I fa chu a thinrim thut a, a tap nghal em? (Temper Tantrums) - Hemi chungchang hi han sawi ila!

I fate chu a thinrim thut a, a au a, a tap chungin leiah a rawn inher kual vel a nih chuan i thinlungah pressure nasa tak i nei ngei ang, a dik em? A chang chuan tih tur pawh i ngaihtuah thei lo. Hei hi a takah chuan nu leh pa tam takin an hmachhawn thin thil tawn a ni. Chuvangin vawiin hian heng thinrimna te, a nih loh leh naupangte zinga `( thinrimna )` kan tih hi han sawi ila.

He thinrimna hi eng nge ni tak tak?

A awlsam zawngin, hei hi naupangin a thunun theih loh thinurna, lungngaihna, a nih loh leh lungngaihna rilru put hmangte chu a chhuahsan nghal theihna kawng a ni. Hei hi ruahmanna fel tak a ni lo. A châng chuan ṭawngkam hmangin an au chhuak thei a, a nih loh leh he thinurna hi an taksa tihngheh emaw, an ke ruhte hrual emaw hmangin an chhuahtîr thei bawk. Naupang thenkhat chuan an ti ve ve bawk.

I fa chu a rilru a na hle a, mi dangte a tibuai a, a tlangpuiin a hlim lo hle tih i hmu mai thei. Vawi tam tak chu an duhzawng leh an rilru put hmang dik tak i hnena an sawi chhuah dan an hriat loh vang a ni .

Ngaihtuah teh, naupang tê tak tê chu infiamna chu dah bo tûrin i hrilh a, a nih loh leh dawrah i kal a, "Chu chocolate chu min pe rawh, " i tih chuan, a ni lo i ti a ni. Hetiang thil tenau tak pawh hian leiah an inher kual thei a, an au chhuak thei a, an kut an vawm thei bawk a, buaina nasa tak a siam thei a ni. Chu chu, an chhân lêtna chu thilthleng aiin a lian zâwk tihna a ni .

Naupang tê tête hêng thinurnate hi kan hlau tûr em ni?

Dik tak chuan heng ``Temper Tantrums`` te hi naupang hmasawnna atana thil pangngai tak a ni . Independent zawka awm an tum angin an thleng thin. Hetiang dinhmun hi kum 1 leh 4 inkar vel a ni tlangpui a, naupang thenkhat chuan ni khatah vawi khat chauh hetiang hi an nei thei.

Mahse sikul an kal tan a, an mamawh chu tawngkam hmanga an sawi chhuah theih chuan he dinhmun hi a tlahniam zauh zauh thin. A tlangpuiin, heng thinrimnate hi minute hnih aṭanga minute 15 chhung a ni .

Mahse, i fate thinrimna chu minute 15 aia rei a nih a, naupang chu a chet dan a na hle a nih chuan ngaihtuahawm tak a ni thei. Chutiang a nih chuan, a dik ngei ang A tha ber chu doctor nen inbiakna neih hi a ni .

Engvângin nge naupang tête chu an thinrim êm êm? A chhan engte nge ni?

Naupangte thinrimna chhan hrang hrang a awm thei. A chhan lian ber ber thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

• Frustration: I thil tum i tihhlawhtlin theih loh lai, thil tha tak i tih theih loh huna lo awm thin frustration.
• Ngaihtuah ngai:I ngaihven ka mamawh hunah.
• Thil duh (toy, chaw ei): I hmuh loh hunah.
• Thil tih loh tum: Entîr nân, infiamna thil dah tûra an tih hunah emaw, inkhelh laiin in lama haw tûra an tih hunah emaw.
• Riltam : Naupang tê tête chu an rilṭâm chuan an rilru a hahdam lo hle.
• Chauhna: Chauh lutuk emaw, mut tam loh emaw hian thinrimna a siam thei che a ni.

Hei bakah hian naupang tête rilruah buaina lian tak a awm a. Chu chu, mahni chauha thil tih duhna nasa tak leh mahni inrintawkna nei tura duhna nasa tak an nei tihna a ni , chutih rualin an nu leh pate ngaihsakna leh hmangaihna pawh an mamawh tak zet a ni . Heng pahnih inkarah hian pressure an nei nasa hle. Tin, puitlingte ang lo takin, an rilru put hmang thunun tûr leh lungngaihnate hmachhawn tûra hmachhawn thiamna chu an la nei lo. Thu hmanga an rilru put hmang sawi chhuah thiamna an neih loh avângin, chu rilru put hmang chu an hriat awlsam berin an sawi chhuak a, chu chu au thawm, tap leh beihpui thlakna hmangin a ni. "Hei hi ka duh!"

Ka fa thinrim hian nu leh pa tha lo ka ni tihna em ni?

A ni lo tak zet! I fa tantrum hian nu leh pa tha lo takah a siam lo che. Hei hi hriatthiam a pawimawh. Naupang thinrimna chu an mizia te, chutih laia an awmna hmun te, leh an thanlenna atana thil awmze nei a nihzia te hian a nghawng a ni . Hei hi puitlin dan pangngai a ni . Chuvangin a tul lovah nangmah leh nangmah mawhpuh suh.

Engte nge thinrimna chhinchhiahna? Engtin nge i hriat chian?

Naupang a thinrim chuan heng chhinchhiahnate hi i hmu mai thei:

• Engtik lai pawhin a bengchheng a, a tap a, a au bawk.
• Kicking, punching, biting pawh a ni mai thei.
• An kut leh ke an vawrh a, an bei nasa hle.
• Ka thaw chu ka vawn tlat.
• A chang chuan taksa chu a tense up a , a limp bawk .

Naupang thinrim hian engtin nge kan tih ang?

Awle, tunah chuan kan fa thinrim laia kan awm dan tur kan en ang u.

• Distract: I fa chu a thinrim dawn tih i hriat a, mahse an la thunun theih loh vek ang tih i hriat chuan, rang takin an ngaihtuahna chu tihdanglam tum ang che. An duhzawng thil entir la, game emaw activity dang emaw-ah inhmang rawh.
• Muangchangin awm rawh: Hei hi a pawimawh ber a ni. I fain a thinrim laiin, au suh, vau suh, lecture pe suh, inhnial suh. Chutianga tih chuan tantrum chu a tizual zâwk ang. Nakinah, i fa chu a thlamuang a, a ngawih hunah chuan a nungchang sawi rawh.
• Thinrimna hi ngaihthah suh:Hei hian naupang chu hetiang hian an awm thei lo va, an duhzawng an dil thei lo tih a zirtir a, hei hi pawm theih loh nungchang a ni tih a zirtir bawk.
• I fa chu hmuh theihin dah rawh: Dawr emaw, vantlang hmun dangah emaw i awm a nih chuan i fa chu hmuh theihin dah reng la, i fa chu i hmuh theih nan dah reng ang che. I fain amah emaw, midang emaw a tichhe thei tih i ngaihtuah a nih chuan, a chhehvel a\angin paih chhuak rawh.
• Hriselna enfiah: Naupang awmna hmun atanga thil hlauhawm thei (thil hrual, thil chhe thei) te chu paih chhuak rawh. I fain a chang chuan mahni inhliam a tum a nih chuan uluk takin chelh rawh. I fa chu thunun theih loh khawpin a che a nih chuan hmun him lamah hruai la, a rilru a hahdam hma loh chuan kalsan rawh. A tul chuan ``Time-out'' i pe thei bawk. Chu chu TV emaw, infiamna dang emaw awm lohna pindanah tirh tum la, chutah chuan hun engemaw chen amah chauhvin a awm thei ang.

Hengte hi sawi suh:

• I fa thil phut anga inpek, i rilru thlak danglam: Hei hian i fa chu a thinrim hunah tap leh insualin a duhzawng a hmu thei tih a zir theih nan a pui ang. In lama i awm a, i fa chu a him tih i chian chuan pindan dangah i dah thei a ni.
• Vuak suh, seh suh, leh kick back suh: Chutianga i tih chuan i fa chu heng thilte hian a ti na tih a hrethiam ang tih i ngaihtuah mai thei. Mahse a kalh zawngin a thleng thin. Naupang chuan hetiang tih hi a pawi lo tih a ngaihtuah ang a, a chhan chu mom/dad hian a tih vang a ni. Chu ai chuan a thil tih chu a rilru tihnat a ni tih leh a pawi lo tih chiang takin hrilh rawh.

I thinrimna i hneh hnuah eng nge i tih?

Thinrimna a reh tawh a, i fa a reh tawh chuan thil thleng chungchang chu i sawipui thei tawh ang. Chutiang bawka thinrimna chu a lo thleng leh tawh loh nan i tih theih turte pawh i sawi thei bawk. Hei hi han ti ve teh:

• I fa chu a thlamuang hle a, fak rawh: I fa chu nungchang tha leh thutlukna tha a siam avangin fak rawh. Naupang tê tête chuan an hnathawh ṭhat avânga hriat hlawh an duh a. A theih ang anga chiang takin sawi rawh. "I ti ropui hle mai," tih mai ai chuan, "Store-ah i au lo, ngawi rengin i tawng a, fapa," tih ang chi hi sawi rawh. Hei hian i fa chu beisei tur leh nungchang pawmtlak chu a hriat theih nan a pui a ni.
• I fa rilru put hmang hrethiam rawh: I fain an lungawi lohna chu i hrethiam tih hriattir rawh. Ṭanpui i duh thu hrilh rawh. Naupangte hian ngaihven an zawng fo thin. Chuvângin, anmahni hriatthiamna leh biakna chuan an rilru put hmang tihziaawmna tûrin a ṭanpui thei a ni.
• An rilru put hmang hming vuah turin zirtir rawh: Naupang tê tête hian an rilru put hmang sawina tur thumal an nei lo. An lungawi lohna te, an thikna te, thinrimna te, an beidawnna te sawi chhuah dan an hre lo. ``Temper Tantrums'' hi chutiang rilru put hmang chu an sawi chhuah dan a ni. Chutiang rilru put hmang atan chuan thu pe rawh. Entirnan, "Tun dinhmunah chuan i thinrim tih ka hmu thei. I tap a, i hmai pawh a sen bawk."
• Emotion buaithlak tak takte hmachhawn dan tur zirtir rawh:Thinrim lova buaina an hmachhawn dan zir turin tanpui ang che. Tichuan, an harsatna ṭhenkhat chu anmahniin an chinfel theih thu an zir ang. Tichuan, mahni inrintawkna an nei lehzual ang a, an thinrim pawh a tlem tawh ang.
• Entawn tûr ṭha siam rawh: Naupangte chuan an nu leh pate an en reng a. I nungchang chu an entawn a ni. I thinrim emaw, i lungawi loh emaw chuan i fa chu chutiang rilru put hmang i hmachhawn dan hrisel tak chu entir rawh. Tichuan i fa pawh chutiang bawk chuan a awm tan ang.

Heng tantrums te hi ven theih dan a awm em?

Dik tak chuan tantrum-free environment i siam thei lo. Hei hi naupangte’n an mamawh leh an rilru put hmang an sawi chhuah vang a ni. Hmasawnna atana thil pangngai tak a ni. Mahse, heng thinrimna hi a awm fo leh a nasat lutuk tihziaawmna turin thil i tih theih a awm a:

• Duhthlan tur pe rawh: A remchan dan anga duhthlanna pe rawh. Entîr nân, thawmhnaw pahnih zînga thlan emaw, ei tûr pahnih zînga thlan emaw. An duhthlan theih hunah chuan naupangte chuan thunun theiin an inhria a. Mahse thil pahnih zinga duhthlannaah chuan i hlim tih hria ang che. Beiseina dik lo pe suh.
• Hrilhfiahna atana inbuatsaih rawh: In chhuahsan emaw, inkhelh atanga lo haw emaw ang chi inthlak danglamna hi naupangte tan chuan a harsa thei hle. Chuvangin, heng inthlak danglamnate hi a lo thlen hmain buatsaih rawh. Hrilhfiahna lian zawk (nausen thar chhungkua zawm, in sawn) tan chuan i fa chu buatsaih a tha zawk.
• I ei leh in leh mut enfiah rawh: A châng chuan, thinrimna hian thinrimna a thlen thei bawk. Hetiang thiltih hi ei leh in tha lo leh mut that loh vang a ni thei . Chuvangin, i fa hian ei leh in inthlau tak a ei a, a muhil tha em tih enfiah rawh.

Engtikah nge ka fa naupangte thinrimna chungchang hi doctor hnenah ka sawipui ang?

Heng dinhmunah hian i fa doctor nen inbiakna neih a tha ang:

• Naupang kum 4 a tlin hnuah pawh heng tantrums te hi a chhunzawm zel a nih chuan , a nih loh leh a tam zawk a nih chuan.
• Naupangin a rilru a tihnat a, midang a tihnat a, a thinrim laia inchhung bungrua a tihchhiat chuan.
• Naupangin a thinrim laiin a thaw a vawn tlat chuan (a bik takin chutih laia a hriatna a hloh chuan).
• Naupangin lu na, pum na, leh ``Lungkhamna`` (hlauhna/lungkhamna tul lo) a neih fo chuan .
• Chûng thinrimnate chu hmachhawn harsa i ti hle mai thei a , him taka hmachhawn dân pawh i hre lo mai thei bawk.

Doctor i hmuh chuan heng tantrums chungchangah hian zawhna a zawt ang che. Hêng zawhnate hian hei hi thil pangngai emaw, ngaihtuah tûr thil emaw a nih leh nih loh a hriatthiam theih nân a ṭanpui ang:

• Engtikah nge heng tantrums te hi a lo awm thin?
• I thinrim hmain eng thil nge thleng tlangpui?
• I fa thinrim lai hian eng nge i tih thin?
• Eng chen nge i thinrim tawh?
• Chu chu engtin nge i chhân lêt?
• Naupang chu a thinrim loh lai hian engtin nge a awm?
• Inchhung boruakah emaw, sikul boruakah emaw inthlak danglamna lian tak a awm em?
• Tun hnaiah in i sawn tawh em?
• Chhungkawah hian inthlak danglamna lian tak a awm em (inthen, naute thar pian)?
• Naupang emaw, chhungkaw zinga mi dang emaw chu thil engemaw takin a ti na emaw, a ti lungngai em?
• Naupang hian harsatna dang, entirnan, mut harsatna emaw, nungchang lama harsatna emaw a nei em?

I hre reng ang u (Take-Home Message) .

Thinrimna hi a tithinur deuh nachungin naupang thanlenna atana thil pangngai a ni. Naupang tê tê, a bîk takin kum 1 leh 4 inkârte chuan ni khatah vawi khat emaw, vawi hnih emaw chauh an thinrim pawh ni se, thinrimna an nei fo ṭhîn. Hei hi zalenna an mamawhna leh nu leh pate ngaihsak an mamawhna inkara inhnialna vang a ni fo thin. Tin, naupang tê tête pawhin an rilru put hmang chu ṭawngkam hmangin an sawi chhuak thei lo mai thei bawk.

I fa a lungawi loh chuan a theih ang anga muangchangin awm rawh. I fa rilru put hmang hriatthiam tum ang che. I fa chu a rilru a hahdam tawh chuan an rilru put hmang hming pe la, an lungngaihnate chu a hmachhawn dan tur tha zawk zirtir rawh.

Mahse, i fate thinrimna chu minute 15 aia rei a daih a, a nasa hle a, kum 4 a tlin hnuah pawh a chhunzawm zel a nih chuan doctor thurawn i la ngei ang. Tin, thil awmdan hmachhawn harsa i tih chuan tanpuina dil hreh suh.

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