Ngaba nawe uhlala uzifumana ulahlekile kwihlabathi lamaphupha asemini? Masifunde ngale (Maladaptive Daydreaming)!

Sonke siphupha ngamanye amaxesha, akunjalo? Kuqhelekile ukuzulazula uye kwelinye ilizwe okwethutyana, ukuze ucinge ngento ethile. Kodwa ngaba uzifumana uphupha iiyure ezininzi, uphoswa yimisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla, umsebenzi wesikolo, nokunye? Ukuba kunjalo, oku kungaba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Sibiza oku ngokuthi "ukuphupha ebusuku okungafanelekanga".

Yintoni iMaladaptive Daydreaming?

Ngamafutshane, "Ukuphupha Emini Okungavumelekanga" yingxaki yempilo yengqondo. Kubandakanya umntu ophupha emini kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha kangangeeyure. Igama elithi "Ukuphupha Emini Okungavumelekanga" lithetha ukuba ukuphupha emini ngale ndlela yindlela engafanelekanga nengalunganga yokujongana okanye yokuziqhelanisa nengxaki .

Aba bantu "balahleka" ngokupheleleyo kumaphupha abo asemini. Oko kukuthi, babona amaphupha ngokucacileyo, ngokucacileyo, kwaye nangazo zonke iinkcukacha ezincinci . Uphando lubonise ukuba olu hlobo lokuphupha emini lunokuba ' luxanduva' . Oko kukuthi, kunzima kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha akunakwenzeka, ukuzibamba ekwenzeni oko.

Le ngxaki inxulumene kancinci nezinye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo kunye neemeko zemithambo-luvo. Nangona kunjalo, ngoku kukho ubungqina bokuba "iMaladaptive Daydreaming" yimeko eyahlukileyo kwezi meko kwaye kufuneka iqatshelwe njengesifo esahlukileyo .

Ngubani ochaphazeleka kakhulu yile meko?

Le meko, ebizwa ngokuba yi-"Maladaptive Daydreaming," ixhaphake kakhulu kubantu abaneengxaki ezithile zempilo yengqondo. Okanye, kubantu abaneengxaki ezichaphazela imisebenzi ethile yengqondo. Ezinye iimeko ezixhaphake kakhulu kwi-"Maladaptive Daydreaming" zezi:

• Ingxaki Yokungakwazi Ukuqwalasela Izinto Ngokupheleleyo (ADHD)
• Iingxaki zokuxhalaba
• Ezinye iimeko zoxinzelelo
• Iingxaki zokuzihlukanisa - Oku kuquka ukulahlekelwa bubunyani malunga nokuba ungubani na nokuba uphi.
• Isifo Sokuxhalaba Okugqithisileyo (OCD)

Ubudala busenokuba yimbangela. Olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba le meko ixhaphake kakhulu kubantu abancinci, ingakumbi abantu abadala abaselula kunye nabakwishumi elivisayo . Inokwenzeka nakubantwana abancinci. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uphando oluthe kratya ukuze kuchazwe ukuba ixhaphake kangakanani ngokweminyaka.

Okokugqibela, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba abantu abaninzi abafumana "iMadaptive Daydreaming " baye bahlangabezana nohlobo oluthile lokuxhatshazwa okanye ukwenzakala okukhulu ebomini babo, ingakumbi ngexesha lobuntwana . Nangona kunjalo, oku akwenzeki kuwo wonke umntu. Oku kuthetha ukuba le meko inokwenzeka nakubantu abangazange babe namava anjalo.

Ixhaphake kangakanani le meko?

Enyanisweni, igama elithi "Maladaptive Daydreaming" litsha kakhulu. Laqanjwa okokuqala ngo-2002 ngu-Eli Somer, PhD, uprofesa wengqondo yezonyango kwaSirayeli.

Uphando malunga nokuba le meko ixhaphake kangakanani lulinganiselwe, ngokuyinxenye kuba ayikaqatshelwa ngokusemthethweni njengengxaki yezonyango . Nangona kunjalo, uphando lwangaphambili lubonise ukuba i-2.5% yabantu abadala e-Israel banale meko, kwaye izinga eliphakamileyo kancinci le-4.3% phakathi kwabantu abadala abaselula, njengabafundi.

Olunye uphando luqikelele ukuba malunga nama-20% abantu abadala abane-ADHD nabo banengxaki yokuphupha ebusuku ngenxa ye-Maladaptive Daydreaming. Oko kuthetha ukuba abantu abadala abangaphezu kwezigidi ezi-2.2 eMelika kuphela bachatshazelwa yile meko. Olu qikelelo alubandakanyi abantu abane-Maladaptive Daydreaming ngaphandle kwe-ADHD. Ngoko ke, inani lokwenyani lisenokuba liphezulu kakhulu.

Le meko ichaphazela njani umzimba/ingqondo yakho?

"Ukuphupha emini okungafanelekanga " yingxaki echaphazela ingqondo yakho . Ingqondo yakho yingqokelela yeenkumbulo, amava, iingcinga, iinkolelo, kunye neemvakalelo ezikungqongileyo. Ingqondo yakho nengqondo yakho azizozinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo . Ingqondo yakho yinxalenye ebonakalayo evelisa yonke into eyenza ingqondo yakho.

Kodwa iingcali zicinga ukuba kusenokubakho umahluko othile kwiingqondo zabantu abane-"Maladaptive Daydreaming" abanye abangenawo. Umzekelo, abantu abane-"ADHD" banomahluko omncinci kodwa obalulekileyo ngobukhulu beendawo ezithile zobuchopho babo. Ezi ziindawo ezilawula imisebenzi yolawulo efana nokwenza izigqibo, ukucwangcisa, kunye nokuzikhuthaza.

Abantu abane-`(Maladaptive Daydreaming)` nabo babonakala benobuthathaka kule misebenzi yolawulo. Yiyo loo nto kukho unxibelelwano oluqinileyo phakathi kwe-`(Maladaptive Daydreaming)` kunye ne-`(ADHD)`. Kwakhona, bobabini bafumana iingxaki ezifanayo ekulawuleni iimvakalelo zabo. Oku kuthetha ukuba abantu abane-`(Maladaptive Daydreaming)` banamathuba amaninzi okuba notshintsho olufanayo engqondweni yabo. Kodwa uphando oluthe kratya luyadingeka ukuqinisekisa ukuba oku kunjalo ngokwenene.

Zithini iimpawu zokuphupha emini okungavumelekanga?

Kule meko, zonke iimpawu zigxile ekuphupheni emini. Ezi mpawu zinokwahlulwa zibe ziinxalenye ezimbini eziphambili: ukuziphatha kokuphupha emini kunye neemvakalelo umntu anazo ngako.

Indlela yokuphupha emini

Ezi mpawu zilandelayo zinokubonakala kumaphupha asemini ayenzeka nge-"Maladaptive Daydreaming":

• Ubunzulu: La maphupha asemini acacile kwaye acacile. Anzulu kakhulu kwaye aneenkcukacha ezingaphezulu kunephupha eliqhelekileyo lasemini. Khawuthelekelele, uziva ngathi ukwimeko yesiganeko.
• Ubunzima: La maphupha asemini anokuba nebali elintsonkothileyo kakhulu. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ngabalinganiswa abafanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, njengabalinganiswa abakwidrama yeTV. Aba balinganiswa banokuba namabali obomi babo kunye nolwalamano lwabo.
• Ubude bexesha: Abantu abaphupha emini ngale ndlela banokuphupha ngokuqhubekayo, ngamanye amaxesha kangangeeyure. Nangona besemsebenzini, ngequbuliso bangena kwihlabathi lamaphupha.
• Injongo: Abantu abaphupha emini ngale ndlela badla ngokuqala ukuphupha ngabom, benomnqweno. Oko kukuthi, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kubazisela uhlobo oluthile lolonwabo okanye isiqabu.
• Ukungadibani: Aba bantu babandakanyeka kakhulu kumaphupha abo asemini kangangokuba bayeka ngokupheleleyo ukuba kwindawo ebangqongileyo. Kuvakala ngathi awukho kweli hlabathi, ngathi ukwihlabathi elahlukileyo. Oku kufana nokungadibani, indlela yokuzikhusela esetyenziswa ngabantu abanexhala elikhulu, ukudakumba, okanye ukwenzakala kwangaphambili.

Ucinga ntoni ngale nto?

Abantu abafumana "iMaladaptive Daydreaming" badla ngokusokola ziimvakalelo ezimbi kunye nemiphumo emibi eza nale ngxaki. Oku kunokubonwa kwizinto ezifana nezi:

• Ukuphazamiseka kwimisebenzi yoluntu: Aba bantu badla ngokukhetha ukuphupha emini kunokuchitha ixesha nabanye abantu. Basenokuba nomdla omncinci wokuphuma nabahlobo okanye ukuthetha nosapho.
• Ukuphazamiseka emsebenzini, kwizinto ozithandayo, nakwezinye izinto ozenzayo: Ukuphupha emini ngendlela engafanelekanga kunokubangela iingxaki emsebenzini, emsebenzini wesikolo, kwizinto ozithandayo, okanye kwezinye iinjongo kuba uchitha ixesha elininzi uphupha emini.
• Intloni kunye netyala: Aba bantu badla ngokuziva bebuhlungu ngokwenza oku, bazive behlazekile, kwaye bazive ngathi benza into engalunganga, ingakumbi xa ichaphazela ezinye iinkalo zobomi babo.
• Ukuphupha emini okunyanzelekileyo: Oku kuthetha ukuba aba bantu banomnqweno omkhulu wokuphupha emini. Ukuba abafumani thuba lokwenza njalo, banokuziva belusizi kwaye bexhalabile malunga nokuphoswa. Olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba le mfuneko yokuphupha emini inokufana nokuba likhoboka .
• Ukuzama ukuyeka okanye ukunciphisa: Abantu abane-"Maladaptive Daydreaming" badla ngokuzama ukunciphisa okanye ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo la maphupha asemini, kodwa bakufumanisa kunzima ukwenza njalo.

Zithini izizathu zokuphupha ngeMini okungavumelekanga?

Iingcali aziyazi kakuhle ukuba kutheni "ukuphupha emini ngendlela engavumelekanga" kwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, zicinga ukuba yindlela yokujongana neengxaki ezifana noxinzelelo, ukudakumba, kunye nezinye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo. Kufana nokuya kwihlabathi lamaphupha ukuze uziphazamise kwiingxaki kunye nentlungu yokwenyani.

Ingaba oku kuyasulela?

Hayi. "Ukuphupha emini okungafanelekanga" yingxaki yempilo yengqondo. Ngenxa yoko, ayisuleli ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye .

Ungayiqonda njani le nto?

Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, "iMaladaptive Daydreaming" ayisiyongxaki yezonyango eyaziwayo ngokusemthethweni . Ke ngoko, umniki-nkonzo wezempilo akanakuyichonga ngqo le nto ngokuthi "ewe, unale sifo." Kwakhona, akukho vavanyo lwelabhoratri olunokuqinisekisa oko.

Nangona kunjalo, oogqirha banokubona iimpawu zale ngxaki ngokusebenzisa imibuzo ekhethekileyo kunye nezikali zokuxilonga ezisetyenziselwa ukuxilonga iimeko ezinxulumene ne-ADHD, i-OCD, ukudakumba, ixhala, kunye neengxaki zokuhlukana. Bangasebenzisa nephepha lemibuzo elibizwa ngokuba yi-Maladaptive Daydreaming Scale-16 (MDS-16) ngokuthe ngqo. Oku kubonisa ukuba umntu unokuba nale meko na.

Inyangwa njani? Ngaba inganyangeka?

Ngenxa yokuba iMaladaptive Daydreaming ayikabi sisifo esaziwayo ngokusesikweni, akukho ndlela iqhelekileyo yokusinyanga . Nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukuba asinakunyangwa. Okwangoku, iingcali zempilo yengqondo zinokusinyanga ngendlela efanayo naleyo zisinyanga ngayo ezinye iimeko ezifanayo.

Unyango oluphambili lwe-"Maladaptive Daydreaming" yi -psychotherapy .

Unyango Lokuziphatha Olusebenzisa Ingqondo (i-CBT) luhlobo oluqhelekileyo lonyango olusetyenziselwa ukunyanga iimeko ezifana ne-OCD, ixhala, ukudakumba, kunye ne-schizophrenia. Le ndlela kwi-CBT inokunceda abantu abane-Maladaptive Daydreaming ukuba baqonde isizathu sokuba benze oku kunye nento abanokuyenza ukuyilawula. Ezinye iindlela zokunika iingcebiso ngempilo yengqondo nazo zinokuba luncedo.

Ngenxa yokuba abantu abaninzi abane-"Maladaptive Daydreaming" banezinye iimeko, ezifana ne-"ADHD," ukuphupha emini kunokuncipha xa ezo meko zinyangwa . Uhlobo lwamayeza owasebenzisayo luya kuxhomekeka kakhulu kwenye imeko onayo.

Ugqirha wakho ngoyena mntu ulungileyo ukukuxelela ukuba yintoni eza kukunceda kakhulu. Angakuxelela ngakumbi ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokunika iingcebiso ngempilo yengqondo kunye neendlela zonyango. Asinguye wonke umntu ofanayo. Okusebenza komnye umntu kusenokungasebenzi komnye. Ugqirha wakho uya kwenza iingcebiso ngokusekelwe kwimbali yakho yempilo, iimeko zempilo, kunye neemeko zomntu ngamnye.

Ngaba kukho naziphi na iingxaki okanye iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zonyango?

Akukho miphumo mibi okanye iingxaki ezivela kwingcebiso ngempilo yengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha unokufumana iinkumbulo ezinzima nezibuhlungu okanye iingcinga ezifika engqondweni . Ingcali yakho yempilo yengqondo inokukunceda ujongane nezi zinto, usebenzele kwiintlungu zangaphambili kunye neengxaki, kwaye uqhubeke phambili. Banokukuthetha nawe malunga neengxaki ezinokubakho ezivela kumayeza abakunika wona.

Ndingazinyamekela njani kwaye ndilawule iimpawu zam?

Ngenxa yokuba "ukuphupha emini okungalawulekiyo" yingxaki yempilo yengqondo,Oku kunokuba nzima ukukulawula wedwa . Eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukuthetha nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo . Banokukukhokela kwindlela yokunciphisa isidingo sakho sokuphupha emini kwaye ekugqibeleni ungaxhomekeki kakhulu kuko. Banokukunceda ufumane amayeza anokunyanga ezinye iimeko ezinxulumene noko. Oku kuya kwenza kube lula kuwe ukunciphisa ukuthembela kwakho kumaphupha emini.

Le meko iza kundichaphazela njani? (Ndingalindela ntoni?)

Ukuphupha emini ngendlela engafanelekanga yingxaki enokuphazamisa kakhulu ubomi bakho. Ingakumbi ukuba ukuphupha kwakho emini kuphazamisana nomsebenzi, ubudlelwane, imisebenzi yasekhaya, okanye izinto ozithandayo. Xa umntu ephupha ixesha elide aze anciphise unxibelelwano lwakhe nabanye, izakhono zakhe zentlalo ziba buthathaka, nto leyo eyenza kube nzima ukuqala ubudlelwane obutsha nokugcina obukhoyo .

Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, "Ukuphupha Emini Okungavumelekanga" kudla ngokuba yinto enyanzelekileyo. Oku kuthetha ukuba umntu uziva enyanzelekile ukukwenza. Ngenxa yokuba imfuneko yokuphupha emini ifana nomlutha, xa uphupha rhoqo, kuba ngumkhwa onamandla okunzima kakhulu ukuwuyeka . Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo kumcebisi wezempilo yengqondo ngokukhawuleza.

Kukho uphando oluncinci malunga nokuba le meko ihlala ixesha elingakanani, njengoko ingazange yamkelwe ngokusemthethweni ixesha elide. Okwangoku, kubonakala ngathi inokuba yinto yobomi bonke, kodwa yinto enokoyiswa . Nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukuyisombulula ngaphandle kokufumana iingcebiso ngempilo yengqondo, amayeza, okanye zombini.

Ngokwayo, "Ukuphupha Emini Okungavumelekanga" akuyongozi kwimpilo yakho yomzimba. Nangona kunjalo, kunokuba nefuthe elibi kwimpilo yakho yengqondo . Kwakhona, ezinye izifo (umz. ukudakumba) ezenzeka kunye nale meko zinokunyusa umngcipheko wokuzilimaza okanye ukuzibulala . Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqaphela oku.

Ukuba uneengcinga zokuzilimaza, uneengcinga zokuzibulala, okanye ucinga ngokuzilimaza abanye, nceda utsalele umnxeba iinkonzo zongxamiseko ngoko nangoko, okanye uye kwisibhedlele esikufutshane. ESri Lanka, ungatsalela umnxeba kwi-hotline ye-1926 Sumithrayo.

Yeyiphi imibuzo omele uyibuze ugqirha?

Ingxaki eqhelekileyo kubantu abane-"Maladaptive Daydreaming" kukungaqatshelwa ngokusemthethweni kwesi sifo. Uninzi lwababoneleli bezempilo abayazi kakuhle loo nto. Ngenxa yoko, abanye banokungayinaki inkxalabo yakho. Ukuba oko kuyenzeka, musa ukulibazisa ukufuna unyango lwengqondo . Ukuba nje ingcali enye ayazi ngayo akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu uyazi, okanye akukho sisombululo kwingxaki yakho.

Xa ufuna umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo , ungababuza ezi zinto:

• Ngaba uyazi nge-`(Maladaptive Daydreaming)`?
• Ngaba ungazivavanya iimeko ezinxulumene noko ezifana ne-ADHD, i-OCD, ixhala, kunye nokudakumba?
• Ngaba unamava okunyanga iimeko ezifanelekileyo ezikhankanyiweyo apha ngasentla?

Izinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule (Umyalezo oya nawo ekhaya)

Ukuphupha emini okungafanelekanga sisifo sengqondo esibangela ukuba umntu abanjwe lihlabathi lamaphupha emini antsonkothileyo. La maphupha emini adla ngokusetyenziswa njengendlela yokujongana nezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo okanye ubunzima bobomi. Abantu abanale meko basenokuba babe namava abuhlungu ebuntwaneni, kodwa ayinguye wonke umntu onjalo.

Ngenxa yokuba le meko ayikaqatshelwa ngokusemthethweni, ayingabo bonke oochwephesha bezempilo yengqondo abayaziyo. Abanye basenokungayinaki. Oku kunokukwenza uzive uneentloni ngakumbi, udandathekile, kwaye uhlehlise ukufuna unyango. Kodwa ungayeki. Kubalulekile ukufumana umntu onokukunceda ujongane nale meko kwaye uyiphephe. ​​Ungafunda ukulawula la maphupha asemini - ngakumbi ngoncedo lwengcali yezempilo yengqondo. Emva koko unokugxila ebomini bakho, ugxile ekuphileni, kwaye wakhe ubudlelwane nabantu abakungqongileyo. Awuwedwa, kwaye ungoyiki ukucela uncedo.

Ukuphupha emini ngendlela engafanelekanga, ukuphupha emini, impilo yengqondo, ukuphupha emini ngendlela engalawulekiyo, ukuphupha emini ngokugqithisileyo, iingxaki zokuziphatha, uxinzelelo