Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uziva ngathi uwedwa kweli hlabathi? Awuziva ngathi uthetha nabanye okanye uhleke ngenxa yosizi noxinzelelo oluvayo? Ngaba uziva ngathi ubudlelwane bakho nosapho kunye nabahlobo buyaphela kancinci kancinci ngenxa yoxinzelelo? Enyanisweni, uxinzelelo yinto engachaphazeli nje kuphela iingqondo zethu, kodwa nolwalamano lwethu nabo basingqongileyo. Ukuba kunjalo, eli nqaku liza kuba libaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kuba namhlanje sithetha ngendlela ekhethekileyo yonyango eya kukunceda ulungise ubudlelwane bakho nabantu.
Ngamafutshane, yintoni i-Interpersonal Therapy (IPT)?
Unyango lokusebenzisana nabantu, okanye i-IPT njengoko siyibiza ngokufutshane, lunyango oluqatha nolufutshane lokudakumba. Ngokuchanekileyo, yiseshoni yonyango lwengqondo eyenzeka kube kanye ngeveki kangangeenyanga ezintathu ukuya kwezine.
Cinga ngale ndlela. Unesilonda emlenzeni wakho. Isizathu saloo nxeba sisenokuba lilitye endleleni. Kodwa xa uhamba, ubaleka, okanye ubeka unyawo lwakho emhlabeni ngendlela engafanelekanga, elo nxeba libuhlungu ngakumbi, kwaye lisenokudumba. Ngokufanayo, isizathu 'sethawula' elibizwa ngokuba kukudandatheka sisenokuba yinto eyahlukileyo. Nangona kunjalo, 'ukuhamba' kobudlelwane bethu nabantu kunokwenza loo nxeba libe ngcono okanye libe libi kakhulu. Unyango lwe-IPT lusebenza ngokulungisa loo 'kuhamba', oko kukuthi, indlela olawula ngayo ubudlelwane bakho nabantu.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba i-IPT ayitsho ukuba ukudakumba kwakho kubangelwa bubudlelwane bakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukudakumba kubangelwa kwaye kuyayichaphazela ubudlelwane bethu. Ngoko ke xa ezo ngxaki zobudlelwane zijongwa, iimpawu zokudakumba zinokuphucuka kakhulu. Ezinye izifundo zibonise ukuba olu nyango lusebenza kakuhle njengamayeza okudakumba okuncinci ukuya kokuphakathi.
Iindawo ezine eziphambili ekugxilwe kuzo kunyango lwe-IPT
Kolu hlobo lonyango, awuthethi ngazo zonke iingxaki ebomini bakho. Endaweni yoko, ukhetha indawo enye okanye ezimbini eziphambili zeengxaki zobudlelwane ocinga ukuba zichaphazela kakhulu ukudakumba kwakho kwaye uthethe ngazo nzulu. Kufana nokukhulula amaqhina amabini okanye amathathu amakhulu kwi-tangle enkulu. Nje ukuba ukhulule loo maqhina, ezinye ziya kuwa endaweni yazo ngokulula.
Ezi ndawo zineengxaki ngokubanzi zahlulwe zibe ziintlobo ezine eziphambili.
| Indawo yeNgxaki | Kuthetha ukuthini nje? |
|---|---|
| Iingxabano phakathi kwabantu | Iingxabano nomlingane wakho, abazali, abantwana, abantu osebenza nabo, okanye abahlobo. Iingxabano ezinje zinokwenzeka xa abantu ababini benolindelo olungafaniyo. |
| Utshintsho lweNdima | Utshintsho olukhulu ebomini. Umzekelo, ukutshata, ukuqala okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, ukufudukela kwisixeko esitsha, ukuba ngumzali. Olu tshintsho lunokubazisa iimvakalelo zokuba bodwa kunye nokulahlekelwa. |
| Intlungu | Intlungu ebangelwa kukusweleka komntu osondeleyo kuwe. Le ntlungu inokuba yingxaki ukuba ihlala ixesha elide kunesiqhelo okanye ivele kamva. |
| Iingxaki zokusebenzisana nabantu | Ubunzima bokufumana abahlobo abatsha okanye ukugcina ubudlelwane obukhoyo. Ukungabikho kobudlelwane nabantu okanye umgangatho ophantsi wobudlelwane. |
Lusebenza njani olu nyango?
Ingcali yezonyango iza kusebenza nawe ukukunceda ukusombulula iingxaki ezinxulumene nezi ndawo.
Indlela yokusombulula iingxabano phakathi kwabantu
Khawucinge nje, xa umfazi eqala umsebenzi omtsha aze abe ngumntu ozimeleyo ngakumbi, umyeni wakhe uqala ukuziva engakhuselekanga. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, kubakho iingxabano rhoqo phakathi kwabo babini. Apha, ingcali yezonyango ithetha nomyeni ize imncede aqonde isizathu sale ngxabano kunye nokungaqondani anako engqondweni yakhe. Emva koko, imfundisa uqeqesho lonxibelelwano kunye neendlela zokusombulula iingxaki.
Indlela yokujongana notshintsho ebomini
Khawuthelekelele ukuba ufike eColombo uvela kwilali yakho ngenxa yomsebenzi. Ubomi bakho bakudala, abahlobo, kunye nemeko yasekhaya zonke azisekho, kwaye kufuneka uziqhelanise nendawo entsha wedwa. Oku kunokuvakala ngathi kukulahlekelwa okukhulu. Apha, ingcali yezonyango ikunceda uqonde umahluko phakathi kwendima yakho yakudala (umntu kwilali) kunye nendima yakho entsha (umntu owenza umsebenzi wedwa eColombo) . Bakwakunceda ukuchonga kanye kanye into enzima kuwe kule ndima intsha kwaye bakuncede ufumane izisombululo kwezo zinto.
Indlela yokulawula intlungu
Intlungu oyivayo xa ulahlekelwe ngumntu omthandayo ayinakuchazwa ngamazwi. Ngamanye amaxesha loo ntlungu igqunywe ngaphakathi. Kwi-IPT, ingcali yezonyango iyakunceda ukhulule loo ntlungu. Isebenzisa iindlela ezimbini eziphambili zokwenza oko.
- Ukumamela ngovelwano: Kudala indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuba uveze iimvakalelo zakho kunye nezinto ezikuxhalabisayo. Ukumamela ngaphandle kokukugweba.
- Ingcaciso: Ikunceda uqonde kwaye ususe naziphi na iingcamango eziphosakeleyo okanye iingcinga ezingafunekiyo onokuba nazo ngokufa okanye umntu.
Indlela yokoyisa ubuthathaka kubudlelwane
Ngaba uneengcinga ezinje ngokuthi "Andinakwenza abahlobo" okanye "Akukho mntu ufuna ukuthetha nam"? Ngeli xesha, ingcali yezonyango iza kuthetha ngobudlelwane bakho bangaphambili, okanye ubudlelwane obakhayo nengcali yezonyango. Ngale ndlela, iza kukhangela iindlela eziphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho. Umzekelo, iindlela ezinje ngokuxhomekeka ngokungeyomfuneko kwabanye okanye ukuhlala unomsindo/ucaphukela abanye ziya kuchongwa. Emva koko, ziya kukunceda utshintshe ezo ndlela kwaye zikukhuthaze ukuba wakhe ubudlelwane obutsha.
Ziqhutywa njani iiseshoni zonyango?
Le nkqubo yonyango icwangciswe kakuhle kakhulu. Ingahlulwahlulwa ibe ngamanqanaba amathathu aphambili.
1. Isigaba sokuqala (Iiveki 1-3): Ezi seshoni zokuqala zimbalwa zenzelwe ukuvavanya inqanaba lakho lokudakumba, zikunike ukuqonda okungcono ngonyango lwe-IPT, kwaye zichonge imiba enye okanye emibini ekuchaphazela kakhulu kwiindawo ezine esixoxe ngazo ngaphambili.
2. Inqanaba eliphakathi (malunga neeseshoni ezisi-8 ezilandelayo): Le yeyona nto iphambili kunyango. Kulapho iingxaki ezichongiweyo ziqala khona ukusonjululwa. Ingcali yezonyango isebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo, ezinje ngokudlala indima, uhlalutyo lonxibelelwano, kunye nokukhuthaza impembelelo.
3. Isigaba sokugqibela (malunga neeveki ezi-4 ezidlulileyo): Enye yezinto ezikhethekileyo malunga ne-IPT kukuba ukuphela konyango kuthathwa njengenxalenye yonyango ngokwalo . Ukususela ekuqaleni, uyazi ukuba le yinto eyenziwa ixesha elithile. Ekugqibeleni, ukuphela kolu nyango kunokuvakala ngathi 'yilahleko' kuwe. Sithetha ngendlela yokujongana nolo luvo kunye nendlela yokusebenzisa oko ukufundileyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Oku kukomeleza ukuba ujongane nazo naziphi na iingxaki eziza kuvela kwixesha elizayo wedwa.
Kwenzeka ntoni emva kokuba unyango luphelile?
Uxinzelelo yimeko enokuthi ngamanye amaxesha ibuye. Ke ngoko, emva kweeveki ezili-12-16 zonyango, unyango lokulungisa lunokufuneka.Ungabhekisa koku. Oku kuquka ukudibana nogqirha wengqondo malunga kanye ngenyanga ukuze kuqiniswe oko ukufundileyo. Oku kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekuthinteleni ukuphinda kubekho ukudakumba ngenxa yoxinzelelo lokwakha ubudlelwane obutsha bentlalo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Unyango lokusebenzisana nabantu (i-IPT) lunyango lwengqondo oluqinisekisiweyo ngokwesayensi olusetyenziswa ngexesha elifutshane xa kusenziwa uxinezeleko.
- Oku akugxeki ubudlelwane babantu ngenxa yokudakumba kwakho. Endaweni yoko, kusebenzisa olo budlelwane njengendlela yokuphilisa.
- Olu nyango lugxila kwindawo enye okanye ezimbini ezithile, ezifana neengxabano phakathi kwabantu, utshintsho lobomi, intlungu, okanye ubunzima ekwakheni ubudlelwane.
- Injongo ephambili kukukunika amandla okulawula ubudlelwane bakho, kwaye ngazo, iimpawu zakho zokudakumba wedwa.
- Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba intlungu yakho ichaphazela ubudlelwane bakho, buza ugqirha wakho okanye ingcali yezonyango ukuba i-IPT ilungile na kuwe. Impilo yengqondo yinto oyifaneleyo.
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