I in lama naute thar lo dawngsawng tura i inbuatsaih lai hian, i ngaihtuah ber chu i fa upa zawk a nih chu thil awmdan pangngai tak a ni. Heti hian i ngaihtuah mai thei, ‘Anni chuan hnawhchhuah an ni ang em?’ tiin. emaw, 'Naute chu an thik ang em?' Heng ngaihtuahnate hi thil pangngai tak a ni. Chhungkaw member thar lawmna chuan nangmah, i fa upa zawk, leh i ran vulhte tan pawh inthlak danglamna nasa tak a thlen a ni. Khawngaihin lungngai suh; dawhtheihna tlem leh inbuatsaihna nasa tak nen chuan he inthlak danglamna hi hlawhtling takin i hmachhawn thei ang.
I fa upa zawk chu inthlâk danglamna chungchâng chu sawipui rawh
I fain an unaupa thar chungchang a hriatthiamna chu an kum a zirin a innghat a ni. Mahse, zawi zawiin naupai chungchang sawipuiin i tan thei ang. Nausen piang tharte chu eng ang nge an nih tih leh eng nge an tih tih thumal awlsam tak hmangin sawifiah rawh.
I fa upa zawk chu crib-ah a la muhil a nih chuan naute lo thlen hma thla engemaw zat hnuah ‘big kid’ bed-ah transition tum ang che. Hei hian naute chuan ‘an hmun a luah’ tih hriatna a veng thei a ni. I fa mutna tia koh ai chuan ‘nausen mutna’ tia koh tan rawh. Hand-me-down thawmhnaw pawh chutiang bawk chu a ni; hengte hi naute thar tan chhungkaw pumin an insem thil a ni tih an hriat theih nan tanpui rawh.
A theih chuan i fa upa zawk chu i prenatal check-up-naah hruai ve rawh. Naute thinlung thawk chu ngaithla rawh se . Naute chu eng ang nge a nih dawn tih leh engtin nge an enkawl dawn tih an hmuh theih nan naute an nih lai thlalak i entir thei bawk.
A hma lutuka inbuatsaih lutuk lo turin bei rawh. Naupang tê tê tân chuan thla 9 hi unau nghah hun rei tak a ni. Naute chu a che tih hre rawh se, mahse inbiakna apianga ngaih pawimawh ber ni reng reng chu pumpelh rawh. ‘Big brother’ emaw ‘big sister’ emaw tia vuah fo hian chu role-a pressure a tam lutuk nia an hriat chuan tum loh takin regression a thlen thei a ni.
Engtiang taka i buatsaih pawh ni se, unau thar nihna dik tak chu naute an hmuh tak tak hnuah chauh a rawn lang ang. An hriat naupang tê tê ang chi inkhelhpui an beisei mai thei a, chuvangin an fantasy leh nau piang thar tak takte inkarah hian inthlauhna a awm thei a ni. Hei hi thil pangngai tak a ni vek.
Nau neihna tur damdawi ina i kal dawnin i fa upa zawk thlalak frame-a siam chu i damdawi in khum bulah dah la. I sawi chhuah pawh a ngai lo; an hre nghal mai ang. I thinlung leh i nunah hmun pawimawh tak an la ni reng tih a tichiang a ni.
Naute a lo haw hnuah eng nge thleng?
A tîrah chuan, i fa upa zâwk chuan naute chu a ngaihnawm hle mai thei a, mahse ni a liam zêl a, thil awm dân dik tak a lo thlen chuan thinrimna, lungngaihna, a nih loh leh lungngaihna a nei thei a ni. Hei hi thil pangngai a ni a; khawngaihin heng emotion te hi hlau suh.
Nu leh pa tam tak pawhin he hun chhung hian anmahni lungngaihna emaw, sualna emaw thlipui an tawng a, ‘Ka fa upa zawk chungah eng nge ka tih?’ tiin an ngaihtuah thin. I hmaa one-on-one dynamic inthlak danglamna lungngaih pawh hi thil pangngai a ni.
A pawimawh ber chu rorelna tel lova i fate rilru put hmang pawm hi a ni. An lungawi loh avangin hau suh. Chu ai chuan an rilru put hmang chu nemnghet la, chu chu hmangin thu sawi rawh. Entîr nân, ‘Engvângin nge naute chu i chelh reng? Kan dah bo thei lo em ni?’, a nihna takah chuan, ‘Chutiang anga inhriat chu a pawi lo va, nangmah chauha min neih zawng zawng ngaihtuah loh pawh hi thil pangngai tak a ni’ tih an hriat chuan thlamuanna a ni thei. Chutiang ngaihtuahnaah chuan anmahni chauh an ni lo tih hriat chu an tan chuan a thlamuanthlak hle.
Hlawhtlinna atana Tips awlsam tak
- Dan siamrem rawh: TV en emaw, inkhelh emaw ang chi thawm pangngai avang hian i fa chu hau suh. Naute chu inchhung ri pangngai a thiam theih nan tanpui rawh. A ri nasa lutuk a nih chuan ngawi renga activity neih dun chu thlang rawh.
- Anmahni inrawlh tir rawh: Naute chu an khawih theih loh thil chhe thei ang maiin enkawl suh. I fa upa zawk chu hna tê tê pe rawh: ‘Khawngaihin wipe-te chu min rawn keng thei ang em?’ tiin. emaw, 'Diaper chu min pe thei ang em?'
- Hun bik pe rawh: Eng ang pawhin chau mah la, ni khatah minute 10 tal i fa upa zawk nen one-on-one time carve out tum ang che. Grand a nih a ngai lo—leia car nena inkhelh emaw, dawr tlawh awlsam tak emaw chu a tawk.
- Regression hi thil pangngai a ni: I fa chu naute ang maiin a che leh mai thei. Hei hi regression an ti a . Accident an nei thei a, bottle an dil thei a, diaper-a awm leh an duh thei bawk. Naute ngaihvenna ang bawka an dil mai mai a ni. Hrem suh la, ‘tunah chuan an lian’ tih hrilh suh. Ni engemaw zat chhung chu bottle emaw diaper emaw an mamawh a nih chuan thleng rawh se. A tlangpuiin, vawi khat him taka an inhriat hnuah chuan hlim takin ‘naupang lian’ nihnaah an kir leh ang.
Chhungkaw pet pawh theihnghilh suh
Naute thar hian i ran vulhte tan pawh khawvel a tidanglam thin. Hriak rimtui thar, aw thar, leh tih dân danglam tak chu an tân a buaithlâk thei a ni.
A châng chuan ran vulhte chuan he stress hi an chetsualna emaw, an nungchang danglamna lantîr emaw hmangin an chhân lêt thei a ni. Ran vulhte hian mihring rilru natna (complex human emotions) ‘jealousy’ ang chi hi an hrethiam lo va; an buai leh lungkham mai mai a ni . Anmahni hrem hi a chhanna a ni lo. Chu ai chuan, chhûngkaw member thar nêna insiamrem tûrin ṭanpui rawh.
| Hmawr | Eng nge tih tur |
|---|---|
| Aw thar hriat thiam rawh | Naute a lo thlen hmain recorded baby sounds chu volume hniam takin play la, zawi zawiin tihpun la, pet chu desensitize rawh. |
| I tawng chu siamrem rawh | I ran vulh chu ‘ka naute tê’ tia i koh chuan, naute tâna chu thumal i hman hunah chuan ran vulh chu a buai loh nân a lo thlen hmain chawlhsan tum ang che. |
| Scents te chu acclimate rawh | Nursery chu zawi zawiin siam la, i ran vulh chu hun kal zelah hmun leh thil tharte chu a chhui chhuak thei ang. |
| Routine thlak hmasa phawt ang che | Tunah hian kea kal emaw, chaw pek hun emaw ang chi thilte chu siamrem la, chutiang chuan i ran vulh chuan naute a lo thlen hmain schedule thar a hmang thiam ang. |
| Nêm taka khawih zirtîr rawh | I fa upa zawk chu ran vulh chu zawi zawiin khawih turin zirtir la, ran vulh chu an khawih a tuar hunah treat hmangin lawmman pe la, nakin lawka inkhelh laiin stress a awm loh nan. |
A tawpah chuan hei hi hun eng emaw chen atan chauh a ni. I chhungte’n an kal dun theihna tur transition period chauh a ni. Hun a lo kal zel a, he hun harsa tak hi hriatrengna mai a ni tawh ang a, i chhungkaw member thar hian in nunah hmangaihna leh hlimna nasa zawk a rawn thlen ang.
Take-Home Thuchah a ni
- I fa upa zawk hnenah naute thar chungchang hi an hriatthiam theih angin rinawm takin sawi rawh.
- Inbuatsaihnaah tel tir la, chutiang chuan an tel ve a, an hlut hle tih an hriat theih nan.
- Thikna emaw, lungngaihna emaw rilru put hmang chu thil pangngai a ni tih hrethiam rawh; thiam loh chantir lovin pawm rawh.
- Eng ang pawhin thil buaithlak mah se, i fa upa zawk nen mimal ‘quality time’ chu dah pawimawh ber rawh.
- I ran vulhte chu inthlak danglamna lo awm tur atan buatsaih theihnghilh suh.
- Hei hi hun eng emaw chen atana siamremna phase a ni. Dawhtheihna leh hmangaihna nen enkawl rawh. I fate nungchang chungchangah harsatna lian tham i neih chuan i naupang enkawltu doctor rawn la.
Naute pahnihna, naupang upa zawk, unau inelna, naute thar buatsaih, naupang inhuatna, chhungkaw member thar, naupai
