Ngaba umntwana wakho akasafani nangaphambili? Ngaba umntwana owayedlala kwaye ehleka ngoku uhlala egumbini lakhe lonke ixesha aze ahlale yedwa? Okanye uyacaphuka aze akhale ngezinto ezincinci? Sihlala sicinga ukuba ukudakumba yinto efunyanwa ngabantu abadala kuphela. Kodwa oko akuyonyani. Abantwana abancinci, oko kukuthi, abantwana bethu abancinci, nabo banokuhlangabezana nale meko. Esi sisihloko esibaluleke kakhulu, ngoko masithethe ngaso ngokweenkcukacha namhlanje.
Yintoni kanye kanye ingcinezelo yobuntwana?
Ngamafutshane, ukudakumba kobuntwana kukudakumba okuhlala ixesha elide, okunzulu, ukuphelelwa lithemba, kunye nokulahlekelwa ngumdla kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla yomntwana. Ngaphambili, noogqirha babecinga ukuba abantwana abancinci abakhuli ngokudakumba. Kodwa ngoku, uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba le nkolelo ayilunganga kwaphela.
Enyanisweni, izibalo zibonisa ukuba malunga nomntwana omnye kwabali-11 uba noxinzelelo ngaphambi kokuba afikelele kwiminyaka eli-14 ubudala. Kwakhona, ngokomyinge, umntwana omnye kwabali-33 kunye nomntu omnye kwabali-8 abaselula banengxaki yokudakumba.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba le yimeko eqhelekileyo kwaye inganyangeka . Ngoko ke ngaphambi kokuba soyike, masiyiqonde kakuhle.
Kutheni abantwana abancinci bexinezeleka?
Akukho sizathu sithile sokuba umntwana abe nokudakumba. Zininzi izinto ezinokubangela oku.
- Imbali yosapho: Ukuba umzali okanye ilungu losapho linesifo sokudakumba, umntwana usengozini enkulu.
- Iziganeko zobomi ezibangela uxinezeleko: Izinto ezinje ngokuqhawula umtshato kwabazali, ukufa komntu abamthandayo, okanye ukufudukela kwenye indawo zinokuba nefuthe elikhulu engqondweni yomntwana.
- Ukuxhatshazwa okanye ukungahoywa: Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwimpilo yengqondo yomntwana.
- Ezinye izifo: Ukudakumba kunokubangelwa sisifo esithile somzimba (umzekelo, isifo seswekile, umhlaza) okanye ezinye izifo zengqondo (umzekelo, ixhala, isifo sengqondo esibangela i-bipolar, okanye iingxaki zokuziphatha eziphazamisayo).
- Iingxaki esikolweni: Ukuxhaphaza esikolweni okanye ukuba neengxaki zokufunda nako kunokukuchaphazela.
Ngokukodwa, abantwana abafumana uxinzelelo besebancinci basengozini enkulu yokusebenzisa iziyobisi gwenxa. Uxinzelelo lunokukhokelela ekungaqhubi kakuhle esikolweni, ekuzikhwebuleni kubahlobo, nasekubeni nolwalamano olubi nosapho. Okubi nangakumbi, uxinzelelo lobuntwana lunyusa umngcipheko wokuzibulala.
Ngaba umntwana wam unesifo sokudakumba? Lumka ezi mpawu
Ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kutshintsha ngolu hlobo kangangeeveki ezingaphezu kwezimbini , lixesha lokuba ukhathazeke. Makhe sijonge ukuba zeziphi ezi mpawu.
| Udidi lweempawu | Izinto onokuzibona |
|---|---|
| Utshintsho kwiimvakalelo | Ukuziva ulusizi ngalo lonke ixesha, ulila lula, uzive ungenathemba, uzive ungento yanto, kwaye uzive unetyala ngokungeyomfuneko. |
| Utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha | Ukuzikhwebula kubahlobo nezinto ozithandayo, ukungabi namdla kuyo nayiphi na into, umsindo ongapheliyo, ukucaphuka, ukungakwazi ukwenza izigqibo, ubunzima bokugxila. |
| Utshintsho lomzimba | Izikhalazo zomzimba ezifana nokudinwa rhoqo, amandla aphantsi, ukonyuka okanye ukuncipha komnqweno wokutya, ukonyuka okanye ukuncipha kokulala, iintloko ezibuhlungu rhoqo, kunye neentlungu zesisu. |
| Iimpawu zesilumkiso | Izinto ezimnyama, ezoyikisayo kwimizobo, ukuzenzakalisa okanye imixholo ebuhlungu xa kudlalwa, ukuthetha rhoqo ngokufa okanye ukuzibulala. |
Ukunyamekela iintsana nabantwana abancinci.
Le meko inokuchaphazela neentsana ezincinci kakhulu ezingakwaziyo ukuthetha. Iimpawu zazo zahlukile kancinci. Ukuba umntwana ukhala kakhulu, akancumi, akafuni ukudlala, akajongi abanye, kwaye wehla emzimbeni , kubaluleke kakhulu ukukunika ingqalelo koku kwaye ufumane ingcebiso kagqirha.
Ndingenza ntoni xa ndibona iimpawu ezinje?
Ukuba umntwana wakho unenye okanye ngaphezulu kwezi mpawu zingasentla kangangeeveki ezingaphezulu kwezimbini, into yokuqala omawuyenze kukubona ugqirha wosapho lwakho.
Kutheni ufanele uye kugqirha? Ngamanye amaxesha ezi mpawu zinokubangelwa yenye imeko yomzimba. Umzekelo, iingxaki ze-thyroid okanye i-mononucleosis zinokubangela ezi mpawu. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuqala ukuthintela unobangela wemizimba.
Ukuba ugqirha wakho ufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho udinga unyango lokudakumba, musa ukoyika. Ngonyango olufanelekileyo , phakathi kwama-75% nama-80% abantwana abadakumba banokuphila ngokupheleleyo.
Iindlela zonyango zingabandakanya iingcebiso zomntwana ngamnye, iingcebiso zosapho, mhlawumbi namayeza. Kwanabantwana abancinci abangakwaziyo ukuthetha banokunyangwa ngempumelelo ngeendlela ezifana nonyango lokudlala .
Ngaba thina njengabazali asinakuyithintela le nto?
Ewe, sinako. Kanye njengokuba sinciphisa izinto ezinokubangela umngcipheko ukuze sithintele isifo sentliziyo okanye isifo seswekile, abazali banokwenza lukhulu ukunciphisa umngcipheko wokudakumba.
- Indlela yokuphila enempilo: Nika umntwana wakho ukutya okunesondlo, umthambo owaneleyo, kunye nokulala kamnandi.
- Ulawulo loxinzelelo: Musa ukunika umntwana uxinzelelo olungafanelanga iminyaka yakhe (umz., umthwalo onzima wokufunda).
- Izakhono zobomi: Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokujongana nokusombulula iingxaki ebomini. Ezi zakhono zifana nekhaka elikhusela umntwana kuxinzelelo.
- Impilo yakho yengqondo: Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Abantwana babazali abanesifo soxinzelelo banamathuba aphindwe kane okuba noxinzelelo. Ngoko ke, ukuba nawe unengxaki yoxinzelelo okanye ezinye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo, funa unyango lomntwana wakho kuqala.
Indlela ethi "linda ubone" ayisebenzi apha konke konke. Ukuba ubona utshintsho kwindlela umntwana wakho aziphethe ngayo, musa ukulutyeshela. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukwenza ngokukhawuleza.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukudandatheka ebuntwaneni yimeko yokwenyani nenokunyangeka.
- Nika ingqalelo kutshintsho kwiimvakalelo zomntwana wakho, ekuziphatheni kwakhe, nakwimpilo yakhe yomzimba oluthatha iiveki ezingaphezu kwezimbini.
- Ukuba unamathandabuzo, musa "ukulinda uze ubone" ugqirha wosapho lwakho (ugqirha) ngokukhawuleza.
- Ngaphambi kokuba ufumane unyango, kubalulekile ukubonana nogqirha ukuqinisekisa ukuba akukho ezinye izifo zomzimba.
- Ukukhusela impilo yengqondo yomntwana wakho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina impilo yengqondo yakho njengomzali.
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