Imajin se yu gyal pikin bigin fɔ wɛr fayn fayn iaring ɛn breslɛt dɛn we yu nɔ ɛva bay fɔ am wantɛm wantɛm. Ɔ yu bɔy pikin gɛt di layt CD ɛn ilɛktronik tin dɛn na in rum we yu nɔ bin no bɔt. Di tin we bad pas ɔl na dat, wan de di polis dɛn kɔl yu ɛn tɛl yu se dɛn kech yu pikin we i de tif na shɔp. Dis na sɔntin we no mama ɔ papa nɔ want fɔ gɛt. Bɔt yu tink se dis min se yu pikin go bi kriminal? Sɔntɛm, bɔt sɔntɛm nɔto so.
Dis kin rili kɔmɔn pas aw yu go tink. Ɛspɛshali gyal pikin ɛn bɔy pikin dɛn we ol 12, 13, 14 ia, ɛn sɔntɛm ivin yɔŋ pas dat, de put an pan dɛn kayn tin ya. As dɔktɔ, we a yɛri dɛn kech wan yɔŋ pikin de tif na shɔp, a nɔ kin tink wantɛm se, ‘O, dis na di sik we siriɔs pas ɔl na in maynd.’ Bɔt, i kin bi.
Wetin mek dɛn kin tɛmpt yɔŋ pikin dɛn fɔ du tin dɛn lɛk dis?
If yu aks bɔku pikin dɛn we dɛn kech dis we, "Wetin mek yu du dat?" dɛn ansa go bi, "A nɔ no." Bɔt fɔ tru, bɔku rizin dɛn kin de fɔ dis. Lɛ wi luk di men rizin dɛn.
- Fɔ want fɔ gɛt fayn fayn tin dɛn: Di want fɔ gɛt tin dɛn we pɔsin nɔ ebul fɔ bay ɔ we i nɔ ebul fɔ bay na os (fɔ ɛgzampul, di laytst fashɔn klos , kɔsmɛtik, fon aksesɔri).
- Pipul Prɛshɔn: Fɔ du sɔntin bikɔs padi dɛn de du am fɔ "chalenj". Pikin dɛn kin du dɛn tin ya bak bikɔs dɛn padi dɛn kin gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn lɛk "If yu ebul, tif am ɛn du am bak." We yu ol dis ej, yu kɔmpin dɛn kin rili mɔna yu.
- Fɔ ɛnjɔy ɔ fɔ mek dɛn gladi: Pikin dɛn de we de du dis fɔ natin, fɔ si if dɛn go kech dɛn ɔ nɔ go kech dɛn, ɔ fɔ di gladi gladi we i de gi.
- Sho yu pawa: As pikin dɛn de ol , dɛn want fɔ sho dɛn yon pawa ɛn indipɛndɛns. Dɛn tink se dɛn gɛt pawa bay we dɛn de du sɔntin we "rɔng" ɔ "bad."
- Ɔndalayn saykolojik isyu dɛm: Sɔmtɛm dis nɔr kin jɔs bi fɔ ɛnjɔy yusɛf. Pikin dɛn kin akt bak bikɔs dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn na os, dɛn strɛs, dɛn kin fil se dɛn nɔ de pe atɛnshɔn to dɛn, dɛn nɔ fayn, ɔ dɛn kin fil se dɛn nɔ gɛt wan valyu . Dis kin rili bi fɔ kray fɔ ɛp.
Di impɔtant tin na dat, big difrɛns de bitwin 12-13 ia ol pikin we de du dis ɛn 15-16 ia ol pikin we de kɔntinyu fɔ du am. As dɛn de ol, pikin dɛn kin lan fɔ tink bɔt di bad tin dɛn we go apin to dɛn we dɛn du sɔntin.
Bɔt if dis bihayvya kɔntinyu afta yu dɔn ol 15 ia, i kin bi prɔblɛm wit ` Kɔndɔkt Disɔda` .Ɔ i kin bi sayn fɔ wan sik lɛk kleptomania, we na wan sik we de na di maynd usay pɔsin nɔ kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol tif.
Wetin yu fɔ du as mama ɔ papa?
Pan ɔl we dis kin apin we pɔsin yɔŋ, i nɔto sɔntin we pɔsin fɔ tek am natin. If yu tink ɔ gɛt pruf fɔ se yu pikin de tif, i impɔtant fɔ tɔk to dɛn bɔt am siriɔs wan. Na sɔm tin dɛn we yu kin du.
| Akshɔn we dɛn fɔ tek | Wetin fɔ du? |
|---|---|
| 1. Tɔk wit kol at. | If yu kɔl yu pikin ɔ bit yu pikin, dat nɔ go ɛp. Fɔs, mek yu at kol ɛn tɔk to yu pikin in wan. Aks am wit lɔv se, "Wetin mek yu bɔy pikin/grɔnpikin du dat?" Lisin to wetin i gɛt fɔ tɔk. |
| 2. Ɛksplen di bad tin dɛn we go apin to am | Ɛksplen aw dis siriɔs tin. "Tɛl am aw tin kin wɔs pas pɔnishmɛnt na os. Ɛksplen aw if polis kech am, if i fɔ go juvenail kɔt, i go put blak mak pan in ɔl fiuja." |
| 3. Ɛp fɔ kɔrɛkt di mistek | Ɛnkɔrej yu pikin fɔ gi di tin we dɛn tif bak na di stɔ. Go wit am/am. Go ɛn beg di pɔsin we gɛt di stoa fɔ padi. If na di fɔs tɛm, dɛn go mɔs fɔgiv yu we dɛn nɔ tek ligal akshɔn. Dis go bi big lɛsin fɔ di pikin. |
| 4. Sho di denja dɛn we de na di wɔl we nɔ de na di famili | Gi di pikin dis mɛsej: "Yu de dil wit sɔntin naw we nɔ de na di famili we de protɛkt yu. Na tɛm lɛk dis, wi nɔ go ebul fɔ protɛkt yu ɔltɛm. Yu de put yusɛf pan denja." Bɔku pikin dɛn kin fil dis mɛsej tranga wan. |
Ustɛm yu fɔ go to pɔsin we sabi du in wok?
Bɔku tɛm, di fred ɛn shem we kin kam we dɛn kech am wan tɛm na gud lɛsin fɔ di pikin. Bɔt if dis bihayvya kɔntinyu fɔ biev , ɔ if i sho ɔda denja sayn dɛm apat frɔm dis, yu fɔ rili go to pɔsin we sabi du in wok.
Us ɔda kwaliti dɛn de?
- If yu de biev mɔ we yu nɔ de tek tɛm ɛn fɛt-fɛt pas aw yu bin de biev trade.
- If dɛn dɔn ambɔg di skul wok kpatakpata ɛn di gred dɛn dɔn go dɔŋ.
- If dɛn tink se pɔsin de yuz drɔgs ɔ rɔm .
- If yu at pwɛl wit ɔltin ɛn yu de sho sayn dɛm fɔ pwɛl hat .
We dis kayn tin apin, yu nɔ fɔ de te, mit wit yu famili dɔktɔ (dɔktɔ) ɛn tɔk bɔt dis. I go ebul fɔ no di pikin in kɔndishɔn kɔrɛkt wan ɛn rifer yu to saykayatrist ɔ advaysa if nid de.
Mɛmba se, we pikin tif nɔ kin min ɔltɛm se in na "bad pikin." I kin bi sɔntin we de sho se i gɛt prɔblɛm ɔ prɛshɔn we de dip insay am. So, na wi mama ɛn papa dɛn wok fɔ ɔndastand am ɛn gayd am fɔ go na di rayt rod.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Fɔ tif na shɔp kin bɔku pas aw yu kin tink we yu yɔŋ, bɔt yu nɔ fɔ ɛva tek am as sɔntin we nɔ impɔtant.
- De rizin fɔ dis kin bi sɔmtin wae simpul lɛk aw yu kɔmpin dɛn kin afɛkt ɔr kin ɛnjɔy yusɛf, ɔr kin bi wan dip tin lɛk strɛs ɔr pwɛl hat.
- Bifo yu pɔnish yu pikin, tɔk to am wit kol at ɛn ɛksplen aw di mistek siriɔs ɛn di bad tin dɛn we go apin to am.
- Ɛp yu pikin fɔ kɔrɛkt di mistek (e.g., gi bak di tin). Dis go bi big lɛsin.
- If dis bihayvya de kɔntinyu ɔ sho ɔda prɔblɛm simptom dɛm (vaylɛns, skip skul wok), aks fɔ advays frɔm yu dɔktɔ ɔr tritmɛnt we nɔr de te.
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