Kei te raru tō tamaiti i ngā kare ā-roto? Me kōrero tātou mō te Whakaora Whanoke Whakawhitiwhiti Kōrero (DBT)!

He ngawari te riri o tāu tamaiti nohinohi mō ngā mea iti? He nui rānei tana tangi ina pouri ia? Kua pāngia koe e te uaua ki te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto? He tino uaua tēnei wheako mō rātou, mōu hoki. Nō reira, i tēnei rā ka kōrero tātou mō tētahi momo rongoā motuhake ka taea te āwhina i ngā wā pēnei. Koia te `(Dialectical Behavior Therapy)`, `(DBT)` rānei.

He aha te Whakaora Whanoke Whakawhitiwhiti Kōrero (DBT)?

He whakarāpopototanga noa iho, ko te Whakaora Whanoke Whakawhitiwhiti Kōrero (DBT) he tikanga tohutohu motuhake e āwhina ana i ngā tamariki nohinohi ki te whakatau me te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto uaua, me te whakapai ake i ō rātou whanaungatanga ki ētahi atu. He momo whakaora e aro ana ki te whanonga. Ko te tikanga o tēnei ka hurihia te whanonga me ngā tauira whakaaro o te tamaiti, ā, ka akona te tamaiti ki ngā pūkenga e hiahiatia ana hei whakatau i ngā āhuatanga uaua me ngā raruraru o te ao.

Whakaarohia, he rite tō tātou oranga ki te waka tere. Ka piki, ka heke tātou i ētahi wā. Me noho tātou me ngā kare ā-roto maha e puta mai ana i ēnei pikinga me ēnei hekenga. Ko ēnei pūkenga e whiwhi ana tātou mai i te `(DBT)` he rite ki ngā patu i roto i ō tātou ringaringa. Mā ēnei pūkenga tātou e āwhina ki te aro atu ki ngā wero me ngā mamae e puta mai ana i te ao, ā, kia kaua e ngaro i roto i aua kare ā-roto.

Ko te tikanga o te kupu "whakawhitiwhiti kōrero" he waihanga i te taurite i waenganui i ngā mea e rua e ahua taupatupatu ana. I roto i tēnei whakaora hinengaro, ko aua mea e rua ko te "Whakaae" me te "Huri." Arā, i a ia e āwhina ana i te tamaiti ki te mārama me te whakaae ki ōna kare ā-roto me ōna wheako, ka āwhina anō hoki ia i a ia ki te hanga i ngā huringa e tika ana hei puta atu i taua āhuatanga me te ora i tētahi oranga pai ake, harikoa ake. E haere tahi ana ēnei mea e rua.

He aha te mea e tupu ana me te `(DBT)`? He aha ngā pūkenga matua ka riro i te tamaiti?

Kāore te whakaora DBT e rite te mahi mō te katoa, nā te mea he rerekē ia tamaiti. Engari i te nuinga o te wā, e arotahi ana tēnei whakaora ki te whakawhanake i ngā pūkenga matua e whā. Me titiro tātou ki ērā.

1. Te Whakaaroaro

He mea tino nui tēnei. Ko te aro nui ko te aro nui ki tāu e mahi ana i tēnei wā, ki ngā whakaaro e puta ake ana ki tō hinengaro, ki ngā kare ā-roto e pā ana ki a koe. Ko tōna tikanga, me te kore e whakahē, "Āe, kei te pēnei taku whakaaro, kāore tēnei i te pai," engari me te titiro atu ki a ia me te kī, "Āe... kei te pēnei taku whakaaro ināianei, kei te pēnei taku whakaaro." He rite ki te titiro ki a koe anō mai i waho. Mā tēnei ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakahaere i ō kare ā-roto me ō whakaaro, kaua e ngaro i roto i aua kare ā-roto.

Hei tauira, whakaarohia kua tino riri rawa tō tamaiti. Ina mahi koe i te aroātahi, kaua e oma atu i taua riri, engari ka taea e koe te mātakitaki i ngā mea pēnei i te, "Kei te riri ahau i tēnei wā, kei te tere te pao o tōku ngākau, kei te wiri ōku ringa." Mā tēnei ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakahaere i tō urupare wawe ki taua kare ā-roto.

2. Te Whakahaere i ngā Kare ā-roto

Ka pāngia pea ā tātou tamariki nohinohi e ngā kare ā-roto tino kaha pērā i te pouri, te riri, me te wehi. I taua wā, kāore e taea e rātou te whakahaere i aua kare ā-roto. Ko te tikanga o te "Whakahaere Kare ā-roto" ko te whakaako i a rātou kia mārama ki ēnei kare ā-roto uaua, kia aro atu ki aua kare ā-roto, kia whakaiti i te kaha, kia whakanui ake hoki i ngā kare ā-roto pai ina puta.

I roto i tēnei, ka ako te tamaiti:

• Tāutuhia tō āhua.
• Kia mārama ki te pūtake o aua kare ā-roto.
• Ngā huarahi hei whakaiti i te pānga o ngā kare ā-roto kino.
• Me pēhea te tāpiri i ngā wheako pai ki tō koiora.

Ina whanakehia tēnei pūkenga, ka taea e te tamaiti te whakahaere i ōna kare ā-roto, kaua e takaro ki aua kare ā-roto.

3. Manawanui ki te Pōuri

Ehara i te mea he ara ataahua te ora i ngā wā katoa. I ētahi wā ka puta ngā wā uaua me ngā wā mamae e kore e taea te whakaaro. Ko te tikanga o te "Manawanui ki te Pōuri" ko te hoatu ki te tamaiti te kaha me ngā tikanga e hiahiatia ana hei whakamanawanui i ngā wā uaua me ngā wā taumaha, kia puta ai i aua wā me te kore e pakaru, e kino rawa atu ai te āhuatanga.

He rite tēnei ki tētahi wāhi haumaru hei nohoanga ina tae mai te awha, kia pahemo rā anō. Mā ēnei pūkenga, ka ako te tamaiti:

• Ngā huarahi hei whakamarie tonu i tō hinengaro.
• Whakangawari i a koe i ngā wā uaua.
• Ngā Tikanga Whakamarie i a Koe Anō.
• Whakaaetia te āhuatanga o nāianei.

Ehara tēnei i te kī kāore koe e rapu i tētahi otinga mō te raruraru. Engari i ētahi wā, ki te kore he otinga tonu, he mea tino nui kia mau tonu te pēhanga.

4. Te Whai Huatanga o te Hononga ki te Tangata

Hei tangata, kāore tātou e noho mokemoke ana. Me mahi tahi tonu tātou me ētahi atu tāngata. Mā te pūkenga "Te Whai Huatanga ki te Whakawhitiwhiti Kōrero" tātou e ako ki te pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga hauora ki ētahi atu, me pēhea te whakaatu mārama me te pakari i ō tātou hiahia me ō tātou whakaaro me te kore e riri, e whakaiti rānei (Te Whakahīhī), me pēhea hoki te whakatau i ngā pakanga me te mohio ina puta.

I roto i tēnei, ka ako te tamaiti:

• Me pēhea te tono mō tāu e hiahia ana.
• Me pēhea te kī "kāo" ki ngā tono kāore e hiahiatia.
• Whakapuakina ō whakaaro, me te whakaute anō hoki i ngā whakaaro o ētahi atu.
• Tiakina ō rohe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga.

Ina whakawhanakehia ēnei pūkenga, ka nui ake te angitu o ngā whanaungatanga a te tamaiti ki ōna hoa, ki tōna whānau, me ōna kaiako.

Anei ngā pūkenga matua e whā ka riro i te tamaiti mā te DBT:

• Te Hinengaroaro: Te whakaae ki ngā mea e tupu ana i tēnei wā, ki ngā whakaaro e puta ake ana ki te hinengaro, me ngā kare ā-roto e pā ana ki a koe, me te kore whakahē.
• Te Whakahaere Kare ā-roto: Te mārama me te urupare tika ki ngā kare ā-roto uaua.
• Manawanui ki te Pōuri: Te ako ki te aro atu ki te ahotea nui me te kore e pakaru te wairua.
• Te Whai Huatanga Whakawhitiwhiti Kōrero: Te whakawhanake i ngā pūkenga ki te tono mārama mō tāu e hiahia ana, te pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga pai, me te whakatau i ngā tautohe.

Ko wai ka āwhina i te rongoā DBT?

Ko te rongoā DBT he mea hanga motuhake hei āwhina i ngā tamariki nohinohi e raru ana ki ngā kare ā-roto kaha, e uaua ana ki te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto, e whakaaro ana ki te whara i a rātou anō, e uru ana rānei ki ētahi atu whanonga morearea.

Ko ngā ariā matua e rua o te DBT ko te tautoko me te whakamana i te tamaiti, me te whakaako i ngā pūkenga ki te hanga i ngā huringa e hiahiatia ana hei oranga harikoa, hauora hoki. Arā, i a tātou e whakaae ana ki te tamaiti, me te kī, "E mārama ana ahau kei te pēnei ō whakaaro, he mea noa," ka ārahi tātou i a rātou mā te kī, "Engari me mahi tātou i ēnei mea hei puta atu i tēnei āhuatanga."

Me pēhea te tuku i te rongoā DBT?

He maha ngā huarahi matua e whakaakona ai ngā pūkenga DBT:

• Ngā Wāhanga Whakaora Takitahi: I konei, ka kōrero takitahi te tamaiti me te kaiwhakaora, me te arotahi ki ngā take whaiaro me ngā kare ā-roto o te tamaiti, me te āwhina i a rātou ki te whakamahi i ngā pūkenga DBT ki te oranga o ia rā.
• Ngā Wāhanga Whakaora Rōpū Whānau Maha: Koinei te wāhi e huihui ai tētahi rōpū tamariki me ō rātou mātua, kaitiaki rānei. Ka ako ngātahi te katoa i ngā pūkenga DBT, ā, ka ako mai i ngā wheako o tētahi ki tētahi. Ka taea tēnei te mahi i roto i te taiao mariko, i te kanohi ki te kanohi rānei.
• Whakangungu Waea: Mena ka pāngia te tamaiti, te mātua rānei e tētahi wā uaua i waenga i ngā wā whakawhanaungatanga, ka taea e rātou te waea atu ki te kaiwhakaora hinengaro me te whiwhi āwhina me te aratohu mō te whakamahi i ngā pūkenga DBT i taua wā.

Ka whakaakona ēnei pūkenga katoa kia whakamahia i roto i te oranga o ia rā. I a ngā tamariki e whakaharatau haere ana i ēnei pūkenga, ka pai ake tā rātou whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto, ka pai ake ō rātou whanaungatanga ki ētahi atu, ā, ka whanake he waiaro pai ake ki te ao.

Me pēhea taku kimi i te rongoā DBT mō taku tamaiti nohinohi?

Mena kei te raru tō tamaiti i ngā kare ā-roto kaha, ā, ki tō whakaaro kei raro ia i te ahotea nui, kōrero ki tō tākuta whānau i te tuatahi. Ka taea e ia te tuku i a koe ki tētahi kaiwhakarato hauora whanonga whai tohu kua whakangungua ki te Whakaora Whanoke Whakawhitiwhiti Kōrero (DBT). Ka taea hoki e koe te pātai mō ēnei ratonga mā roto i ngā tākuta hinengaro me ngā tohunga hinengaro.

Tērā pea ka roa te rapu hei kimi i ngā wāhi e tuku ana i te DBT i Sri Lanka, engari ki te whakamātau koe, e kore e taea e koe te kimi i tētahi. Tērā pea kei ētahi hōhipera tūmataiti me ngā pokapū tohutohu ēnei ratonga.

Ko te mea nui hei maumahara (Karere hei tango ki te kāinga)

Mā te whakaako i tāu tamaiti kia tūpato, kia whakahaere i ōna kare ā-roto, kia aro atu ki ngā wero o te ao, kia noho pai hoki ki ētahi atu, ka nui te painga ki te hanga i tētahi rerekētanga pai ki tōna ao, ā, ka āwhina i a ia kia noho taurite, kia harikoa hoki.

Ehara te DBT i te makutu. E hiahiatia ana te wā, te whakapau kaha, me te tautoko mai i tāu tamaiti. Engari he pai ngā hua. Ka ako tāu tamaiti i ngā pūkenga ka roa mō te wā katoa. Nō reira, kaua e mutu te tumanako. Tikina te āwhina e hiahiatia ana e koe.

Kia maumahara, ehara i te mea ko koe anake. Ehara i te mea ko tāu tamaiti anake te tangata e pāngia ana e ēnei wero. Mā te arataki me te tautoko tika, ka taea e koe te wikitoria i tētahi āhuatanga uaua.

` Rangatahi, Ngā Kare ā-roto, Hauora Hinengaro, DBT, Tohutohu, Whakaora Whanoke, Sri Lanka