Kodi mukufunanso kumvetsetsa maganizo a ena? Tiyeni tikambirane za Luntha la Maganizo mwachidule!

Tonsefe timafuna kukhala abwino komanso ochezeka ndi anthu ena. Koma nthawi zina timadzifunsa kuti, "N’chifukwa chiyani akuchita zimenezi?" Kumvetsa bwino zomwe zili m’maganizo mwa munthu wina nthawi zina kungakhale kovuta. Koma mukudziwa, ichi ndi chinthu chomwe tingachichite ndikuchikulitsa. Lero tikambirana za luso limeneli lomvetsetsa anthu ena, lomwe ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri la `(Emotional Intelligence)`.

Kodi mungaganizire momwe ena angamvere?

Tangoganizirani izi: Mnzanu wakupemphani ku phwando. Pambuyo pake mumapeza kuti wafunsa mtsikana aliyense m'gulu lanu, osati Paula yekha. Kodi mukuganiza kuti Paula angamve bwanji atadziwa?

A. Kodi adzakwiya? B. Kodi adzakhala wachisoni? C. Kodi adzamva kupweteka? D. Kodi adzamva kuti wasiyidwa? E. Kodi adzakwiya? F. Kodi adzaopa? G. Kodi adzachita manyazi? H. Kodi adzasiyidwa yekha?

Mwina mwapeza yankho mwa kudziyika nokha mumkhalidwe wa Paula ndikudabwa momwe mungamvere. Anthu ambiri amakumana ndi chimodzi kapena zingapo mwa izi nthawi imodzi: mkwiyo, chisoni, kupweteka, ndi kusungulumwa. Sizachilendo kuti munthu akhumudwe, achite mantha, kapena achite manyazi wina akakanidwa motere. Chimodzimodzinso ndi kuwanyalanyaza.

Kutha kudziwiratu momwe ena adzamvere ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri la zomwe timatcha "Emotional Intelligence", kapena "EQ". Uwu ndi luso lomwe tingathe kukulitsa kudzera muzochita.

Tikamvetsetsa momwe ena angamvere, zimatitsogolera momwe timachitira zinthu ndi iwo. Mwachitsanzo, pa phwando lomwe latchulidwa pamwambapa, ngati Paula akufunsani kuti, "Kodi mukupita ku phwando la Reagan?" Kudziwa kuti sanaitanidwe kungakhudze momwe mumayankhira, sichoncho? Munganene kapena musanene izi:

A. "Inde, ndikupita - mukupita?"

B. "Inde, ndikupita. Ndingakuuzeni bwanji izi? Kodi ndi zoona kuti sanalankhule nanu?"

C. "Inde, aliyense akupita!"

D. "Inde ndikupita! Lidzakhala phwando labwino kwambiri la chaka chino!"

E. "Inde. Pepani kuti sindinakuitane. Sindikuganiza kuti Regan anachita izi kuti akupwetekeni mtima, ndinamva kuti makolo ake amamulola kulankhula ndi anthu ochepa okha."

Ngati simunadziwe kuti Paula sanaitanidwe, mungayankhe A, C, kapena D. Koma popeza mukudziwa nkhani yonse, mwina mukuganizira za momwe Paula akumvera ndipo kuyankha B kapena E. C ndi D ndi mtundu wa mayankho omwe munganene mukadziwa kuti munthu winayo waitanidwadi.

Kuwerenga Chilankhulo cha Thupi

Nthawi zina mumapeza zambiri kuchokera ku zomwe wina sakukuuzani. Gawo lina la "Emotional Intelligence" ndi kuwerenga zizindikiro zomwe anthu akukutumizirani ndikuziganizira.

Tangoganizani Paula akubwera kwa inu, akuoneka wachisoni pang'ono. Akufunsani kuti: "Kodi mupita ku phwando la Reagan Loweruka?" Kuchokera ku zizindikiro zake zamaganizo (chilankhulo cha thupi, mawonekedwe a nkhope), mutha kuwona kuti Paula akudziwa kuti sanaitanidwe. Mu mkhalidwe wotere, mutha kuyankha A, koma mutha kusankha B kapena E.

Koma tangoganizani Paula akubwera kwa inu nonse okondwa nati, "Hei, ndamva kuti Regan akuchita phwando kumapeto kwa sabata ino. Mukupita?" Potengera momwe thupi lake limayankhulira, mwina mungaganize kuti, "O, sakudziwa, akungoyembekezera kuyitanidwa."

Ngati muli ndi EQ yabwino, mukudziwa kuti Paula ndiye yekha amene sanaitanidwe, kotero simukumva bwino kumuuza kuti mukupita ku phwando. Ngakhale kuti ndi ntchito yake kulamulira malingaliro ake, mwina mumamumvera chisoni. Mukudziwa kuti momwe mumayankhira zingamupangitse kumva bwino kapena kumupweteka kwambiri. Choncho mumasankha mawu anu moyenera.

Kumvetsetsa momwe anthu amachitira

Kutha kumvetsetsa ena sikuti kungotithandiza kudziwiratu momwe anthu adzamvera pazochitika zinazake, komanso kumatithandiza kumvetsetsa momwe anthu adzachitire ndi zinazake.

Tiyeni tiwone chitsanzo:

Nthawi ya 8 koloko m'mawa mu `(Homeroom)` mnzanu akumwetulira, wochezeka kwambiri, komanso wamphamvu. Madzulo amenewo, ali ndi chisoni kwambiri, pafupifupi kulira. Mukuganiza kuti n’chiyani chinachitika pakati pa nthawi ziwirizi?

A. Anakangana ndi chibwenzi chake pa nthawi ya nkhomaliro, ndipo tsopano sakulankhulana.

B. Anapambana mayeso a algebra mu gawo lachinayi.

C. Wangopeza kumene kuti sanalowe mu timu ya basketball ya giredi yoyamba ya sukuluyo.

D. Aphunzitsi a chemistry adapereka homuweki yambiri.

E. Ayenera kuti anali ndi tsiku loipa.

Muyenera kuchotsa yankho B nthawi yomweyo: `(Emotional Intelligence)` imakuuzani kuti zomwe mnzanu amachita zikufanana kwambiri ndi kulephera mayeso kuposa kulephera mayeso. Ngati mnzanuyo anali ndi tsiku loipa (D kapena E), akhoza kukhala atatopa, atapanikizika, kapena atapanikizika pang'ono - koma sakufuna kulira. Mukachotsa yankho limenelo, mutha kuyang'ana kwambiri zifukwa ziwiri zomwe mnzanuyo angakhumudwire: A kapena C.

Anthu omwe amadziwa bwino kumvera ena chisoni amaganizira za momwe munthu winayo akumvera ("Ndikamuuza izi, adzamva chisoni kwambiri"). Amatha kumvetsa momwe munthu winayo amachitira ndi chinachake ("O, ndikumvetsa bwino chifukwa chake wakwiya kwambiri. Nzosadabwitsa!"). Kumvetsetsa momwe anthu ena akumvera, momwe amachitira zinthu, ndi momwe amachitira zinthu kumatithandiza kumanga ubale wabwino.

Kodi luso limeneli lingakulitsidwe bwanji?

Sizophweka nthawi zonse kuyembekezera ndi kumvetsetsa momwe wina angamvere. Anthu ena amachita bwino kuposa ena, koma pafupifupi aliyense akhoza kusintha ndi kuchita.Kumvetsetsa ena kumadalira kwambiri kuyang'ana mosamala ndi kumvetsera mosamala.

Zimayamba ndi kuyang'anitsitsa mosamala.

Ngati muwona wina akutsetsereka ndikugwa, simuganiza kuti, "Oh my!", ngati kuti zachitika kwa inu? Tili ndi chizolowezi chachibadwa chomva zomwe ena akumva pongowayang'ana. Asayansi amaganiza kuti pali chifukwa chachilengedwe cha izi. Amakhulupirira kuti pali mtundu wa maselo a ubongo otchedwa ``Mirror Neurons'' omwe amayaka mofanana tikamachita zinazake komanso tikamaona wina akuchita zimenezo .

Yesani njira izi kuti muwongolere luso lanu lowonera zinthu:

• Samalani ndi momwe anthu amaonekera komanso momwe thupi lawo limaonekera. Nthawi ina mukapita ku malo ogulitsira zakudya, ku khofi, kapena m'basi kapena sitima, yesani izi: Yang'anani mozungulira ndikuyesera kupeza momwe anthu akumvera kutengera momwe thupi lawo limaonekera, momwe nkhope zawo zimaonekera, ndi zomwe amachita. Mtsikana amene ali ndi mabuku m'chiuno mwake mwina akuyembekezeka kuyesedwa. Kodi ali ndi chidaliro - kapena ali ndi nkhawa? Nanga bwanji za amene maso ake atsekedwa? Kodi akumva mtendere? Wotopa? Wokhumudwa?
• Werengani mabuku ndi kuonera mafilimu omwe amafotokoza momwe anthu akumvera. Samalani momwe anthu osiyanasiyana amamvera komanso momwe amachitira zinthu. Yesetsani kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake anthuwo amamvera momwe amamvera. Kutengera ndi momwe akumvera, loserani zomwe munthuyo adzachita pambuyo pake. Kapena onani ngati mungathe kufotokoza chifukwa chake munthuyo anachita zinazake.

Zimakula chifukwa cha kumvetsera bwino.

Anthu omwe amadziwa bwino kumvetsetsa ena nthawi zambiri amakhala omvera abwino. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti munthu akamamvetsera bwino, amakhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi munthu amene akulankhula. Izi zimapangitsa kuti munthu azigwirizana komanso azikondana kwambiri.

Ambiri a ife timaganiza kuti ndife omvera abwino - chifukwa kumvetsera kumaoneka kosavuta komanso kosavuta. Koma nthawi zambiri timakhala otanganidwa kwambiri poganizira zomwe tikufuna kunena kotero kuti sitikumvetsera bwino momwe timaganizira. Nazi njira zina zokulitsa luso labwino lomvetsera:

• Yesetsani kumvetsera bwino mukamakambirana tsiku ndi tsiku. Samalani kwambiri zomwe munthu wina akunena. Dziphunzitseni kuganiza kuti kumvetsera n'kofunika kwambiri kuposa kulankhula.
• Mvetserani nkhaniyi komanso momwe mukumvera. Bwenzi likakuuzani zinazake, yesani kuganiza momwe angamvere panthawiyo. Nenani mawu monga, "O, zimenezo ziyenera kuti zinali zosangalatsa kwambiri!" kapena, "Zimenezo ziyenera kuti zinakukhumudwitsani kwambiri," posonyeza kuti mukuyesera kumvetsetsa zomwe mnzanuyo anakumana nazo. Mwina mudzadzipeza mukuyandikira kwambiri munthuyo, "mukugwirizana" naye. Mudzathanso kuyembekezera zomwe mnzanuyo anganene pambuyo pake.
• Tengani nthawi yomvetsera mwakuya zomwe wina akunena.Funsani mnzanu kapena wachibale wanu za nthawi yapadera m'moyo wawo. Mwachitsanzo, funsani makolo anu za tsiku lawo la ukwati, kapena funsani agogo anu aakazi momwe anamvera atakhala ndi mwana wawo woyamba. Yesani kuganizira momwe izi zinawakhudzira. Afunseni kuti akuuzeni zambiri za momwe anamvera komanso chifukwa chake anamva choncho.

Kusanduka kumvetsetsana kukhala chifundo

Mukamaliza luso lanu lomvetsetsa ena, mumagwiritsa ntchito bwanji chidziwitso chimenecho? Ngati muli ngati anthu ambiri, mumagwiritsa ntchito chidziwitsochi kuthandiza ndi kuthandiza omwe mumawakonda komanso kuwasamalira. Ichi ndi chomwe timachitcha chifundo, ndipo chifundo chimatithandiza kumanga ubale. Yesani njira zitatu izi zokhalira achifundo:

• Funsani ena zomwe akufunikira. Ngati mnzanu akukumana ndi mavuto, mufunseni zomwe mungachite kuti muthandize. Ngati mnzanuyo akunena kuti, "Sindikudziwa," ganizirani zomwe inunso mungafune ngati zinthu ngati zimenezo zichitika ndipo muuzeni kuti muchite zomwezo.
• Onetsani chidwi chenicheni mwa ena. Khalani ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zambiri za anthu omwe mumawadziwa - osati mwa njira yongofuna kuwadziwa kapena yabodza, koma ndi lingaliro lakuti mukufuna kuwamvetsa bwino. Mwachitsanzo, funsani za zomwe amakonda, momwe akumvera, malingaliro awo, ndi malingaliro awo.
• Chitani zinthu mwachifundo. Mukamva miseche, kunyozana, kapena nthabwala zamwano, choyamba muyenera kuganizira momwe munthu amene akukumana ndi vutoli angamvere. Izi zidzakuthandizani kumvetsera maganizo a munthu winayo osati kutenga nawo mbali.

Ngakhale zinthu zazing'ono zosonyeza kukoma mtima zingapange ubale wabwino ndi anthu (nenani "moni" kwa munthu amene ali yekha nthawi ya nkhomaliro ndikuona momwe zimakukhudzirani). Asayansi tsopano akudziwa kuti ubale wolimba ndi anthu umakhudza thanzi lathu, chimwemwe chathu, komanso nthawi yomwe timakhala ndi moyo.

Chinthu chofunika kwambiri kukumbukira (Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba)

Kotero, mwina mukumvetsa kufunika kwa mbali iyi ya "Luntha la Maganizo", kumvetsetsa momwe ena akumvera. Ndi izi, titha:

• Ganizirani pasadakhale momwe ena adzamvera.
• Mvetsetsani zomwe anthu akunena kudzera m'zinthu monga thupi ndi mawonekedwe a nkhope.
• Mvetsetsani momwe anthu amachitira ndi chinthu china chake ndipo dziwani chifukwa chake.
• Ndi zonsezi, pangani ubale wolimba komanso wogwirizana pakati pa anthu.

Chofunika ndichakuti, ichi si chinthu chomwe chimabwera mwachibadwa kwa aliyense. Ndi luso lomwe tingathe kukulitsa kudzera muzochita ndi khama. Ulendowu umayamba ndi kuyang'anitsitsa ndikumvetsera mosamala. Pamene mukuchita, mudzazindikira momwe mumamvetsetsa ena. Kenako moyo wanu udzakhala wokongola kwambiri!

Maganizo, luntha la maganizo, kulankhulana, chifundo, maubwenzi, thanzi la maganizo, EQ