Kule mihla, sonke siva amagama amatsha ethethwa kwimidiya yoluntu nakwiTV, akunjalo? Ngamanye amaxesha sisebenzisa la magama nangona singazi kakuhle ukuba athetha ukuthini. Ngokufanayo, igama elisoloko livakala ezindlebeni zethu kutshanje lithi "Cisgender." Usenokuba ukhe waliva eli gama ngaphambili. Ngoko ke, yintoni kanye kanye iCisgender? Ngaba le yingongoma enzima? Akunjalo konke konke. Masithethe ngale nto ngokulula nangokuzolileyo namhlanje size sicacise yonke imibuzo esezingqondweni zethu.
Ithetha ukuthini iCisgender nje?
Kulula kakhulu. I-Cisgender ithetha ukuba ingqondo yakho iyavumelana nesini sebhayoloji owabelwe sona ekuzalweni kwakho.
Masichaze ngakumbi. Khawucinge ukuba xa wazalwa, oogqirha babhala "ibhinqa" kwisatifikethi sakho sokuzalwa. Njengoko ukhula, ucinga kwaye uzive ngathi uyintombazana, okanye umfazi. Kwimeko enjalo, ungumfazi we-cisgender .
Ngokufanayo, ukuba wazalwa "uyindoda" kwisatifikethi sakho sokuzalwa, kwaye njengoko ukhula, usacinga kwaye uzive ngathi uyinkwenkwe okanye indoda, ngoko ke uyindoda ye-cisgender .
Uninzi lwabantu ehlabathini luwela kudidi lwe-cisgender. Inxalenye yesiLatini yeli gama, "cis", ithetha "kweli cala". Igama elichaseneyo yi-"trans". Lithetha "kwelinye icala". Ngamanye amazwi, sibiza abantu abazifanisa nesini esahlukileyo kwisini abasinikwa ngexesha lokuzalwa ngokuthi 'Transgender'.
Ingaba isini nesini zizinto ezahlukeneyo?
Ewe! Eli linqaku lokudideka kubantu abaninzi. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba "isini" kunye "nesini" zizinto ezifanayo. Kodwa ezi ziingcamango ezimbini ezahlukeneyo ngokupheleleyo. Masiwuqonde kakuhle lo mahluko.
| Ingcamango | Inkcazo |
|---|---|
| Isondo | Oku kungokwebhayoloji ngokupheleleyo. Oko kukuthi, kunento yokwenza nomzimba wakho. Ngokwesiqhelo yahlulwe kabini: ibhinqa nendoda. Oku kusekelwe kwi:
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| Isini | Le yinto yentlalontle ngokupheleleyo. Oko kukuthi, ibandakanya ukuziphatha, iindima, kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ezilindelwe luluntu kubafazi nakumadoda. Umzekelo, izimvo ezifakwa kuthi luluntu, ezinje ngokuthi "abafana abakhali," "amantombazana afanele anxibe iilokhwe," kunye "namadoda afanele abe namandla." Ezi zinokuhluka ngokwenkcubeko. |
Ukuzazi ngesini yindlela ozibona ngayo ngaphakathi, indlela othetha ngayo nawe (yena, yena, bona). Isini somntu wonke kunye nokuzazi ngesini azifani.
Ngoko ke ngubani ongengowesibini?
Igama elithi "Nonbinary" ligama eliqhelekileyo elisetyenziselwa abantu abangafaniyo nesini sabo kwibhokisi yendabuko yendoda okanye ibhinqa. Lingaba phakathi, indibaniselwano yazo zombini, okanye lingabikho kwaphela phakathi kwazo zombini.
Eminye imizekelo:
- Umntu othanda isini: Ubume babo besondo bunokutshintsha rhoqo.
- Utshintsho lwesini: Ubume bomntu obutshintsha rhoqo phakathi kobume bomntu wesilisa nowesifazane.
- Ubudala: Abantu abangazamkeliyo nayiphi na isazisi sesini (indoda, ibhinqa, okanye enye into).
- I-Bigender: Abantu abazibiza ngokuba ngamadoda nabafazi ngaxeshanye okanye ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo.
Ukuzazi Ngesini kunye Nokuqhelana Nesondo
Le yenye into edida abantu abaninzi.
- Ukuzazi ngokwesini: Lo ngulowo unguye . Kuthetha ukuba uzibonakalisa njengendoda, umfazi, okanye olunye uhlobo lokuzazi.
- Ukuthandana: Ngumntu omthandayo . Ngumntu otsaleleka kuye ngokwesondo nangokweemvakalelo.
Umzekelo, umntu otshintshe isini (umntu onesini esahlukileyo kwisini sakhe awazalelwa kuso) unokutsaleleka kwisini esahlukileyo (ngokuthe ngqo), isini esifana nesomntu othandana nesini esinye (gay/lesbian), okanye isini esifana nesomntu othandana nesini esinye. Ezi ngcamango zimbini zizimele ngokupheleleyo.
Masifunde nangemeko ebizwa ngokuba yi-Intersex.
Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba ngokwebhayoloji kukho izini ezimbini kuphela, indoda nebhinqa. Kodwa eneneni kufana ne-spectrum. "I-Intersex" yimeko apho umntu ezalwa eneempawu zesini (ii-chromosome, ii-hormone, okanye izini) ezingahambelaniyo nezomzimba oqhelekileyo wendoda okanye webhinqa. Oku akusiyo impawu yesini, kodwa ngumahluko webhayoloji . Ukuba ufuna ukwazi okungakumbi ngale nto, kungcono ubuze ugqirha wakho (ugqirha).
Yintoni "iCisgender Privilege"?
Le yingongoma echukumisayo kancinci. Xa ndisithi "ilungelo," abanye banokucinga ukuba oku kuthetha ukuba abantu abathanda isini esinye bangcono kunabanye. Akunjalo konke konke.
Ilungelo leCisgender lilungelo nelungelo olinandiphayo ngokwemvelo kuba ubuwena bakho besini buhambelana nesakhelo "esiqhelekileyo" esamkelwa luninzi loluntu. Abantu beCisgender akufuneki bakhathazeke ngobunzima, imibuzo, kunye nocalucalulo abajongana nalo abantu abangengabo abantu becisgender imihla ngemihla.
Ilungelo leCisgender alithethi ukuba wenza into engalunganga. Lithetha ukuba ngenxa yobuwena bakho, ngokwemvelo ukhululekile kwezinye zeengxaki abanye abajongene nazo.
Makhe sijonge eminye imizekelo:
- Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ukhathazeke ngomntu okujonge ngendlela engaqhelekanga, akubuze imibuzo, okanye akuhlukumeze xa usiya kusebenzisa indlu yangasese kawonke-wonke.
- Xa udibana nomntu omtsha, akukho mntu ubuza ukuba ngubani "igama lakho lokwenyani".
- Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ukhathazeke malunga nokuba umntu uza kusebenzisa isimelabizo esichanekileyo (yena/yena) xa ethetha ngawe.
- Abanye ababuzi imibuzo engeyomfuneko malunga nomzimba wakho okanye utyando olwenzileyo.
- Xa ubona ifoto yakho usengumntwana, akuyi kufuneka uchazele mntu ukuba, "Kutheni ungeyiyo le nto uyiyo ngoku?"
Nangona ezi zinto ziqhelekile kumntu othandana nesini esinye, kumntu oguqula isini sakhe okanye ongengomntu othandana nesini esinye, ezi ziingcinezelo zemihla ngemihla ezibabeka emngciphekweni omkhulu wokufumana uxinzelelo, ukudakumba, kunye nezinye iingxaki zempilo.
Sibahlonipha kwaye sibaxhasa njani bonke abantu?
Njengabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye, singayiqonda le mahluko size sincede ekudaleni uluntu olubandakanyayo nolunentlonipho. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yinto enkulu. Masiqale ngezinto ezincinci.
- Musa ukucinga ukuba: Musa ukucinga ukuba wonke umntu odibana naye ungumntu oqhelekileyo.
- Yiba nembeko: Yiba nembeko kwindlela umntu azichaza ngayo. Mbize ngegama lakhe kunye nesimelabizo asithandayo. Ukuba awuqinisekanga, akukho nto imbi ngokubuza ngentlonelo, "Ungathanda ukubizwa njani?"
- Musa ukubuza imibuzo engeyomfuneko:Kuphephe ukubuza imibuzo malunga nomzimba womntu, utyando, okanye ulwazi lwakhe lwezonyango. Ngumbandela wobuqu kakhulu.
- Lumka: Ngokufunda kancinci ngezi zihloko uze ube nolwazi, ungazithintela ekufundeni into enokwenzakalisa iimvakalelo zomnye umntu ngokungazi.
Ekugqibeleni, sonke singabantu. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuhloniphana size senze ngobubele nangokuqonda.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-Cisgender ithetha ukuba ubuni bakho buhambelana nesini sakho sebhayoloji owabelwe sona ekuzalweni kwakho.
- Isondo yinto yendalo, kwaye isini yinto eyakhiwe ngokwentlalo. Musa ukubhidanisa ezi zinto zimbini.
- Ukuzazi komntu ngokwesondo kunye nokuthanda kwakhe ngokwesondo ziingcamango ezimbini ezahlukeneyo ngokupheleleyo.
- Kubalulekile ukuhlonipha ubuwena bomntu wonke. Ungabaxhasa kakhulu ngokubabiza ngamagama abo abawathandayo kunye nesimelabizo sabo.
- Ngokwazi ngakumbi ngezi zihloko, singakha uluntu oluqondayo nolunovelwano ngakumbi.
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