Ngaba umntwana wakho usandula ukuqala isikolo? Ngaba isikolo sihlala sikugxeka ngokungaziphathi kakuhle, ukungagxili, okanye ukuba nengxaki yokunikela ingqalelo? Usenokuba uzibuza, "Ndenze ntoni engalunganga? Kutheni umntwana wam eziphethe ngolu hlobo?" Ukuba kunjalo, awuwedwa. Awuwedwa oye waba namava anjalo. Abazali abaninzi bayasokola ngeengxaki ezinjalo. Namhlanje, siza kuthetha nge-ADHD, imeko enokubangela oku, kunye nendlela onokwenza ngayo ubomi bube lula kusapho olunomntwana onje.
Yintoni i-ADHD? Ngaba amayeza odwa anele?
Ngamafutshane, i-ADHD, okanye i-Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, sisifo esikhula engqondweni yomntwana. Asikuko okomntwana okanye abazali bakhe. Sinokubangela ukuba abantwana babe nobunzima bokunikel’ ingqalelo (ukungakwazi ukugxila) , ukulawula iingcinga zabo (ukungxama) , kunye nokuhlala begxile (ukuxakeka kakhulu) .
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ugqirha unokumyalela umntwana one-ADHD amayeza. Kukho iintlobo ezimbini zamayeza: `Ii-Psychostimulants` (ezifana ne-`Ritalin`) kunye ne-`Nonstimulants` (ezifana ne-`Strattera`). Kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba ukuba umntwana wakho uza kumnika okanye angamniki amayeza, into aza kumnika yona, kunye nokuba uza kumnika malini, sisigqibo ekufuneka senziwe phakathi kwakho nogqirha womntwana wakho ngokupheleleyo .
Abanye abantwana bafumana iziphumo ezilungileyo ngamayeza ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa kwabanye abantwana, kuthatha ixesha ukufumana amayeza afanelekileyo kunye nomlinganiselo. Kwakhona, abanye abantwana banokufumana ezinye iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ngamayeza, njengokukhathazeka okukhulu.
Khumbula, iipilisi azinakufundisa umntwana izakhono zobomi. Unyango lunye nje lwezixhobo kolu hambo. Xa umntwana ethe wazola kancinci ngamayeza kwaye ekwazi ukugxila, elo lixesha elifanelekileyo lokufundisa umntwana ezinye izakhono zobomi, ezinje ngokulawula ixesha kunye nokulawula iimvakalelo.
Utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila - impembelelo yokutya nokuzilolonga
Ukongeza kumayeza, zininzi nezinye izinto onokuzizama. Utshintsho kwindlela yokutya kunye nokuzilolonga ngokukodwa kufunyenwe kunempembelelo enkulu kwindlela yokuziphatha kwabantwana abane-ADHD.
Umzekelo, ukuthatha umntwana wakho aye kumbaleka imizuzu eli-15 okanye ahambe ngeenyawo ngaphambi kokuba aye esikolweni kunokubanceda bahlale bezolile imini yonke. Kwakhona, ukunciphisa ukutya okuneswekile kunye nokutya okunemibala yokwenziwa kukwaluncedo kubantwana abaninzi. Ngamanye amaxesha ukubanika iivithamini (ezifumaneka ngovavanyo lwemfuza, umzekelo) kunokunceda. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngaphambi kokuba wenze nantoni na efana nale.
Kodwa eyona ngxaki inkulu apha kukuzama ukwenza konke oku ngaxeshanye.
"Njengabazali bomntwana one-ADHD, sicinga ukuba kufuneka senze yonke into ngokuchanekileyo. Ukutya, umthambo, amayeza, izifundo ezongezelelweyo... Ukuba uzama ukwenza zonke ezi zinto ngaxeshanye, uza kugqibela udiniwe, ukruqukile, kwaye uyeke. Musa ukwenza oko. Qala kancinci, yenza oko unako, kwaye ukwenze ngendlela eyiyo. "
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo: indlela yokubumba iingqondo zethu njengabazali
Nangona izinto ezinje ngamayeza, umthambo , kunye nenkxaso evela esikolweni zibaluleke ngaphezu kwazo zonke ezi zinto. Leyo yindlela thina bazali esijonga ngayo umntwana wethu kunye nendlela esicinga ngayo . Ngomhla otshintsha oku, uya kuziva ukuba imeko yasekhaya iya kutshintsha kangakanani.
Kukho indlela emnandi kakhulu yokuyiqonda le nto. Ibizwa ngokuba yingcamango 'yoBudala boLawulo.' Ngamafutshane, i-ADHD kukulibaziseka komsebenzi wobuchopho. Oko kuthetha ukuba izinto ezifana nokulawula iimvakalelo, ingqalelo, kunye nokucwangcisa zikhula emva kwexesha lokwenyani lomntwana. Olu libaziseko ludla ngokuba malunga nesithathu seminyaka yomntwana.
Khawucinge nje, ukuba umntwana wakho uneminyaka eli-9 ubudala, ukusebenza kwakhe njengomlawuli kusenokwenzeka ukuba kumalunga neminyaka emi-6 ubudala. Ngoku endaweni yokucinga, "Umntwana oneminyaka eli-9 ubudala akanakuziphatha ngolu hlobo," qala ukucinga, "Ndingayichaza njani le nto kumntwana oneminyaka emi-6 ubudala?" Olu tshintsho luncinci luya kwandisa kakhulu umonde nobubele bakho kumntwana wakho.
Enye into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule rhoqo yile:
"Umntwana akakukhathazi, usengxakini."
Xa umntwana ekhala, eqengqeleka phantsi, okanye enengxaki yokuthetha, uzama ukukuxelela athi, "Ndinengxaki ngento ethile, ndincede." Ukuba sifunda ukuyijonga ngaloo ndlela, endaweni yokuba nomsindo, siba novelwano ngomntwana. Ngoko ke kulula kakhulu ukusombulula iingxaki.
Iingcebiso ezisebenzayo zokwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla ibe lula
Ukuhlala nomntwana one-ADHD kunokuba nzima ngamanye amaxesha. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezisebenzayo zokwenza kube lula.
| Icebo | Ingcaciso kunye nemizekelo |
|---|---|
| Isikhumbuzo sokwenza umsebenzi ngexesha elifanelekileyo | Abantwana abane-ADHD badla ngokulibala izinto ukuba baxelelwe kwangaphambili. Ngoko ke bakhumbuze xa kufuneka bazenze. Beka i-alamu kwifowuni yabo, kwaye uncamathisele inqaku elibhalwe emva kwayo emnyango wabo. Umzekelo, bhala "Faka incwadi yakho yomsebenzi wesikolo ebhegini yakho" uze uyincamathisele emnyango. |
| Inkuthazo | Akwanelanga ukunika umntwana wakho uluhlu lwezinto amele azenze. Kufuneka umkhuthaze ukuba azenze. Mkhuthaze njengokuthi, "Masigqibe lo msebenzi size sidlale umdlalo owuthandayo." |
| Ukungaguquguquki | Ziqhelise ukwenza imisebenzi enzima ngexesha elinye yonke imihla. Umzekelo, ukuba uqala ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo ngentsimbi yesi-6 emva kwemini yonke imihla, seta ialamu yelo xesha kwaye ukwenze umkhwa. |
| Imivuzo ekhawulezileyo | Aba bantwana kufuneka bahlale begxekwa. Ngoko ke ukuze benze izigqibo, bancome nokuba baphumelele kancinci. Endaweni yetshathi yomsebenzi weveki nganye, qala ngetshathi yemihla ngemihla. Into efana nokuthi, "Ucoce igumbi lakho namhlanje, ngoko ke ndikunika isipho esincinci namhlanje." |
Uhlangabezana njani neentsuku ezinzima?
Nangona kunjalo, ezinye iintsuku zinzima kakhulu. Kukho iintsuku apho umntwana engamphulaphuliyo nantoni na aze akhwaze yonke into. Wenza ntoni ngosuku olunje?
Eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukucinga, "Namhlanje ayilunganga loo nto" uze uyiyeke loo nto.Xa umntwana wakho esengxakini enkulu, akakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo. Awukwazi ukuthetha naye uze ucebe into ethile. Akunakwenzeka. Ngamaxesha anjalo, beka umsebenzi wesikolo ecaleni ubusuku obunye. Yenza isigqibo, "Masiwenze ngomso, okanye kule mpelaveki." Ngamanye amaxesha, eyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza kukungawenzi nto .
Beka ecaleni indlela abanye abakujonga ngayo kunye noko uluntu lukulindeleyo kuwe, uze ucinge ngoko kulungele usapho lwakho.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-ADHD ayisiyonto imbi eyenzeka kumntwana, yimeko yempilo. Musa ukuziva unetyala ngayo.
- Amayeza luncedo olunye kuphela kolu hambo. Soloko uxoxa ngawo nogqirha wakho.
- Eyona nto iphambili kwimpumelelo yolu hambo yindlela ocinga ngayo njengomzali nendlela omjonga ngayo umntwana wakho.
- Qonda 'ubudala bokulawula' bomntwana wakho. Oku kuya kwenza kube lula kuwe ukuba ufikelele kwinqanaba lakhe kwaye usebenze.
- Khumbula le mantra: "Umntwana akakukhathazi, usengxakini."
- Ngaphezu kwako konke, yakha ubudlelwane bothando nomntwana wakho. Konke abakufunayo ngumama notata abakulungeleyo ukubanceda nokubathanda.
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