Kei te harikoa koe ki a koe anō? (Te Whakaute i a Koe Anō) ā, me kōrero tāua mō tō kaha hinengaro!

Kei te pēhea koe? He rā kei te tino harikoa tātou, kei te whakahīhī hoki ki a tātou anō. Ā, he rā anō kei te pōuri tātou, me te mea kāore tātou e aro nui ana ki a tātou anō. I tēnei rā ka kōrero tātou mō tētahi mea tino nui ki a tātou katoa. Arā, te whai whakaaro pai mō tātou anō, arā , ko te "Whakaute ki a Koe Anō" . He rite ki tētahi mārama iti i roto i tō ngākau. Ina mārama pai taua mārama, ka ātaahua te ao katoa.

He aha rawa tēnei whakaaro nui ki a ia anō?

Tērā pea kei te whakaaro koe mēnā ko te tikanga o te `(Whakaute-ā-Whaiaro)` he whakapehapeha, he whakaaro he nui ake ia i ētahi atu, he whakamanamana rānei mō āna ake mea. Kāo, kāore rawa! Kāore i te pērā, koia? Ko te `(Whakaute-ā-Whaiaro)` he mana puku, engari he tino kaha i roto i tō hinengaro. He rite ki ngā pakiaka o te rākau; ahakoa kāore e kitea mai i waho, ko ngā pakiaka ēnei e pupuri ana i te rākau kia mau tonu.

Ki te kī māmā noa, ko te tikanga o te "Whakaute ki a Ia Anō":

• E pai ana koe ki a koe anō.
• Te kite i ōu āhuatanga pai me ōu pūkenga.
• E whakahīhī ana koe ki a koe anō me ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi.
• Kei te tino harikoa koe ki a koe anō.
• E whakapono ana koe ki a koe anō. Te whakaaro "Ka taea e au tēnei."
• E mōhio ana koe he wāhanga nui koe nō tēnei hapori, nō tēnei ao, nō reira he tika tōu noho ki konei.

Whakaarohia, ina whiwhi koe i tētahi kaute pai i tētahi whakamātautau i ako nui koe mōna, ina mea mai ō mātua, kaiako rānei, "E tama/tamāhine, e tino whakahīhī ana ahau ki a koe," ina tākaro koe, e kata tahi ana me ō hoa, ā, ina rongo koe kua whakaurua koe e rātou ki ā rātou kēmu me ā rātou kōrero, ka tino harikoa koe, tika? I taua wā tonu, ka tino kaha tō `(Whakaute ki a Koe Anō)` me tō whakapono ki a koe anō.

Engari, kāore te ao e haere tonu i te huarahi kotahi. Tērā pea he rā kāore ngā mea e haere i te ara e whakaarohia ana e koe. Tērā pea he iti nei tāu tautohetohe ki tētahi hoa, kāore rānei koe e mahi i te pai e rite ana ki tāu i whakaaro ai i roto i tētahi whakamātautau. Koinā te wā e āwhina ai tēnei kaha o roto, tēnei "Whakaute ki a Koe Anō", i a koe, ā, e ārai ana i a koe kei hinga.

He aha te tikanga o te iti o te whakaaro ki a koe anō? He aha ngā mea ka puta mēnā he iti tō whakaaro ki a koe anō?

I ētahi wā, ina kore ngā tamariki, pērā i a koe, e tino pai ki a rātou anō, ka kī tātou he iti tō rātou whakaaro ki a rātou anō, kāore rānei i te maia ki a rātou anō. Anei ētahi mea ka pā mai:

• He maha tonu ā rātou whakaaro he iti iho rātou i ētahi atu, ā, kāore i te tino pūkenga. Ka puta ake ngā whakaaro pēnei i te, "Āe, he nui ake tō rātou pai i ahau!".
• Kāore rātou e kite i ō rātou ake āhuatanga pai me ō rātou pūkenga. He rite ki te titiro ki a rātou anō i roto i te whakaata, ā, kāore e kite i ngā mea pai.
• Engari ko te whakaaro "Ka taea e au tēnei," he maha tonu taku whakaaro "Kāore e taea e au tēnei," "E kore tēnei e mahi."
• E mataku ana rātou ki te whakamātau i ngā mea hou nā te mea kāore i a rātou te māia ki a rātou anō, ā, e ruarua ana rātou mō ngā mea katoa. E whakaaro ana rātou, "Me aha ahau mēnā ka hinga ahau?"
• Ahakoa he iti noa te mea e rahua ana, ka hohoro tonu tā rātou tuku. Ka whakaaro rātou, "Kāore au i te pai ki tēnei" ā, ka mutu te whakamātau.
• Ki te kino te mahi a ētahi atu ki a rātou, ahakoa he iti noa iho ā rātou kupu, ka tino pōuri, ka pouri hoki rātou, ka whakaaro nā rātou te he.

Engari he mea tēnei me maumahara koe. Ehara te "Whakaute ki a Ia Anō" me te whakapono ki a Ia Anō i te mea ka hangaia i te pō kotahi. He roa te wā. Engari he kaha ēnei ka taea e ia tamaiti te mahi, ā, me tino whai. Ka taea e ia tamaiti te mahi. Nā te mea he maha ngā āhuatanga pai kei roto i ia tamaiti. Nō tēnei ao ia tamaiti. He pūkenga ia tamaiti, he tika kia arohaina, he tangata e paingia ana e ētahi atu, he tangata ka taea te tuku whakaaro hou. E tika ana kia atawhai, kia tika, kia whakautehia ia tamaiti.

Nā, me pēhea tātou e whakapiki ake ai i tēnei (Whakaaro Whaiaro)? Kia kite tātou?

He rite tēnei ki te whakato i tētahi rākau ki tētahi māra. Me whakamakuku, me whakawairakau, me tuku kia whiti te rā. Ko reira anake ka tupu te rākau, ka puāwai, ka hua. Pērā anō tō "Whakaaro Whaiaro". He tāngata hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatipu, ā, he mea anō hoki ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake.

Āwhina mai i ngā mātua me ngā kaiako

Ka āwhina ō mātua me ō kaiako i te kura i a koe ki te ako i ngā mea hou, me te whakamātau i ngā mea hou. Whakaarohia te rā i ako tuatahi ai koe ki te eke pahikara, te rā rānei i ako ai koe ki te pānui i tētahi kupu hou. Ka mihi rātou ki a koe ina ngana koe, ina whakapau kaha koe, ina mahi koe i tētahi mea māu ake, ā, ka mea, "Ka pai, e tama/tamahine, he tino atamai koe!", kāore? Mā tēnei ka pai tō whakaaro mō ō pūkenga, pērā i te, "Ka taea hoki e au te mahi i ngā mea, tika?"

Tautoko mai i ngā hoa

He mea nui hoki ō hoa. Ina whakaurua koe e rātou ki ā rātou kēmu, ki ā rātou kōrero, ki ā rātou mahi hoki, ā, ina whakaute, ina atawhai, ina tika hoki tō manaaki i a koe, ka kite koe kāore koe i te mokemoke, e whakaae ana te katoa ki a koe, ā, he mema nui koe nō tēnei rōpū. He puna nui tēnei kare ā-roto o te '(Whakaute ki a Ia Anō)'.

Ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake

Nā, kia kite tātou he aha tāu e taea ai te mahi māu ake. He tino māmā ēnei, engari he tino whai hua.

• Waihangahia he rārangi o ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi:

Tangohia he pepa iti, ka ngana ki te tuhi i ngā mea katoa ka taea e koe te mahi.

• Ka taea e koe te tuhi? Ka taea e koe te waiata? Ka kanikani? Ka tākaro kirikiti, ka whiu poi, ka oma me te pekepeke? Ka taea e koe te tākaro i tētahi taonga puoro (pēnei i te putorino, i te papapātuhi rānei)?
• Ka taea e koe te eke pahikara, te kauhoe, te oma tere, te whiu pōro pai, te whakaoti rapanga, te kōrero rānei i tētahi pūrākau ka kata ai ō hoa?
• He pai koe ki te pānui pukapuka? He pai koe ki te pāngarau? He hiahia koe ki te pūtaiao, ki te hītori, ki te taiao rānei?
• Kaua e wareware ki ngā mea iti, āe?Ka taea e koe te whakarite i tō moenga, te whakakakahu, me te whakarite i a koe anō? Ka taea e koe te tīmata i ō mahi kāinga i mua i te tono a tetahi ki a koe, ka taea e koe te parai i ō niho? Ka taea e koe te āwhina i ngā mahi o te whare mā te whakatakoto i ngā rihi ki runga i te tēpu, te āwhina ki te whakarite kai, te horoi i muri i te kai, te whāngai i tō mōkai (kurī, ngeru), me te kawe i a ia ki te hikoi?

Kia oti i a koe tēnei rārangi te hanga, tirohia, kia kite ai koe e hia ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi. Tukua koe kia harikoa, kia whakahīhī hoki ki aua mea. Ngāna ki te mahi i ētahi o ngā mea o tēnei rārangi i ia wā, i ia wā. I ia wā ka mahi koe i tēnei, ka pai ake tō whakaaro mōu anō. Ā, ka pai ake koe ki aua mea. Ina kite koe ka taea e koe te mahi i aua mea, ka piki ake tō whakapono ki a koe anō me tō "Whakaute ki a Koe Anō".

• Waihangahia he rārangi o ō āhuatanga pai:

Ehara i te mea ko ngā mea ka taea e koe anake ōu kaha. Kei roto hoki i ēnei ko ngā āhuatanga pai o tōu āhua. Whakaarohia te āhua o tō manaaki i ētahi atu.

• Kei te ngana koe kia atawhai , kia tika , kia pono hoki ?
• He tangata atawhai koe? He tangata āwhina koe i ētahi atu? He tangata whakahari koe i ētahi atu mā te mahi katakata ?
• He tangata whakarongo pai koe? (Ka whakarongo koe ina pouri tō hoa?) E aroha ana koe ki ngā kararehe?
• He tangata hihiko , he tangata pukumahi koe? He tangata marino, he tangata wātea rānei?
• He auaha koe (he whakaaro me te waihanga i ngā mea hou), he toa (he anga whakamua ki ngā wero me te kore wehi), he pai rānei ki ngā hākinakina?

Ngāna kia whakaatu i tētahi o ōu āhuatanga pai i ia rā. Tirohia me pēhea te pānga o ngā āhuatanga pai e whakaatuhia ana e koe ki te hunga e karapoti ana i a koe. Tirohia hoki te nui ake o tō pai ake ina whakamahia e koe ō āhuatanga pai.

• Tahurihia te "Kāore e taea e au" ki te "Ka taea e au!":

Ina ahua uaua ngā mea i te tīmatanga, ehara i te mea ko ngā tamariki anake, engari ko tātou ngā pakeke anō hoki ka whakaaro, "Āe, kāore au i te pai ki tēnei," "Kāore e taea e au tēnei," "He uaua rawa tēnei māku." I taua wā tonu, whakakorea atu taua whakaaro iti "Kāore e taea e au" i roto i tō hinengaro, engari whakaarohia:

• "Ka whakamātau ahau."
• "Ka taea e au tēnei, ka whakamātau ahau."
• "Kei te whakapau kaha ahau."
• "Kei te tono awhina ahau i tētahi e mōhio ana ki te mahi i tēnei." (Kāore he whakama ki te tono awhina, tika?!)

Ina whakaaro maia koe pēnei, ka pai tō whakaaro ki a koe anō. Ā, ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka whakamātau koe i ngā mea hou. Me tumanako ki ngā mea pai. Me kī atu ki a koe anō, "Ki taku whakaaro ka taea e au tēnei." Kātahi ka whakaharatau, ka ako, ka whakarite rānei i runga i tēnā. Ka miharo koe (ka whakahīhī hoki) ki tāu e taea ai!

• Whakamātauria tō kaha:

Ka taea e koe te whakaaro pai mōu anō ina whakamātau koe i tētahi mea. Kāore koe e hiahia kia noho ko koe te tuatahi i ngā mea katoa. Kāore koe e hiahia kia toa i ngā wā katoa. Whakaarohia, kei te tuhi koe i tētahi pikitia. Ahakoa ehara i te pikitia tino ataahua o te ao, ki te tuhi koe me te ngākau nui, me tō kaha nui, ka taea e koe te harikoa mōna. Ina hoatu e koe tō kaha nui ki tētahi mea, ka tipu aunoa tō '(Whakaute-Whaiaro)'.

• Whakapaua te wā ki te hunga e arohaina ana e koe:

Mahia ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe me tō māmā, tō pāpā, tō whānau (tuākana, teina, tuākana, tuakana), me ō hoa pai rawa atu. Tākaro tahi, kōrero, mātaki kiriata, haereere poto. Mā tēnei ka rite koe ki tētahi wāhanga o tēnei hapori, ehara i te mea ko koe anake. Whakaarohia ngā wā i whakaae ai ētahi atu ki a koe, i whakaurua ai koe ki roto i tā rātou rōpū, i aroha ai hoki ki a koe. Tirohia ō whakaaro mōu ake i taua wā. Kaua e wareware ki te kite i ngā mea pai i roto i ētahi atu.

• Mahia ngā mea pai mō ētahi atu (kia atawhai):

Āwhina i ō mātua. Āwhina ki te taka kai, ki te horoi i te whare, ki te whakapaipai i tō rūma, ki te whāngai i tō mōkai, kia atawhai ki ō tuākana, tuākana, teina, te tākaro ki a rātou. Whakarongo ki te haere mai o tētahi hoa ki te kōrero mai i tētahi mea ki a koe. Tohaina atu tētahi mea kei a koe (he pene, ētahi kai). Āwhina i tō hoa noho tata ki te kawe i tētahi kawenga. Āwhina i te kaiako ki te whakatakoto i ngā pukapuka, āwhina ki te ūkui i te papa. Me kata tetahi. Hono atu ki tētahi tamaiti e noho mokemoke ana i roto i te akomanga i roto i tētahi kēmu, kōrero rānei ki a rātou mō te tākaro.

• Whakaarohia tētahi mea pai i mahia e koe:

Whakaarohia tētahi mea pai i mahia e koe inanahi, i tēnei ata rānei. Tērā pea i āwhina koe i tō māmā, i hoatu rānei he pene ki tētahi hoa. He aha ō whakaaro ina whakaarohia e koe? Tirohia, ina mahi koe i ngā mea pai, ka pai tō wairua ki a koe anō. Ka kite koe he mea nui tāu mahi, he tikanga nui tōna. Kia tiaho aua kaha ataahua, aua āhuatanga pai i roto i a koe!

Ko te karere tino nui hei kawe ki te kāinga

Nō reira, e hoa, ko te '(Whakaute-Whaiaro)' he rite ki te hoa pai rawa atu, kaha rawa atu kei roto i tō ngākau. Ina kaha taua hoa, ka whiwhi koe i te kaha whakamiharo ki te aro atu ki ngā mea katoa, ki te wikitoria hoki i ngā wero katoa.

He tangata whai rawa koe. Kaua rawa e wareware ki tēnei. Kia mōhio ki ō pūkenga, ki ō āhuatanga pai. Kaua e wehi ki te whakamātau i ngā mea hou. Tērā pea ka hinga koe, engari whakatika anō. He wāhanga anō hoki te hinganga o te ako. Me atawhai tonu koe me te aroha me te atawhai. Ka taea e koe! He kaha ake koe i tō whakaaro!

Te whakaaro nui ki a ia anō, te whakapono ki a ia anō, te oranga hinengaro, te whakaaro pai, te whanaketanga hinengaro o ngā tamariki, te harikoa