Mena kei a koe te ADHD (mate aro nui ), tera pea ka pōuri tō hoa i ō whanonga. Engari, tera pea kāore koe e mōhio he aha te mea e whakararuraru ana i a rātou, me te aha rānei hei mahi mā rātou. Ahakoa he rerekē ia whanaungatanga, tera ētahi take noa e puta ai ngā raruraru. Hei tauira, ko tō pōhēhē, tō wareware, me tō hiahia tere ka puta ai he tautohetohe i waenganui i a kōrua. Me tautuhi tātou i te wāhi e puta ai ēnei raruraru, ka kōrerohia ngā huarahi hei whakaiti i te taumahatanga.
Ina huri te pōrearea hei raruraru
I a ia e kōrero ana mō te noho tahi me tētahi tangata he ADHD tōna, e kī ana tētahi wahine ko Christine tōna ingoa: "He kaiwhakamahere ahau, he tangata pūnaha. Kei te whakaaro tonu ahau ki ngā mea ka tupu i muri mai." He ADHD tōna tāne, a Max.
Ko Max te ritenga kē. Ahakoa kāore ia e māharahara ki te paru, he raruraru nui tēnei ki a Christine. E mea ana ia, "Kua noho taku tāne i roto i tētahi taiao paru i tōna oranga katoa. Engari ki ahau nei, ko te kitenga i te paru ka tino pāngia ahau e te ahotea."
E ai ki a Sharon Saleen, he tohunga hinengaro e tohunga ana ki te ADHD, he mea tino noa tēnei. "He maha ngā wā ka rerekē ngā whakaaro o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e pāngia ana e te ADHD mō te whakaritenga me te whakaritenga. Ka taea e tēnei te whakararuraru i ngā taha e rua."
I ētahi wā, ko te mea e noa ana ki tētahi tangata, tera pea he tino ahotea ki tētahi atu.
He aha tāu e mahi ai mō tēnei?
Hangaia he rārangi o ngā mea e kitea ana e kōrua he raruraru, he taumahatanga rānei (ngā mea whakaoho). Kōwhiria ngā mea ngāwari ki te mahi tuatahi. Kātahi ka whakaarohia he huarahi hei whakarite i aua mea. Tērā pea he tohu tae, he whakanoho rānei i ngā mea ki roto i ngā pouaka motuhake kia rite ki te raupapa pīpā. Ko te mea nui ko te whakatakoto i tētahi tikanga e whakaaetia ana e kōrua.
Ngā raruraru ki te tohatoha i ngā mahi o te whare
E kī ana a Teri, e noho tahi ana me William, he ADHD tōna: "I ētahi wā ka whakaaro ahau ko au anake te tangata hei kawe i ngā kawenga katoa o te kāinga, hei whakarite hoki i tētahi mahere mō ngā mea katoa."
Nā te mea kāore a William e aro ki ngā mahi o te whare, ka riro mā Terry e mahi ngā mea katoa. E mea ana ia, ki te kore ia e mahi, kāore he mea e oti. "Me whakahaere e au ngā mea katoa, me tuku atu hoki he mahi ki a au."
He mea noa tēnei i roto i ngā whanaungatanga ADHD, e ai ki a Chad Perman, he kaitohutohu mō te marena me te whānau. "Ko te hoa kore-ADHD te nuinga o ngā mahi o te whare me te tiaki tamariki nā te mea he pai ake tā rātou whakarite, he pono, ā, ka taea e rātou te whakaoti i ngā mahi i roto i te wā tika."
Ka taea e tēnei te huri hei whanaungatanga "mātua- tamaiti " i roto i te wā. Ahakoa ka noho tō hoa hei "mātua kawenga", tera pea ka noho koe hei "tamaiti kore kawenga" i roto i te kore mōhio. Ka tino whakarihariha pea tēnei mō kōrua tokorua.
| Te whakaaro o te hoa rangatira kāore he ADHD | He aha rawa te mea e pā ana ki a koe mēnā he ADHD tōu? |
|---|---|
| "Me whakamahara atu ahau i ngā mea katoa ki a koe. Pērā i te tamaiti nohinohi." | "He uaua ki ahau te maumahara ki ngā mea. Me whai whakamahara ahau." |
| "Kua wareware ia ki ahau. Kāore ia e aro mai ki ahau." | "He ngawari te tahuri ke o taku aro. He uaua ki ahau te whakahaere." |
| "Kāore e oti i a ia tētahi mahi ina tīmata. He tino mangere ia." | "He uaua ki ahau te aro tonu ki tētahi mea i ia wā. He taumahatanga nui tēnei mōku." |
He aha tāu e mahi ai mō tēnei?
Noho tahi, kōrero. Whakaaetia ngā mahi motuhake ka mahia e kōrua. Whakatakotoria he whakamaumahara ki tō waea pūkoro kia kore ai e wareware ki te mahi. Me kōrero hoki ki tō hoa ina oti i a kōrua tētahi mahi. Mā tēnei ka whakaiti i te pēhanga ki a rātou.
Ina wareware koe i tētahi mea nui...
Ka taea e te warewaretanga te whakararuraru i te whanaungatanga. E ai ki a Teri, "I ētahi wā ka tonoa e au a William ki te toa ki te tiki i ngā taonga e rua. Ka roa ia ki te tae atu ki reira, ā, ka hoki mai ia me te taonga kotahi anake."
Ka kata ia, ā, ka wareware ki ngā mea ririki pērā. Engari e mea ana anō ia, "Kāore au e kata ina whakaaro ahau mēnā ka wareware te ngeru ki te whāngai i a ia, ka pau rānei te wai o te kurī i a au e ngaro ana."
Ahakoa a Max e mōhio ana he raruraru tōna warewaretanga . "I ētahi wā ka oati ahau ki te tuku reta mā taku wahine, kātahi ka wareware ki te mahi i te wā tika. I ētahi wā ka wareware rawa ahau."
Ina kore e taea e ia te pupuri i tana kupu whakaari, ka pouri ia mōna anō. "Me whakawhirinaki ia ki ahau. He uaua te noho tahi me te tangata kāore e taea e koe te whakawhirinaki. He tino mamae pea ina whakahē koe i te whakawhirinaki o tō hoa."
He aha tāu e mahi ai mō tēnei?
Waihangahia he rārangi mahi. Whakakorea ina oti i a koe tētahi mahi. Whakatakotoria he whakamaumahara me he whakamōhiotanga ki tō waea. Ki te taea, tuhia ki runga i te papa ma i te pakitara kia kitea ai e tō hoa.
Ina kore tō hoa e arohaina ana
Ina wareware koe ki ngā mea nui mō tō hoa, ina kore koe e aro ki ā rātou hiahia, tera pea ka whakaaro rātou kāore koe e aro ki a rātou. "He mea tino noa tēnei i roto i ngā whanaungatanga me te ADHD," te kī a Ned Hallowell, MD, he tohunga ADHD. Ahakoa he take io pea te take, tera pea ka kite te tangata kē he kore aroha.
Koinei te mea ka pā ki a Theri ina ngaro te aro katoa o William i a ia e noho tahi ana me ia. "I ētahi wā ka tere rawa tana hikoi. Ka wareware ia ki taku wāhi nā te mea kei hea atu tana aro."
"Ki te haere māua ki tētahi pāti, ka wareware rawa ia ki ahau ina kite ia i ana hoa. Kāore ia e kite ana mēnā e hiahia ana ahau ki te inu, mēnā rānei kei roto ahau i te mano." E mōhio ana ia kāore a William e mahi i ēnei mea me te āta whakaaro. Engari e whakaaro ana ia kāore a William e aro ki a ia.
E mea ana a William, "Aroha mai ki a ia mōna kare ā-roto, nā te mea ehara tēnā i taku hiahia." Ko te mea e tupu ana, kua ki tonu tōna roro i ngā mea maha i te wā kotahi, ā, he tere rawa tana mahi, ā, kei te ngaro ētahi mea i a ia.
He aha tāu e mahi ai mō tēnei?
E ai ki a William rāua ko Terry, he mea āwhina te kōrero mārire, me te kore e whakapae tetahi i tetahi. "Kātahi ka taea e tāua te mahi tahi ki te kimi i tētahi otinga mō te raruraru." Mena he ADHD tōu, ka taea e koe te whai wāhi atu ki ngā mahi whakaaroaro. Ka taea e tēnei te āwhina i a koe kia noho tonu ki te wā o nāianei.
Ina pānui ohorere koe i ngā mea e puta ake ana ki te hinengaro
Ka pāngia hoki te huarahi e kōrero ai koe me tō hoa e te ADHD. Tērā pea ka kōrero koe i ngā mea katoa e puta ake ana ki tō hinengaro, ka uaua ki te aro ki tētahi kōrero, ka whakakore ohorere rānei i te kōrero a te tangata i a rātou e kōrero ana.
"Ki te hoa kāore he ADHD, he tino kino, he mangere, he whara hoki ēnei whanonga.""Koinā te āhua," te kī a te kaitohutohu a Parman.
"He maha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine whai ADHD e raru ana i te pahūtanga o ngā kare ā-roto me ngā tautohe kaha," te kī a Sharon Saleen.
He aha tāu e mahi ai mō tēnei?
Whakaarohia i mua i te kōrero. Ina riri nui koe, me whai wā okioki. Kia marino, kātahi ka hoki tahi mai ki te kōrero mō taua mea.
Ahakoa te raruraru, whakaharatauhia te whakarongo kaha i te iti rawa kotahi i te wiki. Kōrerohia ngā raruraru noa ngātahi, ā, kimihia he otinga. Tirohia te āhuatanga i roto i te tirohanga pai i ngā wā katoa e taea ai. Whakangāwarihia te wā e kaha haere ana ngā kare ā-roto. Arotahi ki ngā āhuatanga pai o kōrua me ngā mea e ōrite ana ki a kōrua. Kia maumahara, ehara tēnei i te pakanga mā kōrua anake e whawhai, engari he mea me wikitoria ngātahi e kōrua. Mena kei te hiahia koe i ētahi atu tohutohu mō tēnei, kōrero ki tō tākuta, ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro whai tohu rānei.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ehara te ADHD i te he o tetahi, he āhuatanga e pā ana ki te mahi a te pūnaha io. Nō reira kaua e whakapae i a koe anō, i tō hoa rānei.
- Ngāna kia mārama he aha ngā raruraru e puta ana. Kia mārama ki te take o te whanonga a te tangata whai ADHD (hei tauira, te ngaro o te arotahi) me te āhua o ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata kāore he ADHD (hei tauira, te kore aroha).
- Kimihia ngā otinga whai hua. Whakatakotoria he whakamaumahara ki tō waea pūkoro, hangaia he rārangi, ā, tohaina ngā mahi.
- Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero te mea tino nui. Kōrerohia ō whakaaro me te marino, kaua e riri. Whakapaua he wā ki te whakarongo tetahi ki tetahi.
- Ki te mea he uaua ki a koe te haere ko koe anake i tēnei haerenga, kaua e mangere ki te rapu awhina i te tākuta, i te kaitohutohu rānei.
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