Bɛlɛ in Imɔshɔnal Rola Kɔsta: Sɔri, Gladi, Fray... Ɔltin Nɔmal!

Wi ɔl kin imajin se bɛlɛ na fayn tɛm ɛn gladi at. Sɔntɛm yu gɛt pikchɔ na yu maynd bɔt mama we de shayn ɛn gladi as in bɛlɛ de gro, we nɔ de wɔri, fred, ɔ dawt. Sɔntɛm yu rili sabi pɔsin lɛk dat. Bɔt di trut kin rili difrɛn.

Fɔ tɔk tru, fɔ gɛt bɛlɛ na fɔ rayd rɔla kɔsta. I nɔ mata aw yu ɛn yu man dɔn de wet fɔ dis pikin, yu kin fil difrɛn difrɛn tin dɛn insay dis tɛm. Wan tɛm yu kin rili gladi, ɛn ɔda tɛm yu kin fil bad, fred, ɔ vɛks. Wan tawzin kwɛstyɔn dɛn kin kam na mi maynd bɔt di pikin in wɛlbɔdi, di chenj dɛn we de apin na yu bɔdi, wetin go apin to una padi biznɛs, ɛn if a go bi gud mama.

Wetin mek dis de apin to mi? Na mi fɔlt dis?

Yu kin de tink se, "A dɔn de wet fɔ lɔng tɛm fɔ mek dis pikin kam, so wetin mek a de fil dis kayn we?" Na kɔmplit nɔmal tin. Masta sabi bukman dɛn se na bikɔs yu de kam fɔ gɛt di big chenj na yu layf.

Bɔt di sɔri tin na dat, wi nɔ kin tɔk to ɛnibɔdi bɔt dɛn filin ya. Bɔku pipul dɛn tink se i nɔ fayn fɔ fil dɛn tin ya, se na mi nɔmɔ de fil dis kayn we, se sɔntin nɔ rayt wit mi.

"We yu luk magazin we de sel bebi tin, plenti nais, hapi bele mama dem de. Dem de dekor dia bebi rum fayn fayn wan. Wi de luk dat and wi de tink se, 'Wetin mek a no fit bi di onli wan we gladi laik dis?'"

Ɛspɛshali fɔ uman dɛn we dɔn wet fɔ lɔng tɛm fɔ bɔn pikin , ɔ we dɔn gɛt bɛlɛ bifo, dɛn filin ya kin kam wit bɔku gilti. Dɛn kin tink se, "A nɔ ivin gɛt rayt fɔ tink dis." So dɛn nɔ de tɛl ɛnibɔdi bɔt am.

Bɔt tek dip briz ɛn kol yu at. Dɛn filin ya nɔ min se yu nɔ lɛk yu pikin ɔ yu nɔ go bi gud mama. Infakt, sɔm masta sabi bukman dɛn se mared pipul dɛn we nɔ de fred atɔl ɛn we nɔ shɔ bɔt na dɛn kin wɔri mɔ bɔt. I sho se dɛn nɔ rili ɔndastand di big chenj we de kam.

Yu tink se na ɔmon nɔmɔ de mek dis?

Sɔm man dɛn kin si am se i nɔ kin izi fɔ ɔndastand dɛn wɛf dɛn dis tɛm. Wan man bin se: "I rili wɔndaful aw in filin kin chenj kwik kwik wan. A kin kɔl am bifo a kam bak na os frɔm wok ɛn aks am se, 'Aw yu de bin bi? Yu taya? Di pikin kray?' ɛn i rili lɛk am. Bɔt tɛn minit afta dat, we a rich na os, i kin jɔs de luk mi ed na di domɔt fɔ si aw tin de go."

So yu tink se ɔmon dɛn fɔ blem fɔ ɔl dis? Nɔto fɔ tru. Dɔktɔ dɛn se sɔm uman dɛn kin afɛkt we di ɔmon dɛn kin chenj, bɔt ɔda wan dɛn nɔ kin afɛkt dɛn. Ɛn bɔku ɔda tin dɛn de we kin mek pɔsin in maynd chenj, nɔto jɔs ɔmon dɛn.

Ivin wae yu bɔdi nɔr kin fayn lɛk fɔ sik na mɔnin, yu bɔdi kin pen, ɛn yu kin gɛt kɔnstipɛshɔn kin mek yu fil bad ɛn wɔri. We yu bɔdi nɔ gladi, yu maynd nɔ go fil gladi.

So if i nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ fɛt dɛn filin ya yu wan, di bɛst tin fɔ du na fɔ tɛl sɔmbɔdi bɔt dɛn.

Aw yu kin dil wit dɛn filin ya?

Nɔ kɛr di lod dɛn we de kam na yu maynd yu wan insay dis tɛm. Na sɔm we dɛn we go ɛp yu.

Lɔv, vɛks ɛn ɔltin we de bitwin dɛn

Sɔntɛnde, pan ɔl we yu kin fil se yu rili lɛk yu pikin, yu kin fil bad ɛn vɛks bak we yu lɔs yu fridɔm. Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil lɛk se yu nɔ go ɛva ebul fɔ spɛn yu tɛm yu wan igen, di we aw yu want.

Dis filin kin fil mɔ fɔ uman dɛn we de wok ɛn we gɛt sakrifays wok, bikɔs dɛn kin no mɔ bɔt di sakrifays dɛn we dɛn fɔ mek fɔ pikin . Along wit dis filin dem, yu kin fil gilti, de wanda, "Wetin mek a no kin gladi komplit?"

Wan gud ɛgzampul fɔ dis na fɔ mek list dɛn:

• "Di tin dɛm we a lɛk pas ɔl na mi layf".
• "Di tins we a de fred pas ɔl fɔ lɔs".
• "Nyu tins a de get".
• "Tin dem we a no mind fo los".

We yu luk dɛn list ya, yu go fɛn we fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ du di tin dɛn we yu lɛk, ɛn gladi fɔ di nyu tin dɛn we yu gɛt. Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ fɔgiv yusɛf. Tink se, "Okay, a fil likl bit of a letdown, bot a no go bit mi sef op fo am. Wetin a nid fo lan from dis?"

Yu tink se ɔltin difrɛn di sɛkɔn tɛm?

Ivin fɔ pɔsin we bin gɛt di fɔs bɛlɛ we bin rili gladi, di sɛkɔn tɛm kin bi difrɛn tin.

Wan mama bin rili gladi we i bin de wet fɔ in fɔs pikin. Bɔt we i bin de wet fɔ in sɛkɔn pikin, i bin rili wɔri. I bin de vɔmit mɔ, i nɔ bin ebul fɔ ɛksesaiz lɛk aw i bin de du bifo, ɛn i bin de fred se i nɔ go ebul fɔ gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit in sɛkɔn pikin lɛk aw i bin gɛt wit in fɔs pikin.

"We di fɔs pikin bin de kam, big ples bin de na wi layf fɔ da pikin de. Bɔt bay di sɛkɔn tɛm, wi fɔs pikin bin dɔn ful-ɔp da ples de. Pan ɔl we wi bin want ɔda pikin, ɔl wi atɛnshɔn, ɛnaji, ɛn lɔv bin dɔn go to di fɔs pikin. So i bin tan lɛk se i nɔ izi fɔ mek ples fɔ di sɛkɔn pikin."

Dis mama bin kam fɔ no se ɔnda di wɔri we i bin de wɔri, na ɔda sɔri-at de. Di sɔri we i kin fil se dis kin bi in las bɛlɛ ɛn di sɔri we i kin fil se in padi biznɛs wit in fɔs pikin go chenj.

Naw we i bi mama we gɛt tu pikin dɛn, i se, "Sɔntɛnde a stil fil lɛk se a nɔ de gi di sɛkɔn wan inof atɛnshɔn. Bɔt a lɛk am jɔs lɛk aw a lɛk am. A no naw se i fɔ sheb mi, bɔt i nɔ de gɛt smɔl frɔm mi. I jɔs kɔmplikt smɔl fɔ bi in mama 100% naw."