Ngaba ungumntu ozicingela yedwa kwaye ujongela phantsi abanye abantu? Ngaba oku kukungakhathali kobuntu (i-Narcissistic Personality Disorder - i-NPD)?

Sonke sinabo bantu bazicingela kakhulu kwaye abangazinaki iimvakalelo zabanye. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukujongana naba bantu. Bacinga ukuba baphezulu kwihlabathi kwaye wonke umntu ungaphantsi kwabo. Ngaba oku kungaba yimeko yengqondo ngokwenene? ​​Ewe, kubizwa ngokuba yiNarcissistic Personality Disorder, okanye `(Narcissistic Personality Disorder - NPD)`. Makhe sithethe ngale nto ngeenkcukacha ezithe vetshe namhlanje.

Yintoni i-narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)?

Ngamafutshane, i-narcissistic personality disorder yimeko yempilo yengqondo. Ichaphazela indlela ozibona ngayo wena kunye nolwalamano lwakho nabanye. Umntu one-NPD unomnqweno onganelisekiyo wokuchukumisa abanye nokuziva ebalulekile. Lo mnqweno unokuba mkhulu kangangokuba unokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okuyingozi kuwe nakwabo bakungqongileyo.

Igama elithi "narcissistic" livela kumzingeli weentsomi zamaGrike uNarcissus. Ngokutsho kwebali, uNarcissus wayenomdla kakhulu bubuhle bakhe kangangokuba wayengenakukwazi ukuyeka ukujonga umfanekiso wakhe echibini lamanzi. Ekugqibeleni, kuthiwa wafa ejonge umfanekiso wakhe.

Nangona kunjalo, nangona abantu abaninzi bedibanisa igama elithi "ubuNazi" nembonakalo, i-NPD ayithethi nje ngembonakalo yakho. Ingathetha nangezinye izinto onazo, ezinje ngobukrelekrele bakho, izakhono zokuthetha, izakhono zobugcisa, izakhono zemidlalo, ubutyebi, amandla, kunye nempumelelo .

Ixhaphake kangakanani le meko?

Iingcali aziqinisekanga ukuba ixhaphake kangakanani na i-NPD. Uphando lubonisa ukuba phakathi kwe-0.5% kunye ne-5% yabantu baseMelika banokuba nale meko. Kuthiwa phakathi kwe-50% kunye ne-75% yabo banale meko ngamadoda .

Nangona kunjalo, abantu abaninzi bayazifihla iinkolelo zabo zokuziphatha nokuzingca. Oku ngamanye amaxesha kuthiwa "yi-narcissism efihlakeleyo." Ke ngoko, kunzima kakhulu ukuqikelela ngokuchanekileyo ukuba bangaphi abantu abane-NPD.

Zithini iimpawu zesifo sobuntu esibizwa ngokuba yi-narcissistic personality disorder?

Iimpawu ze-NPD zonke zinxulumene neengcinga zakho, iimvakalelo zakho, kunye nezenzo zakho . I-American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, inguqulelo yesihlanu yombhalo (DSM-5-TR™) idwelisa iikhrayitheriya ezilithoba zesi sifo. Iimpawu eziwela phantsi kwezi khrayitheriya zinokubonakala kwabanye ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:

1. Ukuba nokuzicingela kakhulu nokuzikhukhumeza:

• Bazigqala ngokugqithisileyo izakhono zabo, okanye bazibekele usukelo oluphezulu kakhulu ukuba bangaze balufikelele.
• Bayazibaxa izinto ezincinci abazenzileyo, baze bazibaxe izinto abazifezileyo.

2. Ukusoloko uphupha ngokufumana okanye ukufuna ezi zinto:

• Impumelelo
• Amandla
• Ubukrelekrele
• Entle
• Uthando
• Ukwaneliseka ngumntu.

3. Inkolelo yokuba umntu ungcono kunabanye:

• Ndicinga ukuba ndingumntu okhethekileyo kakhulu nowahlukileyo.
• Bakholelwa ukuba bafanele banxulumane kuphela nabantu “abaxabiseke” njengabo.

4. Ukusoloko ufuna uxabiso nokunconywa ngabanye abantu:

• Ukuzixabisa kuyinto ebuthathaka kakhulu.
• Bahlala bezithandabuza, bezibeka ityala, kwaye bazive bengento yanto.
• Ndisoloko ndixhalabile ngento abanye abantu abayicingayo ngam.
• Wenza izinto ezahlukeneyo ukuze ufumane ukunconywa ngabanye. Umzekelo, endaweni yokuthi, "Andilunganga kule nto," ungathi, "Hayi, unobuchule kakhulu kuyo."

5. Isimo sengqondo sokuba yonke into mayibe ngendlela yabo kwaye bafanelwe lunyango olukhethekileyo:

• Bazicingela kakhulu ngexabiso labo.
• Balindele unyango olukhethekileyo olungaqhelekanga.
• Bayacaphuka xa abanye bengabaphulaphuli okanye bengabavuyisi. Cinga ngokuzama ukuya phambili emgceni ulindele ukuba wonke umntu abeke bona kuqala.

6. Isilingo sokusebenzisa abanye ukuze kuzuze wena:

• Bayazi okanye abazi, basebenzisa abanye.
• Bahlala njengabahlobo kwaye benxibelelana nabo kuphela abo bacinga ukuba balungile ngenxa yokuzithemba kwabo kunye nesikhundla sabo.
• Basebenzisa abanye ngabom ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo zobugovu.

7. Ukungabi naluvelwano:

• Bathetha izinto ezibakhathazayo abanye.
• Babona iimvakalelo, iimfuno, kunye nezinto ezifunwa ngabanye njengobuthathaka.
• Ububele nomdla oboniswa kuwe ngabanye abantu awubuyiselwa ngendlela efanayo. Khawuthelekelele, xa umhlobo wakho enengxaki enkulu, uqhayisa ngenye yempumelelo yakho endaweni yokumamela ukubandezeleka kwakhe. Yiloo nto kanye eyenzekayo.

8. Umona oqhelekileyo:

• Ndiba nomona xa abanye bephumelela, ingakumbi xa bephezulu kunam.
• Ndicinga ukuba abanye bayandimonela.
• Bayayidelela kwaye bayayidelela italente nempumelelo yabanye.

9. Impakamo, impakamo:

• Baziphatha ngokungathi ababakhathaleli abanye kwaye babonisa ukukhetha.
• Ukuziphatha kakubi nangokungenantlonelo.
• Bathetha nabanye ngendlela ebathobayo nebagculelayo.

Ukongeza kwezi ndlela ziphambili zisithoba, abantu abane-NPD banokubonisa ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ezahlukeneyo. Umzekelo:

• Uloyiko lokubonisa ubuthathaka, ukuzama ukubuphepha.
• Bayahlala kude nabanye abantu kuba beziva bebuthathaka.
• Ukuzama ukwenza yonke into ngokugqibeleleyo (`(Perfectionism)`) (enokuba yinto elungileyo okanye engalunganga, ngoloyiko lokungaphumeleli).
• Ukugxekwa, ukwaliwa, kunye nokungaphumeleli akunakunyamezeleka. Nezona zinto zincinci ziyathathelwa ingqalelo.
• Ukungamkeleki okanye ukungaphumeleli kunokukhokelela kuxinzelelo olukhulu.
• Ukuba baziva begxekwa okanye bengamkelekanga, basabela ngomsindo omkhulu (`(umsindo)`) .
• Benza ngathi bathobekile ukuze bafihle iimvakalelo zabo baze bakhusele ubukhulu babo.
• Bayaphepha iimeko apho banokusilela khona, kwaye kukho amathuba aphezulu okuba oko kwenzeke. Oku kunokunciphisa impumelelo yabo.

Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ukuba umntu unempawu enye okanye ezimbini kwezi akuthethi ukuba une-NPD. Ngugqirha ofanelekileyo kuphela onokwenza uxilongo oluchanekileyo.

Zithini izizathu ze-NPD?

Ngenxa yokuba i-NPD yimeko yempilo yengqondo, iingcali azinakutsho ngqo ukuba kutheni isenzeka. Nangona kukho utshintsho oluthile olungabonakaliyo oluye lwabonwa kwisakhiwo sobuchopho babantu abane-NPD, akukacaci nokuba olo tshintsho lubangela i-NPD okanye ukuba i-NPD ibangela olo tshintsho.

Kukho izinto ezininzi eziphambili ezichongiweyo ngoku ezinegalelo ekuphuhlisweni kwe-NPD:

• I-genetics: Abantu abane-NPD banamathuba amaninzi okuba nabazali okanye izalamane ezisondeleyo ezinale meko. Oku kuthetha ukuba kunokubakho impembelelo ye-genetic eyenzeka kwiintsapho.
• Ukuqwalasela Nokuxelisa: Ukususela besebancinci, abantwana bajonga baze baxelise izinto abazibonayo, ingakumbi iindlela abaziphethe ngazo abazali babo kunye nabanakekeli babo, kwaye ezo mpawu zinokukhula zibe yi-NPD.
• Amava amabi obuntwana: Ukulimala kobuntwana, ukungafunwa, ukungahoywa, kunye nokungabikho kwenkxaso kunokuba negalelo ekuphuhlisweni kweempawu zokuzingca.
• Indlela yokukhulisa abantwana: Ukuzibhokoxa, ukukhusela ngokugqithisileyo, nokungenelela kuyo yonke into (ukukhulisa abantwana ngehelikopta) kunokubangela ukuba abantwana balindele kwaye bafune ingqalelo efanayo kwabanye njengoko bekhula. Oku kunokuthintela abantwana ekufundeni ukulawula nokulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Emva koko, xa bengafumani nto bayifunayo, bakufumanisa kunzima ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo.
• Inkcubeko: Uphando lubonisa ukuba inkcubeko okhulele kuyo inokuchaphazela nomngcipheko wakho wokufumana i-NPD. Iinkcubeko ezixabisa ubuntu kunye nokuzimela komntu ngamnye zibonakala zinomngcipheko omkhulu. Abantu abakhulela kwiinkcubeko ezixabisa ubumbano kunye nomanyano abanamathuba amaninzi okufumana i-NPD.

Ziziphi iingxaki ezinokubakho ze-NPD?

Kuqhelekile ukuba i-NPD ihlale kunye nezinye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo kunye neemeko. Nazi ezinye zeengxaki eziqhelekileyo:

• Ingxaki yeemvakalelo okanye isifo sengqondo esibangela i-bipolar: Abantu abane-NPD banamathuba amaninzi okuba nexhala kunye nokudakumba. Ingxaki ye-bipolar ikwaxhaphakile kubantu abane-NPD.
• Ezinye iingxaki zobuntu:Imizekelo ibandakanya i-borderline personality disorder (BPD) kunye ne-antisocial personality disorder (ASPD).
• Ingxaki yokungasebenzi kakuhle komzimba (`(Ingxaki yokungasebenzi kakuhle komzimba)`): Abantu abane-NPD banokuba nale meko (ekwabizwa ngokuba yi-``ingxaki yomzimba``). Oku kunokubangelwa ziimvakalelo ezimbi malunga nomzimba wabo kunye nenkangeleko yabo.
• Iingxaki zokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi (ii-SUD): Xa inyani ingahambi njengoko bebelindele, abantu abane-NPD banokuguqukela etywaleni okanye kwiziyobisi. Izinto ezivuselelayo ezifana ne-cocaine zixhaphake kakhulu, njengoko beluhlobo lwabantu abane-NPD abafuna unyango oluphezulu.
• Ukuzibulala: Abantu abane-NPD banokuziva bedandathekile kakhulu kwaye bephelelwe lithemba xa bejamelene nemingeni, ukungaphumeleli, kunye nokungafunwa. Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba kukuzibulala okucwangcisiweyo kunokuba "kucelwe uncedo" ngequbuliso. Ke ngoko, abantu abane-NPD basengozini enkulu yokuzibulala. Le yingxaki enzulu kakhulu.

Isifo sobuntu esibizwa ngokuba yi-narcissistic personality disorder sifunyanwa njani?

Umboneleli wezempilo, odla ngokuba yingcali yezifo zengqondo okanye ingcali yezengqondo, uxilonga i-NPD. Baza kuthetha nawe bakubuze imibuzo malunga nobomi bakho kunye nobudlelwane bakho nabanye (ingakumbi usapho, abahlobo, kunye nabantu obathandayo). Banokubuza imibuzo ukuze basuse ezinye iimeko ezinokubangela iimpawu ezifanayo.

Kufuneka uhlangabezane ubuncinane nemigangatho emihlanu kwezisithoba kwincwadana ye-American Psychiatric Association (DSM-5-TR™) ukuze ufumane isifo se-NPD. Okwangoku akukho vavanyo luthile lwelabhoratri okanye uvavanyo lomfanekiso olunokuxilonga i-NPD.

Ziziphi iindlela zonyango lwe-NPD?

Unyango oluphambili lwe-NPD luhlobo oluthile lwe-psychotherapy.

Ezinye zezona ndlela zonyango ezisetyenziswa kakhulu kwi-NPD zezi:

• Unyango lokuziphatha oludibanisa ingqondo (i-DBT)
• Unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo (`(Unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo - CBT)`)
• Unyango lwe-Metacognitive (`(Unyango lwe-Metacognitive)`)
• Unyango lwamaqela (`(Unyango lwamaqela)`)
• Unyango lwezibini okanye losapho

Ngenxa yokuba kukho iindlela ezininzi zonyango, ingcali yakho yezempilo yengqondo yeyona ilungileyo ukukuxelela ngakumbi ngezi ndlela zahlukeneyo. Ungambuza nayiphi na imibuzo onayo malunga nendlela ezi ndlela ezisebenza ngayo kunye nendlela efanelekileyo kuwe.

Amayeza e-NPD

Okwangoku akukho mayeza anyanga ngokuthe ngqo i-NPD. Nangona kunjalo, amayeza angasetyenziselwa ukunyanga iimpawu zezinye iimeko ezinokuthi zinxulunyaniswe nayo, ezinje ngexhala kunye nokudakumba. Amanye amayeza anokunceda aquka:

• Amayeza okudakumba
• Amayeza okulwa nokuxhalaba (`(Amayeza okulwa nokuxhalaba / anxiolytics)`)
• Amayeza okulwa nesifo sengqondo
• Amayeza okulwa nokuxhuzula - Nangona la mayeza ikakhulu anyanga isifo sokuxhuzula, amanye amayeza, anjenge-lamotrigine, anokunceda ukuzinzisa imeko yengqondo.

Ukuba ndine-NPD, ndimele ndilindele ntoni?

Abantu abane-NPD basenokungazi ngamanye amaxesha. Abanye basenokungazi kangangeminyaka okanye amashumi eminyaka. Rhoqo, isiganeko okanye imeko ebangela uxinzelelo ibangela ukuqala ngokupheleleyo kweempawu. Nazi ezinye zeziganeko okanye iimeko ezinjalo:

• Utshintsho olukhulu olubi: Izinto ezinje ngokukhushulwa emsebenzini, ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, ukubhanga.
• Iingxaki zobuqu: ukuqhekeka kobudlelwane, uqhawulo-mtshato.
• Ezinye iingxaki zobomi: Izifo okanye utshintsho oluza nokwaluphala, ingakumbi ezo zichaphazela amandla okuphila ngokuzimela, okanye ukufa komntu omthandayo.
• Izigqibo: Abantu abane-NPD banokufuna uncedo kuphela xa abantu ababathandayo becela uncedo okanye belufuna ngenkani.

Injani imeko ye-NPD?

Imbonakalo ye-NPD, oko kukuthi, amandla okubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo, ixhomekeke kwizinto ezahlukeneyo. Ezi ziquka:

• Iimpawu zakho: Ezinye iimpawu ze-NPD zinokukwenza ungakulungeli ukufuna uncedo okanye unyango. Abantu abangafuni ukubonakala bebuthathaka, ingakumbi abo bangafuni ukubonakala bebuthathaka, basenokungayinaki indlela abafumana ngayo ukuxilongwa.
• Ukuba i-NPD yakho inzima kangakanani: Ukuba iba nzima, inokuba yingxaki enkulu ebomini bakho. Abantu abane-NPD enzima badla ngokuba nolaka, bathanda ukulwa, kwaye abanalo uvelwano kangako ngeemvakalelo neemfuno zabanye. Kwakhona abanakukwazi ukucela uncedo okanye ukufuna unyango.
• Ezinye iimeko onazo: Abantu abane-NPD banokuba neengxaki ezongezelelweyo ukuba banezinye iimeko. Umzekelo, ixhala, ukudakumba, ezinye iingxaki zobuntu (ingakumbi ingxaki yobuntu echasene nabantu), kunye neengxaki zokusebenzisa iziyobisi zingenza i-NPD ibe mandundu.

Ngenxa yokuba zininzi izinto ezichaphazela oku, umntu ofanelekileyo onokumbuza ngemeko yemeko yakho yingcali yezempilo yengqondo. Banokukunika ulwazi oluthe kratya malunga nokuba ungalindela ntoni kwaye ungenza ntoni ukunceda.

Ngaba i-NPD ingathintelwa okanye umngcipheko wokuba nayo incitshiswe?

I-NPD yenzeka ngezizathu ezingaqondwa kakuhle ziingcali. Ingasebenza nakwiintsapho. Ngenxa yezi zizathu zombini, wena okanye umntwana wakho aninakukuthintela ukuba ikhule.

Nangona kunjalo, indlela okhulisa ngayo abantwana bakho, oko kukuthi, indlela oguqula ngayo indlela yakho yokukhulisa abantwana ukuze ivumelane neemeko ezahlukeneyo.Zikho iindlela zokunciphisa umngcipheko womntwana wakho wokuba nale ngxaki. Ugqirha wezingane womntwana wakho unokukufundisa ngale nto, okanye akucebise ngengqondo yabantwana.

Ndingazinyamekela njani (ukuba ndine-NPD)?

Ukuba une-NPD, kunokuba nzima kuwe ukwamkela ukuxilongwa. Ngenxa yeempawu zesi sifo, unokuziva ngathi unesifo kwaye ufuna ukusiphepha. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba unyango lunokuphucula ubomi bakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho nabanye . Lungenza kube lula kuwe ukwakha nokugcina ubudlelwane, kunye nokufezekisa impumelelo yakho okanye yomsebenzi.

Ezinye zezona zinto zibalulekileyo onokuzenza zezi:

• Bonana nogqirha wakho wezempilo yengqondo njengoko kucetyisiwe. Abantu abane-NPD banamathuba amaninzi okuyeka unyango. Oku kunokubangela iingxaki ezininzi ekuhambeni kwexesha.
• Sela amayeza akho njengoko uyalelwe. Oku kuya kukunceda ulawule iimvakalelo zakho kunye neempawu ze-NPD.
• Kuphephe ukusebenzisa iziyobisi okanye utywala. Nangona zinokukwenza uzive ungcono okwethutyana, zinokwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi ekuhambeni kwexesha. Ukuba uthatha amayeza, utywala okanye ezinye iziyobisi zinokubangela ukudibana okuyingozi kweziyobisi.

Ndifanele ndimbone nini ugqirha wam, okanye ndifune nini ingcebiso kagqirha?

Ufanele ubonane nogqirha wakho njengoko kuyalelwe. Baza kumisela ishedyuli yonyango kunye notyelelo olulandelayo. Ufanele ubonane nogqirha wakho ukuba ubona naluphi na utshintsho kwiimpawu zakho okanye ukuba ubona utshintsho ekusebenzeni kwamayeza akho.

Ndingaya nini esibhedlele okanye kwigumbi likaxakeka?

Ukuba unengcinga zokuzilimaza, ukuzibulala, okanye ukwenzakalisa abanye , kufuneka uye kwigumbi likaxakeka ngoko nangoko, utsalele umnxeba ku-1990 (inkonzo ye-ambulensi yaseSri Lanka), okanye uxelele umntu omthembayo kwaye ucele ingcebiso yezonyango ngoko nangoko. Ezi ngcinga zinzulu kakhulu, ngoko ke ungazami ukujongana nazo wedwa.

Ngaba kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuzingca?

I-DSM-5-TR™ (uhlaziyo lwamva nje lwe-DSM-5) ayichazi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ze-narcissism okanye i-NPD. Nangona kunjalo, iingcali ngamanye amaxesha zihlela i-narcissism ngokusekelwe kwiimpawu okanye iindlela zokuziphatha.

Ezinye zeempawu ezisetyenzisiweyo kuyo zezi:

• I-Grandiose (ukulindela ukuxatyiswa nokuqatshelwa) xa kuthelekiswa nabantu abasengozini (ukufuna imvume ukuze uhlale uzithembile kwaye woyika ukungamkeleki).
• I-Overt (`(I-Overt)`) ngokuchasene ne-covert (`(I-Covert)`).
• Ayinabungozi (`(Ingenabungozi)`) xa ithelekiswa nenkohlakalo (`(inobungozi)`) (abo bafuna ukwenzakalisa okanye ukusebenzisa abanye).

Ezi azizozahlulo ezisesikweni, kodwaUmcebisi wezempilo yengqondo angakunceda uqonde imeko yakho. Ukuba ucinga ukuba ezi mpawu ziyasebenza kuwe, ungabuza nochwepheshe ngayo.

Ndingaluthatha uvavanyo ukuze ndibone ukuba ndineempawu zokuzingca?

Oogqirha banokusebenzisa imibuzo eyahlukeneyo yovavanyo lokuxilongwa ukunceda ekuxilongeni i-NPD. Nangona unokulingeka ukuba wenze uvavanyo kwi-intanethi ukuze ubone ukuba unayo na, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ayiloxilongo olusemthethweni . Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka ubonane nengcali eqeqeshiweyo nefanelekileyo ukuze uqiniseke ukuba uxilongiwe.

Ndingenza ntoni xa ndicinga ukuba umntu endimthandayo une-NPD?

Abantu abane-NPD basenokungakwazi ukuqaphela iimpawu zabo. Rhoqo, usapho, abahlobo, kunye nabantu obathandayo ngabona baqalayo ukurhanela ukuba umntu othile une-NPD. Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntu omthandayo une-NPD, kufuneka uhlale ukhumbula ezi zinto:

• Awunakutshintsha umntu one-NPD. Nguye kuphela onokutshintsha indlela aziphatha ngayo. Nokuba uziva udanile kuba umntu omthandayo engafuni ukutshintsha, khumbula ukuba ayilotyala lakho. Ungamkhuthaza ukuba afune unyango, kodwa kufuneka azimisele ukwenza njalo ukuze oku kuphumelele.
• Hlala uzolile kwaye ungazithatheli izinto ngendlela ecacileyo. Abantu abane-NPD, ingakumbi xa benomsindo, banokuzama ukukucaphukisa baze baphendule. Musa ukuzithathela ingqalelo ngendlela ecacileyo, kwaye musa ukusabela ngendlela efanayo nabo.
• Beka imida esempilweni. Abantu abane-NPD badla ngokuzama ukufumana into abayifunayo ngabanye, nokuba ngabom okanye ngokungazi. Ukuba umntu omthandayo une-NPD, ukubeka imida esempilweni kunokuba yinto ebalulekileyo. Cacisa ngento ozimisele ukuyenza nento ongeyiyo, kwaye unamathele kuloo mida. Kusenokuba nzima, kodwa ukuzinikela kwiimfuno zabo akuyi kunceda (kwaye kunokwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi).
• Zikhusele. Abantu abane-NPD banokuzama ukuwohloza imida yakho baze bakulawule "ngokukuphoxa ngegesi" (oko kukuthi, ukutshintsha into oyithethileyo okanye abayithethileyo okanye abayenzileyo ukuze ubonakale uphambene). Ukuba uziva ngathi ufuna ukuqinisekiswa kwixesha elizayo malunga nento oyithethileyo okanye oyenzileyo, yibhale phantsi. Basenokuba ngabaxhaphaza ngamazwi okanye ngokwasemzimbeni xa benomsindo. Lumka ukukhusela impilo yakho nokuphila kakuhle.
• Cinga ngempilo yakho yengqondo. Abo banomntu omthandayo one-NPD kufuneka bacinge ngokubona umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo . Oku kunokukunceda ujongane neemvakalelo zakho kunye nobunzima obujikeleze i-NPD, kunye nokulungiselela ngcono ukujongana nemiphumo yesi simo kumntu omthandayo.
• Musa ukuyityeshela imiqondiso yezilumkiso.Abantu abane-NPD basengozini enkulu yokuzibulala. Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntu omthandayo one-NPD uyazikhupha eluntwini okanye ucinga ngokuzenzakalisa, thetha naye ngqo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba usengozini ekhawulezileyo, fowunela u-911 ngoko nangoko, okanye ufune uncedo lwezonyango ngoko nangoko.

Okokugqibela, izinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule

Ingxaki yobuntu obuthanda ukuzithanda ayisosiphene somlinganiswa okanye isiphene. Yingxaki yempilo yengqondo. Ukuba unale meko, kukho izinto onokuzenza ukuze uzincede kwaye uqinise ubudlelwane bakho nabanye ngendlela ephilileyo. Kunokuba nzima ukuyamkela nokujongana nale meko, kodwa inokonakalisa kakhulu ubudlelwane bakho kwaye iphazamise ubomi bakho. Ngoko ke, ungayityesheli okanye ubalekele inyani.

Ukuba umntu omaziyo une-NPD, ukufunda ngayo kunokukunceda uzinyamekele kwaye uzame ukumnceda. Ngamanye amaxesha, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukubeka imida kwaye ungaphazamisi ukuziphatha kwakhe ngokungeyomfuneko. Khumbula, awunakunyanzela umntu one-NPD ukuba atshintshe. Kufuneka azimisele ukuyenza loo nto.

Ingxaki yobuntu ebangelwa kukuzithanda, i - NPD, impilo yengqondo, iingxaki zobuntu, ukuzikhukhumeza, ukuzikhukhumeza, ukungabi naluvelwano, unyango lwengqondo