Ka pā mai ngā wā o te ao ki a tātou katoa e hiahia ana kia whakapuaki mārama tātou i ō tātou whakaaro, i ō tātou matea, me ō tātou kare ā-roto ki ētahi atu. Heoi, i ētahi wā, ka mataku tātou—ka noho manukanuka, ka ruarua rānei tātou. Koinei te wāhi e puta mai ai te pūkenga nui o te māia . Ki te kī māmā, ko te māia ko te kaha ki te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro me ō tātou matea me te māia ki a koe anō, me te whakaatu tonu i te whakaute ki ngā tirohanga a ētahi atu.
He aha tonu te tikanga o te whai Manaaki?
Whakaarohia te māia he momo whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora, taurite hoki. Ko tōna tikanga he kaha tōu ki te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro, i ō kare ā-roto, me ō hiahia i runga i te pono me te whakaute . He maha ngā āhuatanga ka pā ki a tātou i ia rā, ā, he mea tino nui te māia. Hei tauira:
- Te karanga i tētahi e pai ana ki a koe mō tētahi rā whakatā.
- Te pātai atu ki tō kaiako, ki tō kaimātai mātauranga rānei.
- Te whakaatu pai i a koe anō i te wā uiui mahi.
- Te whakamārama mārama i ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe ina hokohoko ana, ina rapu ratonga rānei.
Ehara i te mea ko te māia te āhuatanga i whānau mai me tātou. Ko ētahi tāngata he tino marino, he mangere ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou whakaaro, he maha ngā wā ka whakaae ki ngā mea katoa hei karo i te pakanga; ka kiia tēnei he momo noho puku . Ko ētahi pea ka ahua kino, ka whakahawea rānei ki ngā kare ā-roto o ētahi atu; he momo pukuriri tēnei. Ko te māia te huarahi tino pai i waenganui i ēnei e rua—he rite ki te ara koura o te taurite.
Nā, he aha te tikanga o te whanonga i roto i te huarahi whakahīhī?
- Ka taea e koe te whakapuaki mārama i ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto.
- Ka taea e koe te whakapuaki i ō hiahia me te tono i tāu e hiahia ana.
- Ka taea e koe te whakahē me te whakaute ahakoa he rerekē te whakaaro o tētahi.
- Ka taea e koe te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro me ō whakaaro me te māia.
- Ka taea e koe te kī "Kāore e taea e au tēnei" me te kore e whakama.
- Kei a koe anō te kaha ki te tautoko i ngā tika o ētahi atu.
He aha te hiranga o te māia?
Tērā pea koe e whakaaro ana mēnā he mea nui tēnei. Ko te pono, ehara i te mea ko te kaha ki te whakatutuki i ngā mahi anake te mahi a te māia; engari he tohu kei te whakanui koe i a koe anō, me te whakanui hoki i ētahi atu .
Ina kōrero māia koe, ka tukuna e koe he karere mārama ki te ao e māia ana koe. Ehara koe i te tangata mataku, ehara hoki i te tangata e ngana ana ki te whakararuraru i ētahi atu. E mōhio ana koe he mea nui ō kare ā-roto me ō whakaaro . Mā tēnei ka poipoi i te māia ki a koe anō.
Ko te tikanga, he māmā ake ki te hunga māia te hanga hoa nā te mea ka kōrero rātou i roto i te huarahi e whakaute ana i ō rātou ake hiahia me ngā hiahia o ētahi atu. He maha ngā wā ka pūkenga rātou ki te whakatau i ngā tautohe me te whai hua. Kia mahara, ina whakaatu tātou i te whakaute ki ētahi atu, ka whiwhi tātou i te whakaute hei utu . He pono taketake tēnā.
Kei hea koe e tū ana? He tino puku rawa koe, he tino nanakia rawa, he tika noa iho rānei?
Me titiro tātou ki tō tūranga i roto i te whānuitanga o te māia mā te whakamahi i ētahi tauira:
Te Kōrero a Pawani: He tino marino? (He tino mangere)
Ki te pātai koe ki a Pawani, "Ko tēhea kiriata me mātaki tātou?", ko tāna e whakahoki ana, "Āe, kāore au i te mōhio, māu e whiriwhiri te mea e pai ana ki a koe." He maha āna tuku i ētahi atu ki te whakatau, ā, i muri mai ka pōuri ia, me te hiahia kia kōrero ia. He tino uaua ki a ia te kōrero i te wā e kōrero ana ōna hoa, ā, ahakoa e ngana ana ia ki te whai wāhi, he tino mārie tana kōrero, ā, kāore i te mōhiotia e ētahi atu te kōrero mōna.
Te Kōrero a Janani: He tino kaha rawa? (He tino pukuriri rawa)
Kāore he raruraru mō Janani ki te whakapuaki i ōna whakaaro. Heoi, he nui te reo, he rangatira tana kōrero, me te mea ko ōna whakaaro anake te mea nui. I roto i ngā kōrero katoa, he maha āna whakahaere, he maha āna wā e whakakore ana i te kōrero a ētahi atu, ā, he onge tana whakarongo ki ā rātou kōrero. Ki te kore koe e whakaae ki a ia, tera pea ka tawai ia ki a koe, ka whakaiti rānei i tō tirohanga. He tokomaha te hunga e kite ana he tino rangatira a Janani, ā, e whakaaro ana kāore ia e whai whakaaro ki ngā kare ā-roto o ētahi atu.
Te Kōrero a Benura: Te huarahi tino pai! (Tika tonu – Manaaki)
Ki te pātai koe ki a Benura mō ōna whakaaro, ka whakapuakina e ia me te pono. Ki te kore ia e whakaae ki a koe, ka pena ia me te kore e whakaiti i a koe, e mea rānei kia whakaaro koe he hē koe. He tino hiahia a Benura ki ō tirohanga, ā, ka whakarongo pai ia. Ahakoa ka whakahē a Benura ki a koe, ka kite koe e whakaute ana ia i tō whakaaro.
Ngā raruraru o te noho mangere rawa
Kia whakaarohia te hunga, pērā i a Pawani, e noho puku ana. He maha tonu ā rātou whakaaro kei te whakamahi kinotia rātou e ētahi atu, kei te whakamahia rānei hei painga mō rātou ake. Ka taea e tēnei te arahi ki ngā kare ā-roto mamae, te riri, me te mauahara hōhonu .
Ki te puritia e koe ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto, kāore ētahi e whai wāhi ki te mōhio pono, ki te mārama rānei ki a koe. Ka ngaro ō whakaaro nui ki tō whānau, ki tō wāhi mahi, ki tō rōpū rānei.
Ki te tīmata koe ki te whakaaro, "Kāore he aha aku whakaaro, kāore he tangata e aro ki ōku kare ā-roto," ka heke haere pea tō whakapono ki a koe anō. Tērā pea ka ngaro i a koe te whakamihi me te whakatenatena e tika ana māu. Ki te mau tonu tēnei āhua, ka arahi pea ki ngā āhuatanga hauora hinengaro pērā i te pouri .
Ngā raruraru o te kaha rawa o te riri
Nā, me titiro tātou ki te aha ka pā ki te hunga, pērā i a Janani, e whanonga pukuriri ana. He maha ngā wā ka uaua ki a rātou te pupuri i ngā whakahoahoa, i ngā whanaungatanga hauora rānei. Mā te ngana tonu ki te whakahaere i ngā kōrero me te akiaki i ō rātou whakaaro, ka kore pea rātou e paingia, ka waiho ētahi atu kia whakaaro kāore rātou e whai mana ana, e whakautehia ana rānei.
Ahakoa ka taea e te momo pukuriri te whakatutuki i tāu e hiahia ana i roto i te wā poto, ko te hua noa ko te tīmatanga o te whakahē, te kino rānei o ētahi atu ki a koe. Hei te mutunga, ka ngaro te whakaute o te hunga e karapoti ana i a koe.
He aha tātou katoa e kore ai e whakaharatau i te tū pakari?
He aha ētahi tāngata e anga atu ai ki te whai whakaaro nui pērā i a Benura, ko ētahi e taka ana ki ngā mahanga kore mahi, kore mahi rānei? Ko tētahi āhuatanga ko tō tātou ake āhua. Hei tāpiri, he mea nui ngā tikanga kua hangaia e tātou i roto i te wā me ō tātou wheako o te ao. Hei tāpiri, he maha ngā wā ka ako tātou i ā tātou momo whakawhitiwhiti kōrero mā te mātakitaki i ētahi atu, inā koa ko ngā pakeke nāna tātou i whakatipu—ngā mātua, ngā kaitiaki rānei—nāna i whakatauira te whanonga kore mahi, te whanonga kore mahi, te whanonga pukuriri rānei.
Ngā take mō te noho mangere rawa:
- Te kore whakapono ki a ia anō, me te kore whakapono ki te uara o ōna ake whakaaro.
- Te hiahia nui rawa atu ki te whakahari i ētahi atu, ki te whiwhi rānei i tā rātou whakaae.
- He wehi nui kei whakahēngia, kei whakakahoretia rānei .
- Te tino aro nui ki ngā whakahē, ngā wheako o mua rānei i kore ai e arohia, i pehia rānei ō whakaaro, ka mamae ai te ngākau.
- Ko te korenga o te whanaketanga o ngā pūkenga whakawhitiwhiti kōrero e hiahiatia ana hei whakaatu i te māia.
Ngā take mō te kaha rawa o te riri:
- Te whakamātau nui rawa atu , e tohuhia ana e te whakapono ko te tangata tonu te tika.
- Te whakatairanga i ōna ake hiahia me ōna whakaaro, engari te wareware i ngā hiahia me ngā whakaaro o ētahi atu.
- Kāore i te ako ki te whakaute, ki te whai whakaaro rānei ki ngā kare ā-roto me ngā matea o ētahi atu tāngata.
- Te korenga o ngā pūkenga whakarongo , me te korenga e ako me pēhea te tono whakaaro mai i ētahi atu.
Me pēhea te whakatipu i te whanonga whakahihi:
- Te kaha o te whakapono ki a ia anō .
- Te whakapono hōhonu he mea nui ō whakaaro, he mea nui ō kare ā-roto, ā, kei a koe te tika taketake ki te whakapuaki i aua kare ā-roto.
- Te hanga i te manawanui—te kaha hinengaro ki te whakatere tika i ngā whakahe, i te whakakorenga, me ngā arai.
- Te whakaute i ngā hiahia me ngā matea o ētahi atu.
- Te whakamahi i ngā tauira e whakaatu ana i ngā whanonga hauora, māia hoki hei whakahihiko i a koe.
- Te whakaaroaro ki ngā wheako pai o mua i pai ai ō whakaaro, i puta ai rānei he hua whai hua nā tō māia.
Me pēhea e taea ai e koe te whakapakari ake i tōu māia? Ngā mahi whai hua hei tīmatanga
Ko te rongo pai rawa atu, he pūkenga ka taea te whakawhanake mā te whakaharatau i te māia. Me ako noa i ētahi tikanga whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me te whakawhanake i te hinengaro tika o roto.
Ahakoa he māmā ake tēnei ki ētahi atu, he kaha tō te katoa ki te whakapai ake i tō rātou māia .
Anei ētahi mahi ka taea e koe te mahi:
1. Tuatahi, tautuhia tō momo whakawhitiwhiti kōrero o nāianei.
Kia pono ki a koe anō: He tangata whakahihi koe, he tangata noho puku (wā puku/noho puku), he tangata pukuriri rānei? Kia mōhio koe ki tō momo mahi, whakatauhia mēnā me whakaiti te noho puku, me whakaiti te riri, me whakapai noa rānei i ō whanonga whakahihi o nāianei.
2. Ki te mea he āhua noho puku koe, ngana ki ēnei mahi hei whakapakari ake i tōu māia:
- Kia aro ki ō whakaaro, ō kare ā-roto, ō hiahia, me ō manakohanga. I mua i te whakapuaki i ēnei ki ētahi atu, me mārama koe ki aua mea.
- Mātakitaki mēnā he maha āu whakautu ki ngā pātai me ngā kīanga pēnei i te "Kāore au i te mōhio," "Kāore he āwangawanga," "Ehara i te mea he raruraru" hei karo i te taupatupatu. Whakamutua taua tikanga. Tīmata ki te whakapuaki i ō hiahia i roto i ngā āhuatanga iti. Hei tauira, ki te pātai mai tētahi, "E pai ana koe ki te mea kakariki, ki te mea whero rānei?" ka taea e koe te kī, "E pai ana ahau ki te mea kakariki, ngā mihi."
- Whakaharatau ki te tuku tono. Hei tauira: “Me homai e koe taua pūnu ki ahau?” “Me hiahia ahau ki tētahi pene—he pūnu tāpiri tā tetahi?” me “Me waiho e koe taua tūru mōku?” Mā te whakaharatau i ēnei tono iti ka hanga te maia me te pūkenga e hiahiatia ana mō ngā taunekeneke nui ake.
- Tuhia ō whakaaro. Kōrerohia mēnā i pai koe ki tētahi kiriata i mātakihia e koe, ā, whakamāramahia ō whakaaro.
- Whakamahia ngā kōrero "ahau" , pērā i te "E hiahia ana ahau...", "E pai ana ahau...", "Ki taku whakaaro..." rānei. Mā tēnei ka whakapuakina ō kare ā-roto me ō whakaaro me te mea nōu ake.
- Kimihia he tauira taurite—kāore e noho puku, kāore hoki e pukuriri. Mātakitakihia ā rātou taunekeneke, me te ngana ki te whai i ō rātou āhuatanga pai.
- Kia maumahara tonu koe he rite tonu te tika o ō whakaaro me ō whakaaro ki ō te katoa . Ko te mōhio he taahiraa matua tēnei ki te whai whakaaro pakari. Ko te tino pakari ka tīmata mā te whakaute i a koe anō me te whakanui i a koe anō pērā i tō whakanui i ētahi atu.
3. Ki te mea he pukuriri koe, ngana ki ēnei tohutohu kia kaha ake ai tōu māia:
- Tukua ētahi atu kia kōrero i te tuatahi.
- Kia tūpato ki te whakararuraru i ētahi atu. Ki te kite koe i a koe e mahi ana i tēnā, kati tonu, whakapāha, ka mea atu, "Aroha mai, tēnā whakaotia tāu i kōrero ai," me te hoatu i te wā ki te tangata kia tino whakapuaki i a ia anō.
- Pātai atu ki ētahi atu mō ō rātou whakaaro, ā, whakarongo mai hoki.
- Ki te kore koe e whakaae ki tētahi, whakapuakina ō whakaaro me te whakaute, kaua e whakaiti i ō rātou whakaaro. Hei tauira, kaua e kī, "He whakaaro kuware tēnā," ngana ki te kī, "Kāore au i te tino whakaae ki tēnā huarahi." Kaua e tapaina tētahi ki te ingoa kino, ngana ki te kī, "Ki taku whakaaro kāore pea rātou e whai whakaaro ana ki ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata."
- E ai ki te kōrero i mua ake nei, kimihia he tauira taurite ka taea e koe te whai i ana whanonga.
4. Ahakoa te hunga māia, me whakapai tonu i ō rātou pūkenga:
- Me kimi tonu i ngā tauira hei tauira , me te tirotiro tonu i ō rātou kaha. He akonga tonu tātou katoa mō te wā roa!
- Tātarihia ngā āhuatanga e tino kaha ai koe ki te kōrero. He maha ngā tāngata e ngāwari ana ki te kōrero ki ō rātou hoa, engari he uaua ki ngā kaiako, ki ngā hoa hou rānei. I aua wā uaua, pātai atu ki a koe anō, "Me pēhea taku whakahaere i tēnei mena kei te kōrero ahau ki taku hoa pai?" Mā te panoni i te tirohanga ka māmā ake te mahi.
Ko te mea tino nui hei tango
Hei whakamutunga, ko te whai whakaaro nui—te whakapuaki pono me te mārama i ō whakaaro, me te pupuri tonu i te whakaute ki ētahi atu—e whakaatu ana i te nui o tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō.
Kei a koe te tika ki te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto, ā, kei a koe te kawenga ki te whakaute i ngā whakaaro o ētahi atu. Ko te māia te taurite tino pai o ngā mea e rua.
He taahiraa nui te whakawhanake i tēnei pūkenga ki te whakatutuki i tōu ake āhua pai rawa atu . Tīmata mārire ki te whakaharatau—ka taea e koe!
Te māia, te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, te whakapono ki a ia anō, te whakapuaki i a ia anō, ngā whanaungatanga, te hauora hinengaro, te whanonga
