N’chifukwa chiyani kuvutika maganizo kumapitirira popanda chithandizo? Tiyeni tikambirane za zifukwa za chikhalidwe cha anthu (Kuvutika maganizo kosachiritsika ndi chithandizo)

Kodi inuyo kapena munthu amene mumamudziwa ali ndi vuto la kuvutika maganizo? Mwina mwaonana ndi dokotala, mwamwa mankhwala, ndipo mwatsatira malangizowo, koma mukumva ngati vuto lanu silikuchira. Kodi nthawi zina mumamva bwino, koma kenako mumamva ngati mukubwerera ku umunthu wanu wakale? Timatcha izi kuti "kuvutika maganizo kosachiritsika ndi mankhwala." Koma musaope kumva dzinali. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti simungachiritsidwe. Nthawi zina chomwe chimayambitsa vutoli chingakhale mavuto akuya m'miyoyo yathu komanso m'gulu lathu omwe sitiganizira. Tiyeni tikambirane za izi lero.

N’chifukwa chiyani anthu ena amapitirizabe kukhala ndi vuto la kuvutika maganizo?

Mwachidule, kuvutika maganizo ndi vuto lomwe limayamba chifukwa cha kusintha kwa mankhwala muubongo. Lingathe kuchiritsidwa bwino ndi mankhwala operekedwa ndi dokotala (mankhwala oletsa kuvutika maganizo) ndi uphungu/mankhwala. Komabe, nthawi zina mankhwala amenewa saletsa matendawa kwathunthu.

Ngati tidziyang'ana tokha ku Sri Lanka, titha kuzindikira zinthu zingapo zofunika zomwe zikukhudza vutoli.

Kusalidwa ndi manyazi pagulu

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa mavuto akuluakulu m'dziko lathu. Anthu akamanena kuti matenda amisala, anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti "zamisala."

• Kubisa matenda: Anthu ambiri amachita manyazi kapena amaopa kuvomereza kuti ali ndi vuto la kuvutika maganizo n’kukambirana za vutoli. Anthu ambiri amavutika ndi vutoli chifukwa cha nkhawa monga, "Kodi anansi anga adzaganiza chiyani?" kapena "Kodi anzanga kuntchito adzandipatula akadzadziwa?"
• Kukakamizidwa ndi achibale: Nthawi zina achibale samvetsa izi. Amanena zinthu monga, "Ndikuganiza kuti ndi chinthu chomwe ndikuganiza," "Ganizirani mozama pang'ono," ndi "Pitani ku kachisi kapena ku mzikiti," koma safuna kuvomereza kuti uwu ndi matenda omwe amafunika chithandizo chamankhwala.
• Kusiya chithandizo: Chifukwa cha manyazi amenewa, anthu ena amasiya chithandizo pakati pa nthawiyi, ngakhale atapita kwa dokotala kapena kuyamba kumwa mankhwala, poopa kuti wina angadziwe. Kusiya mankhwalawo akangomva bwino, n’kumanena kuti “zakwanira,” kumangopangitsa kuti munthuyo abwererenso ku vutoli.

Ndi kukakamizidwa ndi anthu kwamtunduwu, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kupeza chithandizo choyenera komanso chokhazikika. Ichi ndi chifukwa chachikulu chomwe chimapangitsa kuti munthu adwale matenda a maganizo nthawi yayitali.

Nkhani zachuma ndi zothandiza

Chithandizo cha matenda amisala nthawi zina chingakhale cholemetsa pazachuma. Taganizirani za mtengo woyendera kuchokera kumudzi kupita mumzinda kukawonana ndi dokotala wamisala, mtengo wa mankhwala, komanso kutaya nthawi yopuma pantchito. Ndi zonsezi, zingakhale zovuta kwambiri kwa anthu ena kupitiriza kulandira chithandizo.

Ngakhale kuti pali chithandizo chaulere m'zipatala za boma, pali mavuto ena monga khamu la anthu kumeneko komanso kusowa nthawi yokwanira yolankhula ndi dokotala momasuka. Chifukwa cha izi, anthu ena amasiya kufunafuna chithandizo.

Ubale pakati pa inu ndi dokotala

Iyi ndi mfundo yofunika kwambiri. Kodi mukuona kuti dokotala wanu akumvetsani? Kodi muli ndi malo omwe mungathe kulankhula momasuka za mavuto anu, momwe mukumvera, komanso mantha anu popanda manyazi?

Nthawi zina, pamene sitingathe kumanga ubale wabwino ndi dokotala, timakhala opanda chidwi ndi chithandizo. Sititsatira zomwe dokotalayo akunena. Tikhozanso kusiya chithandizo, kuganiza kuti, "Sakundimvetsa."

Ndiye kodi timachita chiyani?

Mukayang'ana zonsezi, mwina mukumvetsa kuti kuvutika maganizo si matenda omwe angachiritsidwe pomwa mankhwala. Ndi kovuta. Pali zinthu zambiri zokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu komanso zachuma zomwe zimakhudza vutoli.

1. Vomerezani ndikulankhula: Choyamba, vomerezani kuti uwu ndi matenda. Musachite manyazi. Kambiranani za matendawa ndi mnzanu wodalirika kapena wachibale wanu. Kusunga nkhaniyi m'chinsinsi kumangowonjezera mavuto.

2. Khalani oona mtima ndi dokotala wanu: Lankhulani ndi dokotala wanu za chilichonse. Kodi pali zotsatirapo zilizonse zomwe zingachitike chifukwa cha mankhwala? Kodi n'zovuta kulipira mtengo wa chithandizo? Muuzeni za mavuto omwe mukukumana nawo pagulu. Mukadziwa zonsezi, dokotala wanu akhoza kupanga dongosolo la chithandizo lomwe likuyenererani.

3. Khalani oleza mtima: Kuvutika maganizo kumatenga nthawi kuti kuchiritsidwe. Musayembekezere zotsatira zadzidzidzi. Onetsetsani kuti mukupitiriza kumwa mankhwala anu nthawi yonse yomwe dokotala wanu wakuuzani. Musasiye kumwa mankhwala anu mukangomva bwino pang'ono.

4. Pemphani thandizo: N'zovuta kuyenda ulendowu nokha. Pemphani thandizo kuchokera kwa abale ndi abwenzi. Ngati kuli kofunikira, funani thandizo kwa mlangizi. Lidzakhala gwero lalikulu la mphamvu kwa inu.

Si vuto lanu kuti kuvutika maganizo kukupitirira. Pali zinthu zambiri zakunja zomwe zingayambitse vutoli. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kuzindikira zopinga zimenezo, kuyesetsa kuzithetsa, osataya chiyembekezo ndikupitiliza kufunafuna chithandizo choyenera chamankhwala.