta di prank dɔn:

Di wok we impɔtant pas ɔl kin kam afta di pikin dɔn kol.

• Ɔg ɛn kɔmfɔt wit lɔv: Se, "Mama/Papa ​​lɛk yu bad bad wan. Wi lɛk yu ivin we yu vɛks."
• Tɔk bɔt di tin we apin (wans di pikin dɔn kol at ɔl): Aks tin dɛn lɛk, "Wetin mek yu vɛks so?", "Wetin yu tink?" Lisin to wetin di pikin de tɔk.
• Tich dɛm aw fɔ kɔntrol dɛn filin nɛks tɛm: "Nɛks tɛm we yu vɛks, tɛl Mama/Papa, ɔ lɛ wi kɔnt to 10, ɔ tek dip briz ɛn lɛf am sloslo."
• Nɔ gi wetin di pikin aks fɔ bikɔs ɔf spit: If yu gi di tɔys ɔ it we di pikin dɔn aks fɔ wantɛm wantɛm afta i ala ɛn kray, di pikin go lan se, "O... if a du dis, a go gɛt wetin a want." So, i impɔtant fɔ lɛ wi nɔ gi di tin we i aks fɔ wantɛm wantɛm, ilɛksɛf i dɔn kol.

Nɔ ɛva du dɛn tin ya!

• Nɔ ala, bit, kɔl, ɔ trɛtin yu pikin. Dis go jɔs mek di tin wɔs. Di pikin go fred mɔ ɛn i nɔ go abop pan yu igen.
• Nɔ gi yu pikin wetin i aks fɔ we i de strɛs. If yu du dat, i go jɔs mek di we aw pɔsin de biev bɔku.
• "If yu stɔp fɔ kray, a go gi yu chɔklɛt."No giv brib laik "A go giv yu wan." Dat go tich di pikin di rɔng tin.
• Nɔ shem yu pikin wit wɔd dɛn lɛk "Yu na bad pikin" ɔ "Yu idiot." Dis go pwɛl di pikin in sɛf.
• Nɔ kɔmpia yusɛf to ɔda pikin dɛn. Nɔ tɔk tin lɛk, "Luk aw yu bɔy pikin gud, na yu nɔmɔ de strɛs lɛk dis."

Ustɛm wi fɔ go to dɔktɔ?

Mɔs tɛm, dɛn ``Temper Tantrums`` ya go stɔp wit di ej. Bɔt pan kes dɛm lɛk dis, i go mɔs bi se i fayn fɔ go to dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn ɔ dɔktɔ we de mɛn dɛn maynd fɔ advays:

• If di pikin de vɛks bad bad wan (bɔku tɛm insay di de).
• If wan bad bad tin apin fɔ lɔng tɛm (i pas 30 minit) .
• If di pikin de biev bad bad wan (i du bad bad tin to insɛf, bit ɔda pipul dɛn bad bad wan, brok tin).
• If dɛn bad bad bad tin ya kɔntinyu ivin afta dɛn dɔn ol 4-5 ia .
• If di pikin de strɛs, i de ol in briz, i de tɔn blu, ɔ i tan lɛk se i nɔ no natin.
• If dɛn bihayvya ya de ambɔg di pikin in ɛvride wok (skul wok, ple).
• If dis dɔn bi big strɛs fɔ di wan ol famili , if i tu at fɔ mek di mama ɛn papa bia.
• If yu sɔspɛkt se yu pikin gɛt ADHD, Ɔtizm Spɛktrum Disɔda, Tɔk ɛn Langwej Delay, ɔ ɔda prɔblɛm wit in divɛlɔpmɛnt.

Mɛmba se fɔ aks fɔ ɛp nɔto sayn fɔ se yu wik. I kin rili mek yu ɛn yu pikin fil fayn.

Mama ɛn papa, i rili impɔtant fɔ mek una tek kia ɔf unasɛf bak!

Fɔ dil wit pikin in ``Temper Tantrums'' kin rili taya. Sɔntɛnde yusɛf kin vɛks, fil bad, ɛn wɔnda, “Wetin a de du?” I rili nɔmal.

• Mɛmba se nɔto yu wangren de. Bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn kin go tru dis ɛkspiriɛns.
• Tɔk to yu patna bɔt dis ɛn ɛp unasɛf.
• Sheb wetin de na yu maynd wit yu padi ɔr fambul we yu kin abop pan.
• Tek sɔm tɛm fɔ yusɛf ɛnitɛm we i pɔsibul. Tek tɛm blo, du sɔntin we yu lɛk.
• If yu gɛt prɔblɛm, nɔ shem fɔ aks pɔsin we de advays yu fɔ ɛp yu.

Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os

Okay, so wi don tok plenti tide, no bi so? Na di impɔtant tin dɛn we yu fɔ mɛmba:

• I nɔmal fɔ mek pikin dɛn natin, mɔ we dɛn yɔŋ. Na pat pan dɛn divɛlɔpmɛnt.
• Peshɛnt, kol at, ɛn fɔ de du tin ɔltɛm na di bɛst we fɔ ɛp fɔ du dis.
• I rili impɔtant fɔ tich yu pikin fɔ no ɛn kɔntrol aw i de fil .
• Yu fɔ gɛt kolat na yu maynd impɔtant bak.
• If pan ɔl we yu de du ɔl wetin yu ebul, yu stil de wɔri bɔt aw yu pikin de biev , nɔ ɛva fred fɔ go to pɔsin we sabi du in wok.

Dis waka kin tranga sɔntɛnde. Bɔt yu kin du dis! Yu na gud mama/papa. Go bifo wit kɔnfidɛns!

` Pikin dɛn mischief, wamat vɛks, advays fɔ mɛn pikin, pikin dɛn bihayvya, bihayvya prɔblɛm, pikin saikɔlɔji, imɔshɔn rigyuleshɔn